| So... I know this may sound a little familiar... but this is something I need some advice about... I saw this sort of thing when I read Denso Otoko so I thought it might work here... so... here goes Edited with a spoiler to shorten the post OK. Heres where the members of MAL come in. Please give me some advice in this matter. I've been in relationships before and most of them have been disasterous and basically made me swear off dating. I'm trying to get back into the game and I would like this to go really good. Civic is by far the coolest, cutest girl I have ever ran into and who was willing to initiate a conversation with me. If I must... I'll bust a Densho Otoko in this post and update whenever something happens... and if it all falls apart ill also let everyone know. Thanks in advance! |
IronlungsDec 8, 2009 5:53 PM
| tl;dr Continue to talk to her, feel comfortable, use her approach to your advantage, live happy ever after. |
 Waratte Oemashou Sore ha Chiisana Inori |
| Aww thats a really cute story. ^_^ She seems to like you, so just go out some where again. |
 R.I.P J.D. Salinger <3 |
| I'm hardly as qualified as the average 2chan denizen on the matter (haha..), but here's what i'd say: At this point just have a few friendly chats. Gauge her hobbies compared to yours; see if she really is someone that would fit with you (or the other way around). Before you say something silly (which will happen, surely sometime), you need to ensure that you know each other somewhat, or she might decide to drop the random guy she found in a cafe and never meet you again ; ) By the way, inb4 " troll" |
Sohei said: you need to ensure that you know each other somewhat, or she might decide to drop the random guy she found in a cafe and never meet you again ; ) And don't be surprised if this actually happens. You seem to have high hopes at the moment. Well, don't. She's human just like you, so acting like you're talking to an alien won't improve the situation. |
| just relax. thats vital. if your uncomfortable, she'l be uncomfortable. Its best to take a couple a deep breaths. also, be yourself. if you're not, its a huge turn off for most girls. Dont lie to make yourself sound cooler than you are because she'l suss you out. it sounds like she likes already so you dont need to worry about that. my fiance and i have COMPLETELY different interests. he likes music and movies and i like reading and anime. so you dont have to have the same interests as someone for it to work. Best of luck :3 |
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| Phew, that's a tough one. As already said, don't set your hopes too high - it might come bite you later on. However, don't push it off now because we might make you think "Jeez, they're right, it's not gonna lead anywhere". Start out as friends - she seems to be easy for you to be around, so don't screw it because you're rushing. I think I just summed what all the others said... |
| 行けー幼子兵器！あれは木端微塵に粉砕しろ! |
ladyxzeus said: I love those kind of replies.tl;dr Continue to talk to her, feel comfortable, use her approach to your advantage, live happy ever after. Ironlungs said: Wow, that part totally sounds like what the cult recruiters around here would say.Anyways, someone says to me, "You look like you need a friend, do you want to chat for a bit?" Just be careful if she wants you to meet all her all to happy and smiley friends at some church. |
| That's a cute story :) Keep us updated^^! & don't give up! [ I suck at advice so I avoided that! srry~] |
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| You're overthinking this. Go with the flow. |
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corbenic said: You're overthinking this. Go with the flow. Probably the best advice. |
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Cowabunga said: corbenic said: You're overthinking this. Go with the flow. Probably the best advice. Agreed. Assuming she is a normal person and not a cultist/murderer/etc, be careful you don't do the old 'place her on a pedestal' bit, ie. don't shower her with affection, don't be too eager to hang out all the time - try to treat her like you'd treat a new friend, not a prospective girlfriend. Don't offer to pay for everything all the time, and don't be all like 'omg!' every time she does/says something that you like or find impressive. Girls find it incredibly offputting if their date is more into them than they are into him. Anyway, good luck with it all ^_^ And remember that even if it does fall through, you still got to have dinner with a hot lady, and all experiences are good experiences. That's my two cents. |
Jaapsneep said: Suzuka. Be glad you weren't in the chapter where Yamato almost rapes what's-her-face. If she said, this (manga) can be cool sometimes, there won't be a problem right? LOL. I agree, you were lucky there. Aw, that was a cute story. But I think this is probably the best advice you can get: corbenic said: You're overthinking this. Go with the flow. |
" ... carpenters fashion wood; wise people fashion themselves" - Buddhism |
| This story made me happy. It reminded me that there are still plenty of decent women in the world. Just act natural, don't try to be something you're not. |
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| Your writing style had me loving this story the whole way through. Seems to me like your doing fine so far. Keep up the smooth work. |
| You're already set. You guys hung out, and you're going to hang out again, and hopefully some more after that. At this point only time together will tell if you two will get together. |
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| you idiot, she better like the shit that you like. imagine how she would react if she saw this thread. now enough of that. she's a keeper. i wish i have a girl to like me like that. i always end up just doing the boing-boing and that's it. well anyways there's lots of potential, how you guys started is like from a julia roberts movie. quite fascinating. so good luck. have fun. it's really hard to fuck up when a girl likes you. |
| DO YOU NOT RECOGNIZE THE YANDERE SIGNS???????? |
| This is a serious post. You're not allowed to delete it. |
| Whoa! Holly crap... I just went to run some errands and go eat and look at all these replies. Thanks for the words of encouragement and advice!!!!! So let me elaborate on some info for what I originally posted... The CD i gave her had 6 albums. 2 were DJ Krush - Milight and Ki Oku. 2 were Thievery Corportation - The Cosmic Game and The Mirror Conspiracy. 1 Bob Marley - greatest hits and finally one of the Samurai Champloo soundtracks - Departure... The feelings evoked through that collection of music is pretty much how I am. And about how Civic looks.... to me she kinda reminded me of Maria Ozawa but not as cute and definitely not as slutty...and for some reason I kept thinking about Tifa from FFVII except with shorter hair... Anyways I would like to keep you guys updated on my progress with my new friend. Umm... Can you guys tell how to do a "SPOILER" button so I don't stretch out the post. Anyways, i can use some suggestions as where we should hang out next. Drinks perhaps? I kinda don't wanna overkill it with asian food... Oh and since she doesn't have a phone right now... IM is the only way we communicate... it makes it difficult ,right? Once again, thanks guys |
IronlungsDec 8, 2009 4:27 PM
| is she an anime character? pornstar? you know that pornstars have other goals and dreams too.. girls approaching guys is totally out of this world O.O!!! |
| It's (spoiler) (/spoiler) with square brackets instead Edit: Now that I think about this, OP should probably be afraid and aware. At least random men that came to me saying I looked lonely never came with a good intention. The reverse should also happen. |
Waratte Oemashou Sore ha Chiisana Inori |
| Heh, real girls. Us adults know that cartoon girls are the only ones worth anyone's time. CDRW said: DO YOU NOT RECOGNIZE THE YANDERE SIGNS???????? You say that as if he should take caution instead of rejoice? Ironlungs said: Umm... Can you guys tell how to do a "SPOILER" button so I don't stretch out the post. [ spoiler ] text [ /spoiler ] Remove the spaces. |
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Frito said: is she an anime character? pornstar? you know that pornstars have other goals and dreams too.. girls approaching guys is totally out of this world O.O!!! That's why I was totally effin shocked!!! My friends wives say I'm totally unapproachable cuz I never smile and I always look troubled... and that I'm always smoking... *sigh* |
Ironlungs said: OK. Heres where the members of MAL come in. Please give me some advice in this matter. I've been in relationships before and most of them have been disasterous and basically made me swear off dating. I'm trying to get back into the game and I would like this to go really good. Civic is by far the coolest, cutest girl I have ever ran into and who was willing to initiate a conversation with me. If I must... I'll bust a Densho Otoko in this post and update whenever something happens... and if it all falls apart ill also let everyone know. Thanks in advance! Here's some interesting reading for you: http://www.doubleyourdating.com See if that helps you any. Highly recommend signing up for the e-mail subscription. Kaiserpingvin said: Heh, real girls. Us adults know that cartoon girls are the only ones worth anyone's time. LOLOLOL, 'cause they don't talk back. XD Though, I beg to differ. There are some who are literally worth dying for. Does it make logical sense? We shouldn't care! |
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| You guys are so awesome... (^_^) Labreya said: All I'll say is prepare to bail if she starts showing signs of being a bunny boiler. Having no gal is better than a gal who might cut off your male-only extremity because you looked at the waitress weird. Yes, I'm that pesimistic. Then again, prefering manly relationships with manly men makes me a wealth of poor info on the topic of wooing the ladies. Also, don't forget your cootie shots. Women still carry that, right? Well... I, too, am a pessimistic dude. I was written up at work several times for having a negative attitude. Even when i provided sufficient evidence for my superiors FAIL ideas, i was not being a team player... and by the way "prefering manly relationships with manly men" and yer forum avatar's moustache terrify me greatly mod edit for doublepost |
KaiserpingvinDec 8, 2009 5:46 PM
| Thread cleaned up. A lot of bullshit deleted, this is GD, not spam, so don't post crap. If you have nothing on topic to say, don't post at all. Also the usual don't quotechain or quote someone and "I concur" "I agree" "best advice" etc. It's not contributing. Put things in your own words if you want to post. |
| Get to know her through asking her out for meals etc. |
| I really kind of think that this whole thing is getting over analyzed to death... |
R.I.P J.D. Salinger <3 |
| I'll welcome any insight or advice anyone has to offer... I'm a Hikikomori thats trying to get back into the social realm... I've been relatively safe but now I'm going apeshit insane staying home all the time... so much so that I ragequitted WoW.... I wonder if my guild will forgive me... i was the MT after all (-_-) |
| unlike you i have virtually no experience in relationships, but i believe that if you do like this girl and she's hinted at liking you then just see how it goes. also, don't try to compromise any aspect of yourself just to fit with her. if you're not "that" sociable then don't try to push yourself in that area just for her. i mean going out and stuff is good for relationships but for me, i hardly ever go out. so if i met a girl i wouldn't turn into a socialite to make things work. but i would atleast leave the house :P |
suta-fokkusuDec 8, 2009 7:46 PM
| Quitting WoW is the first step to getting a girlfriend. ...But seriously, that Double Your Dating free email is one of those things that always confounds me. Why offer free useful information? It's obvious he's trying to sell his full program, so will he be offering any free advice that will actually help? It's like those programs at the Bank when they offer a free optional service that it seems like everyone would want, but you have to sign up for it - so if it's free and everyone needs it, why am I signing up? What's the catch? I'm normally not paranoid like that, but unfortunately being a guy that's been equally unsuccessful with women, I become skeptical about the "advice" people offer. PS: I signed up for the free email anyway! I may be skeptical but free information is invaluable in this day and age. |
| There is absolutely no reason why I should accept "turn your brain off" as a valid excuse to defend a poor show. ~ blatant ad: https://myanimelist.net/blog/Crusader_8 I spend the time to write it, so please read it lol |
Crusader_8 said: Quitting WoW is the first step to getting a girlfriend. I'm normally not paranoid like that, but unfortunately being a guy that's been equally unsuccessful with women, I become skeptical about the "advice" people offer. PS: I signed up for the free email anyway! I may be skeptical but free information is invaluable in this day and age. I totally know where you are coming from... Most of my friends are all married w/kids or coupled up... and I only remaining single person in my small circle of friends. The advice they gave me was so laughable... the things they said were so cliched that it might have worked 10 years ago but not now... anyways, like i mentioned in my OP that I got this idea from reading TRAIN MAN... so i thought it might be worth a try |
| ok...by our standards, the girl's kinda flirt or liberated in such ways, but in a nicer style... maybe im writing you off, but wow you are lucky...that is a rare case... go for the flow for a matter of time, and then soon make a verdict whether to engage its your preference...its a choice of letting your heart or your brain to control you now... give it in a conservative way, thus reminding to don't go all out yet...you could be spoiled |
sauteed_roachesDec 8, 2009 8:28 PM
| I love Densha Otoko, so this whole story and whole posting thing really made me smile. :) My advice Iron is to put to use the things you have learned from watching anime and reading manga over the years IRL! j/k Just be yourself and be honest with her. Yeah, it may be old advice but but hey it's the best way. :) |
Ironlungs said: lol'd."Shit! this broad is gonna think I'm some kinda perverted geekoid nerdlinger" As others have said, the absolute best thing you can do is RELAX. Find something you both enjoy doing where you can talk easily. Make jokes, be cool, don't pursue any conversation topics she seems uncomfortable with. If you can enjoy yourselves while you're both just chilled out having fun, you know you have a winner. |
Ironlungs said: I totally know where you are coming from... Most of my friends are all married w/kids or coupled up... and I only remaining single person in my small circle of friends. I too am surrounded by nothing but successful relationships. Be prepared because I'm about to make you read a lot of words... Oh and by the way, that free email thing that I signed up to just gives you the advice of buying the guy's book. Some advice. All the other pointers on there were all vague and left out details in order for you to have a little nagging voice in your head demanding to know what on earth you're wasting your time for. I suppose I saw it coming a mile away, since no one gives anything for free in this unforgiving loveless world of cruelty and despair [exaggeration theatre]. From one unsuccessful chump to another, I think the one thing holding me back is confidence. Not the confidence of knowing I'll succeed, but I know I need a confidence backed by accomplishment. I've noticed that my friends in college who are on a set track of goals and plans have had better luck with women, and my friends out of college and with a career have the strength of the personal success to fuel their efforts. All I have going for me in terms of a future is music, and although my band is becoming an accomplished band in the local music community, I lack the broad social band that the college culture easily provides. In other words, I have a small thing going for my ego boost I need, but now I'm simply not meeting new women anymore. The availability pool is trickling down, and the options become less and less appealing as I grow older. So make something more of yourself, even if you're already rolling in college dgrees or have a Nobel peace prize. There's always something new for you to achieve and ultimately show off to the ladies. Confidence from achievement and personal success create the backbone of a good attitude towards dating, but just remember it alone doesn't cut it. It still is a part of the complete breakfast of dating. |
| There is absolutely no reason why I should accept "turn your brain off" as a valid excuse to defend a poor show. ~ blatant ad: https://myanimelist.net/blog/Crusader_8 I spend the time to write it, so please read it lol |
Crusader_8 said: I too am surrounded by nothing but successful relationships. Be prepared because I'm about to make you read a lot of words... Wow man... eloquence.... pure eloquence. It must be the music... just has to be. oh and just from a cynical stand point.... College, much like the cake, is a lie. Thanks for your insight. |
| College is what we make of it. I have friends that made good use of their time there, some who were screwed over by promises of guaranteed jobs after graduation, and I have some friends who choose to sit on their ass after graduation. I chose to skip the whole college debacle because I don't believe in colleges being private businesses, which they are. I see too many instances of people being prevented from graduating because although they have all the needed expertise, they're missing credits from some class requirement that's totally unnecessary. For example - I know an English major who can't graduate because she needs a calculus class completed in order to do so. Calculus? When is an English teacher going to bust out that garbage in a seminar? From a cynical point of view, if a college is trying to sell you something, it should be someone else establishing the rules of what you need for your expertise. But colleges are forcing you to pay money for knowledge you won't make full use of in your future line of work. It's wasted money. It's like how an electronics store might scare you into buying useless accessories for your new hdtv that you'll end up never using. |
| There is absolutely no reason why I should accept "turn your brain off" as a valid excuse to defend a poor show. ~ blatant ad: https://myanimelist.net/blog/Crusader_8 I spend the time to write it, so please read it lol |
| so I've read all the replies to this thread and I really appreciate you guys giving your input about how I should go about this situation... I'm not gonna post again until anymore developments occur with "Civic" but I'll make sure to read any other advice or suggestions you guys may have... Ill keep u guys updated no matter what the outcome Thanks for all the love! |
| i say go for it, she sounds like a cool chick. I would kill to date a girl like that |
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Kaiserpingvin said: [ spoiler ] text [ /spoiler ] Remove the spaces. Like this? [spoiler]Text[/spoiler] It's still not a spoiler button :( Ironlungs said: Ill keep u guys updated no matter what the outcome Thanks for all the love! Some of us have experience with girls like that (might want to check my profile), but then again, we can't really figure out what kind of person she is just by reading about your random occurrence. And also, if she reads this topic, you're probably done for. |
Smachadams said: May not be true for everyone, but I honestly don't really like it when a guy asks me to the movies for a first date. It's almost always like they are expecting something to happen.As for date ideas.... Dont do a movie at least until a couple dates pass |
| After reading the first post, I can sort of understand how the peeps over on 2chan felt during the Train Man saga. I'm unsure if it was a troll post or not - you do, after all, refer to Train Man - but, either way, it was a cute story. There's no advice I can offer since, if I was in your situation, I'd be asking the same questions. It's hard to believe a cute girl would come up to a stranger with a pile of manga on his table and be friendly - good looking females don't roll like that. Unless you defy the anime/manga looks stereotype, or it's rumoured in your area that you have a 10" dick, I just can't see it happening. The best advice is, as others have said, not to act overly nice in an attempt to win her affections. If you start kissing her arse and agreeing with everything she says, then you'll lose her. To be natural you need to have your own views and thoughts, otherwise you'll just bore her. And, of course, you need to get some depressing thoughts into your head in case she was just being nice to a guy down in the dumps. There's a very real possibility that, as you yourself have mentioned, she was simply being nice to you because she has a warm heart. Didn't she say as she left she'd hang with you again if you were down? There's not the best sign... |
Chavez said: Cheater!Kaiserpingvin said: [ spoiler ] text [ /spoiler ] Remove the spaces. Like this? [spoiler]Text[/spoiler] It's still not a spoiler button :( |
Ironlungs said: I'll welcome any insight or advice anyone has to offer... I'm a Hikikomori thats trying to get back into the social realm... I've been relatively safe but now I'm going apeshit insane staying home all the time... so much so that I ragequitted WoW.... I wonder if my guild will forgive me... i was the MT after all (-_-) YOU SON OF A B@$#%! I KNEW I'D FIND YOU! /drag back to WoW |
| Very, very cool. :)) But yeah... I know it's like impossible to overthink this... but you just kind of have to go with the flow... and act oblivious to some things. But if she's showing you that she's interested, you make sure to show her that you are too. And not just by agreeing to meet up with her, by actually inviting her to places, etc. Idk who does it first, but make sure you IM her first sometimes. It doesn't have to be everytime, but sometimes. Even just that little first 'hello' can make her feel like you really like her and want to talk to her... Soo... that's my advice. :)) Make sure you show her you like her too. Best of luck. |
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