| I've seen this happening a lot in MAL. You know. When you don't talk to someone for like... how long? Months? Maybe even years. This person umm~ let's call her FOR EXAMPLE... a~... Nami. Nami stares at her wall of 100s or 1000s of friends on MAL that most of them she doesn't know them. Not even 0.5% ... Nami only chat everyday with 2 or 3 of all her friends of that list. Then one day she says: Nami: You know what? Fuck this friend list bull shit. It annoys me. I'm gonna remove those who never talked to me for months and years, and stick to those who have been entertaining me and we know each other quite well as much as family. Now, if I speak my thoughts to you, I, ArabianLuffy, I finally understand why some or most members here in MAL write in their profile: "I don't accept random friend request." and I can relate to this. And then, another thought crossed my mind. Is me being in your list means I'm as close as anyone been talking to you a lot? Fuck no! So personally, this friend list means nothing to me. I don't know you and you don't know me. It happened to me long ago that some users add me as their friend and they barely talk to me or even they don't reply. I look at my friend list is like a wall. JEEZ! Now, some of you doesn't give it that much, but believe me. You will be bothered with it sooner. Time to clean up the shit! Or whatever you're gonna think about it. And here is the beef of this topic. Some members take it as an arrow to the heart when they find out that they've been removed from other's friend list. To those poor hearts I say: Don't worry. You're gonna do the same soon. You used to be open and friendly, but sooner I guarantee that this friend list feature, will mean nothing to you. So you have to make the sense of this feature of friend list. Don't put yourself and the person you think about in awkward situation that is not needed in the first place. Friends don't mean lists. I don't need to lecture you on what a friend means. What happens in real life apply to MAL too. If you are that much concerned why someone removed you from their friend list, maybe it's you. Not them. Don't take my message as if I'm belittling you. In fact, if something ever happened, we need to ask ourselves first. What did we do wrong? Before we judge others. Don't take my advice, but I personally disabled receiving friend request. You are my friend before this friend list thing. Just talk to others. They won't bite you or tell you to go away. Most of MAL users I could tell are looking for conversation via comments. You don't need to add someone to your friend list just in order to talk to them. Just spit it out. Start a conversation. Be witty for fuck sake. And then later on, you two will add each other on friend list. |
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| Friends Lists: 1. Are bookmarks of users. 2. Show you when users are online. 3. Show you the lasts anime and manga updates of users. (On the main page: https://myanimelist.net/) 4. Alert you when a user's birthday is. (On the main page: https://myanimelist.net/) 5. Give you publicity the more links there are back to your profile. Lots of practical reasons to have large friends lists. |
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| online friends anywhere are the same, useless shits,,,, thats y I quit fb years ago... Wait? MAL has friends lists? I mean I have MY anime list and a bunch of things like fav chars etc but friends? is that even a thing? |
| I don't see the big deal, don't use it if you don't want to. |
| I like what you wrote. In your opinion, just how many would be too many? I'd like to disable it too, soon. |
That's not the point. It's about socializing. What's the point of all these features if someone who added you doesn't chat with you? KuroudoAkabane said: friends? is that even a thing? Yes, there is a friends list. Absol said: I don't see the big deal, don't use it if you don't want to. Again, it's about socializing. There are people here who would simply remove you from their friend list, because you didn't talk to them. hazecloud said: I like what you wrote. In your opinion, just how many would be too many? I'd like to disable it too, soon. Depends. I used to add a lot of people to my list until for reasons: - someone inactive - someone doesn't reply - you don't talk to who you added - you see like over 500 people in their list. Who is in reality have over 100 friends either? Hatred said: i agree with everything you said except for "What happens in real life apply to MAL too." real friends are not the same as online friends,therefore,real life doesn't apply to MAL too I can partly be right, because it depends on how you lead this friendship with one individual you care about in MAL. We hear about meeting up in real life of MAL users. Some even got married to each other in real life, some got into relationship in real life later. |
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| I want to speak to the people on my friend list-- REALLY REALLY want to, but I don't want to bother them-- or some I've just never talked to. Some days, I start drafting up little messages to give to all of them... and then suddenly it's like, "1. Yeah. I really am bothering everyone. Nevermind. 2. I don't like talking for too long at the moment. So why am I creating 25 potential long conversations when I don't want any right now? 3. I have so much to do (which is why I don't like talking for too long at the moment). Why am I spending my time like this? OTL" Then I figure, "Ah, people on my friend list might be feeling the same thing. Yes, it's best not to bother them. And then the cycle repeats as soon as I think, "I really want to communicate with my MAL friends! OO:" That being said, I wouldn't blame anyone if they wanted to take me off their friend list.;; I never actually request to add anyone, I always just accept.;; |
Swiggy said: I want to speak to the people on my friend list-- REALLY REALLY want to, but I don't want to bother them-- or some I've just never talked to. Some days, I start drafting up little messages to give to all of them... and then suddenly it's like, "1. Yeah. I really am bothering everyone. Nevermind. 2. I don't like talking for too long at the moment. So why am I creating 25 potential long conversations when I don't want any right now? 3. I have so much to do (which is why I don't like talking for too long at the moment). Why am I spending my time like this? OTL" Then I figure, "Ah, people on my friend list might be feeling the same thing. Yes, it's best not to bother them. And then the cycle repeats as soon as I think, "I really want to communicate with my MAL friends! OO:" That being said, I wouldn't blame anyone if they wanted to take me off their friend list.;; I never actually request to add anyone, I always just accept.;; If someone by their choice added you to their friend list, try and see for yourself. I mean talk to them. "Hey, sugar babe. Thanks for adding me to your friend list. Want me to Hooba your Dooba? wink wink" Have some sense of humor. Bite them, they bite you, but hey, invite me too, OK? |
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| i don't use the friend request feature. if someone wants to add me i'll accept but i don't send them out a lot of my best friends on mal aren't on my list. well i'm more of a chat thread person so i guess that just makes it all the more obsolete |
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| I usually get up to about 60 friends or so then mass genocide them all. I don't take the friendslist thing too seriously, it's more to just toy with people and meet them at best. IPE is right about all the benefits by far tho |
  Calm me and let me taste the salt you breathed while you were underneath I am the one who haunts your dreams of mountains sunk below the sea I spoke the words but never gave a thought to what they all could mean last.fm |
| I literally have over 80 friend requests I haven't accepted or declined yet because I feel bad if I decline them but don't like accepting them when I didn't even recall seeing them in the forums and no personal message was sent. |
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| You're overthinking about that friend list bro, it's just a number, if someone sends a friend request I always accept it, if he wants to be my "friend" why not? If they talk ok, if they don't it's the same thing for me. My definition of friend is a bit weird, a friend is someone you play games with because I don't care about going out and stuff like that. |
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Ulquiorra said: You're overthinking about that friend list bro, it's just a number, if someone sends a friend request I always accept it, if he wants to be my "friend" why not? If they talk ok, if they don't it's the same thing for me. My definition of friend is a bit weird, a friend is someone you play games with because I don't care about going out and stuff like that. I used to think the same thought as yours. Time will teach you, brother. Changes of heart not always bad. |
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| I agree with you for the most part. On the other hand I have periods where I accept random friend requests because I want to give them benefit of the doubt that they will actually talk to me. I don't know how I feel about people I had a nice conversation with that went on for months and then it just lost continuity. But yeah, sending friend requests for sheer amount of friends is something I will never undersand there. |
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| I like having other fansubbers as friends on here so I can compare our tastes in anime and creep on what they're watching without asking them all the time. I also have people who I talked to years and years ago but haven't spoken to since. |
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| It's just easier to collect the profiles that you are interested in rather than having to search them manually. That being said it means a lot to me my best myanimelist friends are comic_sans and Swagernator. |
| @ArabianLuffy None of the things I listed are about socializing except for the birthday one. The rest are about monitoring users or making it easy for people to find your profile by having lots of friends. Friends serve more purposes than socializing. If someone has a similar taste, you'll want to keep an eye on them. |
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| wait is this post supposed to lecture ppl on an anime website LOL damn bro you speak to ppl as if they are 9 years old but they know their own shit |
"Stand up and walk. Keep moving forward. You've got two good legs. So get up and use them. You're strong enough to make your own path." |
| I've had people I hadn't talked to for months, and then when I remove them, they suddenly message to ask why I don't want to be friend anymore. Like, really... |
Lecoir said: wait is this post supposed to lecture ppl on an anime website LOL damn bro Only you thinking that way, sister. Only you. Lecoir said: you speak to ppl as if they are 9 years old but they know their own shit Well, obviously they know their own...... shit. But I doubt you do. |
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ArabianLuffy said: Lecoir said: wait is this post supposed to lecture ppl on an anime website LOL damn bro Only you thinking that way, sister. Only you. Lecoir said: you speak to ppl as if they are 9 years old but they know their own shit Well, obviously they know their own...... shit. But I doubt you do. Dude, I can go and dissect your entire post of why it looks like as if you are trying to lecture people what to do with their life on this site. WHO CARES that much lol. Your entire post is fake deep. >Friends don't mean lists omg no one knew??? it's as if we come in on an anime site where you want to go on forums, organize your anime, and you get butthurt by someone removing you as a friend LOL. Anyone with a brain knows if they remove you the friendship wasn't that meaningful as you think it was. I could go on but mehhhh. I just enjoy dissecting contradicting statements |
"Stand up and walk. Keep moving forward. You've got two good legs. So get up and use them. You're strong enough to make your own path." |
| Agree with you OP,that's why I don't accept random FR anymore,I'm not a "pokemon trainer" who collects "pokemon",if you want to be my friend,then try to talk with me,anything as long as is not fuck up in the serious matter. But everyone shouldn't take it seriously,I mean,they're "friends" but you don't know them,never see them or talk IRL,is like a gamble,you might get a few friends over MAL and start even meeting IRL (or Discord but that don't count for me at least) or that's it,your life wouldn't change drastically. I can say that I have people to talk about on this site like everyone else,but I don't think is a issue,you want to have 1000 friends,go for it,if you want to be loner,then fine,they decide if they want to talk or not. Overall,good point OP,Bravo! |
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Lecoir said: Dude, I can go and dissect your entire post of why it looks like as if you are trying to lecture people what to do with their life on this site. By all means, please proceed. Lecoir said: WHO CARES that much lol. People who agreed with my thoughts, and they are right here. Lecoir said: Your entire post is fake deep. Yeah, it is... from your point of view. Lecoir said: >Friends don't mean lists omg no one knew??? it's as if we come in on an anime site where you want to go on forums, organize your anime, and you get butthurt by someone removing you as a friend LOL. Well, getting butthurt is how we grow as an adults. To man up. No butthurt, no personality development. Lecoir said: Anyone with a brain knows if they remove you the friendship wasn't that meaningful as you think it was. Naturally. Yeah, I happened to friend request people and after long while they removed me. Why? Because my social skills were shit. And now, I'm the tsunedre princess of this time. Lecoir said: I could go on but mehhhh. I just enjoy dissecting contradicting statements Show me these contradicting statements. Enlighten me. |
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| 🤔🤔🤔 not rly but ok it's just sad seeing how y'all can't make FRIENDS. with actual intimacy lol plus like. someone removing you on mal isn't that deep so you don't have to go full big galaxy brain as if it's philosophy. if it didn't work it just didn't work out lol move on the people that agree with this seriously haven't thought that we are online and it doesn't affect shit by having 'ppl in the list' as you like to call it sure i agree too but like. it's common sense?? idk why it needs to be said dude |
"Stand up and walk. Keep moving forward. You've got two good legs. So get up and use them. You're strong enough to make your own path." |
Lecoir said: It's just sad seeing how you all can't make FRIENDS. with actual intimacy lol We can't? Really, Queen? Lecoir said: someone removing you on mal isn't that deep so you don't have to go full big galaxy brain as if it's philosophy. if it didn't work it just didn't work out lol move on It's not deep of course. It didn't work out because they didn't start talking to those who befriend them. Lecoir said: the people that agree with this seriously haven't thought that we are online Only online? OK, so what? They can't meet in person? Lecoir, I know two people here from two different countries got married. How? MAL. Lecoir said: it doesn't affect shit by having 'ppl in the list' as you like to call it Let me be clear, friend list is bull shit if you didn't talk to those who you befriended them. I'm not talking about its advantages as IpreferEcchi mentioned. It wasn't my point. Lecoir said: sure i agree too ............................................ what? then....... why.... you called my entire post fake? Lecoir said: it's common sense?? unfortunately not many people. Not until they get butthurt. Failure breed success. Lecoir said: idk why it needs to be said dude Maybe they need inspirational post? They need....... something..... morivational... A savior? Like me? I dunno. I'm still waiting on this contradicting statements. |
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| yikes, you're boring and missing the point entirely. if you read your own text and had some sort of critical thinking of how you come across as to others, you would know by now. no one needs a random strangers help on the internet, thought abt it? but have you considered that no one doesn't see you as a hero at all just by making this post lmao. if they needed some damn 'savior' they would seek therapy?? also they are delusional and in dreamy-land if they think there actually is a savior just out there for them. be self-sufficient? independent?? |
LecoirAug 26, 2018 10:43 AM
"Stand up and walk. Keep moving forward. You've got two good legs. So get up and use them. You're strong enough to make your own path." |
Lecoir said: yikes, you're boring Now I'm boring. Lecoir said: missing the point entirely. No, I know you're point, but mine is different than yours. I'm just telling them that some day they'll see things from point of view like those who removed them. Lecoir said: if you read your own text and had some sort of critical thinking of how you come across as to others, you would know by now. no one needs a random strangers help on the internet, thought abt it? Sure they don't need me, but ever thought to share others your experience, so those after you won't repeat the same mistake? Ever thought about it? Sharing is caring? Lecoir said: but have you considered that no one doesn't see you as a hero at all just by making this post lmao. Humor 101 go learn it. If you took that post seriously, you are 9. Lecoir said: if they needed some damn 'savior' they would seek therapy?? also they are delusional and in dreamy-land if they think there actually is a savior just out there for them. be self-sufficient? independent?? again Humor 101 ... Go to Kickass University. it's in there... |
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| >makes a huge post about advice no one needs >posts it on casual discussion >wants ppl to take them seriously and see them as 'a hero' >"humor 101" advice from me is to pass on humor because you are looking like a complete fool who can't say anything other than counter your disillusion with "humor 101 bro! LMFAO xD i'm so funneeeeee" |
"Stand up and walk. Keep moving forward. You've got two good legs. So get up and use them. You're strong enough to make your own path." |
| I'm accepting all friend requests for as long as the person is not a bot. Don't think too much about them, even if they do have benefits which IpreferEcchi mentioned further above. By the way: the status "online" usually stays for the first 15 minutes. After that, it changes to "last online: 16 minutes ago". However, I rarely request myself if at all. If I request, it means that I am genuinely interested in becoming closer to someone or feel close enough to someone after maybe having shared some more intimate talks. Some trivia to friend lists on MAL: you used to be able to view who exactly had made the request by going to the list of friends. The one who had requested it would have the date of when the friend has accepted on their friend list. There is also the "Top Friends" list when you click the menu under your profile name and select "Friends": https://myanimelist.net/myfriends.php People there are never removed even when they remove you from your friend list. And since it's user-ID based (like profile conversations), even when they change usernames, they will still remain in your list. It gives a quick overview of their last online status, their birthday (if stated) and their last list updates. Links to your Com-to-Com profile conversations and to the respective inbox (PM) of the other person are also there, which makes it useful since you can quickly message the people that feel closer to you. |
NoboruAug 26, 2018 1:40 PM
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