| how do you guys do it? and how often do u actually interact with them i send requests to ppl i see frequently on the forums, as well as launching random requests at people in the same clubs as me, and i speak to them when i can, but i dont like to randomly reach out lest that not be normal behaviour here |
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Reply to deg
ye i send friend request thats it but im a boring friend that cannot hold a conversation for so long so thats why i disable my friend feature now
deg said: im a boring friend that cannot hold a conversation if i had a penny for every time ive appeared offline just so that my friends wouldnt speak to me, id be loaded |
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Crystepsi said: how do you guys do it? Send a FR. Crystepsi said: and how often do u actually interact with them Out of the 100+ friends I have here, I only interact with 3-5 of them on a relatively frequent basis. |
Reply to Cielord
Crystepsi said:
how do you guys do it?
how do you guys do it?
Send a FR.
Crystepsi said:
and how often do u actually interact with them
and how often do u actually interact with them
Out of the 100+ friends I have here, I only interact with 3-5 of them on a relatively frequent basis.
Cielord said: Send a FR shiiiiiz i shouldve thought of that |
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| Some people I made the introduction, others did so to me. Some came about through meeting in different Discord groups, through other friends, or directly asking each other questions (often related to the database). I don't really recommend sending out random friend requests. When you find some people who look interesting and tell them why you want to add them. Leave some profile comments, join a group and participate in discussion; hopefully you'll eventually meet some people. |
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| Be active on the forum and try to give helpful replies. |
No, this isn't my signature. |
| Don't bother trying to make friends on MAL Better to find friends IRL that can help you become productive IRL, doing same hobbies (sports, music, etc.), and have fun IRL |
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| I don't. I don't consider mal or other online friends as real friends. As well as I don't have an urge to making them here, so I am not often having a conversation other than through forums, it is rare for me to have it through profile comments, and with exception of one user it is for me rare to have a conversation through PMs. |
| sites such as this one are usually filled with dudes whomst'd've seldom interact with women, so if you're truly female like you claim to be on your profile, it really shouldn't be that hard |
Reply to deg
ye i send friend request thats it but im a boring friend that cannot hold a conversation for so long so thats why i disable my friend feature now
| @deg you would think that someone with 100k forum posts would know how to hold a conversation, but i guess not |
| start yaoi spamming, there is no one on CD who does that rn |
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| You can send a friend request to people you like and try to talk to them. It doesn't have to be super random either. For example, you can have a discussion in some thread that you eventually move to DMs or profile comments. That being said, while I've encountered some exceptions, I don't think this is a good place to make friends since most people fall into two categories: socially inept individuals who aren't sure how to connect with others or cannot hold a conversation OR people with actually good social skills/life but who just want to kill time and occasionally vent to someone without having any plans to engage with them on a deeper level and building an actual friendship. I do hope that your experiences will be different than mine, though. |
Reply to Vasdeferens
@deg you would think that someone with 100k forum posts would know how to hold a conversation, but i guess not
| @Vasdeferens most likely the more post count a person has here the more he has no life IRL (hikikomori, neet, etc.). Imagine a person do something productive IRL, meeting with people, busy working everyday, has social life or relationship, but still bother to spam posting in MAL to more than 100k posts, very unlikely |
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| As of recently, I've sent friend requests to people who I've seen in the forums or on a user's page. I try to make friends with people who have similar favorites or who seem to enjoy some anime the same as me. I just think that it makes it easier to start conversations with people if we enjoy the same things. Because I've sent friend requests to them recently, I'm choosing to let some time pass before starting conversations since I don't want to appear overbearing with notifications. |
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@Vasdeferens most likely the more post count a person has here the more he has no life IRL (hikikomori, neet, etc.). Imagine a person do something productive IRL, meeting with people, busy working everyday, has social life or relationship, but still bother to spam posting in MAL to more than 100k posts, very unlikely
| @philtecturophy well yeah, it goes without saying that only a loser would have a post count that high, but being a loser doesn't necessarily indicate that you can't hold a conversation. it's just that i would imagine that a person with that many forum posts would have a lot on their mind which would lead them to become good at holding conversations, but that's just me being overly optimistic |
| Well I get friend requests fairly often, but I only have a small number that I regularly chat too, like maybe 4 or 5 of them, and it's not everyday we chat. Some of them say that they like me because of shared favourites or shared interests, but they don't always say what those are.....😅 I think mainly it's because I'm an active regular (and so incredibly awesome obviously). Would be cool to be close friends with people close to my age though, most I talk to are at least a decade younger than me😬 |
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| I don't go out of my way,from people I've seen regularly commenting here whos opinions I find interesting or down-right unhinged then I'd send a fr.I do get hit with random fr from time to time but it's rare and we don't communicate outside of maybe clashing in a forum discussion :D |
| Can I Still Go To Heaven If I Kill Myself? |
| you don't have to force yourself to make friends. It usually just happens. I don't tend to reach out the people beacuse I don't care, but if you're making an effort to reach out and talk usually people respect that. |
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| Same way you do in real life. You have to talk to people. Forums I don't recommend can't have good conversation or meaningful one here. Look at their profile see if they like chatting or like the series's. |
| Just add people who are active in the forums. I speak to a few people here on MAL my biggest problem is I take a while to reply due to being so busy in life. |
| Have meaningful conversation with people. |
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| Just make a few posts on here...to see who replies to it. |
| Here is my Pixiv account of my hentai drawings..... https://www.pixiv.net/en/users/104739065 Here is my blog.... https://theendofindustrialcivilization.blogspot.com/?m=1 |
149597871 said: That's not the hard part imho, I've done it myself quite some times.You can send a friend request to people you like and try to talk to them. It doesn't have to be super random either. For example, you can have a discussion in some thread that you eventually move to DMs or profile comments. 149597871 said: You've completely nailed it here: either there is no interest to talk that much in the first place or people may be chatty/talkative over text, but don't actually intent to have any deeper relationship. The question is rather: how to get and keep people being mutually interested in not only writing to you, but also in hearing you, seeing you, meeting you and supporting you.That being said, while I've encountered some exceptions, I don't think this is a good place to make friends since most people fall into two categories: socially inept individuals who aren't sure how to connect with others or cannot hold a conversation OR people with actually good social skills/life but who just want to kill time and occasionally vent to someone without having any plans to engage with them on a deeper level and building an actual friendship. I do hope that your experiences will be different than mine, though. |
| @LoveYourSmile Thanks, but precisely stuff mentioned here that it's hard to form any deeper connection or any actual bonds is what gets me tired of socializing. It's only planned to be a temporary thing though until I get back to 15K posts, since someone from the team has deleted older threads/replies and I was suddenly missing 20 posts. 17 more to go after this, then I can hopefully retire for good from posting. |
| If you stumble across a profile of someone who seems interesting or cool, just comment on their profile or PM them telling them whatever it is about their profile that catches your eye. It could be a favourites list, for example. |
Take care of yourself |
@LoveYourSmile Hey dude, love your smile. Can i get a dick pick for the bros? Have to evaluate your worth. |
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| Just get friend request and talk to them with comments |
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| I personally just receive friend request (cause i'm too shy to send ;-;) and then I just start a conversation and be like "Hey, how are you!!" And start from there and kinda just start-up a good conversation! |
idk add me I want more friends my acc is freshhhhhhhh |
  Life is short. Smoke a blunt and relax. |
| just add someone and dm/comment them. then u can advance to discord maybe |
| Upload some anime images, if you wanna make friends on this site btw. |
| Here is my Pixiv account of my hentai drawings..... https://www.pixiv.net/en/users/104739065 Here is my blog.... https://theendofindustrialcivilization.blogspot.com/?m=1 |
| Just comment on their profile and talk to them about interests you have. A lot of people try to be friend collectors, so maybe you can be friends with them. Some people tend to avoid them though because they rarely talk to you. |
| I would like to make friends but even on the internets I am shy u_u |
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| Be active on the forums, send friend requests, etc. :3 |
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| Most of my friends on here I met on last.fm or discord. I’ve only recently decided to get back into the community here. |
| I've found common ground and I talk to them often. |
| Wait… you actually interact with your friends? |
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| See who has the most "Affinity with you", send a friend request and start talking about some of these animes or mangas. Little by little as you enjoy talking to the person you will change the conversation to other subjects that interest you, through the conversation you will realize who identifies with you the most. |
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