| Having very few friends was somewhat of a striving thing for me (during my youth) but as I grew older it became nonsense for me (plus having autism for years is also a curse(or a blessing, depending on how one would look at it) for many IRL things. Idk, but I never really have the itch for IRL interactions and can go on for weeks (or even months) without even talking to anyone IRL, so it's not even a top priority thing that would bother me, and I never understood the appeal of lots of social interaction IRL. |
| No of course not. I'm a 20-something cis-het male, suspected autistic, living in 2023. I have no job, no passions, only a porn addiction and an anime list. Even if you forget the stuff that lies in my control, the odds are stacked against me. Making excuses isn't good though. It's probably all my fault or at least that's the best way to look at it. |
| Well... I don't know to be honest? I guess I'm friends by default with my niece's best friend, and my niece & nephew's (unmarried) partners. I was welcomed into their inner circle when my last remaining parent died, and moved to the same town as them all. Also there's 2 fellow Wrestling fans who live in town who I'm on first name terms. I saw them at various Wrestling shows previously, and one guy I actually kind-of knew from seeing him at shows in my hometown going back some years. If I see them out in town I'll stop and chat to them, but at the moment we all just end up going to the same shows, sometimes we'll all sit together and travel back together, but wouldn't call them friends exactly. Before this though I've haven't had friends for many years, as I missed a year in School being in hospital and was bullied when I returned, later to be home educated. Also I had care orders wrongly sent out for me, so my parents moved me between our different homes in different countries & counties of the UK until I was a safe-enough age to be free of them (the care orders I mean). Did still manage to make some friends briefly, but never knew how long I would stay in one place, and I'd lose them as soon as we moved again. I was extremely sheltered, close family members were all I had & knew. Am happy as I am though, am very used to my my own company and am fine with it. Very untrusting of people because of past experiences and I self-preserve myself a lot too. |
LightWorkerNov 7, 2023 11:06 AM
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| No but I want friends badly. I want someone to do fun things with like to talk to and go to concerts with. |
| I really only trust two or three friends fully while I can count everyone else on my own two hands. I used to be really social when I was younger but in recent years, I’ve kinda lost the drive to socialize with others my age and began to cut ties with others for personal reasons. Plus the people at my school are insufferable so I’m not gonna bother with them. |
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| I have no more IRL friends. We drifted apart or I avoided them. |
| Some, but not many, I'm a bit socially awkward and tend to get anxious when talking to people, even ones that I've known for a while. |
    Summertime days, passing gentlySunlight, leading to an encounter; Dreams that don't want to end Continue onwards toward the next day While she waits in the air. |
| I mean yeah. Do we really need to ask this question? Internet social ineptitude is a big LARP. |
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| Yes, but not as many as I used to have in the past. R.I.P OP. |
SerafosNov 23, 2023 3:20 AM
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| Yes I do, I used to think that I had more as back when I was a teenager in high school a word friend was more shallow to me, right now it has a more serious meaning and I do have 2 close friends, 2 good female friends, others are just buddies/pals with whom it is good to go out for a drink night, but we're not that close to call each other very good friends. |
| I mostly have just good acquaintances, but I do have this group of me and 3 other people that are my old classmates and we occasionally hang out together. We go to local events, movies, shopping, whatever. It is just a few times a year, but it is nice. And even when we can't physically meet each others, we do chat online quite a bit. |
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| How long ago did you stop talking with them? I got back in touch with friends that I hadn't spoken to for almost a decade and we ended up going on holiday and all sorts! Deffo don't want you thinking it's all over there cos lots of people, like loooots wonder what their old friends are up to! And many people these days crave a bit more social time, even if it's that low energy chilling and eating snacks kind of social time :) I have a grand total of 3 people that I'd consider close friends, we're not as close as we used to be purely because we're all in our late 20s and life gets busier. I'd like more friends though I don't know the best way to go about it, so yea it can be tricky sometimes ;P You sharing this is a good thing imo, it's good to let these thoughts out and even if it's just on a forum it shows you are trying to find solutions to them :) Happy to chat about random stuff or whatever you want if it helps :) You can always drop a message and I'm sure plenty of others would be open to that as well! Sending positive energy your way bud |
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| I am physically chronically ill (7 years pain at sacrococcygeal joint and 8 months pain at hamstring) I cannot and don't have any friends because I cannot sit without pain, and even not sitting always painful I am most of the time at home The only human friend I have is my girlfriend who is so far very understanding about my chronic pain and mental depression Aside from that, I have a poodle dog, a stray cat who lives at front of my house, and a giant stuffed animal on my bed as my friends |
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| I wouldn't consider someone a friend until I've talked to them for months and feel I have a genuine bond which is difficult to form online. I would say I have 2 people I consider friends in my 21 years of life |
| I do, but the main reason is because I live near them, and sometimes, when we get to see each other, we try to do something like go somewhere. I don't try to get in touch with them regularly tho. |
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| I don't get out much anymore. I have a few real longtime close friends that still help me with some things, but it's just not really the same as the big high school tier cliques I used to have. Lots of them started travelling and never came back to visit so I had less people to hang out with, and I guess I just didn't really care to go out and meet new people. Kind of lonely tbh |
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| I need my irl friends ^_^ becomes lonely |
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| I haven't met anyone where I live that I want to be a friend. |
| Yeah I have a few close friends. Some from my schooling days but some from work as well. |
| My friends just got in the way because they were friends that I was looking for. The best type of friend is a friend that you just happen to come across by chance without looking for them. |
| All my friends are dead. Either drug overdose or suicide. I've never really bothered to seek out others since. |
| Lie until what you want to be true becomes truth. Lie until you can't remember what's a lie and what isn't. Lie until you aren't lying anymore! Figures  |
| My main friend group is really tight knit and including me there's 5 of us in total. I have some other friends that I keep up with and also school friends but I'm selective with who I get close with |
| I have. But I consider them as more "friendly acquaintances" than "friends. They're alright people. But I guess I have difficulty in establishing deeper connections. |
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| Yeah, as you grow older friends come and go (unless you don't seek them out that is) but I'm pretty happy with the friends I have right now. Also some advice of you want irl friends delete your reddit account. |
| When a pancake lover does something: "Outrageous vicious crime" When a waffle lover does something: "That means it is not illegal" Quotes - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ld_HIM667Do&t=2822s |
| i have like, 2 friends. and one of them barely talks to me lol. who needs friends. humanity is probably gonna go extinct in a couple decades or so anyways so who cares. |
| Yup. Two of them just got married last month. |
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| I am gonna be really frank. NEETS can't have friends. They are just being manipulated. You need to be useful in life to have friends |
 If you are a friend. Visit my profile to recommend me something to watch ( ^▽^)ψ__ |
| I have 3 friends, but one of them is basically an hikikomori. Despite that, he is the one I see the most. |
| Location: Turin, Italy |
| I only have one guy that i can truly call a friend. But i do hang out with a bunch of diffrent people now and then. |
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| Less than when I was younger, it's honestly pretty scary how some people you were super close to during your teens and early 20's drift apart from you during adult life. But still enough plus I've got good colleagues, who even though I don't consider friends are pretty fun to be around and work with. |
| Not as much but sure, unlike back in school Now "friend" to me is synonymous with "coworker" |
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| Yes I do. We get along every week. Sometimes someone can't come but we do go out for dinner and so |
| Just one.I mean, I kinda have other 4, but I almost never talk to them, so... yeah, just one. |
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| IRL friend? Only 1 that I consider a friend. Do have a few online friends who used to be IRL but moved away. Im pretty lonely, but I enjoy being by myself so friendship isn't a big problem in my life. |
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| I don't understand what "irl" means. |
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| i do but i rarely talk to them now since they are now busy with their life |
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