_Maneki-Neko_ said: foxsurprise said: Yeah, I think I could do that. Lack of sex isn't a lack of intimacy, just intercourse itself isn't done. But sex doesn't mean intercourse. You know, if this was true, it might be difficult to have sex for lesbian couples. xD Everything more than hugging, kissing and cuddling counts as sex in my eyes. And I'm pretty sure that a lot of asexual people aren't into any of that ways you could live your intimacy with your partner. Oh whoops, the English Definition slipped my mind, forgot it is the penetrative type of sex instead of just sex XD. I guess I could put sex in there instead next time I mention sex. And I'm pretty sure that a lot of asexual people aren't into any of that ways you could live your intimacy with your partner. Don't know if that part is for me, if you didn't, ignore the next part |
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| I think it's fine to save sex for later in a relationship... this isn't the sitcom Friends, we don't need to assume each other a bunch of well sexed adults. That being said, there's nothing to fear from sex. I would never write it off in a relationship. |
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| I think I could live with that I like to have time for myself (aka not having sex every other minute of the day) so having a partner who could live with minimum bodily contact sounds like a pretty great deal to me |
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Gerbilcity said: mane1910 said: Yep, why not. Psychological bonding for me is far more important than sex. also just like romance in general like doing nice things for your partner Yeah, definitely, I think that's part of the combo, although the definition of 'nice things' is tied, I guess, to how each relationship is built - for example romantics and aromantics. |
Mo168 said: Isn’t that just another way of having a (platonic) friendship / roommate, there no point. Romance and sex are not the same thing. You can be in a romantic relationship with someone without having sex with them. |
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_Maneki-Neko_ said: mane1910 said: Yeah, definitely, I think that's part of the combo, although the definition of 'nice things' is tied, I guess, to how each relationship is built - for example romantics and aromantics. I dunno... I do nice things for friends too, like some friends live near to me and when I know that they are sick for example, I come over and bring them something and might cook for them and vice versa. The lines are quite blurry between friendship and love to me, other than that in a romantic relationship, overall attraction plays a big(ger) role. One day, talking about this to one friend, asked me the same: 'then what's the difference with friendship?' That question struck me so hard that couldn't bring up an answer, but from that moment I started to think about it a lot. I can only talk about romantic relationship, because that's what I prefer, and I agree with you about attraction -as a broad term, not strictly sexual-. However, the original question of this thread was asexuality, which is alright for me. If it's also aromantic, then probably not. If it's an asexual-romantic relationship, I can estabilish a line between it and friendship. About asexual-aromantic relationships, although I think that there may exist, yes, from the outside -or my perspective if you wish-, I probably wouldn't distinguish it from a quite close friendship. Edit: I think I need to clarify one thing, just in case. Physical attraction doesn't necessarily imply sexual attraction. It happened a lot to me. |
mane1910May 16, 2021 9:28 AM
| So long as we loved each other I could be in an asexual relationship, sure. |
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| not rly into sex and shit like that atm so yeah !! sure |
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| i have no qualms about being in an asexual relationship. i have a pretty low sex drive and sex isn't that important to me. i much more care about the emotional aspect of a relationship. |
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| I am not asexual, I don’t understand the idea of being romantically involved and at the same time being pure as a saints. MustDestroy said: Absolutely not. Only reason rest of you are saying yes is because you're virgins. In such cases, I have always wondered if they would mind if their non-sexual partner was in a sexual relationship with someone else. Or, for example, how they will deal with sexual tension if they are not asexual. It really sounds like a 13-year-old girl's fantasy of pure love. Mod edit: Removed off-topic reply. |
ArdanazMay 18, 2021 10:05 AM
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| absolutely not. if we're not having sex or going to have sex then we're just friends and can't be anything more. |
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| Sounds possible and interesting. To be a true friend, to hug, be together for good and bad, but love for the mind, intelligence, eyes and not simply for what nature programmed us to :P It is easy to "fall in love" for the body only. I believe that other aspects are more important. To put it bluntly - make sure that you have something more between you than sex. And no, sorry to disappoint you, but I'm not a virgin. Personally I found sex annoying. Why? I was more stressed to make her finish before me than happy with the act as a whole. Over time it become a burden. I preferred everything that happened before and after... Can I just disable it in my head? I don't think that I can, but asexual relationship can be a successful one. All depends on the people, their expectations and truthfulness, emotions, needs... |
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| hmm... honestly? probably not. i've dated asexual people in the past. it never really ended well. while i'm on the aromantic spectrum, i'm not asexual at all. the complete opposite of it, actually. if people are the opposite way around and we date, we kind of start to "clash" if that makes any sense. however, if they just want affection and the cute lovey dovey stuff? nothing more? sure, but i'd prefer just to be queerplatonic partners or friends if that's the case. |
| Yes. I'd date an asexual person, because I'm also leaning on the asexual side of the spectrum myself LOL. |
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| Hey, if all good for me to watch porn then sure. |
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| No one with a sex drive can agree to this. People in here act like sex is a trivial thing in our lives. Let's not be delusional. |
| I'm asexual so that would be the ideal relationship for me. |
| I've spent a lot of time debating if I was asexual in high school, so yeah, I'd be completely fine being in a purely romantic relationship. Sexual intimacy is not nearly as important to me as the emotional connection, I could go with or without it! |
| Wouldn't that just be an emotionally intimate friendship with someone of a gender you're generally attracted to? what's the downside, really? |
| Engaging with those so clearly beneath you achieves nothing but lowering yourself to their level. |
| Uhh no that would be the point of that relationship if there is no sexual attraction? that would be a boring relationship T-T |
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| I’m sorry but no, I tried it once and it didn’t end well. |
| ew why would anyone settle for an asexual relationship when they could have so much more... sounds like desperation |
| oh snap |
| Nothing wrong with the concept, but I'm not so sure it's for me. Never tried it though. I'm not asexual or aromantic, I don't know what I'd feel in such a relationship. Maybe unsatisfied or unappreciated, which is only logical, but it's hard to tell without actually trying. I was actually thinking about something completely opposite a lot: have several really close friends you respect, who would also be your fuck buddies. No romance, but a very close relationships, where you enjoy each other in a sexual way, have the deepest level of respect and help each other pursue goals or, ideally, have very similar goals and dreams that you can achieve together. Also, I generally never understood why friendship can't have sex included, if people don't mind, why is it looked down upon or why is it supposed to make things weird. |
| It's actually kinda worrying how many people can't tell the difference between romance and lust. Sure, people have different ideas about what the concept "love" is and how to show it, but claiming that there is no difference between being in an asexual relationship and just being friends - as if asexuals are incapable of falling in love - is an insult. Of course there's a difference. As an asexual myself, being with an asexual guy is my ideal relationship since it would lift a burden from my shoulders. I've never been interested in sex, and I highly value having an emotional connection with my partner, so having a boyfriend who feels the same way would be a relief. |
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_korone_ said: 99% of marriages become sexless relationships.Uhh no that would be the point of that relationship if there is no sexual attraction? that would be a boring relationship T-T That's why key parties are a thing. |
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| No. Like, I'm not a person who tries to fuck on the first date, but that ace shit that some people be on is borderline incel bullshit as far as I'm concerned. |
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| To begin with, I don't know if I'm ready for sex just yet, but if I were, I would have a hard time being in this kind of relationship. |
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Moonspeak said: Opposing romanticism and sexuality... Again... I'll have you know we settled the matter in FG quite peacefully https://myanimelist.net/forum/?topicid=1753655&show=3270#msg64890296 The question is more about.....well whaterver, I'll re-ask the question in braindead format done dumbed down version |
Iron_OrderNov 27, 2022 10:36 AM
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| Eh not all people who identify as asexual are against having sex, so why use asexuality as synonym for sexless? It's just you don't find other people sexually attractive. What asexual person feels towards sex varies between a person, and no it doesn't mean they'd be unable to feel any sexual pleasure either. Of course if there not being any sexual attraction between the partners is an issue, that is understandable. However that also happens often in long relationships, but there are reasons why people stick together. |
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| Nope, I don't want this kind of relationship. I don't want a relationship without sex. It's not that I want sex eachday, but a few times per week should be enough in a relationship. I'm also a guy who seeks sexual excitement for example sex in a forest or a beach while being alone with my gf. All my ex gf's also liked this kind of excitement. I'm now single but my next girlfriend should also be in those kind of things. Someone who is asexual isn't going to work for me. And just boring 'regular' sex isn't going to work for me aswell. I can't imagine a world without sex in a relationship. That's nothing for me, I would rather stay just friends with those kind of people. |
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