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Sep 19, 2020 4:02 PM
#1
seriously i think it's the hardest thing to do to meet people irl and then spend a consistent amount of time with them the only thing i can think of is an irl hobby. you do the said hobby with other people and then just keep doing it. all parties progress skill and are social. it was a lot easier at school to develop and maintain relationships because you saw them each day (situational friends). now i take that for granted. |
Sep 19, 2020 4:05 PM
#2
What I did was start playing Magic the Gathering. Made alot of good friends. p0ckyy said: the only thing i can think of is an irl hobby. you do the said hobby with other people and then just keep doing it. all parties progress skill and are social. You have the right idea, just put it into practice. |
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Sep 19, 2020 4:16 PM
#3
ye go to anime conventions for example and start talking with fellow weebs |
Sep 19, 2020 4:22 PM
#4
deg said: ye go to anime conventions for example and start talking with fellow weebs Yeah...I want to go to one...never been to one myself. The only thing is...this year has ruined a lot of plans. Maybe 2021, I'll plan out a trip to visit a big con. Never cosplayed either, perhaps it'll be a first for a lot of things that I wanted to do, but couldn't this year. |
Sep 19, 2020 4:23 PM
#5
I spend a lot of time talking to people at the bus stop, pretending I have money and a place to be. |
Sep 19, 2020 8:00 PM
#6
Why are you under the assumption that anyone here ever even socialize with people in the first place? |
Sep 19, 2020 8:14 PM
#7
I can only think of stuff like school, university, job, etc. I went to convention once but didn't really interact with anyone. |
Sep 19, 2020 8:14 PM
#8
At work mostly, sometimes when I travel and much more often through sports. @Zlyiond Not everyone is a NEET :-). We non-NEET are forced to socialize, just for the sake of our careers ("networking"...). |
Sep 19, 2020 8:38 PM
#9
I think meeting with people irl is quite easy for me. But I still can't stop imagining what it would be like if I were to meet up with people I cussed on MAL. How the hell would I handle them then? Get into a fight? Be amicable 'hi hello how are you waddup mate'? I figured I should always be honest to myself, which I, for the most of the time, am. But I can already picture how hysterical it would be. If anything, I actually wanna try meeting one of them. |
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Sep 19, 2020 8:46 PM
#10
I don't, I'm quite introverted and shy. I have only 2-3 friends irl. |
Sep 19, 2020 8:54 PM
#11
Meusnier said: At work mostly, sometimes when I travel and much more often through sports. @Zlyiond Not everyone is a NEET :-). We non-NEET are forced to socialize, just for the sake of our careers ("networking"...). Lol.. I was being hyperbolic when I stated "Weebs don't socialize", but there is some truth to that statement. Most MALers tend to be young (probably around 16-22) and don't necessarily feel the need to grab a job since they're (most likely) still under parental care; and thus they figuratively and literally dwell in their parents basement. Though, I may wrong since I'm noticing a lot of teens getting employed at a young age. |
Sep 19, 2020 8:55 PM
#12
Honestly, I can't think of any interesting hobbies/interests that require another human being. |
Sep 19, 2020 9:16 PM
#13
Zlyiond said: Meusnier said: At work mostly, sometimes when I travel and much more often through sports. @Zlyiond Not everyone is a NEET :-). We non-NEET are forced to socialize, just for the sake of our careers ("networking"...). Lol.. I was being hyperbolic when I stated "Weebs don't socialize", but there is some truth to that statement. Most MALers tend to be young (probably around 16-22) and don't necessarily feel the need to grab a job since they're (most likely) still under parental care; and thus they figuratively and literally dwell in their parents basement. Though, I may wrong since I'm noticing a lot of teens getting employed at a young age. I also thought that you were joking, but when you are in school or college, you are more forced to socialize a little bit just by sports or group projects. Even my former classmate who bragged to read hentai and brought it to class in high school had some friends. |
Sep 19, 2020 10:02 PM
#14
Work mostly but I keep them at arm's length. When it comes to finding fellow weebs though, I think joining groups where you can socialize with fellow fans does wonders. You don't need to make friends with the 6348727893492 other fans for sure but in due time you'll be able to make friends with really cool people who do understand you and will meet with you irl. |
Sep 19, 2020 11:34 PM
#15
I just go outside and that's it, really. But it depends whether or not the humidity is being an oppressive tyrant that day. |
Sep 19, 2020 11:40 PM
#16
Sep 19, 2020 11:42 PM
#17
I cut myself off from other people. I don't enjoy socializing anymore, it's never helped me in anyway. |
Sep 20, 2020 12:19 AM
#18
After school, there's work. I have a bunch of friends from work. |
Sep 20, 2020 12:24 AM
#19
At the gym, yoga, apps, and at parties lol. I wish I knew more ways to meet people |
Hush-hush, Shh! :) |
Sep 20, 2020 12:36 AM
#20
You meet people at activties/groups, you bond with them, you exchange numbers and then keep in contact with them. |
Sep 20, 2020 12:48 AM
#21
90% of mine are just from being introduced to friends of friends. I'm overly chummy from the first convo though, I feel like that probably helps. |
Sep 20, 2020 2:32 AM
#22
I mean, in this pandemic? You've not really got much of a chance, have ya? Outside of that though, usually, it's meeting through friends either at parties or other social gatherings. And those friends I probably would have met through classes or flatmates, something that would have put us together by chance. I don't think I've ever just gone up to a random stranger I had absolutely no connection with and said "hey bro, you wanna be friends?" because the usual response is to look at you funny and walk away. Meusnier said: Zlyiond said: Meusnier said: At work mostly, sometimes when I travel and much more often through sports. @Zlyiond Not everyone is a NEET :-). We non-NEET are forced to socialize, just for the sake of our careers ("networking"...). Lol.. I was being hyperbolic when I stated "Weebs don't socialize", but there is some truth to that statement. Most MALers tend to be young (probably around 16-22) and don't necessarily feel the need to grab a job since they're (most likely) still under parental care; and thus they figuratively and literally dwell in their parents basement. Though, I may wrong since I'm noticing a lot of teens getting employed at a young age. I also thought that you were joking, but when you are in school or college, you are more forced to socialize a little bit just by sports or group projects. Even my former classmate who bragged to read hentai and brought it to class in high school had some friends. Probably because they had hentai to share. |
ChilliePeppersSep 20, 2020 2:35 AM
Sep 20, 2020 3:11 AM
#23
_Dusty_ said: Meusnier said: Zlyiond said: Meusnier said: At work mostly, sometimes when I travel and much more often through sports. @Zlyiond Not everyone is a NEET :-). We non-NEET are forced to socialize, just for the sake of our careers ("networking"...). Lol.. I was being hyperbolic when I stated "Weebs don't socialize", but there is some truth to that statement. Most MALers tend to be young (probably around 16-22) and don't necessarily feel the need to grab a job since they're (most likely) still under parental care; and thus they figuratively and literally dwell in their parents basement. Though, I may wrong since I'm noticing a lot of teens getting employed at a young age. I also thought that you were joking, but when you are in school or college, you are more forced to socialize a little bit just by sports or group projects. Even my former classmate who bragged to read hentai and brought it to class in high school had some friends. Probably because they had hentai to share. Not even, he was the only degenerate weeb back then deserving the disgusted look of girls and boys alike. People of culture would merely watch Yu-Gi-Oh! at the time and I did not even hear of people reading manga or watching anime before college. Maybe they were rightfully hiding too. |
Sep 20, 2020 3:24 AM
#24
yeah its the most difficult thing ever and when everyone leaves u with someone and u have nothing to say that shit's really awkward i cant even go out to buy something i am that much introverted |
Sep 20, 2020 4:11 AM
#25
- Cultural / language exchange events. - Friends of friends - Random encounters during travels (hostel, hikes, ski resorts etc.) Used to go to anime/game related expos quite often, but I've mostly stopped or go there with people I know. While it is nice to meet new people now and then, I think think it takes quite a lot just to -maintain- existing relationship with people. This is especially true as I move often all over the world. |
AxBattlerSep 20, 2020 4:15 AM
Sep 20, 2020 4:11 AM
#26
Through various activities like cosplay, going to anime conventions, karate, yoga, through mutual friends. |
Sep 20, 2020 6:16 AM
#27
Meet at work, stock exchange or the C-Suite. |
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Sep 20, 2020 7:05 PM
#28
for me either on school, college, bars and othr parties, doing classes like boxing or anything else u do in group |
Sep 20, 2020 7:11 PM
#29
anime conventions or anime clubs in your area are your best bet. Gaming stores could be a good way as well too if you and somebody else coincidentally has the same taste that could kick off something or being buddy buddy with the store owner for a good discount. |
Sep 20, 2020 11:03 PM
#30
I feel like a lot of my buddies are from school and I just kept up with them. Others are from cosplaying/going to cons. Some are buddies I've found from just pursuing my career of choice-- and I've always been afraid to make friends that way because I didn't want to befriends folks who just wanted to benefit somehow, but they actually come off as genuine which I appreciate the heck out of. A few folks have mentioned anime conventions, which is great! I would suggest going to smaller cons or gatherings and pretty much just introducing yourself to folks though! I think I've mentioned this before, but I was at a tiny cosplay gathering once and since it was so small and there wasn't much to do. People were a loooot more open to talking to folks they didn't know. We were about to go home or else we would have hung out with him, but one guy wasn't even cosplaying as was just like, "I just moved here from up north, so I'm honestly just trying to make friends" and we were like, "Heck yeah, dude!" We introduced ourselves but then suddenly the host of the gathering wanted to do a group picture so we forgot.;; He seemed chill though. Don't be afraid to do something like that. Actually, at that same gathering, another girl we didn't know introduced herself and hung out with us for the whole day as we hiked around the nature while taking cosplay pictures. All she did was introduce herself and asked if she could come with us. She was also chill. The only reason I didn't keep in contact was because at the time all they used was instagram and I really don't use it.;; I think once cons and gatherings come back (?) people are going to be a lot more open to interacting with others, which is hopefully going to be great for those who have been wanting more friends! Erwin_Danchou said: You don't have to say anything. Even people who love silence will be uncomfortable with silence if they think others are, but if you actually say that you're okay with not speaking or just something like, "I usually don't have much to say, but I feel comfortable enough with you to not feel the need to speak just to fill any silence" then people are usually fine with that. That way there's a lot less pressure to speak and if you do want to say something then it gives you time to actually think about what you want to say, need to say, etc. yeah its the most difficult thing ever and when everyone leaves u with someone and u have nothing to say Though, I'm usually guilty of just talking forever about random stuff just because I can... even though I actually do like silence. |
Sep 20, 2020 11:13 PM
#31
Hmm that depends on the type of person I am looking to meet. I'm part of the local furry group and attend regular meets where new members come along but I rarely start up a friendship with these people. They're nice to talk to at the events and maybe even joke with online but generally the furries in my area are all car buffs which I have no interest in. Sometimes they're cool though and we get along well enough to chill together outside the furry group. Other than that, I generally make new friends through friends I already have. Parties are generally the easiest way (my friend circle is very tame so parties are usually just junk food and a form of entertainment. Usually movies). I used to use Grindr and Tinder back when I was single and would often become friends with the guys there. It very rarely became a friendship that lasted more than a few months though. |
Sep 21, 2020 1:08 AM
#32
I don't meet people irl. I interact with the same familiar faces every single day (basically just school) and that's perfectly fine. I seriously can't remember the last time I "met" someone irl and became newly acquainted with them.. |
Sep 21, 2020 12:11 PM
#33
Through work, hobbies, events and stuff like that. |
Sep 21, 2020 7:07 PM
#35
i have small circle of friends that keep bringing their other friends from another circle then the circle grows bigger. but in the end i keep hanging out with the same familiar faces |
Sep 21, 2020 11:20 PM
#36
Dislike people in general but I have to meet them because of my field Since I'm a college student I always make an effort to talk to people in class or go to club meetings. |
Sep 25, 2020 6:49 PM
#37
Lemme know once you figure it out haha but since I'm done with school I feel like I really only get to know new people through work. |
Sep 30, 2020 9:34 AM
#38
School, work, gym...you can meet people everywhere, but if you lack social skills, probably it´s better if you meet people at a place where everyone shares something (hobby, support the same team,etc) |
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Sep 30, 2020 9:38 AM
#39
step 1: turn off computer step 2: open door step 3: go to any place where there are people step 4: socialize |
Oct 1, 2020 12:05 AM
#40
go to events with your friends or do a hobby together like me, i play yugioh its fun to when u have real people to play with :3 |
Oct 1, 2020 1:44 AM
#41
Socialize at work. Socialize at conventions. Socialize at random hobby based get togethers. Socialize in general, get off the internet and go outside. You'll only find people if you're looking for people. |
Oct 1, 2020 11:40 PM
#42
alvmonster said: Socialize at work. Socialize at conventions. Socialize at random hobby based get togethers. Socialize in general, get off the internet and go outside. You'll only find people if you're looking for people. never ever have i heard something that i agree with so much |
Oct 2, 2020 8:27 PM
#43
Find a new activity or learn a new skill. Make it something that you're interested in and not something off the cuff. You'll usually meet people that way. |
Oct 3, 2020 1:58 AM
#44
Oct 3, 2020 3:50 AM
#45
alvmonster said: Socialize at work. Socialize at conventions. Socialize at random hobby based get togethers. Socialize in general, get off the internet and go outside. You'll only find people if you're looking for people. This. But you can also do the same online with the intent of meeting them irl later. Or not. Can just do it like here on MAL with just profile comments and what not. |
Oct 3, 2020 7:06 PM
#46
i can do this not because lockdown in country but i meet friends with discord and to talk. when no lockdown , i meet friends at the park and play in him. was fun :) |
Oct 3, 2020 8:36 PM
#47
For girls: cold approach, parties, nightclubs, friend's referrals; I'll be trying to expand that by going to anime cons and traveling For guys: MAL, sports, friend's referrals, online games For random NPCs: work |
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Oct 3, 2020 9:27 PM
#48
alvmonster said: Socialize at work. Socialize at conventions. Socialize at random hobby based get togethers. Socialize in general, get off the internet and go outside. You'll only find people if you're looking for people. I think this is a bad idea {the work comment, not everything else), especially if one: you dont have work due to the current conditions and two: if you do, you shouldnt eat where you shi*... if you can avoid it. I think random activities you enjoy woul d be better ideas. Look for classes around the city that are starting back up or have already been going strong for years. Archery classes Dancing: salsa, merengue, bachata are all close body classes where you have to get close and personal and you will chat and touch random people (may not be safe nowadays, but they are still doing it depending on your state) axe throwing book clubs tabletop gaming nights with randoms start your own meetup group with something you enjoy and make people meet you, only problem with this idea is if you use the meetup site you have to pay some fee to start it, but could be worth it. cooking classes. |
zalen0Oct 3, 2020 9:47 PM
Oct 4, 2020 1:56 AM
#49
vosake said: I think this is a bad idea {the work comment, not everything else), especially if one: you dont have work due to the current conditions and two: if you do, you shouldnt eat where you shi*... if you can avoid it. Hmmm... not eating where you shiii is one of my personal principles but I'm curious as to why you think so in term of meeting people irl? In general I avoid sexual relation in my workplace unless the girl is too good to pass up (in case things go awry, my face is thicc enough to see the girls everyday but a woman's grudge shouldn't be taken lightly) but I still socialize with my coworkers, nothing wrong with that... or is it? |
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Oct 4, 2020 11:09 AM
#50
It's simple. Get a fucking job. I've got some new friends myself over the several years I've been working. The reason why you're not meeting new people is because you're sitting on an anime forum all day. Even worse, you're still living with your parents. Finding new friends is difficult when you're living like that. |
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