| Listen to what your heart says... If you like her a lot why would those kind of things stop you right? xD |
| Just do whatever you'd do if any of your other friends' parents died. |
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| If you suddenly leave her side because of this, she will be one depressed woman. It could get more complicated after the 6 months. |
| Schools out, No job at moment, STILL hello MAL Eh..I will try to be online |
| Grow a pair and just be there for her. Your not pitying her unless you do acts that warrant such. If you really like her and vice versa she may need you the most right now you tool........... |
| Dr. Sheldon Cooper " It is no way to make new humans. People coming out of people. Some kind of dirty magic show. |
| Feelings can't be stopped. Just act on it but remember to be cautious as well of your actions. And I agree with Scud. She's still a friend at this stage so if the inevitable happens, be there for her. |
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| You can't help her AND continue develop feelings for her? Just do whatever you feel like. |
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| I'm not used to do this, but this time I'll make an exception. You should be by her side, don't tell her anything about your "romantic" feelings yet, just be there by her side like a good friend. Stop being selfish and thinking only of you, if you think about it, you will realize that you're only worried about your own feelings and you're afraid to lose her, so stop doing that. Understand her feelings and be by her side when she needs it. |
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| I think that answer should easily be known from your head and heart, and that you didn't have to answer this question. But since you don't know by yourself, what the heck. We'll help you out. You say your having romantic feelings for her, and that you don't want her to think your pitying her. Well already that's a good thing. What I'm trying to say in the pity part is that, if you don't pity here, then that means the day that she might take out the "you only got close to me because you pitied me", you won't feel guilty or confused on what to say because you don't pity her. And maybe you actually really like her. And on continuing to develop feelings for her is your choice. First, look at your feelings. Do you like her? If you don't well... but if you do, why would you not want to support her? So, if you like her, you have to support her because you like her. Why would you not support someone you like? Unless you don't like them. But like another post said you could see it as, what would you do if it were your friends. Well I have another example. Put yourself in her shoes. --She likes you, and she wouldn't want you to leave, right? Especially if you like her too. But if you don't like her that's another story. In a simple way, your answer is like this. If you like her, support her BECAUSE you like her. If its fear than face that fear, to not regret it if you think it could become a regret in your future. |
kurasaina said: So there is this girl that had a crush on me about 5 years ago. Anyways recently we met up again in Highschool(I'm 16 she's 15) and we've been getting along pretty decently. I've started to develop romantic feelings, and I'm pretty sure she still has some for me, however there are some... complications. About a year ago her dad was diagnosed with ALS (Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis) which is a terminal illness. In the next six months or year he's probably going to die, which is very heartbreaking. What I'm wondering is whether you guys think I should continue to develop feelings for this girl, and maybe try to help her through this? And if I do, I don't want her to think I'm pitying her or something. Maybe I should just leave her alone, but I'm not sure. Input? Stay at her side. You can hug her when she is crying. Hugging people is weird, but when that person is crying, its normal. But if you just want to get laid, don't. Do that if you want a serous relationship. If you stay at her side, you'll have 90% chances of marrying her (supposing both you are normal persons without any weird characteristic which the other would hate) |
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| Pretty much what other people are saying. Hell, just speaking from personal experience, when I got badly injured earlier this year, I grew much closer with my friends who were all there for me. Listen to Lupadim. He knows his shit. (although I'm not sure his stats are accurate...) |
| What's the matter in staying by her side until the end? I guess it's more like a chance for you because you can prove how much you love her. Just stay by her side, then show her that you really care for her. By the way, I dare you... If you really love her, talk to her father about it, she'll be happy, her father will be happy, and you will be proud of yourself. Trust me. |
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Scud said: This.Just do whatever you'd do if any of your other friends' parents died. If you try to comfort her in a "special" way, because she's "special," it's just going to come off as shallow and disingenuous. lupadim said: He's sixteen, stop talking about marriage.But if you just want to get laid, don't. Do that if you want a serous relationship. If you stay at her side, you'll have 90% chances of marrying her (supposing both you are normal persons without any weird characteristic which the other would hate) |
JoshAug 9, 2013 6:29 PM
LoneWolf said: @Josh makes me sad to call myself Canadian. |
| You're thinking more on the opportunity to comfort a girl than over the feelings of a dying person? |
| This depends on here personality. However, if I were you, I'd comfort her and stick by her side. Worst case scenario could be that you leave her alone she thinks you're just ignoring her or that you don't care, when that's not the case. Either way, not everyone is going to be happy, but that's life. The last thing you want is to crush your bond with her. Remember this, trust takes years to create and only second to destroy. |
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| Stick with her, show her you can be there for her. |
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| Comfort her and show her that you can be there for her. |
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| Definitely be there for her. Especially if she might like you, it would probably mean a lot to her if you were there to talk to. Even if you don't know what she is going through (i.e. you yourself haven't lost an immediate family member), alot of times people just want someone to open up to. You want to be that someone. |
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| Oh! Another point. Don't try and open a relationship while comforting her. |
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| adopt her and tell her that you're going to be her new dad. then have a threesome with the mother. two birds with one stone. How's that? |
| Well it seems like you already had feelings for her before you knew her dad was ill. Clearly, and I'm sure you can feel this yourself, you don't like her just because you pity her. All you have to do is tell her that. Now, communication is always important but I would say it's especially so in a delicate situation like that. So let her know that you'll be there for her, because you really do like her and want to help her through it. And please, if you have a good heart in you. Do not, absolutely do not, become bitter if she isn't ready for, or doesn't want a romantic relationship. You might end up friendzoned not because you suck or whatever but simply because she's dealing with too much stress and grief, and can't do it even if she likes you. So if she needs a friend, and you like her, be that friend, because that will be what really helps her, and if some time down the line she'll be ready for a relationship again, she will really appreciate everything you have done for her. So basically, don't be an asshole. But I am assuming you aren't one or you wouldn't have made this thread. |
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| Teach her the ways of the force |
كنت تهدر وقتك عن طريق ترجمة هذه. mattbenz99 said: Christians and Satanists are technically the same thing |
| You should just stay away from her. ALS is genetic... she may have it in the long term, your children might too. |
| I think everyone's really got you covered but I will add, build a telescope on the moon for him. It's a piece of cake. |
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| Still waiting on that Self-Help board, MAL. We've got love-torn teens everywhere and they all desperately need the opinions of the rest of the world to learn how to cope. |
Ntad said: Still waiting on that Self-Help board, MAL. We've got love-torn teens everywhere and they all desperately need the opinions of the rest of the world to learn how to cope. I get enough of this trolling on Yahoo answers |
| Comfort her now to "get some" later Mclovinballs said: Ntad said: Still waiting on that Self-Help board, MAL. We've got love-torn teens everywhere and they all desperately need the opinions of the rest of the world to learn how to cope. I get enough of this trolling on Yahoo answers |
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Forgetfulness said: Quickly ask the father for her hand in marriage I lol'd. But seriously, just stick to being a friend. I find it wrong in more ways than one if you take advantage of the chaos she's feeling just to date her. That can wait until she's sorted her feelings out. |
| "The more inexperienced you are, the more you want to show off." - Oreki, Hyouka |
| inb4 op consoles her and gets friendzoned. |
kurasaina said: Danielcookie said: You should just stay away from her. ALS is genetic... she may have it in the long term, your children might too. You sir are an asshole. Anyways I'm not even sure yet if I have romantic feelings, so I just think I'm going to sit tight and be her friend for now. Thanks guys ;p. Yeah, that's probably going to be your best option. If you're not sure if you have romantic feelings, then you don't have any romantic feelings. |
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| Oh shit, Lou Gehrig's disease, that's tough.. Accompany her but don't try to open up a relationship with her before her father dies. |
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| Become her new dad |
| Now is the perfect chance to confess your love, because if you did that after her father died, it will looks like you've taken advantages of her situation. You should trigger her flag before that happens or you will be friendzoned forever. Remember to save your progress before making any decision. |
| The most important things in life is the people that you care about |
| Do whatever you think is right. Be there for her and show her that you care. As most have already said, don't make it seem like you're taking advantage of the situation, because that's a bit crude. Just be yourself. |
IntroverTurtle said: I think everyone's really got you covered but I will add, build a telescope on the moon for him. It's a piece of cake. It's still ONE PIECE of cake* |
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lupadim said: IntroverTurtle said: I think everyone's really got you covered but I will add, build a telescope on the moon for him. It's a piece of cake. It's still ONE PIECE of cake* Epic drum-roll guys, lupadim showed some kind of wit in one of his posts. Praise him! |
| "The more inexperienced you are, the more you want to show off." - Oreki, Hyouka |
HKA-4M-T7 said: You can't help her AND continue develop feelings for her? Just do whatever you feel like. Implying that he said the opposite? kurasaina said: What I'm wondering is whether you guys think I should continue to develop feelings for this girl, and maybe try to help her through this? But yeah, I definitely think you should do that. Be careful though, she might get some extreme temperament swinging. |
Candor said: ALS is the disease Sharon had, isn't it? You mean former cunt Prime Minister of Israel, Ariel Sharon? |
| "The more inexperienced you are, the more you want to show off." - Oreki, Hyouka |
Candor said: Yeah, either that or ELS which doesn't sound right.ALS is the disease Sharon had, isn't it? It's the reason why I made that It's a piece of cake joke up there. |
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| Well if you leave her and it turns out she didn't want you to, that would be one hell of a mistake at your side. Just continue with whatever you two have going on and see where it gets you. |
| So you're wondering if you should leave her after her father dies... genius, I'm sure she'll be much happier if you do that. Anyway, if I were in your position, I would try to console her, because losing your father at fifteen hits pretty hard, but whatever you do, don't tell is "It's okay". Don't even let it slip out, women hate that. If her father just died, it most certainly isn't "Okay". |
| "Families is where our nation finds hope, where wings take dream!" - George W. Bush |
| Why the hell would you leave her alone through this? Be there for her whether you two end up together or not. |
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