| Especially when there's a one sided affection. Its always super awkward when you are friends with someone and then either you or them starts to develop feelings. It never really goes back to the way it was. |
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| Yes. Possibly most of my friends have been the opposite sex, and I wasn't romantically or sexually interested in most of them. |
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it's hard, but refer to video above: |
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| I believe in real friendship between a man and a woman.. In fact, I think it's bullshit when people say that men and women can't be friends without some kind of ulterior motive. That's just perpetuating the tired old stereotype that men are only interested in women for sex, which is completely untrue.. |
| I truly believe in that!!! The person who influenced me the most in becoming a weeb was a girl & we hang out with each other alot few years ago!!! Now we still chat often about animanga & ask recommendations with one another & hangout when their is an anime/cosplay convention happening near or around the city & we are doing all of this while fully knowing she has a boyfriend & he actually doesnt mind about me & our shared passion with animanga!!! You can actually have friendship with the opposite sex as long as you are not seeking attention nor lonely!!! |
" Kindness can sometimes lead you to trouble. "  |
| Of course there can be genuine friendship. The status as "lovers" is independent from it, however, successful lovers are usually very close friends as well. Hence also "girlfriend" and "boyfriend" However, I do think that one-sided feelings or longings for something the other person doesn't wish for could be detrimental to the relationship if those are not reciprocated or if those don't vanish |
| I don't know, men have always been friendzoned left right and center.. don't know about men friendzoning women.. That's because men always have fewer choices than women. |
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| Personnally, I have no problems socializing with girls and being friends with them. Probably because I grew up with a little sister, it definitely taught me how to have a normal friendly relation with them. It's often really disappointing to see some of my male friends being unnable to approach the opposite gender without being weird or wanting something more than just being friends. One sided affection does suck but the friendship doesn't necessarilly have to be ruined if both parties are mature about it. |
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| It can be tricky with one-sided affection, but otherwise it's completely possible. My best friend all the way from childhood is a man. |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
| Yes, those who don't believe in that just never tried to be "friends" with opposite gender just because they have targetted the girl/guy with whom they would like to be "more than friends" or FWB, if you want a female/male friend you need to get to know with a person with intention of being friends not with an intention of having a romantic relationship surprise surprise... |
| tomodachi te nani? id say no. unless she was really ugly. |
spaceslut said: That's because $real friendship" isn't real. We accept others as "friends" as long as we get only what we want from them. I prefer love. Love is more accepting, love gives room for understanding. Especially when there's a one sided affection. Its always super awkward when you are friends with someone and then either you or them starts to develop feelings. It never really goes back to the way it was. But to answer the question. No. As soon as one starts to develop another kind of feelings for their friend,the friendship is over and usually friends will enter weird or sick power dynamics. For example, the one being lusted over will try to keep the other "friend" around just to feed their ego. These situations don't really end well. |
| Yes, I don't see why people need to go into every interaction with someone of the opposite gender with sex or dating at the back of their mind. |
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| It's only a problem for people that try to make it a problem. Usually it's all in your head that it makes things awkward or whatever. |
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| well when you are child i think you can, but maybe when you become a teenager the sex drive makes youy/one irrational |
| The 1 billion+ people with friends of the opposite provide ample evidence in my opinion that it is simply impossible for men and women to be real friends |
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| If someone has a crush or something, yeah not going to work out. But in response to the title of the thread... Say a guy and a chick don't find each other attractive. No romantic conflict to be had. No reason to suppose people are attracted to every member of the opposite sex. Say one person is attracted to the other but not the other way around. I say it can still work out. Just don't ask out everyone you feel attracted to. No reason to suppose people have an uncontrollable urge to be romantic with every friend they find attractive. Really, if we took the opposite conclusions seriously, we should expect bisexuals to have no friends. A sad possibility! Now, this is all separate from the question "is trying to make friends of the opposite sex more trouble than it's worth?" Perhaps! I can see why someone who had enough experiences with friends hitting on them would decide to have a heavy gender preference. Though I personally think it's a shame to cut off one half of the population from the possibility of friendship. |
FreshellMay 13, 2023 9:26 PM
| The one where guy has feelings but she only sees him as friend is referred to as friendzone and is the worst possible thing to be in if you are guy. Not sure if the opposite can happen and a girl who likes you will try to befriend you. I would say that has much better chance of developing into love then the above, providing she does what guys in friendzone do that is. That however is not guaranteed to work. I guess some form of stable friendship can be around common interests if neither has any feelings. That said looking back, I probably friendzoned a number of nice enough girls and kept them there languishing. Such a heartless sadist I am. However that is only right since I like masochistic girls who can endure shit. That said I want to make sure she can be consistently nice to me and not hurt me, so friendzoning them temporarily may be a good idea to test them out. |
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| Is anyone putting out content like this, today lol? All the people I was friends with of opposite sex, quit talking to me after they got married probably due to this mindset tis sad. |
MiraniaMay 13, 2023 10:54 PM
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| yeah ive had mostly female friends in my life, and I am dashingly handsome and charming, but that's besides the point... they are human after all. |
| I don't trust people who can't be friends with someone of the gender they're attracted to. That's a major red flag. |
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Felori said: ryo-san said: I don't know, men have always been friendzoned left right and center.. don't know about men friendzoning women.. That's because men always have fewer choices than women. The "friendzone" doesn't exist. These guys who can't just appreciate your company never have been your friends, they just wanted to get into your pants from the very begin and lied to you. That sure explains it but you know I avoid people.. Nothing good ever comes in getting involved with people unless they're the ones who will help you and stick around when you hit rock bottom. . |
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Coolspot said: i don't see any content like this these days. but with all of my friend groups that have had a mix of guys and girls it always led to some type of drama between themIs anyone putting out content like this, today lol? All the people I was friends with of opposite sex, quit talking to me after they got married probably due to this mindset tis sad. hardly s Coolspot said: Is anyone putting out content like this, today lol? All the people I was friends with of opposite sex, quit talking to me after they got married probably due to this mindset tis sad. |
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| I think it's possible. As for me, who doesn't have too many "friends" IRL, a lot of times the girls I become friends with are ones that I think are cute. That doesn't mean I have crushes on them all, but that might just be what draws me in. |
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| Yes, considering I have had multiple female friends whom I have not had any romantic attraction too |
 This ground is soiled by those before me and their lies. I dare not look up for on me I feel their eyes |
| I believe it's definitely possible, but very unlikely |
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| yeah its possible, its also possible to be friends with people who arent straight for the same reason its not even unlikely i worry about any1 who doesnt have friends in these categoriws |
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| If with real friendship between two people of the opposite sex, you are referring to a close and "pure" friendship, comparable to that of good brothers, then I see it as extremely difficult, at least for the vast majority of people. The largest number of "friendships" made up of people of both sexes would reveal their true nature if women put their male friends to the test by offering them a crazy night of sex without strings attached. Very few would reject the offer, and those who do, would not do so for the value of friendship itself, but for reasons beyond it (he respects his girlfriend; who makes the offer is unattractive; etc..) We men tend to be more realistic than women, so in general we are markedly more skeptical than them when it comes to believing in the existence of a real friendship between members of the opposite sex. Women who have this skepticism at a level comparable to ours, are usually very attractive (8, 9 and 10). So that there is no risk that the friendship between a man and a woman leads to something else, this one cannot be close, so there must be some distance, especially with regard to the degree of trust, the manifestation of affection and the frequency of treatment. And to what extent should this distance be marked? First, to the extent that you are attracted to the friendship of the opposite sex -or vice versa- since close and constant treatment feeds the attraction. Second, yes, to the extent that there is a disordered affection, because often the affective attraction ends - in the long run - in sexual attraction. Third, to the extent that you and your opposite-sex friendship are conventionally attractive, since just because you aren't attracted to each other today doesn't mean you won't be attracted to each other tomorrow. The female friends that I have kept over the years are there because under a tacit and silent agreement we have kept the necessary distance to avoid awakening or feeding any type of attraction or chemistry. Some of them are so pretty and attractive that if we had met in other circumstances (how not to be partners of my friends), such a distance would probably never have existed. The only really close female friend I've ever had, rather than a friend, was a partner/lover.  |
_Nemrod_May 18, 2023 2:44 AM
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| Yes it's possible and everyone who thinks it's not is just a sexist. Felori said: I'm female assigned Just say you are a girl next time. |
| Yeah. One of my closest friends is from the opposite sex. We sort of had a thing going on in the past, but now, we get along just fine as friends. I'm not in love with her and I'm pretty sure that feeling is mutual. @_Nemrod_ where is the pic from? |
Say-My-NameMay 18, 2023 12:28 AM
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| I hope people do realize that there are men who are not sexually attracted to women and vice versa, so this entire premise is silly. And even if sexual attraction and friendship were unable to coexist, it would mean that bisexual people are doomed to have no friends, which obviously isn't the case. Let me tell y'all a secret you already know: just because someone happens to be attracted to the biological sex you belong to and enjoys your company, doesn't necessarily mean they want to sleep with you. |
Felori said: ateks said: Yes it's possible and everyone who thinks it's not is just a sexist. Just say you are a girl next time. Which I'm not. You said you are female so you are a girl or woman what's the problem with using normal language? |
| Yes, of course. Just in the same way that men can be friends with other men and women can be friends with other women without those relationships becoming romantic, as much as yaoi and yuri shippers might not want to believe. Platonic relationships are a thing. Maybe it's easier to believe if both people already have partners and clearly aren't looking for a second partner, but even single people can have platonic relationships with the opposite sex. |
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| Yeah obviously its really common. Not like every man is attracted to every woman ever and vice versa. |
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| considering your username, the answer to your thread is a resounding no. |
| yep |
| I don't believe friendship in general can exist in the first place. |
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