| we're both working people we can pay for our own meals, the concept of a date paying for your meal just seems patronising |
| It all depends. If someone asks me out on a date, then I expect them to pay because they're the one offering - and vice versa if I'm asking someone out. If a mutual discussion was made to set up a date, then I'd say split by paying for your own meals (this makes the most sense and allows the best fairness). |
| If it is the woman I love, then I will pay the whole price. If it is just a friend, then 50/50. |
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| the only person ive been on a date with years ago was some1 i knew well beforehand so i paid cus i knew how the financial situation both of us were in was. if i dont know that, id assume im splitting the bill. and if it was liek just meeting some1 and they had no money they better have not wanted to go somewhere expensive in the first place lmao i make way more than most ppl my age and still go to a bar and order the cheapest beer on the menu |
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| Who asks out on the date pays for the first date. Other future dates splitting the bill. |
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| wait people go on dates dis isnt the 1950s |
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| If I was on a date I would ask to split the bill. I know this often leans into gender roles but being a lesbian it is different for me... because I would be having a date with another women. But even if I was heterosexual instead of homosexual I still would want to split the bill. If anything I would feel guilty/bad about them paying for my food. If someone was super adamant about paying for me, if anything, it would actually be a turn off in a way. |
| Men here always insist on paying. Offering to split is like insulting their honor or something like that. Sooo depends if I like the guy. If I don't want to see them again I don't let them pay for everything so they don't feel like I owe them something. I let them pay if I want to see them again but I try to pay something on future dates. Dates with women we split no problem, it's so so much easier, no social games. |
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| I never went on a date a woman offered to pay or split. Never. |
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| i split the bill. seems normal enough for me. |
foxecairn said: Botero said: I never went on a date a woman offered to pay or split. Never. Two chicks wanted to split shit with me before but thats how it is with some of them. Like the user above you. Admitting shes only a feminist with men she doesnt like. Need to say more? I don't see an issue. Worse would be if she made the man pay knowing she doesn't like him. |
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| I'd have them pay themselves, i suffer from a condition called "Too broke to date". |
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| I remember a guy paid for my Pho once when I went on a date with him. That was pretty cool because I'm used to atleast paying my half. |
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| I split unless the person I'm paying for really doesn't have the money and I was the one who insisted we had to go to that place instead of a home dinner or mcd's |
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| my friends and me take turns paying the bill. boys if they want to pay for everything or split idc but I am not impressed by that at all. |
| Split the bill. It's only on later dates that I may offer to pay as a kind gesture. I took my girlfriend to In N Out on our first date. Then later that day we went go karting, arcade, and ate dinner. With the boys we all split unless there is that one rich dude that buys it for all of us. |
| Back when I was working it was usually I bought dinner most nights and my fiance pays whenever we go out. Now he pays for everything since my disability got taken away. |
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Skimt said: foxecairn said: Women work in many places. Doesnt mean many of them dont complain when a man doesnt offer to pay for them, calling the man stingy or some shit. I only go out with real women from Norden who take responsibility for their own shit like proper adults, so I wouldn't know. spaceslut said: Now he pays for everything since my disability got taken away. This is a legitimate issue. It really is though. Disability is a pain to deal with. Have to wait to go to court to get it back. |
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| When I first started dating my ex-wife, I usually would pay for the date since I was making more money than her. Though, she'd pay for a lot of the little things when going on dates (drinks if we're thirsty, something to snack on, etc etc.) When we got married and our salaries became pretty much identical, we usually alternated on who paid, though there's usually a playful banter on who pays even though it's our respective turns. I never did the 50/50 split thing regularly, I've only dated two girls all my life, and one of them was in high school where I was too poor to even afford dates. |
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| It's important to keep in mind that sometimes when people offer to split the bill (whether it's a date or something else) that they don't truly mean it (they're just virtue signaling whether that be to you or to themselves). So taking them up on their offer to split the bill could result in them looking down on you for it (whether this is done consciously or unconsciously). You're far better off just always paying if it's not a problem for you financially, especially since on top of avoiding negative judgment, it also can signal to others that you have positive traits such as being kind, financially well off, chivalrous, etc. That being said, if they offer to split the bill and you tell them that you've got it covered and they insist that you let them split the bill, it's pretty safe to assume that they're actually being sincere in their offer (especially if they insisted multiple times) and that you actually should split the bill with them since not only is it what the want but it ensures that both parties start the relationship off feeling like equals (helps shrink the possibility of any sort of weird power dynamic). I'd also argue in the case of dates, it's a major green flag when a woman genuinely wants to split the bill and is a potential sign of a LOT of different positive traits. It should leave you feeling optimistic as not only is it a sign that they could potentially be a great partner, but it's also a potential sign that they enjoyed the date (splitting can imply that this wasn't a one sided pursuit, that they are just as glad about the date as you are). |
| hmm, in my country we argue about who pays between friends - like, it can even get into physical fights! in a date, the man usually pays. i know its 2022 but id still feel strange letting a woman pay. i know, i know. but its just habit and tradition. or we'd alternate, but id still pay the first one. if its a date with a guy instead (im bi) i guess id split. |
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| Lmafo date. When I go out with my friends everyone pays for his food. Last time I got food with my friend shared(I wasn't hungry much) so we did half the pay |
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| depends. if i invited them somewhere i've pretty much always payed but when it's a more casual meet up we've usually split the bill. |
| If they've got a cat then splitting is totally cool. No cat and I'm not paying a cent. I'll be too distracted figuring out how I ended up on a date with such a loser. |
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| It's usually neither for me personally. Our bills are calculated separately and I just pay for the stuff that I ordered. It's actually pretty common here. Anyway, if I had to address the more controversial aspect of this topic, I'd say it depends on the definition of date. If you mean "the first stage of romantic relationships in which two individuals engage in an activity together, most often with the intention of evaluating each other's suitability as a partner in a future intimate relationship" - I'd say it's a good idea for guys to offer to pay for it. However, try to find a reason/excuse for doing so, such as "I was the one who invited you, so..." or "I was the one who wanted to go that restaurant, so..." etc. Make it seem like a one-time thing rather than your default setting. If it means hanging out with your wife or girlfriend you've known for like half a decade, then it depends on the occasion, how much each of you guys earn, what you have agreed on, etc. etc. |
| ok so ive never been on a date, so in context of inviting my friends out for a dinner than if i was the guy who ensued this night out than yeah i would pay. |
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| I'd always offer to pay or at least split it. It's rude otherwise. |
| Whoever did the asking out should always pay on the first date. After that, on subsequent dates, either take turns or split the bill. Though, if you are more of a gentleman, you will pay most of the time. If they don't offer to split or pay at least once after maybe 4 or 5 dates, that's a red flag. The best parter for anyone is someone who has your best interests in mind and is willing to work things out with you. |
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| I rather not think about it. But if she assumes that I'll cover everything, that's a red flag. |
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| I'll get this one if you get the next. Otherwise let's split it. That's as fair as it gets. |
| (Using imagination) Whoever asked the other would pay for the first date. After that once we get to know each other, we can alternate or simply pay for whatever we ordered for ourselves. Anyone who simply assumes I will pay for the whole date is, well in the list of people I wouldn't see again. |
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| I pay on the first date. After that, it's totally spontaneous. I sometimes pay for my guy friends too whenever I feel like it. It's just an act of generosity. |
| Even if you are a friend or a lover, you only pay for what you eat and use. I eat less than others, and paying in installments is more of a loss. Even if I pay less by splitting the bill, I still have a hazy feeling, so I feel more comfortable paying only for what I spent and ate. |
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I always try to split the bill as I don't really like to be indebted to someone, but usually they insist to offer paying so oh well, they insist anyway~ |
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