| It's common for people to customize their profiles, talk on the forums and ask other members as friends on MAL. But beyond Stats tabs, it isn't really that useful. Which is why I wonder, how do you concretize friendships on MAL? Do you do so by starting conversations, and moving to social media or to games or something? |
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| Friendships are liquid, not concrete. Don't be surprised when they drift away or crash into your face. |
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SmugSatoko said: Friendships are liquid, not concrete. Don't be surprised when they drift away or crash into your face. Sure, they're consented and can fluctuate or change over time. Still, it's a functionality that I believe can have value, if one knows how to use it |
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| Not counting the ones I made since the pandemic I can only safely say I have 4 solid friends on this site. We started with small chat and eventually got used to each other, we even talk about what little irrelevant shit there is to share and we just ended up adding each other on other places like discord or facebook. 2 of those 4 I mentioned mostly chats with me on fb rather than here because irl. The covid-made friends have yet to reach that level, but honestly with how the world is right now I'd rather keep it that way |
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| I never thought about the friends that I've had on here to be real friends, since I didn't really know them that well. |
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mwinner said: *blush*Mostly from forums, but I can confidently say I have probably 2 concrete friendships from here. I do have the social media pages of quite a few MAL users. That's not exactly "concretizing" the friendship, though; that's on a case-by-case basis. |
"Molly Ringwald" out right now - check my Linktree!  |
| I would say that most users who I have met on MAL that I would actually consider friends are ones I actively talk to on Discord. |
| That's simply not possible as you can't ever concretize friendships. Unless you bring in lawyers and draft a contract or something. With ties that are inherently so weak, why people put a lot of thought into it is beyond me. I believe every man for himself. |
| Don't know what I want, but I know how to get it |
| I made a request to all my MAL friends a month ago: Let's message eachother more, comment more. Just share our thoughts and opinions on anime related stuff. Everyone who sends me a friend request, I now message them saying: Let's keep in touch as much as possible, because if we don't, what's the point of being friends here. And while I'm not actively sharing with them l, after something anime related happens since, I still expect them to. Unfair right? I did get several people who wanted to chan on Discord. But I told them I'm only available here on MAL. Now it's quite again and I'm considering removing all my friends and denying any further friend requests. I'm just a controversial person in the end. |
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| There's probably two on here that are pretty solid friends? One I knew already from PSN, but he's in the states, the other is Scottish. Nothing really has progressed past just messaging eachother though. I think my age probably would hinder true friendships... since I'm usually at least 10 years older than whomever I'm speaking too😥 |
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| 5 out of the 20 people in my friendlist i can easily say they're a solid. i know them outside of mal aswell |
zsxa said: 5 out of the 20 people in my friendlist i can easily say they're a solid. i know them outside of mal aswell On my 800+ friends on MAL, I must know on an individual basis like, 20 of them. And keep in touch with like 5... |
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| I would, for sure. I think MAL provides enough options with messaging and clubs and whatnot that there are enough tools to keep in touch with someone and get to know someone just on here if that's all that it is. But I'd be open to connecting on other platforms as well if it goes there. There are some cool people here. I'm happy to have met a few of them in particular and enjoy talking with them outside of the forums. I guess that's concrete? |
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dragonmade said: I would, for sure. I think MAL provides enough options with messaging and clubs and whatnot that there are enough tools to keep in touch with someone and get to know someone just on here if that's all that it is. But I'd be open to connecting on other platforms as well if it goes there. There are some cool people here. I'm happy to have met a few of them in particular and enjoy talking with them outside of the forums. I guess that's concrete? Now that you mention it, the phone update for conversing through clubs seems like a good update, never really got to use it tbh |
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| Random friend requests I accepted and never bothered to interact further with aside, I have about 12-15 friends on here I can actually consider as friends. I only interacted with about 7 of my MAL friends on other sites. 2 of which I became close friends with and one of those two actually forming a close relationship with (she confessed to me holy shit) but she left the online world entirely a year ago and it still bums me out. A few others I've only interacted with on MAL via profile comments, DM's and forums. So I only really have 1 friendship that's concrete. Rant incoming. |
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| if u aren't making voodoo dolls of all ur MAL friends and sticking pins in their eyes and hanging them out on the washing line in the rain when they rate ur fave anime 4/10 how can it ever truly be real |
| the official MAL hall of fame/cursed comments is now open for business - you are welcome to PM me any potential quotes to include |
| I don't. If I have something I want to say to someone, I will say it, and others can do the same. Simple as. |
 This ground is soiled by those before me and their lies. I dare not look up for on me I feel their eyes |
| What's the meaning of friendship... I don't know... But i think if i made someone's day better... Or maybe worse... (never happens)...that's valuable. |
   "A person who cannot give up anything, can change nothing."    |
| I have an old school friend on MAL who I talk to regularly but I've not seen him in person in years. I've also met one other person from MAL face to face a few times to hang out n shit but that's really it. |
| And when creation goes to die You can find me in the sky Upon the last day And you will be okay |
| I don't think about it too deeply, it just naturally happens I guess, all about the vibes ya know? |
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