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My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness
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Synonyms: The Private Report on My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness

Japanese: さびしすぎてレズ風俗に行きましたレポ

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Type: Manga

Volumes: 1

Chapters: 6

Status: Finished

Published: Jun 17, 2016

Genre: Slice of Life

Theme: Memoir

Serialization: None

Authors: Nagata, Kabi (Story & Art)

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Score: 8.12¹ (scored by 26,749 users)

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Ranked: #579²

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Popularity: #316

Members: 50,722

Favorites: 2,702

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Nov 5, 2016

Josh

Recommended

My Lesbian Experience With Loneliness is a memoir written by Kabi Nagata. Her story begins with dropping out of university and ends with a glimmer of hope after a decade of part-time jobs, existential angst, mental illness and sexual frustration. It is mostly a sad story, but told in a way that makes much of it funny and relatable.

Nagata is a deadpan narrator who uses irony and caricature to add humour to her often morbid observations. She doesn't overdo it, though. There are powerful moments of sober reflection and any reader is likely to recognize some of Nagata's thoughts as their own, since the scope ...

Aug 4, 2017

fishpun

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So much about this really hit home for me. It's kind of amazing how two people, brought up on opposite sides of the globe, could have an almost identical experience when it comes to identity, sexuality, and mental health... Having said that, I think even if you are straight and/or a man, there's still a lot of enjoyment to be taken from this humble little volume.

First and foremost: though I know many of you will find other means of reading this story (*wink*), I still feel it's worth mentioning for anyone contemplating buying the physical release that Seven Seas did a fantastic job with ...

Sep 11, 2017

OniKunIsGr8

Recommended

This piece is a beautiful, non-fiction, autobiographical manga by a woman who must learn how to respect and care for herself, and leave her rut of self-loathing, poor eating habits, crippling anxiety and depression, self harm and suicidal thoughts. The crux of all these problems and how she must overcome them is an interaction with a lesbian prostitute.

Story - 9

This woman has lived one goddamned interesting life. While not for everyone - it's possibly the most subjective story I've ever read - it can be truly life-changing if you find yourself able to connect and relate to the writer and her struggles. It captures mental ... health in a way rarely seen, and terrifically accurate from a victim's standpoint, and can be either a horrific view into the mind of a victim, or for a victim reader can be a life-changing explanation for the mess going on in one's mind. Viewing the author's growth as a person able to live a happy, healthy life is just as wonderful, being both deeply inspiring and a literary payoff for the suffering the reader sees her go through earlier. Overall, a fantastic insight to mental health and just a plain interesting biography.

Art - 8

While remarkably simple, the art is a joy to look at. The - albeit small - palette is very pleasing, and the chibi aesthetic the artist uses can really help the reader through some of the more emotionally taxing portions of this - admittedly short - series. My only real gripe is the overbearing use of text within drawings to convey meaning, though this is honestly little more than a nitpick. While a more realistic style may have fit this more, the chibi look is both visually pleasing and makes it a much less difficult read.

Characters - 10

While there aren't many characters, and none are really focused on outside of the author, this author is so beyond interesting that it more than makes up for the vagueness of her family's personalities, or the friends that are only mentioned and never shown. A completely verbatim telling of one person's mindset over a ten year period makes for something far greater than it might have been were side characters focused on more turning the protagonist into little more than "a depressed person."

Enjoyment - 7

Most of this is just plain depressing, if not more interesting than fun. There's some good humour, and endearing dialogue be it narration or actual conversation, but overall you will be much more enthralled by the psychological aspects than the humour.

Overall - 9

If this story or person sound at all relatable or interesting to you, I couldn't recommend this enough. I may have the bias of basically being an emotional clone of this author, but even when casting that bias aside this was a damned beautiful ride, and certainly short enough to not regret reading.

Jul 17, 2020

NextUniverse

Recommended

TL;DR Review:
Story - 8: Story about finding where to belong in life, the story allows you to understand the minds of those who are mentally ill in a deep, but simple way.
Art - 8: Unique and good art with a duotone of white and peach pink for colours.
Character - 9: Real characters with real experience, all the better with non-melodramatic actions.
Enjoyment - 7: A good short story that could have been better.
Overall - 8.0 (8)

Full Review:

So, I'm not going to lie. I didn't understand this story half the time when I was reading this. I couldn't understand why the main character, Kabi Nagata, had a ...

Feb 6, 2022

Miss__Manga__

Mixed Feelings

I apologise in advance for how long this is.

A day after reading it and I'm still not sure how to feel about it.

It's partially a sad story, partially in happy, in that she has a lot of issues and things she struggles with, but happy in that she starts to understand and/or make progress. While her issues and illnesses and thoughts are all intertwined, I felt like there was a lot going on and it was difficult to process, despite having some of the same issues.

I'm not a fan of the art style. I don't hate it, but I don't like it that much. ... The other day I spoke about how much I loved the pink in "If you could see love". This has a similar thing (but with MUCH more pink), but I don't the effect is as good.

The audience for this is people questioning their sexuality, those with mental health issues, or those who perhaps have never been in a relationship. (I wouldn't necessarily recommend it to everyone in those groups though) It casts quite a large net, which is both good, but as mentioned earlier, can lead to a lot going on. Considering how personal the story is, I feel like we are missing some information - her therapist (seen once) appeared useless (why was she forced to check out books by herself to start to come to an understanding about herself?), and did her family not try to help her? What about her friends? (Also, who ARE her family and friends? They have no personality)

I understand there are cultural elements at play, but I also have a degree in psychology, have mental health issues, am roughly the same age, am bisexual/lesbian (still working that out lmao), and have lived in Japan, so some of the parts just did not mesh with my lived experiences, those of people I know and just... seemed off? I'm not doubting these things happened to her, and she's more than welcome to keep her life private, it just made things difficult for me to understand. While I can relate to some of the issues and situations, I can't relate to her.

Shout out to her for actually writing this though - she is using a pen name (as said in the manga), and publishing on the net ensured privacy (not needing to do face to face meetings with publishers etc), which obviously changed as the idea gained traction. So yes, she is able to protect her identity and live a normal life to a degree (I would not be comfortable publishing something like this with my real name!), but at the same time, it means her parents etc would never read it (not that they seem like that type of people), but combined with what I understood, she'd also never tell them the truth of how hurt she was, so I feel like things are just going to repeat with their relationship... It takes a lot to speak about these things in Japan, but I also feel like that is changing.

There was a lot of "how was this not thought of before", "why didn't anyone see this", "how did you come to this conclusion" type of questions for me - they can all be answered as "we're all different". Valid. However, I don't understand her thought/feeling process, which made it difficult for me to relate. Some of the narrative felt too rambly/like a stream of consciousness for me; which would make sense since it was originally published on pixiv, but when put into a book, the effect is different. A bit more depth would have been amazing. Having more variety in the panel work would also have helped, as it blended together (dialogue bubbles are often in the same place each panel, so there is no variety).

A short note: I read the English version and I wonder how many of my issues with this relate to translation? For example, when she was working and eating yam cakes. The heck are those? Why do they have water? (Inspect image closer) ohhhh! She's eating konnyaku! Completely different things, so I wonder how often translation choices like that affected my understanding of the manga.

I did enjoy how frank she is about all of these difficult topics. I enjoyed the hotel scenes - the different ladies taught her different things. I really didn't like was the Freudian thoughts of her desire to be held by women, apparently caused by her clinginess to her mother (which she also says is related to domestic abuse, though she says she never experienced any). She seems to relate this to her being a lesbian as well. These ideas seem to be the first thing that "made sense" to her, but really don't when you think about them, but it seems like she was happy to have an answer so didn't think about it further. Up until then I quite enjoyed the story, but that threw me way off.

I feel like it could adversely affect younger/impressionable readers as well (you know how when people see stuff on tiktok and instantly believe it? Like that, but in a sense worse as people tend to believe the written word more, especially when the book is based on serious issues her life story, therefore people will say everything she says is true. I see some of this in reviews, saying it is a must read for whatever group or its something that affects everyone universally, or that "in the manga, she said (issue) comes from (reason), which is true", when the reality is that people are so very different and things like sexuality and mental health issues are never "caused" by one thing.

The fact that it was about her wanting to be held as well, I found the book to be less about coming to terms with being a lesbian (to the point where the title is almost misleading), and more about wanting to have a place to belong (which she discusses) and having positive physical contact with people.

I feel some of the content warnings aren't true, and are maybe from people who have read her other works? I would like to read her other works in order to understand her more, and I'd also like to reread this one, maybe in a year or so, to see if I get it more. I wanted to like this a lot more than I did.

Please note that I am not rating the author's life - the rating is a reflection on how it was told (artwork and 'story'), and that reading this book in any language other than the original Japanese could lead to some different ideas/thoughts (translator word choice, bias, our own cultural bias etc) than what the author desired.

Oct 8, 2017

zlello

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Note: I've only read a few manga, but please hear me out.

Even though this manga is titled and was designed to capture the reader with the subject of female homosexuality, it successfully captures two sides of different coins. From the surface, one might assume that the whole manga's subject matter is only about lesbianism and the mental damage that affects the protagonist of this manga. However, the manga makes it so that it tackles the struggle of being a lesbian and the mental luggage that can be carried with it, and the author's witty but striking experience as an adult, surfacing to society and its ...

Nov 17, 2018

TheHentaiKing

Recommended

*Disclaimer*
Just personal scratch.
Advised, possible spoilers.
Opinion & Informal

Art: 6/10
The art was kinda like something you see in a short web comic or some lighthearted introductory guidebook to some skill...like...cartoonish illustrations meant to be a part of a guidebook for dummies. The anatomy and proportions of the characters checked out. The style was a bit simple and a lot of the supporting details in the art were more or less rough shading or fills. The whole color scheme centered on the color pink which was just a nice change from the usual black and white. There weren't any impact shots or showcases of artistic skill. There weren't ... any panoramas or nature showcases either. Overall, the art was super simple but I gave it a 6 because it was generally more on the unique side in regards to style, coloring, and layout.

Panel Progression: 5/10
The panel progression was straightforward and was very linear. Not much in terms of wide layouts but there were a few cases of interesting designs and panel-cutting. The panels were able to convey the dialogue and story in a understandable manner, but I had a problem with how cluttered they could be sometimes; there were way too many bubbles or words in bubbles in more than one case. Panel progression didn't make me double-take, but I had to focus on what was actually going on because of the clutter sometimes. Pacing of the progression was about right. Even though the overall tone of the manga's panel progression was informal, everything didn't happen too fast or too slow.

Characters: 8/10
The main character, which is the author herself, was done well enough for me to like them. Another way to put it would be that I didn't pity them despite how much self-loathing was in this manga. By the end of the manga I was actually interested in the author's life-story. I actually felt inclined to read the sequel and find out more about how she's working on becoming a functional human being. The character development will speak for itself because the whole thing is more or less focused entirely on it. I think the redeeming thing about this manga is that it's entirely character development that happened in the real world. This manga does a good job in making the main character feel alive and feel like they're a human with emotions and problems.

Plot: 6/10
The plot was fine. It's pretty much just an informal autobiography. The concept was unique to me at the time of reading. I had never read anything previously that was essentially a diary translated into manga form.

Development: N/A
The development both plot and character-wise were good. I'm not going to discuss development nor will I weigh it because it would be a bit odd to rate the development of a real life person, which is what the plot and character in this manga basically much are.

Conclusion: 6/10
I was sort of expecting some life-changing resolution to her diary so the conclusion was a bit underwhelming. I mean that it was sort of just left off at an awkward spot. I understand that it would leave off as open-ended because her journey is still going on, but the execution just didn't leave an impact. Even if it had to be based on what actually happened and how she felt at the time, I think the conclusion to the diary could have been a bit more flexible to keep it interesting.

Overall: 7/10
I thought this was a good read. I was a bit reluctant to pick it up just based on first impressions and the synopsis, but I'm glad I read it. There were more than one instance of me thinking, "Oh wow, this sounds a little like how I felt when I was younger." I related very closely to a lot of the author's feelings and predicaments. In some cases I felt the dairy was talking about me; not specifically depression or sexual frustration, but I felt that I sympathized with the author's low confidence and anxiety. It's hard for me to form what I want to say exactly about this manga because it deals with a lot of feelings and personal fulfillment. Overall, this is worth reading for its unique presentation and sympathy-inducing asides.

Jun 21, 2020

_hakase

Recommended

The title of the manga roughly translates to "The Private Report on My Lesbian Experiences With Loneliness", and more or less encapsulates its main themes. What starts an an autobiographical account of the author and her first meaningful sexual encounter, at 28, with a prostitute, slowly transcends into a recollection of her life over the past 10 years preceding the event. The story is candid as it is embarrassing, and provides a humorous insight into the author's struggles with depression, isolation, self harm, sexuality, family etc.

I seek out niche works like these; they seem to have one real purpose – to tell a story, but ...

Aug 16, 2023

werol

Recommended

This story might be something quite different than what you could expect from the title. The main focus here is not on the lesbian romance, although it plays an important part in the author's life, but rather on her personal life experience, the ups and downs (mostly downs, though), the difficulties and fears of entering adulthood and trying to find her path in this complicated world. This is especially hard for the author, because of mental problems she is struggling with. However, when she realizes that she is not obliged to follow her parents' expectations, something changes with her attitude and the way she sees ...

Oct 20, 2020

cecito

Recommended

I never considered bringing my real life into this site where I just check what new anime is out but HEAR ME OUT FOR A SECOND.
I'm a psychology student, 0,3% away from my degree (as you can see, I read manga late at night instead of writing my thesis), ans I was SHOCKED when I read this.
Nagata narrates experiencies, feelings and thoughts that people usually have an excruciatingly difficulty to put into words. She did not only WRITE those words but DREW THEM. I think this could help many people that are going through a therapeutic process but are stuck, unable to connect to ...

Feb 28, 2018

Hedgie

Recommended

My Lesbian Experience With Loneliness

It's splendid when you something as exquisite like this. Stumbling a upon such a unique title and short manga, I decided to give a read. Its flourishing beautiful art style is what attracted my attention in the first place. It looks like a mini web-comic series and perhaps that's where it originated from. Clean and distinct presentation makes this manga look beyond gorgeous, cannot stress enough this Manga looks fantastic and its appeal even though it's so simplistic to look at. The only complain I'd have to art is that the background art is non-existent.

When it comes to the ...

Mar 7, 2018

Neimaj

Recommended

This manga is bizarre. It's strangely relatable, but bizarre in some areas. My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness is a autobiography manga written by Kabi Nagata. The manga is about the struggles in her life, and how she reacts towards them. At the very beginning of the manga, it starts with her at a love hotel with another woman, she then explains how she got into the situation by telling the reader her life story.
The vast majority of the manga takes place in the span of ten years, starting from her high school graduation, at eighteen, to when she starts writing this manga, at twenty-eight. Obviously, ...

Jan 7, 2024

k_kindawatchAnim

Recommended

I want to bring ppl's attention to this manga , because I think ... no joke ... this might be one of my favourite manga like ever (almost) , yes it beats Citrus on the Genuity factor (not saying that Citrus's main "domain of expertise" is genuineness because citrus will stay as fiction obviously) , this is the manga that pushed me in an all-nighter even though I had to wake up early the next day simply because I didn't want to stop mid through and pick it back up again , it was the first time I didn't sleep for an entire night , ... and I have no regrets whatsoever , and don't ask me why it took me an entire night to read 6 chapters , shut up , I'm a slow reader , and it was late , and I had to read 10 times each panel because of it, you see , yes this isn't romance but I don’t care , I like exploring the human psyche , I was mid-way through chap 1 and I was already so intrigued because I was like "HOW THE HELL DID WE GET HERE ?" "HOW DOES SOMEONE DEPRESSED DECIDES TO GO TO THE BITCHES A LOVE HOTEL ?" "WHAT'S THE THOUGHT PROCESS BEHIND IT ?" "DID SHE USE IT AS A ONE TIME TOOL FOR HER PSYCHE OR IS IT A CHANGE IN BEHAVIOR ?" , I just had so many questions , but the thing that struck me the most was how every time something happened I went "Oh my god , that thing actually happened" , I think because of that fact it made it so , so , so much more impactful , like 2000% more impactful , and I got to tell you something about me , basically all of my ratings in lesbian media are heavily influenced by genuineness, it does matter a lot to me especially when it comes to love (tho this isn't the subject in this manga) , that just goes to show how this tiny little thing just has so much power and just blows me out of the water ,

if you told me that citrus was a real story I would fucking EXPLODE in a way that would irreversibly destroy at least 10 parallel universes , in fact the whole reason to why I started consuming yuri about one and half year ago is because I was seeking genuineness, this manga received 2 awards and that's not even enough , this deserves way more , there's also an other thing I wanted to say , she said that she was reading BL (including lewd doujinshi) but she also saw men as "just being naked" and that intrigued as of why she was reading BL , then she explained why , and then I thought it was weird except I'm taking that back , I'm going to slap myself in the face (I just did) , because I absolutely have no right to say that , absolutely 0% , none , I'd be such an asshole to blame that on her , because I would be lying if I didn't say I put weird barriers on myself , I totally understand her from her perspective , it's because she saw men as "just being naked" , that she was being able to watch BL , because she was very anti-sex , and I understand that , it makes sense , from her perspective , I thought it was weird because it was counterintuitive , but I just can't say that because I'm familiar with weird barriers that you put onto yourself , I put an all-nighter to read this and I regret nothing , this was such a good read and jokes aside , I feel for the author.

anyway, if I didn't forget anything I wanted to say (probably did ngl) I'll leave you with these last words :

she's depressed, has an eating disorder, has social anxiety, family issues (kind of) , suicidal thoughts, doesn't get understood by anyone , doesn't get understood by herself , no friends and yet she still manages to pull in the bitches , what about you ? this puts to shame at least 50% or even more of the yuri fandom (I'M JOKING , IT'S A JOKE , DON'T GET MAD AT ME PLS 😭)

Dec 19, 2017

Gundroog

Mixed Feelings

I went into this with some bias, expecting another terrible melodrama where author is standing on a soapbox and preaches about their woes and how the world really should be but this turned out to be a thoroughly pleasant experience. It's rare to see these kinds of topics covered in such a genuine, very personal way that you can relate and sympathize with the main character so easily.

Nagata over the course of a decade has to deal with a lot of shit that I think most readers will find relatable to some extent and the more relatable it is the more you'll probably enjoy it. ... First of all there's a general anxiety of a teenager fresh out of high school entering adult life and figuring out how to earn money and deal with the pressure of responsibility that puts on a person. First job is usually a hard step in many peoples lives, after all you can't just pick at random and dedicate your life to it, it's difficult to decide who you are, who you want to be, what you would enjoy or not and where do you need to go and how to get there.
From that a lot of anxiety is born and that pressure on top of being unsure of yourself and things around you can lead to a whole myriad of mental issues, Nagata had to go through self-harm, eating disorders and depression due to this all while still having to figure out what to hell to do with life. She stumbles around from corner to corner and it's very interesting to read her insight on these situations, what she felt like, why she felt like this and what led her to out of it. Depression, anxiety and other issue are well known to a lot of people but for many these states can be more catastrophic than other because unlike with physical pain not everybody can understand the source of it and what to do about it, this is actually one of the points Nagata elaborates on fairly early on. I won't spoil too much but another unique aspect of the manga is that it is told from a perspective of that person who's figuring out WHY, why does she feel the way she does.
By trying to understand herself piece by piece she starts to form an idea of bigger issues at hand one of which is the repressed sexuality mentioned in the synopsis. It's probably one of the less common issues presented but the way Nagata retells her experiences is so touching and personal that I found it even more endearing than normal problems.
That's really the main strength of this manga the way I see it. In terms of writing it won't offer you much new, if you remove the context it's just a cute and lighthearted journey through the difficulty life of a normal person with normal problems that often pass unnoticed and are generally not discussed openly due to their nature. If you look at it from another perspective though it can almost be a guide on what to do when you face something similar. Obviously every life is different and there's no one true way out but having went through some problems myself and talked with a lot of people who are going trough them I think it's very reassuring to see someone struggle and achieve the life they wanted instead of giving up and wallowing in self-pity and sorrow.

So, in the end, this is a very easy manga to recommend, don't let the overly simplistic synopsis put you off. No matter if you find it relatable or not this is a worthy read.

Jan 20, 2021

bedtimechopper

Recommended

This autobiographic manga by Kabi Nagata is amazing. Her brutal honesty in telling the story of her life brings to the reader lots of realtable moments, and it made me cry of sadness and also laugh out loud. Her art is great; really expressive characters and I give her props for drawing some abstract situations of feelings in a really didactic and easy to understand way. I really think this manga can be realatable to everyone in some way or other, not just to the people who are sapphic. It touches on themes of family, mental health and relationships, things that are universal to everyone, ...

Mar 4, 2024

JohnTBrooke

Recommended

Incredibly, absurdly, deeply personal. For that, even if you might not fully relate, or find the manga's aesthetics or biographical narrative particularly gripping, it is worth the read. Nagata Kabi's book of deeply personal, depressing insights about her life and her entanglement with loneliness, communication problems, confusion about sexuality, alienation from society, is a gripping read. For one, she does not sugar coat her experiences, but bares even the worst of herself out to the world. For any creator, artist, writer, etc. out there, you know this is incredibly difficult to do well, and do so authentically.

Still, as a book, the overall loose structure ...

May 19, 2019

Nebby524

Recommended

Preliminary (3/6 chp)

This series is so relatable for someone who also has anxiety. I feel good that I'm not the only one out there going through something like this. The art is simple but good and I like the coloring. It also tells a relatable story about someone's everyday life after school where most slice of life the main time is in highschool. I know I already said it's relatable but but it isn't like most Yuri where they find there lover right away this book takes a approach that tells people that you don't have to go through highschool with a date, unlike many other manga. ...

Jul 20, 2019

EvilMayDie64

Recommended

Autobiographic manga about a woman who has been dealing with depression, mental issues, social anxiety, poor eating habits, peer pressure, the inability to get a full time job and a serious mother complex. Who suddenly founds herself hogging up with a lesbian prostitute out of some sort of twisted desire to replace the whole momcon thing. A pretty interesting premise, right?

Bet you're thinking it's the perfect piece for handwork. I'm sorry to disappoint you (not really), but it's not, you can't get any form of sexual arousal from this manga. None at all. It's an autobiography, in other words, shitty reality. So don't expect ...

Jan 21, 2018

Wotakunai

Recommended

Here's my take after reading the complete 5 chapters of Sabishisugite Lesbian Fuuzoku ni Ikimashita Report by Kabi Nagata.

My Lesbian Experience With Loneliness is like what the title says. It is the story of Kabi Nagata, a college dropout who is lost of what is her purpose in life which eventually leads to her having a lesbian experience with a lesbian prostitute.

This one hits hard for me as some if not most of the struggles of Kabi about her purpose, her journey through depression, and eventual acceptance were some of the things I had gone through growing up.

The art would simply be a matter of ...

Apr 25, 2020

WarpFactor0

Recommended

TLDR:

This charming and candid recollection of the author's past offers a sincere look into the struggle to understand yourself and sexuality while delivering a narrative that is both light-hearted in presentation but has a great deal of depth to those who can relate or take the time to truly empathize.

The vibe of the Nagata's work is best described as the natural progression of the sort of sweet-but-meaningful narrative your favorite childhood story has for you when you first read/are being read it (Mine is: "If You Give a Mouse a Cookie").

Art = 9:

The art is simple yet has a genuine charm that is ...