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what does it take for u to send/accept a friend request here on mal?

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Sep 27, 2021 9:34 PM
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do their profile layout matter? their mean score? their completed anime list? how similar are their taste to yours?
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Sep 27, 2021 9:36 PM
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nothing, I accept all the friend requests I get

however I never send out friend requests myself
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Sep 27, 2021 9:42 PM
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I accept every friend request. And I send request to everyone who seems nice in the forums.
Sep 27, 2021 9:45 PM
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I don't send friend request but accept all. Once in a while I remove some users from my friend list which generally remain inactive.
Sep 27, 2021 9:50 PM
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Same as @ACasualViewer

I have to like your profile and anime/manga taste to some degree.
How active you are, sometimes I might delete friends if they're not active for ages.

And I'll always add you if I know you and chat to you either in person or online.


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Sep 27, 2021 9:54 PM
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I accept all the friend requests and I send request to any interesting people :D
Sep 27, 2021 9:58 PM
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I only send requests to users who are cool and have watched a massive amount of eps so that i can get recs.if anyone sends me a request i surely accept it.
Sep 27, 2021 9:58 PM
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No, I don't send and accept friend requests anymore.
Sep 27, 2021 10:01 PM
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I don't get any friend requests....




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Sep 27, 2021 10:02 PM

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BoyBegtu said:
No, I don't send and accept friend requests anymore.


ah is there a reason for that?‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎
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Sep 27, 2021 10:08 PM
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707supremacist said:
BoyBegtu said:
No, I don't send and accept friend requests anymore.


ah is there a reason for that?‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎‏‏‎ ‎
I just felt that having few friends here on MAL is convenient. You can still freely message others even though you're not friends. Bond rocks.
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Sep 27, 2021 10:11 PM

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Is this some sort of echo chamber of people wanting to receive requests? Lul.

As a joke, I won't send any request to anyone here wanting one. Yes, I'm funny. You know.
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Sep 27, 2021 10:12 PM
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I accept all friend requests.

I send if I'm on good terms with them or I really want to be be friends with em which doesn't happen a whole lot




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Sep 27, 2021 10:16 PM

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I think I've only ever sent out 1 request, but that was because the guy had comments set to friends only lol.


but anywho I used to accept all and every friend request, but nowadays I only limit it to people who actually have some sort of presence. Like seriously why do people with no posts, no comments no nothing send out so many friend requests lmao like wtf is even the point
Sep 27, 2021 10:33 PM

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Should be atleast active in the comments to show that they do engage in conversation and can be interesting. I don't add friends for the sake of increasing my friend list but I add those with whom I can have some good convo.

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Sep 27, 2021 10:39 PM
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I accept all the friend request I get however I never send one myself
Sep 27, 2021 10:42 PM

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I never send requests and I only accept from people that I actually interact with or at least plan to.

Blanks.
Sep 27, 2021 10:44 PM
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I'll usually look to see if I've read or watched something they've also seen before sending someone a request. that way we have something to talk about!!

but if someone sends me a friend request, I'll accept it
Sep 27, 2021 10:47 PM

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I have like 434335% of anxiety so i rarely send anyone friend request and if i do i hope they accept it else i get in heavy breathing mode and same thing happens when i accept a friend request, it's a daunting task for me.
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Sep 27, 2021 10:48 PM
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If they have taste, then I send a request, I've also only received a friend request less than a handful of times...
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Sep 27, 2021 10:56 PM

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On 2 conditions,

1) Has to be a human;

2) Has to be alive.

That's all.
Sep 27, 2021 11:16 PM
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I accept all my friend requests. I would send friend requests if I find them interesting/if they've got similiar taste/if they're someone I know in real life.
Sep 27, 2021 11:21 PM

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I enjoy meeting people and it is fun to interact with people from all ages and all walks of life. I also like to listen to their interest and experiences. Thus, it should not have any criteria or standard in it though for some, it may be easier to communicate in some ways if let's say one with similar interest. But as long as there is a mutual respect between each other, then it should be fine regardless which stage of life you are at.
Sep 27, 2021 11:23 PM

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I don't send friend requests. I accept MOST of the ones I get, but not all. If they've got somewhat similar taste I accept.
Sep 27, 2021 11:28 PM

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If that person helped me in some form or manner (in a big way) or it's someone I know, then I'll send a request if they haven't send me one. It's incredibly rare for me to send a request.

As for receiving friend requests, I'll accept any regardless of who the user is, their profile, their setup, or whatever else people go by these days. In the end, I have a userscript that provides average friend score and list of all friend's scores in the first page, so in the case of less popular entires, it's kind of cool to see sort of a decent sample size for it.

There are no negatives to it and the top friends function already serves as a way to filter.
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Sep 27, 2021 11:29 PM
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I have everything set to ignore and don't allow comments and would never send friend requests to anyone on MAL. We don't need to be friends. I'm sure there are some well adjusted people on here, but I've seen the forum topics and posts... No, thanks.
Sep 27, 2021 11:32 PM
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i accept requests from familiar people and i usually don't send out
Sep 27, 2021 11:38 PM

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Send: If I see them on forums a lot, if they have a cool profile, if they seem cool

Accept: Same (if I know them), if we talk and they seem cool (if I don't know them)
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Sep 27, 2021 11:49 PM

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To quote the poet:

Come on every pony smile, smile, smile
Fill my heart up with sunshine, sunshine
All I really need's a smile, smile, smile
From these happy friends of mine


Like come on you guys, laugh at my dumb jokes! Pleeease!
Sep 27, 2021 11:57 PM

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I don't send friend requests but I accept them.
I used to ask what they found interesting about me, but it boils down to I wrote something funny or that I saw a ton of anime. I stopped asking.
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Sep 28, 2021 12:03 AM

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I only accept friend requests from the most based individuals on this site, I have to have talked to you before as well.
Sep 28, 2021 12:06 AM

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FullyCharged said:
Is this some sort of echo chamber of people wanting to receive requests? Lul.

As a joke, I won't send any request to anyone here wanting one. Yes, I'm funny. You know.


yeah sure why not lmaooo‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎‎ ‎
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Sep 28, 2021 12:13 AM
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Lmao
Few months ago I only accepted those friend requests who had rated my favourites above 5/10
Now I don't care about others taste and KEEP MOVING FORWARD with my personal Etiquette Character development
Sep 28, 2021 12:18 AM

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I accept almost all friend requests, there are some that I ignore because they are friends collectors (who have thousands.. there are even tens of thousands) and the comments are only full of "thanks for the fr".. I rarely talk to mal/online friends but I also don't like it when my name just "piled up" to the point that we don't know that we are friends.

But that rarely happens, usually those who send friend requests to me only have a dozen to dozens of friends, and they also usually have some of the same preferences/favorites as me, so yeah I gladly accept their friend request.

I've sent a friend requests to a few people because they seems nice on the forum and I like the way they answer/respond to things.

Sep 28, 2021 12:18 AM
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I generally accept any fr. I don't find that the affinity meter is a very good marker for how I'll get on with someone or even how similar our taste is (it might be low because of one series or something) so I ignore it mostly. But if I add someone it's usually because they seem to have pretty unusual taste in anime/manga or they said something interesting on their pf or on the forums, and I get the sense they'd be cool to talk to.

I try to talk to most people who send me a fr and I'll always send a message when I send a fr. A few times people have added me, never said anything, and then deleted me from their list weeks or months later. I have no idea why they added me or deleted lol.

On the forum I talk pretty provocatively, but I think I am rather different in an actual conversation. This is since I get pretty annoyed about what I see as general social/cultural issues, especially as they seep into the anime community and interactions here; and the very unengaged/avoidant attitude people generally seem to have about every topic. Yet when it comes to an individual person you cannot really say you know them until you get to know them, imo.
Sep 28, 2021 4:19 AM

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I send none out, and accept those that have taste. Not near-identical to mine, but just visible, unique preferences that set them apart as an actual person rather than a Valued Consumer of Product(TM).

Also having some common ground, a similar like or dislike of a particular genre, studio or franchise, or just having generally similar opinions about the state of the medium or the nature of storytelling are a plus.
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Sep 28, 2021 4:31 AM

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I used to just accept friend requests regardless, but after a while it becomes rather clear when someone just isn't that interested. If they've never spoken to me before, and already have a lot of friends on their list, they're probably just there to boost up their numbers for whatever reason. I'd rather not just be another number thanks, so I usually deny those kinds of ones straight away.
Sep 28, 2021 4:38 AM
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Nothing. I always accept all the friend requests.
Sep 28, 2021 4:48 AM

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I only accept friend requests coming with a comment or a nice little message (or if I talked to this person on the forums for example)

I almost never accept random friend requests even if our tastes are similar, I don't want to have a whole bunch of people I know nothing about or never spoke with in my friends list
Sep 28, 2021 4:51 AM

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i accept all of the friend request..

Sep 28, 2021 4:54 AM

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People sending me friend requests will be mocked for the density of their skull. No exceptions
Sep 28, 2021 6:52 AM

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I stopped accepting friend requests, I don't accept them from anyone now and I don't send them either.
Sep 28, 2021 9:03 AM

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If only I know. I have a bunch of people whose FR I haven't accepted, and some of them even send me nice messages. Then there are those who for whatever reason I just accepted their request. No they didn't reach out to me nor did we ever talk.

I think for some cases, it has to do with the following:
1. Aesthetically pleasing favorites (like those nice looking 90s shoujos or whatever)
2. Has a show I particularly hate (preferably have done a review on it before) on favorites.
3. Exchange convo back and forth enough times, forum or comment section

Yeah I guess that's about it.
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Sep 28, 2021 9:15 AM

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he or she has to be interesting or fun, if I see just a random friend request and no message, I kinda lose interest in the person. I don't really care about taste or some shit, I just someone fun to talk to from time to time
Sep 28, 2021 9:32 AM

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In my profile I mention that I want to at least have a short talk so at least I know who they are and why they want to be friends, I used to have like 600 people because I accepted everyone and I reached a point where I had no clue who pretty much everyone was.

95% of the requests I get are still without a message tho q_q
Sep 28, 2021 9:36 AM
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I send requests to people with similar tastes or someone who has watched a good amount of anime just to find something new to watch.
Sep 28, 2021 9:42 AM
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If I know them in real life most of the time
Sep 28, 2021 10:02 AM

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If they are members of the few clubs I'm part of I accept them, it would be pretty rude to reject them IMO.

I actually make use of the "stats" section of every anime entry, where you can see what you friends rated the givem show and use that to decide what to watch next, so I don't really like adding people who's taste is pretty different from mine.
But again, rejecting people I periodically interact with would be pretty rude, so sectretly I hope some of them don't try to add me (lol).

Also, if it's someone I have seen posting in forum's discussions a lot and I happen to agree with most of their takes I will accept them too.
Sep 28, 2021 10:31 AM

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If they send me a friend request, I'll accept it immediately lol

I only send out friend requests to people with similar tastes or those with cool profiles, though, and I assume that's what most people do on hear, unless you're going for the most friends possible ig. Friends don't really hinder your profile, whether they care about you or not, so it doesn't really matter to me either way.
Sep 28, 2021 10:42 AM

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Nothing ,I just accepts every freind request but before accepting them I check their profile whether the accounts is real or troll one for safety that's it .
And I hardly send any freind request
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