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Thoughts on long distance relationships?
Dec 11, 2021 4:18 AM
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Wanna know what everyone's thoughts are on long distance relationships. I know some people would never attempt one while others are open to it.

Personally I think they work but with the right mindsets. They are harder than normal relationships but if you two really care about each other you'll make it work whether that is texting throughout the day, calling/gaming/watching anime together at night, saving up to see each other every few weeks/months, sending eachother cute gifts, whatever it may be.
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Dec 11, 2021 4:40 AM
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Unless you are amongst the most attractive/smartest/richest males in the world, no female will settle for some pixels, they will want a real man instead.

Unless the female is so mentally ill or ugly that she can't find herself a real man.

Or the last option, unless they know it's only a momentary thing of one or two months.





Dec 11, 2021 5:43 AM
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They work for some, but not so well for others. I have a very good friend who only gets to see his girlfriend for three or so months every year since she lives in a different province, but they so clearly love and understand each other that it doesn't particularly matter. I also know of couples who've met here of all places and ended up getting married.

With that said, I know of far more long distance relationships that've crashed and burned fast. And I could never do long distance myself. Physical intimacy is too important to me.
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Dec 11, 2021 5:45 AM
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They’re probably very difficult but I’m sure in some scenarios they work out just fine. Seems like nowadays it’s easier to link up with someone online and do activities with them, and I think as long as the couple get to see each other every so often it could work out. I’m not sure if I’d be able to hack it but maybe with the right conditions.
Dec 11, 2021 6:06 AM
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You’re lucky if they end up working for you. I personally couldn’t do it tbh, I need to see and talk to you face to face and not just on the phone.
Dec 11, 2021 6:18 AM
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Nope. Tried it due to youthful optimism and ignorance. It failed miserably. Never again.

Dec 11, 2021 8:59 AM
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A "relationship" between two people who have never even met is not a relationship.

As for normal relationships turned long-distance, I've been there. Me and my girlfriend (now wife) were separated for over a year because of COVID and the Canada + Japan borders being closed. It sucked, and thankfully I never have to deal with that again.
Dec 11, 2021 9:43 AM
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They end up failing more often than not, but it works out for a select few. Whether or not you're willing to take that gamble is up to you.
Dec 11, 2021 9:55 AM
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They work! But only if you trust your partner 100%.
I've been in a long-distance relationship for 6 months with my now fiancé, And we live together physically for 3 years now.
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Dec 11, 2021 10:59 AM

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It might work out or ending up in betrayal because a long distance relationship is very hard to cope with since you can't physically get along with each other.
Dec 11, 2021 11:44 AM
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I can see them working out, but I think they require way more efforts than a "normal" relationship and I for one wouldnt be able to do that. So I can understand other people having one, but wouldnt want one myself


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Dec 11, 2021 12:40 PM

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I have done long distance relationships twice, the first didn't work out but did last a little while. The second is still going strong and we are currently engaged. I will clarify she did move eventually to be closer, and I think that is the major factor is that eventually someone has to move.
Dec 11, 2021 12:46 PM

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Didn't work out for me. We were good friends and after a few months of talking we confessed to each other (she did first though) and not even a month later she left social media and hasn't talked to me in 10 months. Either she has other more important things to worry about, or she figured this wouldn't work out and left without saying a word to not make me feel bad. Well I know one thing's for sure, I'm not ever going into a long distance relationship ever, EVER again.
Dec 11, 2021 6:23 PM

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To tell you the truth I've only seen one, fully functioning, long distance relationship. One person lives in Australia, the other in California. They manage it by talking over web-cam every night for an hour or so, and a few times a year one of them visits the other for a month straight.

They've managed that for 3 years now, and are about to move in together.

Other than them, every long distance relationship I've seen has not ended well. There was plenty of drama, temptation, and uncertainty. Even with those absent, it is quite easy for feelings to deteriorate in your partner's absence.
Dec 11, 2021 7:51 PM

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I think it's scary because you never really know what your lover has been doing. Then again, you're supposed to trust your partner. Also, I haven't been in ANY relationship(because I want my first one to be the last one).
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Dec 12, 2021 12:34 AM
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I was in an LDR with my current partner for a little over 2 years before moving in together. And we've been together for 4.5 years now. My sister and her boyfriend were the same. And my previous relationship before that was only ever long distance and that one lasted 4 years. So they can definitely work in my experience, although I'm not sure if I would ever do it again. Its very hard to be apart from someone you love, and it can be very lonely. But also dating IRL can be difficult because a lot of people want me for my looks, and sometimes it can be hard to tell who genuinely likes you vs someone that just wants you for a shallow reason.
Dec 12, 2021 1:40 AM

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I think they could probably work, but eventually, you need to arrange an IRL meetup; I don't believe people can go on that long without going crazy wanting to see each other.
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Dec 12, 2021 2:22 AM

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They can work, but I would advise against it.

When my husband and I were dating, he was going to school in another state. He would come back for breaks, but it was really hard. Really, really hard. I don't know if I could ever do it again.
Dec 12, 2021 4:03 AM
Dec 12, 2021 6:17 AM

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My thoughts about long distance relationships can be summed up as "no". Every time I move away and I'm in a relationship with someone, I just break up with them. Props to those that can go through that, I won't put myself in those ugly sweaty tight shoes. I prize fashion, so I can only put up with sweat and tightness out of those three.
Dec 12, 2021 6:19 AM
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my love language is physical touch so i could never 😭 but for other ppl they can work
Dec 12, 2021 9:45 AM

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I would do a long distance relationship if I liked the woman a lot ngl. Never had one tho.



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Dec 12, 2021 11:04 AM

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It won’t work indefinitely but it can work for a few years until one of you can move closer. I did it for a while with my now fiancée too while I was in the military and we had a studio that we were renting. I could only visit a couple of times per month for two days at a time.
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Dec 14, 2021 8:56 PM

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Interesting to see the mix reactions to long distance
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Dec 15, 2021 8:56 AM
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Not my thing. Doing that is asking to be cucked.
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Dec 15, 2021 9:16 AM

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They work if both parties put in the effort and are as valid as in person relationships.

Some people can't do it and that's fine.
Dec 15, 2021 9:47 AM

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They work if you look like shit

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Dec 15, 2021 9:49 AM
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Technically, Mal friendships count as long distance relationships and they're swell as long as both parties do their part
Dec 16, 2021 4:11 PM

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they dont work, exceppt if you are rich and handsome
Dec 29, 2021 8:09 PM

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Lot of mixed feelings about long distance with more negative than positive experiences
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Dec 29, 2021 8:27 PM
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I have always thought that long-distance relationships are bad and never lead to anything, but a few months ago, I met that girl who told me in the morning that next year she is planning to finally meet her long-distance boyfriend whom she had been in a relationship with for over 7 years. It was a really romantic story. Apparently, they first met each other in some online video game back in 2011 and started dating a few years later, and now, they are planning to take it to the next level.

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