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What makes people go outside and socialize? where does the interest come from? What exactly is the feeling of wanting to meet people?

see different people? being surrounded by beautiful people? hear a different voice? just chat? listen to opposing opinions? Is this a platonic love?

answer this based on your experience


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May 30, 2023 8:36 AM
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It's just really fun for me when meeting and talking with friends irl outside, much more fun than just chatting online inside of my own room :)

Sometimes I do unexpectedly fun activities with friends like visiting the place I've never heard about before ^.^



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May 30, 2023 8:56 AM
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I guess it can vary from people to people, but in most circumstances people just talk to me randomly, and I don't really want to ignore them, so I talk until I feel that is enough and excuse myself 😅

I think for me though it's curiosity of shared interests.
People around here tend to recognise me because I go to Wrestling shows often, and two of them live in my town, so I'll stop and chat to them if I see them. 
I also get comments if I'm wearing Junko Enoshima merch, so I'll chat to those also.
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Tbh I quite ask myself the same question, since I'm more into asocial side and prefer books, games and anime more than people in general. I don't like talking, yet somehow people are drawn to me, mostly they see something I don't.
May 30, 2023 9:30 AM
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terrible fire breakout in the basement
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What makes people go outside and socialize?
i enjoy spending time with others therefore i seek it out

where does the interest come from?
ughhhh it makes me feel nice so i want to do the thing that makes me feel nice

What exactly is the feeling of wanting to meet people?
i start to feel lonely and sad if i dont do it, but once i arrange a meeting i get all energized talkative and happy

see different people?
yes i like to meet new people, i am interested in other people and i want to know their stories and personalities and also want to share mine

being surrounded by beautiful people?
ughhhh i mean they dont have to be conventionally beautiful lol i wanna hang out with cool people tho, i seek out people who seem cool to me

hear a different voice?
yeah i guess i can feel loneliness quite intensely

just chat?
yes but not surface level stuff i like to go deep

listen to opposing opinions?
nah id rather have people share my worldview to a large extent, so i can freely express myself and feel safe; i dont feel like /most people/ would accept me where im from

Is this a platonic love?
i dont understand ughhh i love people and never go out with intention to get a partner or anything so yeah i guess? i love creating loving friendships?

god those questions were weird
May 30, 2023 9:40 AM
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Unavailability of good interests and hobbies.

There is no other real explanation and can't be.
May 30, 2023 10:14 AM
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A simple joke in Poland:
"Wódka to cudowny napój. Smak ten sam... ... a za każdym razem inne przygody"
"Vodka is a wonderful drink. It always taste the same... ...but every single time there are different adventures"



What make me want socialise:
Have Fun, Meet new people, interact with them, get to know them, learn something, drink some alcohol, idk sing along in a karaoke bar, to dance with them in night club and many more

Interest:
Do you really need an interest to get to know someone else? Do you need any interest in everything you're doing in your life, why can't it be disinterestedly?

What kind of feeling:
Idk I can't describe feelings


And all of that are about strangers whom you can meet at any bar, places known for night life in any city. When it comes to friends and buddies than there are no qestions, if someone of them would type me through messenger even right now "Hey I don't have job tommorow, wanna hit the bars?" I would just go for a tram and reply "On my way".
Examples:
[1st video - 1st bar been there at friday to drink Tequilla Gold. 2nd bar I've been also at friday but in the other one which is 100 meters away, because the smaller one has karaoke bar at second floor. 3rd one been there few times to buy 10+ shots, last time was february for my bday, and yes I've also drank exactly the Polish Flag shot, like in video, before leaving that place last time]
[2nd video - just how clubs look like, interacting there and dancing with other people is also very nice, actually through night clubs I think I've met the most of American tourists in Poland in my life, in the other hand Brittish people I tend to meet at bars, including last friday when I've got my pronunciation "exam"]
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Having friends to chill with. Going to cinema with them or taking a walk through the city. There are a couple of resons to go outside for me.
May 30, 2023 10:54 AM

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It's all about having a balanced life.

You cant just sit inside and play videogames all day. That would be super depressing.



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May 30, 2023 11:01 AM
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_Nette_ said:
You cant just sit inside and play videogames all day. That would be super depressing.


Speak for yourself fool. Rather play games than talk to anyone others my town. ☣
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I love people and social interactions
May 30, 2023 12:56 PM

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_Nette_ said:
You cant just sit inside and play videogames all day. That would be super depressing.


Speak for yourself fool. Rather play games than talk to anyone others my town. ☣

Oof, while for me interacting with my community has been a positive force in my life.

I guess it depends on where you live, I wouldn't interact with the community in San Francisco as an example.



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May 30, 2023 1:58 PM

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It must be a mental illness: they need to know what they are supposed to think about all given topics.
May 30, 2023 2:02 PM
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Rinrinka said:
It's just really fun for me when meeting and talking with friends irl outside, much more fun than just chatting online inside of my own room :)

Sometimes I do unexpectedly fun activities with friends like visiting the place I've never heard about before ^.^


And where is the fun in that? I once took a trip on a friend's private jet to Thailand and I was more bored during the whole week than I ever experienced...

Unless it's activities straight out of the movie hangover it's boring
 

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terrible fire breakout in the basement


Sorry to disappoint you but I live in a luxury apartment same as this fella..I also love looking down and laughing at people going out and rushing to work...

https://myanimelist.net/character/184881/Kinji_Ninomiya
 

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ryo-san said:
Rinrinka said:
It's just really fun for me when meeting and talking with friends irl outside, much more fun than just chatting online inside of my own room :)

Sometimes I do unexpectedly fun activities with friends like visiting the place I've never heard about before ^.^


And where is the fun in that? I once took a trip on a friend's private jet to Thailand and I was more bored during the whole week than I ever experienced...

Unless it's activities straight out of the movie hangover it's boring

I would get bored if I had to take a trip on my friend's private jet too, that's not fun:D

My kind of fun is like hanging out with friends in a cafe or mall or jogging together, nothing really fancy but simple.



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I wouldn't know but I try to be more social. Meeting more people sounds fun, as long as they're not too weird or sus.  I want to meet more people to improve my social skills to help my career. Might as well make some friends too 

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Taiyaa said:
What makes people go outside and socialize? where does the interest come from? What exactly is the feeling of wanting to meet people?

see different people? being surrounded by beautiful people? hear a different voice? just chat? listen to opposing opinions? Is this a platonic love?

answer this based on your experience


just curious

I ask myself some of these questions and.. I think it comes down to 'connection'.. we (generally speaking) have an innate need to connect with others, even if it may or may not happen expressly in our fleeting interactions.. Personally, unless I am in one of my moods, I feel better after talking to people, even if it's just a passing hi towards a known or unknown face. I like spending time with others, as much as I like my alone time.. let's just say, it's fulfilling, ..but what is it fulfilling, IDK :p ..personally, my need to be connected or feel connection or just bond.. IDK where I read or heard this, but if you think about it, it's really wonderful that two people, genuinely want to connect with one another (even if for a fleeting moment) - is there anything more beautiful.. (sorry if it made you cringe).
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Hi all. i am newbie here. Nice to meet you. In general, its fun)))
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Because most people are empty inside and can't deal with being alone. I personally have no such interest and hate going outside. 

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Because most people are empty inside and can't deal with being alone. I personally have no such interest and hate going outside. 
Be careful ya dont cut yourself with that edge there
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To spread the good word of the USA. Greatest country in the world.
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To have fun with new friends, to gain something financially and to fuck
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To have fun with new friends, to gain something financially and to fuck
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Jun 4, 2023 4:14 PM
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For me, being inside can be monotonous. There's not much I really do at home besides look at YouTube videos, watch TV, or watch anime. And having spent a lot of my time on social media, online interactions just aren't really that satisyfing. Being online forces you to interact with people that may be too different from you to have peaceful communication. And unlike with face-to-face interactions where you can get immediate responses from people, you have to wait for people to respond to you online depending on how preoccupied they are with other things. Or some may not respond at all.
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I have no such motivation to socialize, or maybe I'm just lazy
Jun 6, 2023 1:32 PM
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hmm.... people like to be social, some people are okay more introverted, but just going over to someone 4 player on a game or whatever is great.  its shared intrests/libido?  people find other people fascinating or things other people do fascinating, so people say/feel, i wanna do that too! and they feel happy among a social group. (most people more happy being social than not being social we woudlnt be 8 b here otherwise, and most happy moments people remember i'd argue is some social moment, like ohh that was a great time! most or everyone has) like if you like something social whatever that thing is you will do it, no matter how introverted you are. the broad answer is people like what other people/other human beings do and the want to be part of something bigger than just themselves/be of help to someone. the short answer is, clsije,  but partner and affection/sex i guess is maybe what it boils down too, it sounds crude, but with how much p there is, would you call it a lie? lol. human action itself has never been rational....  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotion (you can even make a more compelling case for it based on poor people https://youtu.be/KNIEb3injpc (https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2015/07/08/a-global-middle-class-is-more-promise-than-reality/) rationally you wanna say everyone should be as equal as possible, https://youtu.be/KVl5kMXz1vA  but thats not how a large majority live, but even that is based on feelings so maybe everything is irrationality in a way https://youtu.be/safpN3yaQ_I)  hmm... with how corana has been many people ''broke down'' or got worse mental health cause they could not be social anymore https://youtu.be/LhY6B1nAvic   https://youtu.be/nFmlHY2gtG8  https://youtu.be/HQu7lHGKQTQ https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-d&q=why+do+people+like+to+be+social, they get a ''high'' out of it or feel energized in life/more happy in life
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I become slowly insane, when I'm shut in even for a couple of days and not able to see someone, because I'm sick or anything.
Most people's brains are not dealing well with loneliness and while there might be a bunch of people, who prefer loneliness overall, it's not for most people. We are social mammals and just survived like that for thousands of years, so I guess you could say it's engraved.

Also I make more long-lasting memories that I connect to people, when I spend time with someone in person and we actually do things, even if they are small ones like cooking together or watching a movie together.

I also dislike to interpret overall the subtext and undertones of plain text. It's much easier to get what someone else is telling you on more than just one layer, when you can look into their face and hear their voice.

I dislike it in general, when I don't get enough input and stimuli from my environment.
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Better economy and better inter-gender relationships can improve that.


Bad economy makes you too busy to figure out money issues to spend time on women. Not to mention you do not have any spare money on them.

In contrast better economy allows one to buy a home, for which he will later need a slave girl to cook him meals and clean the place.

Not to mention you need premises to fuck her and if these are in short supply then alas.




Second issue is feminism:

Feminism makes women unappealing as it destroys their value in a relationship. 

Women that obeys you unquestionably and do all her domestic chores has value in a relationship.

Women who does not, does not have any value in a relationship.

Simple as that.



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Jun 13, 2023 5:06 PM
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For most people it is constant positive validation and positive experiences of socialisation in the past.
Jun 13, 2023 5:08 PM
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I don’t even know lmao. Didn’t think it was this deep
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Nothing at all honestly does, so its pretty much inside for me all the time.

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I like to go outside from time to time as staying at home with nothing much to do can get a little boring.
Though, I prefer to go out alone more than with others because I don't like socializing; it really drains my energy.

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for me it was to get out of my comfort zone and actually make some friends in college as my college life was going downhill ,I made the effort and yeah I succeeded 
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for me it was to get out of my comfort zone and actually make some friends in college as my college life was going downhill ,I made the effort and yeah I succeeded 
Strength of will and character can overcome anything. Mad congrats too you.
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I was a shut-in for a long time and eventually just decided i was sick of it, so i took an opportunity to meet some people.
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it can be boring to stay all day inside and do nothing sometimes, it's fun to do some activities outside, esp with close friends, like exploring new places or drinking a coffee somewhere

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Having supporting and understanding friends with common goals, culture and interests.
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For me it's 'cause I love meeting and connecting with new people. And I love spending time with my friends
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It's just fun seing your friends irl I guess. You can also do much more (stupid) stuff that way. 
Also, if you play a sport or something like that you are bound to socialize with the same people and might befriend some of them whom are definitely going to invite you to a drink
And yes, I love talking to hot girls god bless 
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I don't. The reasons I go outside and communicate are for work and business.

Reminds me of this movie I watched on Netflix but forgot the name of. Some rando volunteered to guard this isolated tower for 90 days against some alien or monster invasion. It was part of a shield network or something. He lost his mind well before the three months. Believed it was all made up and a test, so he sabotaged the tower and was promptly killed by the monsters swarming in. The look on his face was priceless when he wasn't even able to kill himself on his own terms. We need more weak-minded socialized soldiers like him, not less.
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There got to be nice people you actually want to spend time with.

Post financial crisis most people gone rather wicked, evil and tough. I do not like these traits in anyone.

Kind of like https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_North_Wind_and_the_Sun
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By having a job, you're forced to go outside and socialize. I don't mind it though. I like talking to people.
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Some people go to the society not to be alone, some people like the company. There are those. who from communication becomes exhausted, and someone, on the contrary, is full of energy. We are all different, but for example, sometimes I like to be in companies, sometimes I like to be at home, it depends on my mood - most likely I'm an ambivert
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Mental illness is the only reason I can think of.
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what makes me go outside?
hobbies that involve me going outside like football or something

what makes me socialize?
whoever gets inside my bubble since I usually just keep to myself 
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people are inherently prosocial to an extent
you can be nurtured out of it but i think most people do enjoy the feeling of being in the same radius of others, depending on the others

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You all are  Lucky then 

Only shit  xprnce  here  trying  to  soclze outside
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people= relationships. Relationships = connections. Connections = work, sales, power.
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