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Oct 23, 2023 7:04 AM
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If you reply, state if you want to have a baby or not.

I DON'T want a baby. "Live together. Don't get married. Plus FWB / Swinging." (with conditions)
Oct 23, 2023 7:14 AM
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I'm old fashioned so I would want to get married and have at least 1 kid.

However, practically speaking I may not even get married at all considering what society and it's individuals are like, as well as the cost of living.
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Oct 23, 2023 7:23 AM
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2d>3d no kids

If you mean what I think is ideal
Sugar mama 3 kids

That is only for the top 20% of guys so not really realistic. Lol
Oct 23, 2023 7:30 AM
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@Enlightened_Anon My legacy comes from influencing people with my ideas.

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Oct 23, 2023 7:51 AM
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maybe one day I'll be able to marry and have kids, but given the way things are going, the chances of that ever happening are pretty slim.
Oct 23, 2023 8:34 AM
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2D only, much better for the soul, the mind and especially for the wallet hehe. πŸ’‘=πŸ’Έ
Oct 23, 2023 8:51 AM
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I'd like to get married and have my own kid, but I don't know if I'd want to have the child or adopt. On the one hand, a baby would probably be a lot of work, but I love children, so it won't bother me that much. But on the other hand, there are plenty or older children that don't get adopted because everyone wants babies. It's hard to decide tbh...I guess I'll figure it out when I'm older.
Oct 23, 2023 8:57 AM
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Marriage is the only way. I just want to be happy.
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Oct 23, 2023 9:06 AM
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I'm not against marriage, but having kids sounds like a nightmare.
Oct 23, 2023 9:11 AM
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I cannot vote because my circumstance is all boiled up from lesbianism, wanting to have kids, and having lesbian mistress(es).
Oct 23, 2023 9:18 AM

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Well for a future I would like my relationship to grow into Marriage, without any additional fwb/swinging as I am loyal towards my partner.

Yes I would like to have somewhere in the future, children, a son and a daughter.
Oct 23, 2023 9:20 AM
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Oct 23, 2023 9:27 AM
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Marriage is the only way. I just want to be happy.
@JaniSIr hey were a lot alike. Love concert and believe in marriage
Oct 23, 2023 11:16 AM

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Somewhere between I only like 2D and don't want love or sex
Oct 23, 2023 11:19 AM

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Oct 23, 2023 2:27 PM

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I'm old fashioned so I would want to get married and have at least 1 kid.

However, practically speaking I may not even get married at all considering what society and it's individuals are like, as well as the cost of living.
@3miL Yeah, it would be nice to have that, though I'd prefer 2-3 kids if the living situation allows for it so that the child has at least 1-2 siblings

I get that, though for me it seems way less-likely to actually find someone where there is mutual respect, mutual trust and mutual interest in the first place. Someone where both of us would be able to accept our good and bad sides and who would be like the best friend ever
Oct 23, 2023 4:32 PM

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Just so you know, everyone who admits they voted "Married. "The one."' is going on my ignored users list.

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Oct 23, 2023 4:46 PM

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Live together, don't get married, no kids. Don't want to spend extra time finding other dates. That's part of the benefit of having a girlfriend.

Marriage and having children are like blind long term investments, like if you blindfolded yourself and typed random letters into Google and bought the first ticker that popped up with your entire bank account, and you can't divest for the next 20 years. I feel like only idiots would make that decision.
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Oct 23, 2023 4:47 PM

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Everyone wants to have a legacy no? If not, then why even bother having intercourse?
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Oct 23, 2023 4:48 PM

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Marriage. I really hope it'll happen to me one day. And that we'll be happy together.

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Oct 23, 2023 5:34 PM

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Technically you can't live together and not be married in some places because after enough years you legally are considered married. Id be fine with or without marriage, it really is more just a legal documentation and purely is for tax purposes to me since any real love wouldnt need to be proven with something that is so trivial these days where you can just get a divorce anyway so I dont see it as that significant compared to other ways of showing your love.
Oct 23, 2023 5:51 PM

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Invited but I'm not sure I want to say. I want my spouse to be of a certain kind that I'm kinda embarrassed to talk about. They it's been eating me up inside for the part couple of months I think. If I. Being honest. Honestly I'm not sure a.y of the a years are very good I the pklr. At least not for what I'm lookingodrm I think I want a combo of some of the options in the poll.
Oct 23, 2023 6:20 PM

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Effectively I'm in the 2D only category. I'm not really interested in marriage in the modern day. Hard to find pure women nowadays. Plus living today in general is pretty tough on finances. Not much hope for my future. And as it stands now, my expectations for women are ruined due to my porn consumption over the years.

But in truth I would like to get married to a woman who has only ever been intimate with me and no other man. Whether we have kids or not doesn't matter so much. But I also want one-sided sexual freedom (like I can screw who I want and watch/read all the porn I want, but my wife can't).

In summary I'm a selfish, irresponsible, piece of shit. Probably for the best that no one gets married to me.

It's also worth noting that although I do have a waifu, I don't consider myself as being in a relationship, rather I consider that as simple one-sided affection for a fictional character, or perhaps a vague hope that she will be waiting for me in the afterlife.
Oct 23, 2023 7:39 PM
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2D only, dating and romance and all of that stuff is like the bubonic plague to me and that I will do everything in my effort to not get infected.



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Oct 23, 2023 9:29 PM

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i don't know how guys can talk to many girls. one is already enough to manage.
Oct 24, 2023 7:46 PM

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I hate both women and children so I prefer 2D. My detest of women is why I'm vocal about enjoying Loli Hentai IRL. Excellent bitch reppelent.
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Oct 24, 2023 9:38 PM

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Wow so many black-pilled takes in the reply's. Well that's fine more women for me I guess.
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Oct 26, 2023 3:54 AM

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@Enlightened_Anon Yeah the website has value, but you're not producing value. It wouldn't be your legacy, it would be the owner of MAL's legacy.
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Oct 26, 2023 9:14 AM

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Long term i choose the vanilla approach.
Oct 26, 2023 12:04 PM
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"FWB / swinging" is for total human garbage, obviously.

"The one" with no marriage is ideal for men (no fault divorce combined with biased divorce court makes marriage a scam for men--that's just the material reality of things). But 99% of women looking to settle down aren't going to be okay with never marrying, so realistically, if you do meet the right person and want a life together, you might have to bite the bullet and take a calculated risk with marriage if you want it to last. Obviously get a prenup but they can be thrown out by judges, so expect to lose half your shit if things go south anyway.
Oct 26, 2023 6:30 PM

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I think it'd be nice to live together and have kids, would want ideally two or more. Marriage would be more if it was useful or they desired it
Marriage sounds really cool as a concept to me, though it seems to be harsh some times in reality and love is love no matter what papers say about it
Might grow to actively want to marry though hm I could see it happening

Oct 28, 2023 5:21 AM

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"FWB / swinging" is for total human garbage, obviously.

"The one" with no marriage is ideal for men (no fault divorce combined with biased divorce court makes marriage a scam for men--that's just the material reality of things). But 99% of women looking to settle down aren't going to be okay with never marrying, so realistically, if you do meet the right person and want a life together, you might have to bite the bullet and take a calculated risk with marriage if you want it to last. Obviously get a prenup but they can be thrown out by judges, so expect to lose half your shit if things go south anyway.
OfficerPoon said:
"FWB / swinging" is for total human garbage, obviously.
Most people who want a swinger lifestyle obviously understand that sleeping around goes both ways, but the reality of that consequence hasn't sunk in. They most likely don't realize that the girl will be out getting far more mileage than themselves. People who think swinging is for human garbage obviously don't realize this either.

OfficerPoon said:
But 99% of women looking to settle down aren't going to be okay with never marrying
Considering that the only real advantage to marriage is a legal one (e.g. tax deducations, hospital visitation rights, etc.), any female that feels the need to get registered on a piece of paper so the government could spy on them besides those practical reasons are clearly just a girl, not a woman. And I don't know about anyone else, but I'm into women, not little girls. Someone that doesn't trust in the relationship and needs a piece of paper or an expensive rock to tell them they're in a relationship is clearly on the same level as those weak men who think letting the woman do what she wants is an assault to their manhood. Women who think an untrustworthy man is forced to settle down due to marriage are just as deluded as jealous men who think an untrustworthy girl becomes magically trustworthy if only they monitor her, lock her in the kitchen and prevent them from getting an OnlyFans.

99% of women are okay with never marrying. Maybe not 99% of little girls. Just like how 99% of little boys don't trust in their own judgment and think losing half their shit is a toss up.
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Oct 28, 2023 5:38 AM

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I'm old fashioned so I would want to get married and have at least 1 kid.

However, practically speaking I may not even get married at all considering what society and it's individuals are like, as well as the cost of living.
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This pretty much.
Except in my case Social anxiety would be added to the category of it not being likely to happen.
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Oct 28, 2023 4:07 PM

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Marriage but no kids, adoption is a great alternative, or adopt a cat/dog for more fuwa fuwa
Nov 22, 2023 10:04 PM
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OfficerPoon said:
"FWB / swinging" is for total human garbage, obviously.
Most people who want a swinger lifestyle obviously understand that sleeping around goes both ways, but the reality of that consequence hasn't sunk in. They most likely don't realize that the girl will be out getting far more mileage than themselves. People who think swinging is for human garbage obviously don't realize this either.

OfficerPoon said:
But 99% of women looking to settle down aren't going to be okay with never marrying
Considering that the only real advantage to marriage is a legal one (e.g. tax deducations, hospital visitation rights, etc.), any female that feels the need to get registered on a piece of paper so the government could spy on them besides those practical reasons are clearly just a girl, not a woman. And I don't know about anyone else, but I'm into women, not little girls. Someone that doesn't trust in the relationship and needs a piece of paper or an expensive rock to tell them they're in a relationship is clearly on the same level as those weak men who think letting the woman do what she wants is an assault to their manhood. Women who think an untrustworthy man is forced to settle down due to marriage are just as deluded as jealous men who think an untrustworthy girl becomes magically trustworthy if only they monitor her, lock her in the kitchen and prevent them from getting an OnlyFans.

99% of women are okay with never marrying. Maybe not 99% of little girls. Just like how 99% of little boys don't trust in their own judgment and think losing half their shit is a toss up.
@katsucats

Hospital visitation rights are KINDA important, as much as being the legal parent to a child that is not biologically mine or hers, in the case of a deadly accident or anything. As much as being able to coinsure your partner. Guess only little girls want that? I dunno lol.


Anyways, I like the monogamous relationship as it is, but won't be against a poly either - not open tho.
I'd like to have a kid, but we also like to able to focus on academics and having freetime. Maybe in like 10 years?
And do plan a ~ civil partnership ~.
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Hospital visitation rights are KINDA important, as much as being the legal parent to a child that is not biologically mine or hers, in the case of a deadly accident or anything. As much as being able to coinsure your partner. Guess only little girls want that? I dunno lol.

That's why I eventually came to the conclusion of marriage abolition. I mean Im fine with people doing it as a religious or cultural ritual or just for fun ceremony but it doesn't belong in the law. Instead these same rights marriage gives should be both given to all or broken up into separate categories that more people can get in on whether or not they decide to marry. So like something for people that have kids, people that co-habitate, close relationship but not necessarily "family" in current sense of the word so it could be a platonic but close friendship etc... Amusing plus side to this is it technically should satisfy what otherwise would be opposing views because it gives everyone what they want just in a way they didnt anticipate. Though of course it should be set up so it can be exchangeable for marriage in other countries if someone moves.

Risa92 said:
Anyways, I like the monogamous relationship as it is, but won't be against a poly either - not open tho.
I'd like to have a kid, but we also like to able to focus on academics and having freetime. Maybe in like 10 years?
And do plan a ~ civil partnership ~.

So if you dont mean open do you mean a relationship of three people where everyone is into the other two? Since if it's just one person with two then that's mostly the same as an open relationship Id think?
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Marry a weeb i can share hobbies with. I don't mind kids but i need property and finance sorted first.
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Married without kids would be the dream, honestly.
But I pretty much think I'll be single forever, not because it's hard to find a significant one, but because I'm gonna move a lot and it could be difficoult to have a permanent home.
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Hospital visitation rights are KINDA important, as much as being the legal parent to a child that is not biologically mine or hers, in the case of a deadly accident or anything. As much as being able to coinsure your partner. Guess only little girls want that? I dunno lol.

That's why I eventually came to the conclusion of marriage abolition. I mean Im fine with people doing it as a religious or cultural ritual or just for fun ceremony but it doesn't belong in the law. Instead these same rights marriage gives should be both given to all or broken up into separate categories that more people can get in on whether or not they decide to marry. So like something for people that have kids, people that co-habitate, close relationship but not necessarily "family" in current sense of the word so it could be a platonic but close friendship etc... Amusing plus side to this is it technically should satisfy what otherwise would be opposing views because it gives everyone what they want just in a way they didnt anticipate. Though of course it should be set up so it can be exchangeable for marriage in other countries if someone moves.

Risa92 said:
Anyways, I like the monogamous relationship as it is, but won't be against a poly either - not open tho.
I'd like to have a kid, but we also like to able to focus on academics and having freetime. Maybe in like 10 years?
And do plan a ~ civil partnership ~.

So if you dont mean open do you mean a relationship of three people where everyone is into the other two? Since if it's just one person with two then that's mostly the same as an open relationship Id think?
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Yes, I think the same. It should be easier to give people close to you certain rights and abolish marriage as an institution by law.

Pretty much. I'm alright with both of us liking a person and including them as a fix part of our relationship. That person doesn't have to be like "love of my life" lol, but I want to like them. But I think constellations like that might be too time-consuming overall.
What I wouldn't agree upon is an open relationship, aka a person my partner has sex with but isn't a part of the relationship or anything.
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@traed

Yes, I think the same. It should be easier to give people close to you certain rights and abolish marriage as an institution by law.

Pretty much. I'm alright with both of us liking a person and including them as a fix part of our relationship. That person doesn't have to be like "love of my life" lol, but I want to like them. But I think constellations like that might be too time-consuming overall.
What I wouldn't agree upon is an open relationship, aka a person my partner has sex with but isn't a part of the relationship or anything.
@Risa92
Hm i thought open relationship means each person is allowed to date more than just eachother. I think swinging is where it is just sex. Though these terms use seems to differ person to person maybe.
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Live together, don't get married, the one.
Me and my gf have been together for almost 6 years now, settled down, bought a house, don't want kids and aren't planning to get married.

Marriage isn't as popular nowadays here as it used to be, sure young people still get married, but just living together without marriage isn't an uncommon thing anymore, since there's enough workarounds when buying property or something to protect both parties in case of a breakup that don't require marriage. Unless you have kids, then it's easier to get married just for the paperwork, which quite some people here do without any ceremony.

@traed

I thought swinging was something you do together as in you go to a club or find another couple who's into it and mix stuff up or just get a third person involved while an open relationship is more like each do their own thing sex-wise but your partner is still the main one. Though I could be wrong.
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Dracowyn said:
I thought swinging was something you do together as in you go to a club or find another couple who's into it and mix stuff up or just get a third person involved while an open relationship is more like each do their own thing sex-wise but your partner is still the main one. Though I could be wrong.

Yeah I think swinging is partner swapping but I think it also may also mean having your partner have sex with other people, sometimes even ones you pick for them which can also go into cuckhold territory but not necessarily...I guess? I don't really know these things since not known anyone personally involved in such things.
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@Risa92
Hm i thought open relationship means each person is allowed to date more than just eachother. I think swinging is where it is just sex. Though these terms use seems to differ person to person maybe.
@traed

To me it's more like:
Poly: You are both in an exclusive relationship with another person, or it's some other kind of close relationship, romantic, sexual or not, you both have to that person.
Open: Partner is allowed to have sex with someone else, but not a relationship.
Swinging: More like swinging parties you are visiting as a couple together.

I wouldn't want option 2 or 3.
And I prefer monogamy too, because I imagine it as really exhausting dealing with two relationships, I dunno.

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