ooo333 said: I have many female friends (both that I consider attractive and unattractive). But I can never consider a female a "best friend". Because no matter what, I dont think I can truly be myself around them. I feel like I have to hold back on my personality. ooo333 has that hidden pain. |
| This thread is so stupid I almost turned my computer off and went to bed. |
 But yeah, anyone can say anything. |
| Yes. Why wouldn't they? |
| If we are talking about best friend here (not one of, not a close friend but the best, or the first among equals) then I think it would be very hard. The reason being that you both realize that you have a lot in common, can really confide in each other and can resolve problems between yourselves easily. Plus if you really are best friends that means your families know each other well so no complications there. Thus you both start to realize how easy it is to have a relationship with that person and the advantages it can bring both of you. I might even go as far to say it's an opportunity wasted because most of the time you have the perfect partner right there. Btw fuck buddies and partners/lovers are two different things. Partner/lover is something more. |
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Shimapan-chan said: This thread is so stupid I almost turned my computer off and went to bed. Smart thinking. |
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| they can if one of them is asexual or into the same gender |
| save all the cute girls from ntr manga |
| Sure they can, one probably just cries themself to sleep at night |
Eylandos said: I always laugh at people who say this. No Killaclown said: Oh, know I know why I do this.Sure they can, one probably just cries themself to sleep at night |
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| My best friend is a girl and we're not romantically inclined towards each other. Yeah she's pretty cute and we obviously have a lot in common and such but neither of us have any interest in dating or having sex. Admittedly, in the past there was a time were we discussed it but neither of us felt strongly enough to pursue it, we're just happy as we are. |
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| Mistress > Best Female Friend Enough said. |
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MechaKiryu said: glad I could help :)Killaclown said: Oh, now I know why I do this.Sure they can, one probably just cries themself to sleep at night |
TookMe6Years said: Mistress > Best Female Friend Enough said. I would love to have a personal mistress. |
 All credit goes to Sacred. |
Killaclown said: Sure they can, one probably just cries themself to sleep at night |
 Anime is good, fucking deal with it. |
| I do believe in existence of true friendship between different sex. |
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| [center][size=90]My best friend is a guy! And I'd even go so far as to say that I might have more friends that are guys than friends that are girls. But when I was younger, I tended to hang around the boys [ it's far cooler to play Dragons than to play Princesses, right? ], so I still feel more comfortable hanging around guys. My parents actually had to encourage me to make friends of my own gender once I entered middle school. Sure, a few of them did express romantic interest in me. I either politely tried to turn them down or decided to go to things like school dances with them, but never allowed anything to develop into a serious relationship. As for my best friend, well, he's never shown that he likes anyone. He comes over to my house all the time, and we go into my room ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) ...and play League of Legends for five hours. I think that for all of my life, my best friend has been a guy. And I genuinely have fun hanging out with my guy friends- even if I'm the only girl there, I never feel uncomfortable or anything. I've never liked my best friend; he's never liked me. I've never liked any of my guy friends [ ahaha ], and I'd say that most of them also see me as only a friend. We're all happy; it's no problem. |
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| My best friend is male. |
| We need more Friends of Justice. |
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Puppet-kun said: My best friend is a girl and we're not romantically inclined towards each other. Yeah she's pretty cute and we obviously have a lot in common and such but neither of us have any interest in dating or having sex. Admittedly, in the past there was a time were we discussed it but neither of us felt strongly enough to pursue it, we're just happy as we are. I hope you're happy with the beta-feels once she leaves you behind for a boyfriend who probably won't look upon such friendship favorably. |
TookMe6Years said: #GenderEqualityWe need more Friends of Justice. |
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MechaKiryu said: TookMe6Years said: #GenderEqualityWe need more Friends of Justice. [yt]lbEtbNs9MoU[/ yt] Did someone say GENDER EQUALITY?! |
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| I have a lot of best friends who are guys! I don't think it's anything weird or uncommon. o: |
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Angelise said: of course not, most of us just assume they are into you :pI have a lot of best friends who are guys! I don't think it's anything weird or uncommon. o: |
Killaclown said: Angelise said: of course not, most of us just assume they are into you :pI have a lot of best friends who are guys! I don't think it's anything weird or uncommon. o: No no no! They are like brothers to me. I could never look at them any other way! I don't think they are into me like that too! >_< |
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Angelise said: Killaclown said: of course not, most of us just assume they are into you :p No no no! They are like brothers to me. I could never look at them any other way! I don't think they are into me like that too! >_< Hello MAL logic.  |
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damastah said: Angelise said: No no no! They are like brothers to me. I could never look at them any other way! I don't think they are into me like that too! >_< Hello MAL logic. What is MAL logic? :/ I am still new here... |
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Angelise said: damastah said: Hello MAL logic. What is MAL logic? :/ I am still new here... You're a month older than me account-wise(then again I've lurked since 2009-ish so...) but basically, >The majority adhere to Murphy's Law: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murphy%27s_law >The majority will use logical conduits as a means to detract your statements >Anything that isn't attuned to subject matter like feelings and stuff is treated as "strawmans" or "irrelevant fodder" >The aforementioned cynical outlook I told you in the "should cheating be illegal thread" >Shitposting is the way to go sometimes |
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damastah said: FUCK YEAH!MechaKiryu said: #GenderEquality Did someone say GENDER EQUALITY?! EDIT: I had to change the video I originally posted because it was too edgy for MAL. |
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damastah said: Angelise said: What is MAL logic? :/ I am still new here... You're a month older than me account-wise(then again I've lurked since 2009-ish so...) but basically, >The majority adhere to Murphy's Law: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murphy%27s_law >The majority will use logical conduits as a means to detract your statements >Anything that isn't attuned to subject matter like feelings and stuff is treated as "strawmans" or "irrelevant fodder" >The aforementioned cynical outlook I told you in the "should cheating be illegal thread" >Shitposting is the way to go sometimes I just made an account a year ago and never really went on this site after that... :/ Anyway, I guess I kinda understand what you're trying to say, I still think that it is really possible that romantic feelings don't develop between a guy or a girl... just because nature usually says so doesn't mean it always happens because humans are complicated creatures... |
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MechaKiryu said: damastah said: FUCK YEAH!Did someone say GENDER EQUALITY?! [yt]bCjcF9FpCQQ[/ yt] EDIT: I had to change the video I originally posted because it was too edgy for MAL. [yt]Wt3MYqbRWGs[/ yt] Lol Toaru is very good. |
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| @angel- all true, but I think it's a little naive to think your friends "just can't see you that way since you don't see them that way", even if they wouldn't act on it we are still guys and we are kind of wired like that, though if they really see you as a sis or you just aren't their type that's kind of different but the whole see you as a sister thing doesn't really sound likely when it's multiple guys.... we can be true friends and still be attracted to the other person and hopefully that's as far as the feelings go |
| I don't see why not. |
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| Kinda funny how people are still denying that friendships between two people of the opposite gender are possible when so many people are giving personal examples on how it's, indeed, a reality. |
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Halicone said: yeah most happen to be women for some reason......Kinda funny how people are still denying that friendships between two people of the opposite gender are possible when so many people are giving personal examples on how it's, indeed, a reality. |
Killaclown said: I'm not a woman.Halicone said: yeah most happen to be women for some reason......Kinda funny how people are still denying that friendships between two people of the opposite gender are possible when so many people are giving personal examples on how it's, indeed, a reality. |
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| Yes. This should have a poll. No, maybe it just shouldn't have been asked. |
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Involtus said: +1No, maybe it just shouldn't have been asked. |
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| No. Lately I've been very disappointed by guys, who tend to give you up once they understand that you're not interested in a relationship with them, or are not the kind of girl who would have sex with them "because it's cool everybody does that why being so stuck-up?" (by the one I used to consider as my male best friend, who I know since I'm 10). Actually, each time a girl is kind, it's misinterpreted as romance or arousal. I can't even count the number of guys, no matter how close I was to them, who were convinced I was attracted to them, because I acted kind. Yes, I may have been attached to some, but not attracted ! And yes, if one tries, there's the delusion of a refusal, and awkardeness instead of the friendly atmosphere that used to be. So, my experience taught me that friendship is impossible with guys. Also, I'm a bit harsh because of recent experiences that almost make me think "They're definitely all the same" (I know it's wrong but well I'm starting to wonder). I'm still waiting for the one who would make me change my mind. I would want a genuine friendship with a guy so much. I love talking to guys. |
| Teenage boy myself and I find it hard not to like girls who I am friendly with. Best way is to have lots of crushes so that a mix of indecisiveness and cowardice means I wont be asking any of them out any time soon. Probably partly to do with fear of being rejected for the 3rd time even if those rejections where my fault for liking people who really did not like me. There is one girl who I am friends with and have no intention of having a relationship with. She is having a gender identity crisis atm anyway and she is kinda fat can't believe I said that but fuck it, I am allowed to be a bit shallow!. Mentalii said: No. Lately I've been very disappointed by guys, who tend to give you up once they understand that you're not interested in a relationship with them, or are not the kind of girl who would have sex with them "because it's cool everybody does that why being so stuck-up?" (by the one I used to consider as my male best friend, who I know since I'm 10). Actually, each time a girl is kind, it's misinterpreted as romance or arousal. I can't even count the number of guys, no matter how close I was to them, who were convinced I was attracted to them, because I acted kind. Yes, I may have been attached to some, but not attracted ! And yes, if one tries, there's the delusion of a refusal, and awkardeness instead of the friendly atmosphere that used to be. So, my experience taught me that friendship is impossible with guys. Also, I'm a bit harsh because of recent experiences that almost make me think "They're definitely all the same" (I know it's wrong but well I'm starting to wonder). I'm still waiting for the one who would make me change my mind. I would want a genuine friendship with a guy so much. I love talking to guys. Understand where you are coming from and it must be frustrating by most of the time I am ignored by people. A lot of guys are yearning for a romantic relationship and a girl talking to them is a big step up from being ignored that they can easily misinterpret. |
Anime is good, fucking deal with it. |
| I don't know about that I've never been able to maintain a platonic relationship with any guy, maybe it's just me. I think it's definitely possible if it's like a strictly online friendship |
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| Yes they can and it's so annoying to think they can't. |
MechaKiryu said: good for you, do you deny the statement I made or just saying how you were one of the males, I don't believe it's impossible but I think it's rare for their not to be attraction unless both are just not each others typeKillaclown said: I'm not a woman.yeah most happen to be women for some reason...... |
| 'if you only have extended conversations with a single member of the gender you are attracted to, you'll fall for them, regardless of your own gender' is not always true, but it's way more true than 'everyone will only get along with everyone of the gender they are attracted to because they secretly hope to get laid' and easy to see why it would affect some people here... lonely people aren't often picky and are psychologically more prone to exaggerating signals they receive |
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