Even without knowing what they look like, which male user on CD do you think could be the most handsome?

I simply tried to include the most users and I do see you around here.?? Asian can be good looking, or is it about being handsome? I guess that Asian are often more seen as cute rather than handsome.

Huh... strange thread.

I have no idea who the 14th candidate is. Otherwise, @Zettaiken has shared dozens of pictures of himself. @Soverign's looks are also well-documented.



I agree. I don't need the validation or accolades of anyone, and it almost feels that OP is fishing for selfies...


Jeez, can you stop being an incel for 5 minutes? You would have no problems if you looked like 三船 敏郎 of 太宰治. Not everything is "white supremacism," and preferences in dating surely aren't... The weird thing, if any, is the obsession of white men with Asian women.

Also, the success of Kpop and the fascination many white women have with male idols from East Asia show that you are wrong.

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I think, it's not going only way tho. Especially teenage girls and young woman are obsessed with KPop and KDrama guys to the point of fetishizing them and being unhealthily obsessed.

@Tressym I mean, to be fair, it is hard to be a teenage girl or young women these days, and they grow up in a culture that stigmatizes Tumblr culture. I don't hate them for that, in fact I don't think it is necessarily any "groups" fault that we inherited all this history, that we grew up in a society that tells us black is less attractive than white. I myself have engaged in bigoted practices as well.

I also do not want to make this a pity party because truthfully I am thankful that I was born attractive, and I am privileged in many other ways.

At the same time, I also felt objectified growing up, being seen as an easy sort of "fuck boy" that no one takes home to their parents, and for that I still feel lesser, like something about me makes me only moderately attractive. This is my experience, alongside feeling less attractive than I am, and I feel the need to be honest about those experiences while not allowing them to act as excuses for inceldom or any sort of misogyny or bigotry or self-pity.

Meusnier is right here, in that these are often incel talking points. The difference is that women and young girls aren't really to blame here, if any one group should be blamed. No one chooses to born in this type of world. That being said, anyone who denies reality like this has no standing to say "they have empathy".

TL;DR Interracial dating has its unique challenges.

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To be fair... that doesn't really sound fair not to blame women for fetishizing certain men, and also a bit infantilizing. For one, lot of these kpop fans aren't 13 anymore, they are old enough to understand their own behavior ... talking about obsessing with certain stars and even stalking them etc. I have seen female kpop fans saying ALL black guys are ugly, because Korea too thinks that.
"Having a type" is another thing, but I guess the line to draw between having a type and fetishizing is the dehumanization and the level of obsession.

@PeripheralVision

To be fair... that doesn't really sound fair not to blame women for fetishizing certain men, and also a bit infantilizing. For one, lot of these kpop fans aren't 13 anymore, they are old enough to understand their own behavior ... talking about obsessing with certain stars and even stalking them etc. I have seen female kpop fans saying ALL black guys are ugly, because Korea too thinks that.
"Having a type" is another thing, but I guess the line to draw between having a type and fetishizing is the dehumanization and the level of obsession.

I forgot to address this, but it is not even just that. If you have been growing up as well have been in the dating pool in a very diverse society as the United States, you notice things. 56% of women in the United States are white, yet most of the women I have dated have been Indian, have been Vietnamese and Korean and Chinese and black. I have very rarely gone on a date with a white woman.

I don't want to fetishize white woman, something that does happen in minority communities, but I notice these trends. It is never just as simple as someone coming up to me and saying "you are not attractive" or someone making lascivious comments or even what the media has told me growing up, but the understanding that many women, or certain types of women, find one less attractive, or that white men are more desirable. The keyword here is absence.

I rarely saw Asian men portrayed the same way as white men have been in films growing up, at least those in Hollywood. Girls have always treated me different growing up, even if some did find me attractive (I went to a gifted program so it was mostly white.) Likewise, I am aware I am more or less pigeonholed racially speaking when it comes to my dates. Occasionally I do have people make racial snide remarks, but it is the exclusion I have experienced the most.

This is fact "having a type", or rather "have men who are not your type". Women and men are free to have that choice, but it would foolish to suggest any of our choices or preferences are not deeply influenced by our circumstances or environment, and that is what I hope to impart to people here.