Making online friends feel dull?

For me, my true friends always were online, I had lots of online friends as a kid when playing video games and using discord beside it. For me, online friends have been more genuinely interested and more caring towards me than those who were officially my "real life" friends. I've always had bad luck with real life friends, it has always turned into toxic eventually and my online friends we're always kind and such. Of course bad thing about having online friends is that for me when I got too busy in real life so I lost contact with them and they got so busy too. :( Online friends can be kinda seasonal but more meaningful for me because they're honest.
After video games I found friends in other app and they we're hella cute too. 💘
You have to genuinely want to be friends with others, if it feels forced so guess you don't really want them and don't want to have a effort in friendships online.

@CeciliaAda

I understand.

I miss my old online friends. I fucked things up. Not on purpose, of course.

And advice I get is "just look for friends offline". I understand that. But those old online friends were one of a kind.

Maybe something else is preventing us from reconnecting. Like, they're busy or something. I don't know.

@UnseenDude My mother we're always to me like "oh online friends they don't really matter" cuz she's extrovert but for me because I'm introvert I think people in internet are more interested in my thoughts and personality so for me it's more important and special.

For me I got disconnected cuz my mother wanted that I focus more on school and keep break from gaming/online friends and because I was inactive my accounts got deleted + I couldn't see anymore had they replied anything to my last messages which really devastated me. ._. My mother we're like I can go back when I've got better at school but I didn't have really much to return to.

What I think is preventing from reconnecting is time that has gone by, games that no longer exist, last online time (one of my friends visited the game few years ago exactly on my birthday and I was offline, then they didn't come again online), if it's been too long time there is no chance to reconnect. Kinda if you have been in contact on one place and then that is gone there is really no possibility to chat again.

@CeciliaAda

Damn. I disagree with your mom. Online friends are people, too, of course. I value offline friends, too, but I like online ones a bit more because interaction is smoother for me.

I hope you can heal from this. It's tough. Like I said, I miss my online friends, too. I still have a few left. It's better than no one, I guess.

We can be friends, if you want. Maybe we will be close. Maybe not. I don't think it would hurt to try.

@UnseenDude Sure, let's be friends. ☺️

For me online friends mattered too cuz they were there for me, if I had hardships they were telling me cheerful things and wishing good luck, also in school I wasn't liked really idk why so it brought lots of happiness and comfort to know that online friends exist and I could talk with them then, so I had something to look forward to after schooltime and I knew all the sad feelings will leave when I have nice time with them.

This is expected, for one cannot have the same energy to create online connections as one gets older.

This is a quote of Chamfort, the best French aphorist of all time. Sadly, only a small part of his work was translated into English—under the very misleading name The Cynic's Breviary (for Chamfort was anything but a cynic! His passionate involvement in the French Revolution is a proof of that).

That feels like MAL for me now, everyone i knew on this site is gone pretty much. The newbies on the site don't feel like freinds, just replacements for the ones i lost a long the way. Nothing feels real anymore.

Where is that quote from?

@Megatronsmurf This is how feel about Mal now new school 2016/2017er are lame they dont feel like people. Back then everyone felt real.

@Order-Sol I know what you mean about people feeling real compared to now. I figure it was just an age thing but they genuinely don't feel like people i can have a casual chat with make jokes around etc. even the chang and chat threads are a bit lack lustre compared to the older era threads. I figure its just old age probably I Dont feel the same as well. I was looking back at my old post and i was a much funnier happier person back then that made more jokes and had a lot of fun with the people in the groups. It's all gone now.

And, on top of that I really have lost my taste for anime these days. I actually managed to make it to japan and that was a dream come true except it turned into a nightmare because of the pandemic.

Really impressed with the changes though BB code is easier to use the overall site looks and feels great to use. Just for me i guess that time has past. Maybe i'm just melancholy or something.

@Megatronsmurf You aren't one. I stopped anime years ago. Still read Manga.

Exactly. It's nothing about the people here feel real anymore. I'd say it's our age and the fact the Internet way too political now. I might get cancel if people dug my old Twitter and mal history

@Order-Sol Funnily enough i went back over the years back to when i first opened an account and though i rarely if ever speak to any of the people here it's good to see they're all doing really well. Which is fantastic news. There are some people who have gone MIA so i don't know.

people aren't replying to my engagements much. I used to have fantastic debates here at length with many people but it seems there's no apatite for it anymore.

couple of posters who stuck out was that witchbitch account? who was complaining about the moderators team. I messaged him but he never replied.

@Megatronsmurf good to know you seen them again. Most of mine are all inactive if not their account just gone now.

No debates anymore. Just dumbass throwing their political and woke bullshit people faces.

Oh that. He got banned here a whole year ago and still crying about it. It's really pathetic wants users Spaceslut, amity blight, ecchilover etc because he hates them lol. He's 40 years old still crying about anime site.