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Apr 9, 2020 11:12 AM
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These kinds of things are everywhere in anime, so I was thinking if anyone likes them? What's your take on this?
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Apr 9, 2020 11:16 AM
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Depends, if it's a dude in his 20's with a hot MILF, sure. Don't judge me pls.
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Apr 9, 2020 11:16 AM
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I like to see them in anime, and only if anime grill is the older one xD If u mean irl, then im fine with about 5-7 year gap, experienced person isn't anything bad.
Apr 9, 2020 11:17 AM
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Yeah I don't mind them. The age gap creates some interesting internal and external conflict. Of course whether I like the story depends on other factors as well.
Apr 9, 2020 11:18 AM
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I don't mind it, not in RL and certainly not in fiction. No matter which direction we're talking, I am ok with anything above legal age.
Apr 9, 2020 11:20 AM
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If you mean a May-December romance between adults or a "Mayfly-December romance", sure.

Otherwise nah.
Apr 9, 2020 11:23 AM
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If both parties are consenting adults - I'm ok with that. If one of them is a minor (younger than 16) - I'm out and I'm burning it with fire
Apr 9, 2020 11:26 AM
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Only if both is 20+ and there's little to no age diff visibility, can't get behind those with like a 10 year old getting together with a 30 year old, or a 16 year old getting together with a 40 year old
Apr 9, 2020 11:26 AM
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Let’s keep the relationships legal and appropriate. Then sure, I don’t give a crap if a 22 year old is a dating someone in their 50s. Adults can make there own decisions.
Apr 9, 2020 11:29 AM

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If it’s legal and both parties are at least past puberty to have developed some sense of self awareness (hopefully), then it’s fine.
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Apr 9, 2020 11:32 AM
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If they're both adults, and one isn't in a position of authority over the other, sure. I'll allow it with older teenagers with someone within 5-7 years if the author is a woman. I'm not interested in men's ephebophile fantasies.
Apr 9, 2020 11:37 AM

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Yeah, I do...quite a bit but I do have my limits. If one is under 18 though, I prefer they don't have sex. Kissing and hugs=ok. :3

*If the younger one is under a puberty age, that's a no-go for me.

*If the older one is like more than 20 years older, that's also icky. I'd rather read a story with a young teen and young adult than an older teen with past-middle-aged dude.



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Let’s keep the relationships legal and appropriate.


Where's the fun in that? :/



Apr 9, 2020 11:38 AM
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The fun? It’s... somewhere. You gotta look for it.
Apr 9, 2020 11:39 AM

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if they met when one was 20 and one was 35, sure. go for it.

if they met when one was underaged and one was not, no. there is that power imbalance. for example, an older guy raises a young girl when she's 7 to teen years and then they date. he basically groomed her for her entire life. usagi drop.
Apr 9, 2020 11:40 AM

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I'm interested to see them in anime. The guy is 18's old with a hot MILF.
Apr 9, 2020 11:41 AM

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It depends, honestly just no Boku no Pico type of stuff
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Apr 9, 2020 11:42 AM

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Honestly I don't mind it, in anime or rl so long as both parties are genuinely happy with each other. Doesn't mean I prefer it though and cases with huge age gaps like After the Rain can be pretty big turnoff's, but at the very least I find it kinda petty how other's tend to push their views on others' relationships despite not knowing the full picture
Apr 9, 2020 11:44 AM
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Depends on the variation.

If an 800-year-old female deity falls in love with a man in his 20's or even 30's, it's my favorite type of huge age gaps. Same with the reverse.

If the character is a teacher, like 26, and a 16-year old student falls for him, I'll gladly want that. I also like the reverse.

I can still support a man in his 30's with a teenager around 17, but only if the man is not a jerk—I'll admit I even liked Kodomo no Jikan's main relationship.

However, I will not like any relationships that isn't vanilla, so overall, yeah—I'm OK with relationships with huge age gaps.
Apr 9, 2020 11:44 AM

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No.

Age gap relationships, both in anime and real life are disturbing in my opinion.

Being in a relationship with someone who is upwards to 10 years older/younger than you is weird, and the generation gap would make it difficult for things to work in most cases.

Apr 9, 2020 11:47 AM

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Mayuka said:
if they met when one was underaged and one was not, no. there is that power imbalance. for example, an older guy raises a young girl when she's 7 to teen years and then they date. he basically groomed her for her entire life. usagi drop.
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Apr 9, 2020 11:49 AM

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Kosmonaut said:
Mayuka said:
if they met when one was underaged and one was not, no. there is that power imbalance. for example, an older guy raises a young girl when she's 7 to teen years and then they date. he basically groomed her for her entire life. usagi drop.
Thanks for the war flashbacks. Where's my drinking bleach?


Hard agree. This was just sick. Please nope.



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Mayuka said:
if they met when one was 20 and one was 35, sure. go for it.

if they met when one was underaged and one was not, no. there is that power imbalance. for example, an older guy raises a young girl when she's 7 to teen years and then they date. he basically groomed her for her entire life. usagi drop.
Kosmonaut said:
Mayuka said:
if they met when one was underaged and one was not, no. there is that power imbalance. for example, an older guy raises a young girl when she's 7 to teen years and then they date. he basically groomed her for her entire life. usagi drop.
Thanks for the war flashbacks. Where's my drinking bleach?
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Kosmonaut said:
Thanks for the war flashbacks. Where's my drinking bleach?


Hard agree. This was just sick. Please nope.
I'm so glad I dropped that although I did because it was boring as hell. My spidey senses were truly right this time.
Apr 9, 2020 11:52 AM
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Mayuka said:
if they met when one was 20 and one was 35, sure. go for it.

if they met when one was underaged and one was not, no. there is that power imbalance. for example, an older guy raises a young girl when she's 7 to teen years and then they date. he basically groomed her for her entire life. usagi drop.

I don't think he really groomed her. The ending was disturbing, but Daikichi seems like a decent guy who would never do such a thing.
Apr 9, 2020 11:53 AM

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That guy from Shoujo Ramune loves that




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ysphyr said:
Mayuka said:
if they met when one was 20 and one was 35, sure. go for it.

if they met when one was underaged and one was not, no. there is that power imbalance. for example, an older guy raises a young girl when she's 7 to teen years and then they date. he basically groomed her for her entire life. usagi drop.

I don't think he really groomed her. The ending was disturbing, but Daikichi seems like a decent guy who would never do such a thing.


He didn't intentionally groom her, no. But I think him refusing her approach would have been a more responsible action as an older adult. He definitely should have turned her down.

Just my two cents on that.



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Chiibi said:
ysphyr said:

I don't think he really groomed her. The ending was disturbing, but Daikichi seems like a decent guy who would never do such a thing.


He didn't intentionally groom her, no. But I think him refusing her approach would have been a more responsible action as an older adult. He definitely should have turned her down.

Just my two cents on that.
Had he fucked before? If he didn't then refusing her would have been quite hard task to accomplish but then again anyone with common sense should have said not of that.
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Chiibi said:
ysphyr said:

I don't think he really groomed her. The ending was disturbing, but Daikichi seems like a decent guy who would never do such a thing.


He didn't intentionally groom her, no. But I think him refusing her approach would have been a more responsible action as an older adult. He definitely should have turned her down.

Just my two cents on that.

Can't say I disagree with you on that. He totally should've rejected her.
But I still don't like how people think of him as if he's some kind of a predator. He is obviously not. He's not a pedo either - as there are no implications he was ever attracted to younger Rin.
Apr 9, 2020 12:11 PM
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I, personally, like the dynamic of older woman/younger man, than the opposite, which I find gross. But, that is just my .02
Apr 9, 2020 12:12 PM

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In anime, any age gap is okay as long as it's not a creepy relationship.

Of course irl, it's more serious and I find too much generation gap weird and creepy.
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ysphyr said:
Chiibi said:


He didn't intentionally groom her, no. But I think him refusing her approach would have been a more responsible action as an older adult. He definitely should have turned her down.

Just my two cents on that.

Can't say I disagree with you on that. He totally should've rejected her.
But I still don't like how people think of him as if he's some kind of a predator. He is obviously not. He's not a pedo either - as there are no implications he was ever attracted to younger Rin.


Nah, I don't think he's a pedo or a predator. I think just....the author is kinda strange. xD I thought the anime was cute...then I learned the true ending to the story and it ruins the enjoyment I had for it because now I can't stop thinking about it. :/

Ah well. One less show to finish.



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Age gap is one of the major considerations behind the note I have attached at the top of my profile about favoring transgressive romance stories practically above all else. I would even go as far as to say that while Romance isn't normally one of my favorite genres and I prefer ones like Thriller, Slice of Life, Horror, and even some Adventure, Sci-Fi, and Fantasy - Transgressive romance is probably my favorite ultra specific type of preferred show, and it's why my top two anime of all time satisfy that criteria.

It doesn't have to be age gap necessarily, but also incest or love between a human and non-human humanoid species (android, mutant, humanoid alien or demon or vampire, etc.), among other possible variations. But with age gap specifically, I favor an older male and younger female dynamic. Lolis are acceptable, but not necessarily preferred or sought after. More like Female post-pubescent teenager aged (let's say aged 15 ideal) and Male 20s+.

So yes, suffice it to say, I love age gap. I've always done so in my media consumption, but didn't realize how pronounced this feeling within me about it was before discovering the world of anime. Age gap is a world onto itself. I'm just not all that interested in very milquetoast vanilla romances between a regular male and female human of the same age bracket. They're extremely bland and unrelatable to me. I need the transgressive disparity to really reach, grab, and throttle my mind and heart. I may have many beliefs, stances, views and opinions, preferences and interests which are distinctly outside of the norm and in a miniscule minority, but I don't even necessarily think the love of age gap fare is one of the more radical and out-there among them by far. There obviously exists a sizable enough market to write, animate, cast voice actors, fund advertising for, and air on television certain series (occupying slots which could easily be allotted to any other content).

My only complaint about age gap is that it isn't nearly pervasive and radical enough.

Basically, in short, if there's age gap, incest, etc. I'm interested from the start. Doesn't mean the final product will be amazing or even decent, but that's all the hook I need to at least check it out and look into it. Age gap is a bonus always.

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Ah well. One less show to finish.


The Usagi Drop anime is one of the best quality Coming of Age + Slice of Life series though. Mild drama, mild iyashikei, and a lot of heart. Beautiful watercolor visuals like a storybook and such a warm and nostalgic OST (the kind which feels innately nostalgic even if you can't place or link it back specifically to something you already know or ever heard before, but seems somehow magically familiar). Even as someone who does love age gap and is partial to all different types of relationships of that sort being featured, including lolis, I don't even detect a hint of a fragment of that present in the show, so romance doesn't even enter the equation in the TV series. I've honestly never seen an anime or TV show or film of any kind ever that was adapted from a manga, book, or other source material, and didn't incite droves of people to complain about differences in the adaptation for one reason or another. That's why it might be better for everyone's sanity and enjoyment if they allow them to exist as separate entities. As soon as an anime is adapted, it's its own story and own world. It's usually the other way around that people are complaining - that the anime didn't follow the manga closely enough, omitted or glossed over and short-changed some details. Either way they're such wholly different mediums.
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Imo there are noting better then a loli on a mature girl/woman.Especially if the loli are the aggressive one =P Its not super common in Yuri but it definitely exist and those i just love.But it doesn't need to be a loli just age different between lesbians are something I like in general when it comes to anime




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not really my thing, but as long as its legal and consensual its not morally wrong
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Yeah I do like seeing those kind of relationships. Makes for some interesting situations. If it's something like Usagi Drop manga tho? Yikes.

https://myanimelist.net/anime/34984/Koi_wa_Ameagari_no_You_ni

This anime is pretty good when it comes to age gap relationships.
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I like them my favorite romance stories tend to have age gaps.
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I am glad you enjoyed it. sir. :D

It's just impossible for me to separate them now, knowing what I know. >_<



Apr 9, 2020 12:59 PM

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No.

Age gap relationships, both in anime and real life are disturbing in my opinion.

Being in a relationship with someone who is upwards to 10 years older/younger than you is weird, and the generation gap would make it difficult for things to work in most cases.

This, I don't see how the relationship could work or even form unless it's a fetishistic thing and even then if the relationship is built upon just a fetish I don't have high hopes that it'll last
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ysphyr said:
Can't say I disagree with you on that. He totally should've rejected her.
But I still don't like how people think of him as if he's some kind of a predator. He is obviously not. He's not a pedo either - as there are no implications he was ever attracted to younger Rin.
none of us think he's pedo/predator! its just how things ended... :(
basically, we don't know if she's actually in love with him or not because she was raised into loving him as an adult figure which is nothing wrong because he was her guardian for so long. so it's hard to distinguish the real feelings. if she feels in debted to him and thats why she thinks she's in love with him. thats why a lot of child abuse/rape happens in real life. because the adult figure goes up to the child and manipulates them into doing sexual favours and the child usually thinks it's okay because the adult figure takes care of them and "loves" them.

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He didn't intentionally groom her, no. But I think him refusing her approach would have been a more responsible action as an older adult. He definitely should have turned her down.

Just my two cents on that.
yup. hes not a bad dude. its just the author is kinda sick for putting that in at the end.

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I'm so glad I dropped that although I did because it was boring as hell. My spidey senses were truly right this time.
the anime is fine. there was no creepy romance there. none at all. and actually, in the anime, if i remember this correctly, we get hints of romance between him and another ADULT woman so you can even ship them instead.

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Had he fucked before? If he didn't then refusing her would have been quite hard task to accomplish but then again anyone with common sense should have said not of that.
no sex at all. i recall she basically confessed and they became endgame. someone correct me if i'm wrong! its been a while since i read it...
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Age gap is fine if they're both adults. I don't like it when you have one person who's a lot older than the other in a creepy way, like the 16 year old and 8 year old dating in Happy Sugar Life or the 27 year old and 15 year old dating in Koi Kaze. Seems disgusting to me. There's such a maturity gap that even if the older one isn't intentionally being malicious I still can't approve.
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Age gap is fine if they're both adults. I don't like it when you have one person who's a lot older than the other in a creepy way, like the 16 year old and 8 year old dating in Happy Sugar Life


I freaking hate that ship lol.

Loveless's ship was just as bad...no, it was worse by a lot.



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It depends on the gap. If it's like 20 years or more, then it makes me feel a little bit uncomfortable not gonna lie. If it is something almost unnoticeable, it is fine. Also, if they are both adults, it's fine. However, they can make some pretty hilarious situations.
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I'm neutral, as long as they aren't children anymore. You must know on your know what type of relationship you want to lead, if you are like 16+. You can choose for yourself at that age.

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Age gap is fine if they're both adults. I don't like it when you have one person who's a lot older than the other in a creepy way, like the 16 year old and 8 year old dating in Happy Sugar Life


I freaking hate that ship lol.

Loveless's ship was just as bad...no, it was worse by a lot.

That's not a couple that is a crime lol
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I don't think I'll since I didn't like the art style either.

So no sex, huh? Did he at least thought about rejecting it or didn't hesitate at all?

She: Hey, you see, you were the father figure I've always wanted and now that I've become a hot chick how about we marry and let's fuck on a daily basic?

He: Ok!


If this isn't godlike writing I don't what's.
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I don't think I'll since I didn't like the art style either.

So no sex, huh? Did he at least thought about rejecting it or didn't hesitate at all?

She: Hey, you see, you were the father figure I've always wanted and now that I've become a hot chick how about we marry and let's fuck on a daily basic?

He: Ok!


If this isn't godlike writing I don't what's.
lol yeah thats pretty much how it went. not that dialogue but the typical japanese dialogue. i dont think he hesitated BUT some of the manga was him confused about everything cuz the girl had some admirers at school. i don't recall but maybe he got jealous at some point?

hmm i would only recommend the anime if you enjoy some of these things:
- slice of life
- wholesomeness
- josei
- life lessons
if you don't care for those things, skip.
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I only like age gaps if they're funny. Like this one.
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Mayuka said:
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I don't think I'll since I didn't like the art style either.

So no sex, huh? Did he at least thought about rejecting it or didn't hesitate at all?



If this isn't godlike writing I don't what's.
lol yeah thats pretty much how it went. not that dialogue but the typical japanese dialogue. i dont think he hesitated BUT some of the manga was him confused about everything cuz the girl had some admirers at school. i don't recall but maybe he got jealous at some point?

hmm i would only recommend the anime if you enjoy some of these things:
- slice of life
- wholesomeness
- josei
- life lessons
if you don't care for those things, skip.
Did she told about them or he just happen to see them kinda flirting with her? It could be he was jealous but to the point of marrying your own daughter? I don't know, it doesn't make sense considering in no point of the story (as far i've heard) they hadn't had that kind of relationship.
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I care about those stuff but I don't wanna watch a kid and a grown ass man having a father-daughter relationship for later getting married for no good reasons. If the author would have given some strong justification to such thing, I'd be okay, I can get behind this. The ending feels so random, tho.

So no, I won't be watching it. Thanks anyway. I appreciate it.
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Age gap is fine if they're both adults. I don't like it when you have one person who's a lot older than the other in a creepy way, like the 16 year old and 8 year old dating in Happy Sugar Life or the 27 year old and 15 year old dating in Koi Kaze. Seems disgusting to me. There's such a maturity gap that even if the older one isn't intentionally being malicious I still can't approve.


Happy Sugar Life was romantic, but never got explicitly sexual though (between Shio and Satou or Shio and any other character - not saying it didn't between other teenage and adult characters). But probably moreso to leave it to one's imagination and because it'd run afoul of content censorship policies in place otherwise.

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I care about those stuff but I don't wanna watch a kid and a grown ass man having a father-daughter relationship for later getting married for no good reasons.


That's only in the manga though. It isn't even remotely hinted at or even the tiniest factor once in the anime TV series. Not in any way whatsoever. It's after a time jump forward in the manga whereas the story in the show ends long before.
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I don't like or dislike, it depends on the relationship between the characters mostly, but I approve of this combo, Norie is a smart girl, she's raising her little soon to be bf into a cool guy from a tender age
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Yes, I know that but I'll always think about the outcome of the story if watching it so i will ignore it all together.
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