| I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months and things have been going good. So as we have gotten closer, and she started to come over to my place, I introduced her to my favorite hobby (watching anime). Things took a real unexpected turn when she said, and I quote, "isn't anime what those weird guys watch?"  Well I didn't let that stop me from trying to introduce her to some of my favorites and maybe changing her mind. So, we watched some code geass, Death Note, Overlord, and tried a few others. Needless to say, she would get irritated after a few episodes and ask to watch something else. I'm not shallow enough to break things off right there because I understand that different people like different things, but, things didn't stop there. Now she criticizes my hobby. Saying that I should stop watching anime because she doesn't want her friends to find out she's seeing someone who likes "stuff like that". Now, I honestly don't know what to do. She's a great person and I really like her but this stuff makes me seriously consider whether or not I could actually live with someone like that. Update: I wanna thank all you guys/girls that gave me advice. It helped out ALOT. I decided to have a talk with her about what she said and things went pretty well. She said that while she doesn't like anime, she won't try to convince me to feel the same way. Don't worry though, I'll still try and slip in Yuri on Ice and Your Lie in April during some Netflix and chill ;p Seriously though, thanks guys. |
Adi-BuddhaJul 21, 2017 3:58 PM
| yo she's gonna turn you into a big ol bro bro. Be on thy guard, men. |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| Better dump her as soon as possible. You'll only be miserable with someone like that. |
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| fr tho tell her to fuck off lol dip out. it's not too late |
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Kuraokani said: Now she criticizes my hobby. Saying that I should stop watching anime because she doesn't want her friends to find out she's seeing someone who likes "stuff like that". That's the red flag. She's gonna make you miserable. |
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Kuraokani said: code geass, Death Note, Overlord, and tried a few others. Needless to say, she would get irritated after a few episodes and ask to watch something else. id get pretty irritated too with those shows xD (not really im just givin ya shit but...) but um yea gotta think like a normie girl and put on some hxh, bitches love hxh "isn't anime what those weird guys watch?" |
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| Not worth bro; unless she's like an eleven and comes from money |
| I'm going to give you some real shitty advice, so I suggest you not take it. Beat the hell out of her. She clearly thinks she's going to change you in some vain attempt to "save" you. It'll just be a huge turn-on in her narrative if you're abusive and cry in her lap about how anime makes you do this to her. |
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| Your girlfriend is a big fat racist, lots of cool people watch anime. I hope she's Asian so she can see how hypocritical she's being. |
| I bet she'd come around if you showed her yuri on ice |
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| Quite simply you do one of three things. You tell her that you will watch it on your time and she can do her own shit (I have a friend who does this). And there is nothing wrong with this, people in general have their own hobbies. I myself play paintball, my partner does not. Many people are into sports and their partners aren't, this isn't strange. You tell her you will give it up and you do. I think you're a cuck if you do this and you should brace yourself and enjoy being walked all over. I have no respect for people who give things up for their partners. You break up with her and find someone who is interested in your hobby (my partner and I watch anime together and read manga together but we also have different series we enjoy/dislike). This will probably make you happier and give you a broader sense of things, but at the same time depending on the people this could be a double edged sword as your tastes could be criticised. Honestly 3 months? fucking break up with her especially if she is the "I don't want my friends to know you are into that shit" kinda girl. People who judge others based on what they do have no place being anywhere near me or my friends. |
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| Okay I think I can see the problem here from the shows you showed a "Normie" Code Geass - I really like this show, but it is heavy in anime tropes and I wouldn't recommend to a "Normie girl". The school element is cliche anime, the clamp character designs are way to weird for someone unused to it, its a military mecha and it has quite few fanservice scenes once again quite off putting for someone not used to it. Death Note - Out of all the anime you mentioned this is prob the best one to show to a first timer, that's not to say it doesn't have its problems for a new anime viewer. DN can come across as quite silly in in how it tries to be "Edgy" ... that potato chip scene is just way to weird for most normies Overlord - Even more than Code Geass its heavy in anime tropes and MMORPG, so unless the girl plays japanese MMO or at the very least is a gamer and is aware of the standard Trapped in Another World anime fare its not a gateway anime. I would say best way to get her into anime is Miyazaki films, they are good quality stories, well animated and because its a film not a tv series less commitment need to sit down and complete one. If you really want to show an anime series I would suggest more mature anime. Now by this I don't mean echii shit like queen blade. No more something like say Cowboy Bebop, mature in the true sense of the word. Adult characters, dealing with adult problems and themes (not necessarily sex). I don't know how old the girl is, but from the age of your profile and guessing shes similar age, this would mean she's a young adult, therefore try and find shows which has adult leads (I know shocking not all anime has teenager as protags) you probably got into anime as a teenager (like most of us) so watching shows about teenagers were fine and when we grew up with it as adult we got used to teenager anime. Introducing someone as an adult, find a show with an adult. |
| Show her Samurai Champloo or Cowboy Bebop and if she is still acting like a twat about it, just stop talking to her. Don't even break up with her, just stop talking to her so she has no closure about it and reflects on herself. |
| She sounds a little bigoted to be honest. I can understand her being ignorant of anime and assuming it's for nerds or something, but after seeing at least some episodes, I would imagine she would at least see why you might like it. At any rate, her being embarrassed about you watching it and telling you to stop is going a bit too far. That like you telling her to stop listening to the shit music she listens to because you don't want your friends to know she listens to some basic bitch music. |
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| Ditch the girlfriend, it's for the good of your health. |
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Kuraokani said: Now she criticizes my hobby. Saying that I should stop watching anime because she doesn't want her friends to find out she's seeing someone who likes "stuff like that". Rest of the post aside, I can say right now that I would not even let the conversation go past that point. If my lady said something like that to me I'd tell her right then and there that it was over. Both sides of a couple need to respect the hobbies and interests of each other. If something your partner does bothers you to the point you feel you can;t live with it, then you need to leave that person ... period ... end of story. And it doesn't have to be just an entertainment hobby like Anime. My ex wife asked me to quit flying ... it was a request she only had to make once ... she got my divorce papers less than a week later. Some things are just not negotiable in relationships. |
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Kuraokani said: Faelandaea said: I should have specified cause I made her sound like a bitch XD. It's not like she said that in a condescending tone or anything. It's more like her friends are stuck up bitches. The few times I've met them, they seemed like the type to be really judgmental. Rest of the post aside, I can say right now that I would not even let the conversation go past that point. If my lady said something like that to me I'd tell her right then and there that it was over. Both sides of a couple need to respect the hobbies and interests of each other. If something your partner does bothers you to the point you feel you can;t live with it, then you need to leave that person ... period ... end of story. And it doesn't have to be just an entertainment hobby like Anime. My ex wife asked me to quit flying ... it was a request she only had to make once ... she got my divorce papers less than a week later. Some things are just not negotiable in relationships. Of course, it's definitely to early to really tell her what I think about the friends. Ah. I see. LOL. Okay, well, hopefully she never does get serious about such a request. |
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| Sounds like a smart gal to me. I mean, she isn't wrong. |
| Don't do it man. If she finds it weird then she's not a keeper. Couples who watch anime together stay together. |
| also misleading title 'GF finds anime weebs to be weird' shoulda been it |
| Do you think you'll be okay by being with her even if she finds your taste weird? If not, it is best not to continue on, lest the relationship you have turns into a toxic one. I had an acquintance who loves anime and gets married to someone who also loves anime. And as expected, both of them are really close and their relationship is charming to be honest as they would chat about which anime they like. The man even told the girl to cosplay as the character he enjoyed. |
| It's time to play the Game folks! |
| So let's get this straight: >seen this girl for three months >dislikes your hobby, didn't give it a shot >now wants you to stop because she's afraid of appearances Three points that say you should seriously reconsider your relationship right there. I love my girlfriend, and she knows every time I criticize her dorkiness and her tastes, it's in a joking fashion. But when it's gotta come down to "real talk" I don't front and put up a facade hoping people don't associate me with her love of score music, musicals and all-around dorky hobbies. Being open and understanding is only part of a healthy relationship. So what about your girl? As far as I'm concerned, she's too caught up with appearances, very much to the point where she's now asking you to give up a part of you. "Will my friends think I'm uncool if I watch anime?" "Why the hell does my boyfriend have the same tastes as weird guys?" Those aren't the questions she's supposed to be asking. If she doesn't like anime, then fine. She doesn't. But asking you to give it up is essentially telling you that she doesn't fully accept you, and she wants you to be more acceptable in her eyes and a little less like you. In that case, ask her: "if I give up anime, then give up [insert something she loves here]." If she's not willing to change that then dump her ass. Closed-minded with very little understanding, ignorant, caught up in appearances, that's the most basic kind of girl you could ever pick up. And even if she means well, she's still basic. |
| Just need to find out how to quote this every time so I can dodge the stupid 30-character limit. |
Kuraokani said: She isn't wrong about anime being weird? It is weird. But for a lot of people that's part of its charm, I guess. |
Kuraokani said: Guap said: I know XD I need a anime loving girlfriend but their pretty rare in these parts. I'd sooner site a unicorn than find a girl who enjoys anything but TLC and greys anatomy Don't do it man. If she finds it weird then she's not a keeper. Couples who watch anime together stay together. Actually no, you don't need to be into the same things. You just need to be open to each other. My girlfriend is into score music, musicals, cosplay, cooking, DC comics, TV/Netflix, American cartoons, SOMETIMES anime (which is the only place we're supposed to get along, but she doesn't even like anime that much). On the other hand, I'm into anime (of course), cars, motorcycles, gaming, shooting, high-end brands, business, and programming. So technically we should vibe and talk about anime together, right? Not exactly. She opened up to me by showing me her interests. I shared mine. We are both solid. Maybe I can't say anything about the Harry Potter series and she can't name me any other Japanese sports car aside from the MR2, but the fact that we're so willing to learn more about each other is what makes us strong. I suggest finding an open-minded girl, not just an anime girl. |
| Just need to find out how to quote this every time so I can dodge the stupid 30-character limit. |
TheUnknownMerc said: Quite simply you do one of three things. You tell her that you will watch it on your time and she can do her own shit (I have a friend who does this). And there is nothing wrong with this, people in general have their own hobbies. I myself play paintball, my partner does not. Many people are into sports and their partners aren't, this isn't strange. You tell her you will give it up and you do. I think you're a cuck if you do this and you should brace yourself and enjoy being walked all over. I have no respect for people who give things up for their partners. You break up with her and find someone who is interested in your hobby (my partner and I watch anime together and read manga together but we also have different series we enjoy/dislike). This will probably make you happier and give you a broader sense of things, but at the same time depending on the people this could be a double edged sword as your tastes could be criticised. Honestly 3 months? fucking break up with her especially if she is the "I don't want my friends to know you are into that shit" kinda girl. People who judge others based on what they do have no place being anywhere near me or my friends. I think there is a difference between giving up a bad habit and something you enjoy. If you partner convinces you to give up smoking I don't see the issue with that as smoking has been proven to cause cancer. Making the blanket statement that giving up anything for your partner makes you a cuck is pretty dumb. In fact a case could be made that any healthy relationship contains some compromise. But that's the thing compromise isn't inherently bad. It just depends on what you are compromising on, in this case I don't see why he should give up something he enjoys completely for no real reason. Especially considering the reason for it is rather shallow. |
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| What even Death Note smh Its like your girlfriend saying "me or anime" xD Well, it depends on you bro. Things will be difficult that's for sure. |
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| If she thought it was weird and didn't want to watch it then whatever, you guys can have different hobbies HOWEVER the fact that she said she doesn't want you watching it because of what her friends would think....... :| |
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| I dislike people who judge others based on their hobbies and fetishes without actually knowing what those are. You should really let her accept your hobby or else you should break up with her |
| Hey, what is unknown to others are in fact weird. There's nothing wrong with that. |
| But is she hawt? Seriously though, if shes causing you too much stress over this shit, just let her go. There are a lot of girls out there and a surprising amount are into anime. If you feel like its worth it to keep going with her and you really value the relationship then keep her around. Tbh I'm not the type to change myself for other people, but its your life bro. |
 "The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." -Friedrich Nietzsche |
| A Ghibli film would have been a more logical choice for introducing a girl to anime. |
| Deal breaker alert! Get outta there (unless the sex is real good then stay, stay for the sex). |
SomeEdgeLord said: I WILL report you from this forum if this continues. In real life, I am one of the coldest, unsympathetic, people you'll ever know, who's grown up in an even colder household, you really don't want me to break my persona, I know how to make people feel bad. YearnsforAttention said: hm who has 1656 friends on MAL that's right me bye bye YearnsforAttention said: I don't want your approval how many damn times do I need to say it I enjoy irritating you I am gonna do things MY way |
| Why is your right hand watching anime in the first place? |
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