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Aug 12, 2022 9:34 PM
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UgleyCat said:
Would depend on the situation. In particular, I would need a clear indicator that my significant other is not going to do it again.

Man, you guys are pretty harsh. You would not under any circumstances forgive a cheater? Not even if they show clear signs that they aren't going to do it again? You guys act like this is fucking murder or something.

loserotaku2 said:
the only reason they are sorry is cause you caught them doing it

OP didn't say anything about why they are sorry. They may have gotten caught, or they may have confessed on their own.


even then i wouldnt ever want to date them again or let any of my friend date that girl again because even if they are sorry it still doesnt excuse them
for example if you were molester on a bus would you forgive the person if they were really sorry? no because them doing that just shows how awful that person is no matter how much apologizing they do
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Aug 12, 2022 9:54 PM

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Absolutely not I don't see any scenario where it is acceptable since you put all your trust in them.
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Aug 12, 2022 10:31 PM
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UgleyCat said:
I don't think cheating is on the same level as molestation. Molestation is a crime, cheating is not. And even then, people have forgiven others for even worse things, like, say, murder. I'm not saying that you or anyone else has to, but, again, I think you really have to take the context into consideration.


Context is nice, indeed.

The vast majority of people who get cheated on end up homeless, addicted to drugs, committing suicide, or committing murder, making cheating on par with absolutely annihilating another person's existence without any repercussions following the person doing the "crime".

But, you're right, that is nowhere near the same level as grabbing a girl's ass on the bus.
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UgleyCat said:
Source? Also, what kind of relationship are we talking about? Dating? Cohabitation? Marriage? It seems that the severity of the consequences would depend on how deep into the relationship you are.


You: "Psychological torture is nowhere near as despicable as unexpectedly poking a stranger's tit, because the latter is illegal and the former isn't. Even if the psychological torture is as bad as is implied (source?), then we need to grade said torture and its affliction upon society by severity before we may consider it bad practice."
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Aug 13, 2022 4:58 AM
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Skimt said:


The vast majority of people who get cheated on end up homeless, addicted to drugs, committing suicide, or committing murder.
i second the request for a source for this
Aug 13, 2022 5:10 PM
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Nov 14, 2022 11:01 AM
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Absolutely because I don't think I would care if my partner slept around in the first place.
All I'd ask for them is to be safe and to take the appropriate precautions beforehand.
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Nov 14, 2022 11:35 AM

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Understand? Maybe, depending of the circumstances. Forgive? I don't see a reason tbh.
When you betray someone's trust, you can't really hope to regain it that easily now isn't it?
Nov 14, 2022 11:44 AM

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Oh hell no fuck that bitch. Someone's dick can't accidentally get inside someone's pussy.
Nov 14, 2022 12:16 PM

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No, I cannot forgive a cheater. As soon as I find out that she cheated on me, she will be out of my life. I will throw her away like trash.
Nov 14, 2022 12:40 PM
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In that department I'm a man of few words. N.O.P.E, never ever.
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Nov 15, 2022 12:11 AM
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I wouldn't continue to be with someone who cheated on me. Not even once. I'm not a very forgiving person though.
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Nov 15, 2022 2:39 AM

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Well, I feel like I'll throw my two cents in since I can speak from experience. I don't think I'd ever get back into a serious relationship with someone who cheated on me but if they're legitimately remorseful, honest and do enough to redeem themselves then yeah, I'd forgive them enough to stay friends with them without any problems.
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Nov 15, 2022 5:32 AM

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If I ever find out that my girlfriend cheated in her past relationship or relationships, I will also throw her away like trash.
Nov 15, 2022 5:59 AM
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I'd be angrier about the backstabbing and lying, than the actual cheating. If my partner tells me beforehand "I got to know someone", I might be fine with it.
Nov 15, 2022 8:32 AM

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_Maneki-Neko_ said:
I'd be angrier about the backstabbing and lying, than the actual cheating.
Pretty much how I feel.

Honestly I'd prefer open relationship than anything. But if they end up lying to me about it I would be hurt and wouldn't want a relationship like that. Over time we may end up being friends again, but another intimate relationship? Nah.
Nov 15, 2022 3:36 PM

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Cheating in school, Hell yeah. Go for it, just don't get caught again.

Cheating in a relationship, Hell no. You're a piece of shit for doing that. (Not like that is going to happen to me anyways lol)
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Nov 15, 2022 5:10 PM

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ive never been cheated on so to be honest if you have not been i dont think you can nswer with 100% certain but i do not know it entirely depends on if they are really sorry what the circumstances were all about and what can be done about it in the here and now.
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Vega369 said:
No, I cannot forgive a cheater. As soon as I find out that she cheated on me, she will be out of my life. I will throw her away like trash.
Vega369 said:
If I ever find out that my girlfriend cheated in her past relationship or relationships, I will also throw her away like trash.


Okay but why did you comment twice tho?
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Nov 16, 2022 11:41 AM

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No way I would forgive them if they cheated on me. No matter how sorry they are. I would be so pissed. Slap dat bitch across the face lol.
Nov 16, 2022 12:58 PM
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Nope, someone who is willing to put the person they're supposed to love (maybe even the cheatee too, as in the other person) through that much emotional pain shouldn't be in a relationship. I don't care much for myself but even I know I would deserve better 😤
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konkelo said:
_Maneki-Neko_ said:
I'd be angrier about the backstabbing and lying, than the actual cheating.
Pretty much how I feel.

Honestly I'd prefer open relationship than anything. But if they end up lying to me about it I would be hurt and wouldn't want a relationship like that. Over time we may end up being friends again, but another intimate relationship? Nah.

I'm quite asexual too. I don't feel like it often you know and I'd understand, if my partner wanted a poly relationship.
I'm not in for letting them jumping through random beds every night, but a poly relationship ofc... even if it's not about sex, but they fall for another person as well, they just need to tell me.

If they played some stupid "hiding that they meet someone else"-games and trying to make me look like a fool, who doesn't know what's going on, that would be something different tho.
Nov 16, 2022 1:57 PM

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Who would forgive such a thing? Cheating is BS
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Nov 16, 2022 1:59 PM

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Imagine the cheater is honestly sorry. Would you?


no, if they cared about me they wouldn't have done it to begin with. They are not sorry.


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If they cheat once, I doubt that they would not cheat again so no, but I am a sub 5 so I would never date in general.

Like they said. They do it once, they'll do it again
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Nov 16, 2022 3:38 PM

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Nope. Not only did they cheat, they lied. Why be with a liar? Why be with someone who can't fix the relationship? Useless person.
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Nov 17, 2022 3:32 AM

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NOPE. Cheating is one of the top things you absolutely cannot do to me.
Nov 17, 2022 10:13 PM

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I've been cheated twice, it doesn't only hurt as hell, but it also gives you trust issue's.

My first relationship was 5.5 years before she cheated on me. She met a guy on school, which was a friend of a old classmate of mine. I was devastated and after a couple of days some of my friends offered to go to his place and 'teach' him a lesson. While we where driving towards his place, we where talking about it and somehow my thoughts completly changed. I felt suddenly a relief that she was gone, because I can't trust people who cheat and i'm never going to give her a second chance. He can have her, who want's to have a person who cheats anyway? Later I met her in a club again, she was wearing a skirt and while she was dancing, a other guy started to touch her, lifting up her skirt and touching her butt. She probably thought it was me. So, I told that guy to back off, because it was my ex gf and she already has a other boyfriend. Then I told her that it wasn't me, and it seems like she didn't cared much. And her boyfriend was just standing there, watching it all and he didn't do nothing. I was very shocked, after that I never saw her again.

You can't imagine how happy I was that our relationship was over.

My other ex gf cheated on me when we where 4 years together. Somehow I didn't felt devastated like the first time but more relieved. I don't want to be with a person who I can't trust. Be gone untrustworthy person.

I also had some other 'shorter' relationships but they didn't worked out. They ended both ways without any cheating.

Now I have been single for a while, because I have other priorities and I can't find the right person. I became very picky when it comes to girls, that's why i'm probarly still single. And no, i'm not picky about the appearances of females, but I became very picky when it comes to personalities and common sense. I fall for females who have a strong personality with stable emotions, common sense and are happy with what they have. And not some all day complaining, unstable cry babies that cry about everything.

I also dislike narcissists, they also cheat more often then other people. Those people can better stay out of my way.

I can almost forgive everything except cheating.I also dislike cuckold and NTR. Every ex gf of mine had the freedome what they can do, or what they want to wear. I don't even care if they talk to other guys or I don't even care if other guys even watch her. As long they keep their hands of her.

But cheating is a massive no-go and once you cheated, you are out of my life.

I've been there, twice now and it made me very picky.

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Nov 18, 2022 2:40 AM
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I would forgive them for pretty much anything if I loved them. Love is so hard to find that it should be treasured to the extreme.
Nov 18, 2022 7:37 AM

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lol hell no, that's the only thing I'd never forgive for
Nov 24, 2022 2:58 PM
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hmmm... if you/i honestly loved the person i'd probably get mad, like maybe a breakup, not that i know https://youtu.be/lCSjuylaYUk, https://youtu.be/gu0Gfq45iTI https://youtu.be/SEY6aUHUmC8 maybe if it happend, i'd go ok open releationship https://youtu.be/hiXl2CIfZR8 easy to say, i dont know yet. but i'd probably get really mad if i loved the person and they cheated if would think, cause it would go from i love you, really, really good feelings, to something just bad ,and untrustworthy i'd imagine. i dont know tbh. i mean seeing these kinds of videos makes you weary or shocked i guess https://youtu.be/bJ3b-C1iqPo
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Always depends on the circumstance. There is a very slim possibility. But otherwise, no.
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LoveLikeBlood said:
Well, I feel like I'll throw my two cents in since I can speak from experience. I don't think I'd ever get back into a serious relationship with someone who cheated on me but if they're legitimately remorseful, honest and do enough to redeem themselves then yeah, I'd forgive them enough to stay friends with them without any problems.


thats a good point i might be friends with them but i wouldnt get back in a monogamous relationship with them once that trust is broken theres no going back for me

speaking from experience i wouldnt get in a monogamous relationship with someone who cheated with me either i think if theyll cheat to get with me theyll cheat against me to get with someone else
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I would forgive them for pretty much anything if I loved them. Love is so hard to find that it should be treasured to the extreme.


wouldnt cheating on you say to you that person you love doesnt love or respect you even if the apologize? i guess it depends on the circumstances but i hope you dont sell yourself short for love

have you seen skip beat? might be worth a watch if you think this way and like rom coms
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Nov 25, 2022 12:59 AM

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If they cheated because I didn't provide what they needed sure.

If they were cheating for the thrill, or for some reason they themselves don't understand, then no.
Nov 25, 2022 10:57 AM
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I have in the past but I was also a pushover to a ridiculous extent. I would not let it fly now.
Nov 25, 2022 8:31 PM

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I think about this.. and somehow, I know I will not be surprised if cheating happens.. Forgiving is not in my life, I don't have the concept of 'forgiving' in my life, I don't look at love, or life for that matter, that way - where I hold a thing over someone for something. Will I stay with them though.. it really depends on how much I love them to be really honest, and how much, their 'affairs' are negatively interfering or disturbing our life, especially if children are involved. But, can one really say, until they are in the situation themselves. I'm not sure.
Nov 25, 2022 9:01 PM
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Ah, I get it! OP left the forums after his 1337th post!

Anyways, it's hard to answer because it depends on the situation, their reasons for doing it, and how honest they are with me, but it is something that I can ultimately forgive for sure.

The whole "if they truly loved you, then they would've never had cheated in the first place" argument is quite childish as humans aren't infallible perfect beings whose actions are dictated solely by reason and willpower, and regardless of how mentally tough you think you are, you yourself are probably not immune to giving in to the same temptation if the right set of circumstances is met.
Nov 25, 2022 11:06 PM

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Nothing is permanent. Not love. Neither is sin.

If I truly love them, I'd be terribly upset, heartbroken even. But I'd probably give them another chance. If they are wholly regretful, it is wrong to hold it against them.
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Ah, I get it! OP left the forums after his 1337th post!

Anyways, it's hard to answer because it depends on the situation, their reasons for doing it, and how honest they are with me, but it is something that I can ultimately forgive for sure.

The whole "if they truly loved you, then they would've never had cheated in the first place" argument is quite childish as humans aren't infallible perfect beings whose actions are dictated solely by reason and willpower, and regardless of how mentally tough you think you are, you yourself are probably not immune to giving in to the same temptation if the right set of circumstances is met.


I love the wording here. I agree that humans are not entirely directed by reason and willpower. That's a delusion of many people. There are numerous internal forces always at work, consciously and subconsciously. It's impossible to know where our feelings come from sometimes, and it's certainly impossible to predict our entire mental experience.

It's also not possible to take the most reasonable route sometimes, or to even know what the most reasonable route is. Willpower is a fragile thing that disappears with depression or demoralization. People are weak, and it's easy to forget it.
Nov 27, 2022 3:24 AM
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Like other smart and good users said -no.
Nov 27, 2022 5:07 AM

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No. Fuck cheating and cheaters, u fucked up once thats it for me
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Nov 28, 2022 3:34 PM
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Why not I don't care about that lol. I didn't get married for love.
Nov 28, 2022 5:45 PM

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not that i could ever get in relationship soon, but probably the feeling of getting cheated sucks. i would forgive them ig, but i would immediately break up.
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yeah. probably. idk. depends if therye weird about it.

maybe its my lack of experience in relationships showing but it seems like something where if the partner isn't weird trying to hide it, it wouldnt matter whatsover lmaoo



seems weirder that love is so dependent on control over the autonomy of the other. but maybe i need to get powerpilled. maybe the answer is to embrace the lolicon lifestyle. the power imbalance is where the spark comes. seems like most people view relationships this way tbh, especially ITT, and im not sure which is right. im an incel so i gotta look to others, and ive seen people on either end of the stick havign decent enough relationships.

i mean the reason im technically not an incel but a volcel is cus when a woman hit on me at the bar and bought me a drink i got freaked out and didnt want anything to do with her!! thats definitely a power thing. had to get comfort fromm my female freind who was laughing atme having a hard time with that situation ;___;
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Only 4 cases people forgive cheating that I can think of right now:
1. The victim is extremely kind hearted and has deep love that he is willing to get depressed because of it
2. For the sake of their children (this probably not forgive though, just trying hard to forget)
3. Want something from the person who cheat (money etc.)
4. The victim is also a cheater
5...? Anything else


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5...? Anything else


5. Being cheated on is your secret fetish (and you want to watch too)
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philtecturophy said:
Only 4 cases people forgive cheating that I can think of right now:
1. The victim is extremely kind hearted and has deep love that he is willing to get depressed because of it
2. For the sake of their children (this probably not forgive though, just trying hard to forget)
3. Want something from the person who cheat (money etc.)
4. The victim is also a cheater
5...? Anything else
implying people are reasonable and logical beings that can fit into ur categories and not cheating bcus they got on a weird thought train probably drunk or something

IMPLYING

o ur on the forgive part lolo. thats dumb as hell if u gotta flex ur power forgiving them. just rape them or something if ur ability to get past it depends on ur ability maintain a one up on power... makes sense to me. and if the partner isnt into that, not good match, one wants to win the power and the other also wants to win. u have to fight to the death. or get out of the power mindset.

but maybe people have an idea of relationship like the two of u are facing each other down in a duel. lol.
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