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Nov 14, 2015 6:52 PM
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There's quite a few porn topics today and I have had this question on my mind for a while. Why is that when a person says they don't want their partner to watch porn not okay? Why does that automatically make that person insecure?

It seems that people have it in their minds that everyone watches porn and those who don't and are not okay with it are some kind of up-tight, closed minded person who needs to realize as humans "everyone does it."

I think it's bull. Not everyone does it and the people who do it they either do it for the rest of their lives, some may do it well within their twenties and others may just stop completely after being in a relationship.

Honestly it's all opinions to me but I don't get why people are often bashed for saying a partner watching porn is a deal breaker or is something they don't like. The people who bash come off as being closed minded and immature. They want to look cool by saying "just watch porn with them." I think it's pathetic.
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Nov 14, 2015 6:58 PM
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shotz_ said:
because people literally need to get off. it's a basic human need.

obviously your partner won't always be sexually available when you have the urge. that's where porn comes in.

^

You're more than welcome to exclude potential partners on the basis of ehether or not they watch porn, you just have to accept that it's going exclude the majority of people.
Nov 14, 2015 6:59 PM
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becuz more people are okay with porn than people who aren't

if someone was opposed of their partner doing it, then they're hypocritical unless they quit porn as well
Nov 14, 2015 7:03 PM
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shotz_ said:
because people literally need to get off. it's a basic human need.

obviously your partner won't always be sexually available when you have the urge. that's where porn comes in.

^ What he said.
Nov 14, 2015 7:06 PM
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What's wrong with it anyway? It's not like they are cheating. They're just watching videos.
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shotz_ said:
because people literally need to get off. it's a basic human need.

obviously your partner won't always be sexually available when you have the urge. that's where porn comes in.


Come on now, it is not a basic human need to get off at a moment's notice. It can get quite uncomfortable after a long time, but only an addict couldn't wait a couple days.
Nov 14, 2015 7:07 PM
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Because that kind of control is unhealthy for a relationship.


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AltoRoark99 said:
shotz_ said:
because people literally need to get off. it's a basic human need.

obviously your partner won't always be sexually available when you have the urge. that's where porn comes in.

^ What he said.


^ What this guy agreed with what another guy said
Nov 14, 2015 7:11 PM
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This generation of people have grown up with porn. Watching a video, or looking at a picture of someone else is NOT the same as sleeping with someone else.

Also, as many these days say:


Nov 14, 2015 7:13 PM

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Because that kind of control is unhealthy for a relationship.


Hit the target right there.

Ether it i a control freak that has demands on whatever his/her partner can do or is getting jealous of porn actors. Both are stupid.
Nov 14, 2015 7:15 PM

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You shouldn't tell people what you don't want them to do
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I don't care as long as I can money shot her like they do in pornos
Nov 14, 2015 7:19 PM

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If you can't accept that someone does something at all, it's going to cause problems.
Nov 14, 2015 7:20 PM

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Hoppy said:
Because that kind of control is unhealthy for a relationship.

It's not unhealthy. It depends on their ethics/morals.
Nov 14, 2015 7:22 PM

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mayukachan said:
Hoppy said:
Because that kind of control is unhealthy for a relationship.

It's not unhealthy. It depends on their ethics/morals.
Some morals are unhealthy
Nov 14, 2015 7:23 PM

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UnoPuntoCinco said:
mayukachan said:

It's not unhealthy. It depends on their ethics/morals.
Some morals are unhealthy

Being against masturbation/porn is okay in Christian standards.
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mayukachan said:
UnoPuntoCinco said:
Some morals are unhealthy

Being against masturbation/porn is okay in Christian standards.
That's why I don't get along with them well
Nov 14, 2015 7:39 PM
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Hoppy said:
Because that kind of control is unhealthy for a relationship.


Why? I think it's quite healthy to be open and honest about what you are and aren't comfortable with. Boundaries are not only a healthy part of a relationship, they're necessary. There's nothing about porn in particular that makes it above discussion.
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Because society is preverted and worship sexuality, so it is now rare to find people who can't keep it in their pants.

Good luck trying to tell anyone to be pure, people love their preversions.
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It is fine to want a partner that doesn't watch porn (or won't when in a relationship with you). That is a preference. People can have preferences when dating, that is kind of how dating works.
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shotz_ said:
because people literally need to get off. it's a basic human need.

obviously your partner won't always be sexually available when you have the urge. that's where porn comes in.

exactly this
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It works just fine for some people. I'd rather my partner refrain from this. If she needs a quickie in the middle of the day I'll get her on my lunch break and do it in the car.
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idk I mean, I guess I can understand if ur doing ur partner everyday but from my experience ppl still find it ok for there partner to watch porn still
Nov 15, 2015 1:18 PM
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Because watching porn is normal.
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The ones who watch porn are mostly males , females rarely ever watch porn. So I think for some females it can be unacceptable that their partners watch porn. Well If I had a girlfriend , I wouldn't tell her and keep it always hidden , probably this goes for everyone because it's an embarrassing thing to say and not that important , so it's not even worth revealing it.
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I wouldn't tell her and keep it always hidden , probably this goes for everyone because it's an embarrassing thing to say and not that important , so it's not even worth revealing it.
it'd suck if she caught you though
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I think it's perfectly reasonable as long as you don't watch porn yourself.
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mayukachan said:
Verhus said:
I wouldn't tell her and keep it always hidden , probably this goes for everyone because it's an embarrassing thing to say and not that important , so it's not even worth revealing it.
it'd suck if she caught you though


The only way to find out is to check all my chronology on my phone and PC. Well I don't like when people use my belongings without any permission. It would seem exaggerated and not nice if she took my phone and PC , only to check if I watch porn or not.
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Verhus said:
mayukachan said:
it'd suck if she caught you though


The only way to find out is to check all my chronology on my phone and PC. Well I don't like when people use my belongings without any permission. It would seem exaggerated and not nice if she took my phone and PC , only to check if I watch porn or not.
well, one day you'd live with her and it'll be harder to hide your "solo sessions"
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Verhus said:

The only way to find out is to check all my chronology on my phone and PC. Well I don't like when people use my belongings without any permission. It would seem exaggerated and not nice if she took my phone and PC , only to check if I watch porn or not.

Tell her that's not her bussiness and it's healthly & normal to watch sometimes some other naked girls.
BTW: just click between porns all the time & let her see that you need it ;)
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Hoppy said:
Because that kind of control is unhealthy for a relationship.

you are literally trying to control what someone does in their free time, while the thing they are doing isn't harming anyone
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Though I think shit-flinging should also have standards - no personal, no behind the scenes.
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kawaiiyuris said:
Hoppy said:
Because that kind of control is unhealthy for a relationship.

you are literally trying to control what someone does in their free time, while the thing they are doing isn't harming anyone

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It depends on their ethics/morals.
Nov 15, 2015 4:56 PM

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my dad watches porn.
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Come on now, it is not a basic human need to get off at a moment's notice. It can get quite uncomfortable after a long time, but only an addict couldn't wait a couple days.
yeah but it's not uncommon for someone's partner to be unavailable for a couple days or more.

my dad watches porn. my mother knows. they stopped having sex years ago.
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Hoppy said:
Because that kind of control is unhealthy for a relationship.
It can be healthy for a relationship actually.
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shotz_ said:
because people literally need to get off. it's a basic human need.

obviously your partner won't always be sexually available when you have the urge. that's where porn comes in.
Or you could use imagination..... apparently people lack that these days so they have to get off to strangers.
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personally i really dont see the appeal of porn once you have a girlfriend, unless your partner is never there or consistently denies you sex for whatever reasons (both probably indicate you guys arent that compatible to begin with)
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Tachii said:
personally i really dont see the appeal of porn once you have a girlfriend



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Seiya said:
Tachii said:
personally i really dont see the appeal of porn once you have a girlfriend


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What's the joke?
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mayukachan said:
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[IMG]http://i1373.photobucket.com/albums/ag375/Working_Designs/giphy_zpsdpglgpl5.gif[/IM G]

What's the joke?


The joke, is that Tachii obviously has no idea what he's talking about.

Just because you have a girlfriend or wife, doesn't mean you're going to get sex whenever you want.

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Seiya said:
mayukachan said:

What's the joke?


The joke, is that Tachii obviously has no idea what he's talking about.

Just because you have a girlfriend or wife, doesn't mean you're going to get sex whenever you want.

If she rejects you once, you can masturbate without porn if your sex drive is good enough. There's no "need" for porn. Plus, you lack self control if you can't have sex for a few days.
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mayukachan said:
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The joke, is that Tachii obviously has no idea what he's talking about.

Just because you have a girlfriend or wife, doesn't mean you're going to get sex whenever you want.

If she rejects you once, you can masturbate without porn if your sex drive is good enough. There's no "need" for porn. Plus, you lack self control if you can't have sex for a few days.


I'm not referring to myself as an individual, I'm referring to millions of people living in the contemporary world. Just because you think there's "No need" for porn, doesn't mean that other men are going to listen to you.

I rarely get off at porn.

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Seiya said:
mayukachan said:

If she rejects you once, you can masturbate without porn if your sex drive is good enough. There's no "need" for porn. Plus, you lack self control if you can't have sex for a few days.


I'm not referring to myself as an individual, I'm referring to millions of people living in the contemporary world. Just because you think there's "No need" for porn, doesn't mean that other men are going to listen to you.

I rarely get off at porn.
Wait, correct me if I'm wrong, but all you need to do is rub your dick furiously to ejaculate, right?

Why do you need to watch things to get excited?
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mayukachan said:
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I'm not referring to myself as an individual, I'm referring to millions of people living in the contemporary world. Just because you think there's "No need" for porn, doesn't mean that other men are going to listen to you.

I rarely get off at porn.
Wait, correct me if I'm wrong, but all you need to do is rub your dick furiously to ejaculate, right?

Why do you need to watch things to get excited?


Let me tell you how female orgasm works then you can tell me how to use my dick. Are you for fucking real?
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mayukachan said:
Seiya said:


I'm not referring to myself as an individual, I'm referring to millions of people living in the contemporary world. Just because you think there's "No need" for porn, doesn't mean that other men are going to listen to you.

I rarely get off at porn.
Wait, correct me if I'm wrong, but all you need to do is rub your dick furiously to ejaculate, right?

Why do you need to watch things to get excited?


some people don't need to rub at all.
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Let me tell you how female orgasm works then you can tell me how to use my dick. Are you for fucking real?
Girls need to be turned on to lubricate. They can instantly be turned off if they think about something bad.

Also, I have no clue. I've never reached orgasm, as far as I know. Life's hard.
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The people who bash [watching porn] come off as being closed minded and immature. They want to look cool by saying "[im above watching porn and you should be too.]" I think it's pathetic.


basically you said it yourself; just swap around a few words.
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mayukachan said:
Monad said:
Let me tell you how female orgasm works then you can tell me how to use my dick. Are you for fucking real?
Girls need to be turned on to lubricate. They can instantly be turned off if they think about something bad.

Also, I have no clue. I've never reached orgasm, as far as I know. Life's hard.


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Girls need to be turned on to lubricate. They can instantly be turned off if they think about something bad.

Also, I have no clue. I've never reached orgasm, as far as I know. Life's hard.


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Yeah, well guys need to be turned on to get hard, whether it's imagination or porn. I don't know why you think that fapping to images in you head is any better than fapping to images on screen.
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ha haaaa

ur funny
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uhhh what? i found this on google and it looked cool.
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