| I have a few friends in particular that seem to always be throwing themselves a pity party. 99% of the time it's about them being single and how the world is so unfair and they'll have to die alone. Those friends finally get a date or even a boyfriend/girlfriend, and their insecurities just cause them problems. Like the kind of person who constantly talks like their partner must not really love them or want to be with them, because... who would? Have you ever dated this kind of person? and if so, what kind of behavior just drove you nuts in specific? My husband can be very "woe is me" in regards to financial problems and his job, but -not- in regards to our relationship... so while I completely understand the frustration of dealing with all that pessimism, I don't really know the feeling of having a partner that is always insecure about your relationship. Ok, well we had moments here or there over the past decade, but it's not his general personality. |
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| No I date only positive - funny person. look carefully at person and u will know if he is lazy, negative or positive |
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AllenVonStein said: No I date only positive - funny person. look carefully at person and u will know if he is lazy, negative or positive You can be a negative person but funny >.< I consider my husband pessimistic, but he's the funniest person I've ever met. On the other hand, I'm pretty optimistic... but I really have no sense of humor to speak of. My friends that are like that always seem to come to me for advice for some reason. We're not really close at all, they pretty much -only- talk to me when asking for relationship advice. I can tell my guy friends flat out that they really need to act a little more confident in a relationship. But at least one of my female friends... I feel like if I put it so blatantly, she'd go search for a bridge or something O.o and I have no problem imagining why she's still single when I'm afraid to be honest with her as just a friend. |
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JadeQuetzal said: and they'll have to die alone. Everyone dies alone, derp. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: JadeQuetzal said: and they'll have to die alone. Everyone dies alone, derp. have it your way.... they'll have to grow old and die a bachelor/ bachelorette ** |
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JadeQuetzal said: Kibura_Iburasa said: Everyone dies alone, derp. have it your way.... they'll have to grow old and die a bachelor/ bachelorette ** No seriously, everyone every single one of us is going to die alone. Its how life is, when you die you go alone doesn't matter if people are around you when you go you travel with a one seat ticket. They can love people in life but they will die alone. So they are not wrong in saying it. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: JadeQuetzal said: have it your way.... they'll have to grow old and die a bachelor/ bachelorette ** No seriously, everyone single one of us is going to die alone. Its how life is, when you die you go alone doesn't matter if people are around you when you go you travel with a one seat ticket. They can love people in life but they will die alone. So they are not wrong in saying it. While we don't know for sure what happens after or if there is an after, I see what you're saying.... but you know they aren't being literal, and are expressing their fear for having to be lonely for the rest of their days. You're right, it should probably be "live alone", but I guess "die alone" just emphasizes that they'll be alone until death (which might also be a better way to put it). |
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| I never dated anyone in my life. :< |
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JadeQuetzal said: While we don't know for sure what happens after or if there is an after, I see what you're saying.... but you know they aren't being literal, and are expressing their fear for having to be lonely for the rest of their days. You're right, it should probably be "live alone", but I guess "die alone" just emphasizes that they'll be alone until death (which might also be a better way to put it). Meh sayings never are ones to make much sense more an impact. As for the topic no Ive never dated someone negative, never dated. I am a negative person mainly but I certainly wouldn't give it up to appear happy go lucky just to get a date. I'm ok with 'dying alone' though. As for your friends, tell them life does not mean you are entitled to romance, love or companionship you want it go get it, if you don't then shut it and carry on been negative. |
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| Nah, never had a date before. Probably because I'm negative and insecure. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: JadeQuetzal said: and they'll have to die alone. Everyone dies alone, derp. Suicide bombers can help fix that. |
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judals said: Kibura_Iburasa said: Everyone dies alone, derp. Suicide bombers can help fix that. ure crazy mate |
burrit0 said: judals said: Suicide bombers can help fix that. ure crazy mate He doesn't want to die alone, no? ;-) |
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LadyRenly said: Nah, never had a date before. Probably because I'm negative and insecure.  |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: LadyRenly said: Nah, never had a date before. Probably because I'm negative and insecure. Damnit, I so have a crush on Joey >_> |
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| All girls are insecure in middle school. Once upon a time i had those problems too If two people are meant to be together that negativity and insecurity won't last |
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| No, but it sounds like hell. |
Heikin_kokosei said: All girls are insecure in middle school. Once upon a time i had those problems too If two people are meant to be together that negativity and insecurity won't last My friends that are like that are in their 30s and 40s. It makes me wonder, though, how 2 equally negative people would get along in an intimate relationship? I'd assume it would be double trouble... but then again, they might click because of a deeper understanding of one another? |
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| I can date an insecure person but not a negative one, I need an optimistic partner to counter my realism and pessimism. |
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Hoppy said: I can date an insecure person but not a negative one, I need an optimistic partner to counter my realism and pessimism. What if the other person is saying the same thing, then you'll never get a date lol |
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| Yeah, still am. tho, Its not a big issue like it was when we first started. |
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| <---- never dated anyone . Forever alone . |
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| My waifu is very insecure, I must tell her my love everyday. |
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| People still date? |
| yeah it's a real downer when the person you're trying to go out with just starts crying randomly all the time because they fear losing their popularity due to going out with you. -_- |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| I never had any date. |
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OnlyEpix said: yeah it's a real downer when the person you're trying to go out with just starts crying randomly all the time because they fear losing their popularity due to going out with you. -_- Dayum have more self respect and date people who aren't like that. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: OnlyEpix said: yeah it's a real downer when the person you're trying to go out with just starts crying randomly all the time because they fear losing their popularity due to going out with you. -_- Dayum have more self respect and date people who aren't like that. she was really cute, i just had no idea how to handle it once that happened. telling her to 'be in the moment' didn't work too well haha... |
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OnlyEpix said: yeah it's a real downer when the person you're trying to go out with just starts crying randomly all the time because they fear losing their popularity due to going out with you. -_- Wait... seriously? And you just put up with being told that? Insulting and demeaning doesn't even begin to cover it o.O I hope you're not still with her. She sounds like a dreadful person... |
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LadyRenly said: Why does nobody ever ask Joey, how he's doing?Kibura_Iburasa said: Damnit, I so have a crush on Joey >_> |
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OnlyEpix said: Kibura_Iburasa said: Dayum have more self respect and date people who aren't like that. she was really cute, i just had no idea how to handle it once that happened. telling her to 'be in the moment' didn't work too well haha... Should have told her to stick her popularity where the sun don't shine instead. |
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JadeQuetzal said: OnlyEpix said: yeah it's a real downer when the person you're trying to go out with just starts crying randomly all the time because they fear losing their popularity due to going out with you. -_- Wait... seriously? And you just put up with being told that? Insulting and demeaning doesn't even begin to cover it o.O I hope you're not still with her. She sounds like a dreadful person... 'dreadful' is the word, lol. i didn't take it too hard though because after all i was just psyched that i got with her in the first place ;) but yeah, not too much you can do when somebody is gonna just turn their back on you so rapidly. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: OnlyEpix said: she was really cute, i just had no idea how to handle it once that happened. telling her to 'be in the moment' didn't work too well haha... Should have told her to stick her popularity where the sun don't shine instead. well that's exactly what happened, lol |
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OnlyEpix said: i didn't take it too hard though because after all i was just psyched that i got with her in the first place ;) Then you need to build self confidence first before you consider dating again. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: OnlyEpix said: i didn't take it too hard though because after all i was just psyched that i got with her in the first place ;) Then you need to build self confidence first before you consider dating again. you may be reading the situation incorrectly, it took plenty of self confidence to even ask her out to begin with, is what i am saying. and from there i just kept a positive mindset. i mean, if it was in the cards i wouldn't mind hooking up with her again >_> i still see her around sometimes ;;D |
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| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| The more i read, the more that the struggle becomes real. |
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| I've dated a very insecure girl before, worked out well because i gave her confidence in herself and she made me have ambitions and goals. We were together for several years. |
| Once. A long time ago. After that I made it a point to avoid them. It was always about her looks. She kept saying she didn't feel pretty enough even though (and I have very high standards) I assured her she was, but she kept going on and on about it to the point I couldn't tell if srs or not srs. In the end, I did tell her I wanted to split up, not because she wasn't attractive to me, but because no matter how much I told her she was, she'd say she didn't feel like it and it was driving me up the wall. She's a mom now and not so pretty anymore. Meth'll do that to ya, I guess. Heard the guy she hooked up with after me got her into it. Ain't nobody got time for dat. |
NTAD said: Well she has time since she's probably up 5 days straight at a time.Once. A long time ago. After that I made it a point to avoid them. It was always about her looks. She kept saying she didn't feel pretty enough even though (and I have very high standards) I assured her she was, but she kept going on and on about it to the point I couldn't tell if srs or not srs. In the end, I did tell her I wanted to split up, not because she wasn't attractive to me, but because no matter how much I told her she was, she'd say she didn't feel like it and it was driving me up the wall. She's a mom now and not so pretty anymore. Meth'll do that to ya, I guess. Heard the guy she hooked up with after me got her into it. Ain't nobody got time for dat. |
flaxman85 said: slice of life = slice of waste my fucking time brb grown ass men getting a hard on watching little pubescent girls playing music al instrument or doing random shit in school wtf is this shit fuckthisgayearth.gif |
| i never dated before but if i did i would date a realistic person |
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| I don't want to date someone who bums me out. |
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| I had that problem once with an ex of mine not too long ago. She had problems with her past and she always brings it up as a reason as to why she's not good enough nor deserves happiness and such things, even though she knew I have a nihilist and knew that what happened in her past doesn't bother me in the slightest and knows that I accept a lot of things. In the end we broke up because it got too much and she wouldn't even acknowledge the fact that I have accepted her long ago and some other personal problems. Other than her, I've dated some people that were negative but I like those kind of people. |
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| Yeah. It was hell. It was like balancing the world on my fingers. Don't want to do that again. Constantly trying to fix things that aren't even broken. Constantly sacrificing my time and desires for mere reassurance. The problem is that people like me get hooked to people like that. It's crazy but people like me become dependent on this shit, and we trap ourselves into it thinking it's worth it somehow. I don't need someone perfect. Hell some of the things I want are what most would call flaws. But I'm not going to deal with someone who has such a tiny and fragile world. Not anymore. |
beavis2323 said: i never dated before but if i did i would date a realistic person Yo dawg tell dem gurls about yo post count and they be drippin yo |
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Meokii said: I am that person. *sob* :( Don't make me feel guilty!!! |
| What's so bad about negativity/insecurity? It probably means that the other person really likes you and is afraid to lose you. It's up to you to make that person believe in you and lose their insecurity. The problem is the media that always makes fun of those kinds of people. But as for me, I'd rather be with a person like that than with some arrogant "oh, I'm da best, everyone loves me"- type of person. |
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