| What a serious problem :O At least you have a girlfriend :P |
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| I don't know if this has been said before since I am late to the party, but you let her watch Death Note, Overlord, and Code Geass? No wonder she is repulsed by your hobby. No girl likes that type of content. Invite her back and watch Yuri on Ice together. She'll suck your dick on the third episode. |
ElegadeJul 21, 2017 2:30 PM
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| Have her watch Free, Yuri on Ice and HQ. |
| But is the ass good fam? That's all you need to ask yourself. |
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Kuraokani said: bitchcraft said: She isn't wrong about anime being weird? Sounds like a smart gal to me. I mean, she isn't wrong. Correct. It is a weird hobby. Catching beetles and filming trains are also weird hobbies. I heard from this old scholmate her man kept bees. However, that does not mean these hobbies are illegal or somehow immoral. Imo they're all much more interesting than "going to the gym" or whatever is the trendy thing to say now. The person in question doesn't really ring as a "great person" to my ears. More seems like instead of showing she is capable of respecting others when the chance presented itself, she went for the low hanging fruit instead. I've thrown people out of my home for less than that. |
| make her watch Joe no katashi or Kimi no na wa or death parade not some edgy garbaje and death note |
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| İts surely not going to be problem if you stop bringing topic up and keep watching. İf she keep bringing topic up and criticize you , its way better to break up already. Trying to change her opinion and insisting most likely to backfire. |
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mecharobot said: Kuraokani said: She isn't wrong about anime being weird? Correct. It is a weird hobby. Catching beetles and filming trains are also weird hobbies. I heard from this old scholmate her man kept bees. However, that does not mean these hobbies are illegal or somehow immoral. Imo they're all much more interesting than "going to the gym" or whatever is the trendy thing to say now. The person in question doesn't really ring as a "great person" to my ears. More seems like instead of showing she is capable of respecting others when the chance presented itself, she went for the low hanging fruit instead. I've thrown people out of my home for less than that. Anime isn't a weird hobby. Please, don't degrade yourselves like that. Simply watching anime as a hobby isn't weird. Calling it "weird" is just giving into the hate. |
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| You picked the wrong choice of anime, you should of picked something with a josei tag, you cannot go wrong with josei. |
Kuraokani said: Bernrika said: Yeah, looking back, I should have started with something like Your Lie in April or Your Name. I tried showing her what I like instead of assuming she might have her own taste. That was a mistake on my part. Maybe I'll bring those up in a few weeks though. Have her watch Free, Yuri on Ice and HQ. Its going to be hard to change her opinion to be honest because it sounds like she is deadset on this stance of hers. Showing her more anime might only have the opposite effect. Opinions can change, but once you have an opinion and are this against the medium, its not easy. I would break up with her if the red flags get worse. Its not shallow to do what makes you the happiest. Its just these red flags tend to get worse the deeper you get. |
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| What kinds of shows does your girlfriend normally like to watch? You probably should have started there rather than just kinda randomly jumping through some of the greats. Code Geass and Death Note are fantastic but they're definitely shows that would appeal to a male audience first. I would have started with something like Spice and Wolf if I had nothing to go on. Also, don't show them in subs if they're already extremely ambivalent about it. It's just going to alienate them more. |
kingcity20 said: Oh for the love of -_- nvm gotta love MAL |
| Honestly I can full support her thinking weirdos watch anime, I mean have you seen the weirdos that watch anime? I have met more weirdos through anime then any other hobby I had (video games etc etc). Something about being obsessed with a completely different culture's animated cartoons is just plain weird. If I was to mention anything about my previous anime hobby I'd make sure to state it's weird, because well it is different/abnormal/weird. No point trying to cover up what you do like a weirdo. |
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| Your girlfriend is right. Anime is really weird. |
| "No, son, you may not have your body pillow at the dinner table!" |
| I have a solution, get an even weirder hobby then she'll think anime isn't so bad. Like start a toe nail clipping collection. Just say "Honey, I've given some thought about how you feel towards anime. So I've decide to give it up because I love you. This is great news because now I can focus on my love of collecting toe nail clippings. Oh, BTW what lovely toenails you have. The curvature and colour are simply marvelous I must add them to my archive!" |
CtrlZEDJul 21, 2017 11:05 PM
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Elegade said: I don't know if this has been said before since I am late to the party, but you let her watch Death Note, Overlord, and Code Geass? No wonder she is repulsed by your hobby. No girl likes that type of content. Invite her back and watch Yuri on Ice together. She'll suck your dick on the third episode. Lol I certainly wouldn't say that no girl likes that type of content...particularly since I'm a girl that likes and watches basically any anime content. I think these certainly weren't the best choices for someone who hadn't previously watched anime and already had a negative idea of what it was, but making a choice based on the kinds of things she likes to watch may have been more effective. I should mention that not all girls like watching guys being gay, just like not all men like lesbians (like people who think it's immoral or can't self-insert). Without knowing what she is actually into, it would be pretty difficult to give good recommendations. We could maybe list off things and let OP decide what suits her best, but assuming YOI will work without considering her likes could end in just as much failure as his other attempts. |
| tell her I still care about you more than anime. (Sike! anime is life bro) lol |
| When she watches all those shows with you, her subconsciousness already has a fixed impression on it before you even click play. From the very start, she already harbor a negative impression on it, no matter which shows you show her, it does not matter. In her mindset she already perceive your hobby as a degraded hobby. If you want to change her impression on it, randomly showing this or that anime will give you a very low chance of success, what you should do on the other hand, is explore deep into her mindset, find out the real reason, find out why that "real reason" aka "false-image" exist in her mindset, tear down the false-image in her mindset. I believe that is a better method to deal with it. From the sound of it she is someone who does not care about a real truth but what everyone perceive as truth. I do not think she does not like anime because she believes it is actually weird but more of "her friends" or "other people" views anime as "weird" so she does not want get involve in that. I believe she is a person who cares about her outside appearance, someone who give more value to superficial appearance, someone who put what "other" will perceive her as top priority in her to-do list, principles and morality. Of course I do not know her personality so this is what I conjure up based on the fact that she wants you to quit your hobby, not because of any reasons that directly related to it but because she does not want "her friend" to know her bf like anime. If you can give a full content of how she criticized your hobby, that would or would not change my views on her personality. Anyway, it is you who is close to her, what I'm typing about her might be close to what she actually is or maybe far off from the mark but the pattern i suggest you on how to approach it will not change. Since she already has a negative impression on it, try to reason her out would be a better option that randomly shows her random anime. CtrlZED said: Now now, that is some nice premise for a short manga.Like start a toe nail clipping collection. Just say "Honey, I've given some thought about how you feel towards anime. So I've decide to give it up because I love you. This is great news because now I can focus on my love of collecting toe nail clippings. Oh, BTW what lovely toenails you have. The curvature and colour are simply marvelous I must add them to my archive!" |
CactiiJul 22, 2017 4:22 AM
| Well u just started out with bad anime to introduce someone to anime. I bet if u watched Keijo or Kiss x Sis together, she would probably think better of u :) |
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| Well it is so good that i will never find myself in that position, because of a zero percent chance of me actually getting a girlfriend one day And everyone seems to be already been giving some fairly solid advice, having a fair talk about the issue, is what two normal human beings should do to resolve this kind of issue |
| Anime is not weird, your girlfriend is the one who's weird. Probably she's going to like romance-focused anime because majority of girls love those shit stuff. Hahaha! |
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| I suggest exposing her to anime on the more mature spectrum, since shows like Death Note and Code Geass clearly emit some bombastic vibes she isn't into. Something like Cowboy Bebop, Spice & Wolf, or Hanasaku Iroha might do the trick. That said, her imperative for you to quit your hobby as well as having such a paper thin view of anime as medium, shows a great level of close-mindedness on her part. So my other suggestion is to consider breaking up with her altogether. Or least until she develops a sufficient level of maturity to where she doesn't make such haughty relationship choices based on one's hobby, or maybe even be more accepting of whatever you may want to show to her. |
| It sounds like you're trying to force her to like anime. Making her watch more is just going to make her dislike it even more. Her telling you that anime is weird and to stop watching it should tell you that things aren't going to work out. |
hetnialoevr48 said: I know, but I see it as degrading yourselves because people view anime fans as a bad kind of weird.If she wants you to stop watching anime, just dump her. Kagami said: Calling anime weird is not degrading. Weirdness isn't a bad thing.Anime isn't a weird hobby. Please, don't degrade yourselves like that. Simply watching anime as a hobby isn't weird. Calling it "weird" is just giving into the hate. If you just watch anime, its not really weird. Its only weird when you get waifus and etc. |
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| I mean it's fine if she is not into anime, but "she doesn't want her friends to find out she's seeing someone who likes "stuff like that" that right there makes me think she is a mega bitch that is not worth your time at all OP I'd break up with her @Kuraokani |
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| The last thing you want to do is introduce her to sub-par anime and turn her into a shit taste person. Leave yuri on ice off the board before she turns into an annoying ass tumblr girl. My advice, respect that she doesn't like anime and watch shit like game of thrones or tv shows. Just because you like anime doesn't mean she has to get into it. |
| To be honest, I would only date someone with the same interests, because you won't to be able to do things together that you both enjoy, but as long as she respects what you like then you can maybe make it work, but if she is disrespectful of any of your hobbies or anything that is important to you, you should try looking for someone better. I think what she is saying to you is wrong, and you should really tell her how it makes you feel. |
MagicalMysticVAJul 23, 2017 2:35 AM
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| Any girlfriend who accepts you for watching terrible cartoons is a bad girlfriend. |
| "This thread encourages discussion" I quite dislike the fact some of my posts/threads that many people responded to just get deleted and get me banned because the "warning/banning" system is fucking shit, and this thread doesn't. I'm not hating on this thread, no, I'm fine with it, it's just dumb that a fucking memey but still conversation encouraging post like fucking "Do you like chicken?" gets locked and this doesn't.. Triggers me. I'ma laugh my ass off if I get a warning for this "SPAM", lmao, kill yourself dumb mods, I feel bad for the g00d mods Bad mods = Feminazis Good mods = Feminists That's my analogy, that they get put together and people just say "hurr durr fokken feminists" and one doesn't deserve it |
Soriki said: "This thread encourages discussion" I quite dislike the fact some of my posts/threads that many people responded to just get deleted and get me banned because the "warning/banning" system is fucking shit, and this thread doesn't. I'm not hating on this thread, no, I'm fine with it, it's just dumb that a fucking memey but still conversation encouraging post like fucking "Do you like chicken?" gets locked and this doesn't.. Triggers me. I'ma laugh my ass off if I get a warning for this "SPAM", lmao, kill yourself dumb mods, I feel bad for the g00d mods Bad mods = Feminazis Good mods = Feminists That's my analogy, that they get put together and people just say "hurr durr fokken feminists" and one doesn't deserve it Well considering this thread does encourage discussion because this is a web site about anime as a hobby, and hobby interests in a relationship can be a key to the success of that relationship. Contrast that with whatever you were babbling on about chicken ... |
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Kuraokani said: It was sort of to be a "shitpost/meme" but also, that's irrelevant, it's still valid and it's dumb what some mods BAN people for. Plus, you should only be banned to use the certain Forum. They always tell me to just "ignore/block" the people I report, yet I'm the one fucking banned even tho I've never done something that is truly worth of being totally blocked from using the entire fucking website. That is an utterly terrible flaw, being blocked from using MAL at all.Soriki said: I don't understand why anyone would make a thread asking if people liked chicken...? I've had threads locked to though. Most of the time it's just shitpost though. Come to think of it, "Do you like chicken?" Sounds like a shitpost. "This thread encourages discussion" I quite dislike the fact some of my posts/threads that many people responded to just get deleted and get me banned because the "warning/banning" system is fucking shit, and this thread doesn't. I'm not hating on this thread, no, I'm fine with it, it's just dumb that a fucking memey but still conversation encouraging post like fucking "Do you like chicken?" gets locked and this doesn't.. Triggers me. I'ma laugh my ass off if I get a warning for this "SPAM", lmao, kill yourself dumb mods, I feel bad for the g00d mods Bad mods = Feminazis Good mods = Feminists That's my analogy, that they get put together and people just say "hurr durr fokken feminists" and one doesn't deserve it It's sad, cause there's actual good mods out there, but then there's asshats who shouldn't be mods adhering to some dumb random rule that gets a chap banned for a fucking week or more for some dumb little thing. Pardon my rant, I just don't really appreciate this sort of behavior. |
Faelandaea said: 1: My thread was in casual discussion for startersSoriki said: "This thread encourages discussion" I quite dislike the fact some of my posts/threads that many people responded to just get deleted and get me banned because the "warning/banning" system is fucking shit, and this thread doesn't. I'm not hating on this thread, no, I'm fine with it, it's just dumb that a fucking memey but still conversation encouraging post like fucking "Do you like chicken?" gets locked and this doesn't.. Triggers me. I'ma laugh my ass off if I get a warning for this "SPAM", lmao, kill yourself dumb mods, I feel bad for the g00d mods Bad mods = Feminazis Good mods = Feminists That's my analogy, that they get put together and people just say "hurr durr fokken feminists" and one doesn't deserve it Well considering this thread does encourage discussion because this is a web site about anime as a hobby, and hobby interests in a relationship can be a key to the success of that relationship. Contrast that with whatever you were babbling on about chicken ... 2: Pretty sure that shitpost-like thread I mentioned is more the type of thread to encourage discussion than some dude asking for help with his relationship.... and cmon, in terms of threads, pretty sure this one is inferior, it's not a fucking thread that needs to have 100+ replies at all. 3: I already had acknowledged the fact that this thread does encourage discussion as well, I'm not denying that... So, what's the point to your reply? Btw, you were either paying 0 attention while reading, not very good at reading, or just stupid, cause I'm pretty fucking sure it's quite obvious what I was trying to "Say about chicken", and you shouldn't say "babbling about x" when it's barely mentioned .-. Said the word, once. |
| @Soriki You might want to go back to the gaming subforum with that tough guy attitude, you gun get banned again here... |
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Clebardman said: Like I care about getting banned anymore lmao, I barely use this shit site anymore and honestly find almost no use to except for linking your own MAL to friends that request it, aka what I presume to be the original purpose of this website, to create your own anime list, I don't use it for anything else other than that 99% of the time, along with getting updates from newly released Anime and such@Soriki You might want to go back to the gaming subforum with that tough guy attitude, you gun get banned again here... "Tough guy attitude" Explain? |
| At this point honestly, I don't even mind being banned, considering it's a source of fine comedy to share with friends, and it literally does not affect my day at all in any sort of intruding way to my daily activities Btw, the gaming subforum is pretty trash so I'd rather not go back to it, and plus, and it has almost no people who actually frequently post on it and get the same amount of replies one would get from the Anime or casual subforums |
TheRandom said: TheUnknownMerc said: Quite simply you do one of three things. You tell her that you will watch it on your time and she can do her own shit (I have a friend who does this). And there is nothing wrong with this, people in general have their own hobbies. I myself play paintball, my partner does not. Many people are into sports and their partners aren't, this isn't strange. You tell her you will give it up and you do. I think you're a cuck if you do this and you should brace yourself and enjoy being walked all over. I have no respect for people who give things up for their partners. You break up with her and find someone who is interested in your hobby (my partner and I watch anime together and read manga together but we also have different series we enjoy/dislike). This will probably make you happier and give you a broader sense of things, but at the same time depending on the people this could be a double edged sword as your tastes could be criticised. Honestly 3 months? fucking break up with her especially if she is the "I don't want my friends to know you are into that shit" kinda girl. People who judge others based on what they do have no place being anywhere near me or my friends. I think there is a difference between giving up a bad habit and something you enjoy. If you partner convinces you to give up smoking I don't see the issue with that as smoking has been proven to cause cancer. Making the blanket statement that giving up anything for your partner makes you a cuck is pretty dumb. In fact a case could be made that any healthy relationship contains some compromise. But that's the thing compromise isn't inherently bad. It just depends on what you are compromising on, in this case I don't see why he should give up something he enjoys completely for no real reason. Especially considering the reason for it is rather shallow. What is the compromise though? Either he give up anime or he ain't gettin dat pussi? I don't really think that is much of a compromise at all. If anime is something he enjoys and really loves and he is to give it up for her, She needs to give up something she enjoys equally to balance that out. Not only that, she is being incredibly disrespectful of him because of it. I mean either way he needs to take a step back and see if this person is worth it if she wont let him do something as silly as watch cartoons. First its going to be the cartoons, and that controlling behavior is just going to move onto other aspects of his life. I know what its like to be around someone who does that kind of shit, I cant deal with that kind of behavior. Also your analogy sucks. Smoking gives you cancer, even moreso second hand smoke ironically. What does anime give you, Autism This is a joke? Its not even remotely equivalent. |
| Well, considering Soriki is not even old enough to be here, it's probably safer just to add him to ignore. It's usually not a good idea for older folks to be associating with such small children. It can be looked upon as creepy, but even in an innocent scenario, to let him speak any further is contributing to the delinquency as such. Now that's settled ... back to the topic at hand. |
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| I'm glad she got over her dislike for anime. People have weird hobbies. Some of us are passionate about things other than grades, MCU and YouTube videos. It's even better this way. |
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