| Hello beautiful people, I've been away from MAL for years but just decided to pass by here to see how much this place has changed and make a post for old times' sake. OT: If you've ever being cheated on by your gf/bf you should know that feeling very well, if you haven't, consider yourself lucky. I'd like to know what do you think about people who cheat on others? Have you ever being cheated on? How did you feel about it? What did you do? Have you ever cheated on someone? And if you've never being cheated on, what do you think your reaction would be? Discuss~ |
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| It's as painful as anything. Heartbreaking. I would give my partner one more chance under certain circumstances. |
| People who cheat on others are scum and I have no respect for them. I'm sorry, but I cannot bring myself to put that in a nicer way. As for if I have ever been cheated on, no, I haven't. If my partner ever did cheat on me, I would give him another chance, but he would be on a very short leash for some time tbh. |
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Autocrat said: It's as painful as anything. Heartbreaking. I would give my partner one more chance under certain circumstances. Please don't, once a cheater, always a cheater. |
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| Who cheated on you 30 character limit o |
| Yes. It quickly became clear that the best thing I could do was drop that girl and search for someone who wouldn't sleep with other dudes. On the bright side, it made it much easier to avoid banging strangers when I already have a partner. |
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| I've felt I was being cheated even though she was not my girlfriend. That was the worst feeling I've felt. Cheating is always bad for me. I've felt bad to my ex because she thought I was cheating on her but I didn't, but she still broke up with me despite my explanation. |
Joms said: I've felt I was being cheated even though she was not my girlfriend. That was the worst feeling I've felt. Cheating is always bad for me. I've felt bad to my ex because she thought I was cheating on her but I didn't, but she still broke up with me despite my explanation. If only we could do things over... Sorry to hear that. |
| You're back!? OT: I have never been in a relationship, to be honest, I don't know what to think about cheating, but it sucks, probably. I just think on fucking, I suck perhaps :( Anyways, I wanted to feel a relationship, to know my real thoughts on cheating. |
| Today they say you're crazy, tomorrow they will say you're a genious. |
| I'd like to turn your attention too... *drum roll* The same thread... |
SomeEdgeLord said: I WILL report you from this forum if this continues. In real life, I am one of the coldest, unsympathetic, people you'll ever know, who's grown up in an even colder household, you really don't want me to break my persona, I know how to make people feel bad. YearnsforAttention said: hm who has 1656 friends on MAL that's right me bye bye YearnsforAttention said: I don't want your approval how many damn times do I need to say it I enjoy irritating you I am gonna do things MY way |
| I've never been in a relationship, but cheating doesn't only destroy the people directly involved bruh. Like, it sucks. So I have zero respect for people who cheat. If I got cheated on, I would be kind of like this: |
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Joms said: I've felt I was being cheated even though she was not my girlfriend. That was the worst feeling I've felt. Cheating is always bad for me. I've felt bad to my ex because she thought I was cheating on her but I didn't, but she still broke up with me despite my explanation. If someone broke up with you just because of her/his paranoia, I can tell you're better off without that person, he/she clearly didn't trust you at all. |
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Frag- said: You're back!? OT: I have never been in a relationship, to be honest, I don't know what to think about cheating, but it sucks, probably. I just think on fucking, I suck perhaps :( Anyways, I wanted to feel a relationship, to know my real thoughts on cheating. Uh Idk, I'm just passing by, but who knows? I might be more active. And trust me, you're lucky, it's better being single than being cheated on. |
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Ex gf, she turned out to be a huge slut. |
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Maria_Sama said: Welcome back then lol.Frag- said: You're back!? OT: I have never been in a relationship, to be honest, I don't know what to think about cheating, but it sucks, probably. I just think on fucking, I suck perhaps :( Anyways, I wanted to feel a relationship, to know my real thoughts on cheating. Uh Idk, I'm just passing by, but who knows? I might be more active. And trust me, you're lucky, it's better being single than being cheated on. I just think in getting laid, if that counts as single, alright, I guess :p |
| Today they say you're crazy, tomorrow they will say you're a genious. |
Maria_Sama said: Joms said: I've felt I was being cheated even though she was not my girlfriend. That was the worst feeling I've felt. Cheating is always bad for me. I've felt bad to my ex because she thought I was cheating on her but I didn't, but she still broke up with me despite my explanation. If someone broke up with you just because of her/his paranoia, I can tell you're better off without that person, he/she clearly didn't trust you at all. I won't blame her for that, the paranoia happened because cheating exists, and she was greatly affected by that ambiance. She was just too possessive, but there's more to the story on why we didn't end up good. But that's why I despise all forms of cheating. Why would you cheat though? It would only lead to suffering for both. |
| I think people who cheat are really stupid. Nope, never been cheated on. Nope, never cheated. If I was cheated on, I'd probably be like, "heh, the joke's on you, I've been cheating on you with my waifu this e n t i r e t i me" .......jk no i'd cry |
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| Noone can cheat on me because I actually havent dated anyone. Its a flawless system. |
| I've been here way too long... |
| I was in a relationship for four years and was being cheated on for two. It kind of sucks. I don't think she was terrible, not anymore at least. I didn't react to well when I found out, though. I think it's a reflection on them, not the person being cheated on. That doesn't make them necessarily bad. It's just that they have problems and really shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. |
| Just dump their ass and move on. Cheaters clearly have a lot of free time, and a lack of ambition, if most of their efforts are spent on changing partners. Relationships take time to build, and it is an investment that should be made as few times as possible because the returns are always very contingent. To date for fun alone, or change partners every other year without building on the last relationship, is the greatest indicator of the person's stupidity and willingness to waste life away instead of doing something valuable with it. Which is why one must be careful at each step of the relationship. To begin, one must look for someone who is on the same mental level and also shows promise of progress atop of that. Once one has the certainty that things can always improve instead of being killed halfway just because something wasn't to either one's liking, then is the time to begin a relationship. From that point on, all efforts must be focused on making the relationship better. If one begins with the mindset of finding the perfect partner, then all hope is lost by default. |
TranceJan 8, 2017 11:20 AM
| Someone once forgot I existed so I don't count that as a cheating. |
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| If someone I loved - for I love with my entire soul - ever cheated on me I honestly hope they'd dump me before I found out, because it's just not something I would allow. I'd never cheat on a girl so she would never I dare to think. I don't quite know what reaction I'd have if it was with a girl, but with a boy I'd go on a rampage. |
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Maria_Sama said: Autocrat said: It's as painful as anything. Heartbreaking. I would give my partner one more chance under certain circumstances. Please don't, once a cheater, always a cheater. Everybody deserves a second chance. |
| I haven't had the misfortune of experiencing that yet, nonetheless I think it's a despicable act.Of course one could bring up the argument that we are sex driven animals deep down, but if we humans really consider ourselves superior to other creatures on Earth then actually staying true to being a sex driven animal is out of the question. This might seem like I'm basically saying cheaters=animals, I mean I'd personally hold a tame animal in higher regard so it's not far off.So if anyone did that to me I'd dump their ass yo. TheConquerer said: Noone can cheat on me because I actually havent dated anyone. Its a flawless system. They'll never see it coming, the witless fools! One can't be misled by that which doesn't exist in the first place, eh? |
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| I'd personally just dump them and move on. No guarantee it won't happen again after all and if they've done it full well knowing how I'd feel afterwards there's no reason to stick around for that person anymore. |
 "The other day I met this man, a nice guy, y'know? And we had a really good chat. Then I slit his throat and ripped his heart out through his chest. Does that make me a bad person?" |
| I would beat my GF and the random fuckface up. I wouldn't go too hard on my GF, maybe a few slaps on her face and then I'd beat the shit out of the guy who touched my GF. Dumping her is self explanatory right? Luckily I never had to go through that feeling. |
| hopefully i'll never get cheated on. i would never ever cheat in a relationship either. why be in one if you're going to cheat? if you cheat, that means there's something about the relationship that isn't going well-- wouldn't you try to confront that person? i would most likely not be with the person who cheated. it just meant they doubted the relationship, and that they weren't happy with me, and i really don't want to feel those things. ' ^ ' |
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| nah i've never been cheated on. I've always been exclusive with girls during the passionate moments we shared together ;) |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| Name and shame these people if they don't realize what they did. I'd prefer to be dumped for someone else instead of being cheated on. At least there's honesty. |
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Maria_Sama said: Autocrat said: It's as painful as anything. Heartbreaking. I would give my partner one more chance under certain circumstances. Please don't, once a cheater, always a cheater. Exactly, now my turn, move daduck away: I'd like to know what do you think about people who cheat on others? A. Believe me you do not wanna hear it. Have you ever being cheated on? A. No Have you ever cheated on someone? A. Never, I prefer telling that we are done than this And if you've never being cheated on, what do you think your reaction would be? A. Kill this person, of course it depends if I love the person |
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| Bang everyone they're close to, the person they cheated with, and everyone close to the person they cheated with |
| Be thankful for the wisdom granted to you. |
codephat said: I was in a relationship for four years and was being cheated on for two. It kind of sucks. I don't think she was terrible, not anymore at least. I didn't react to well when I found out, though. I think it's a reflection on them, not the person being cheated on. That doesn't make them necessarily bad. It's just that they have problems and really shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. Not terrible? Damn you're too forgiving :( |
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Usagi said: People who cheat on others are scum and I have no respect for them. Yeah I don't see why a person who wants to cheat can't just break up with their partner first. It's not a nice feeling but you get over it, cos that person ain't worth feeling down over. |
| Cheating is inevitable because monogamy is unnatural. |
Autocrat said: It's as painful as anything. Heartbreaking. I would give my partner one more chance under certain circumstances. Grow a pair mate. I would not forgive a cheater. |
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Fuchsia said: Autocrat said: It's as painful as anything. Heartbreaking. I would give my partner one more chance under certain circumstances. Grow a pair mate. I would not forgive a cheater. Grow a pair? Maybe easy for you to say that, maybe you don't appreciate depth in your romantic relationships as much as I do. If I find the one, it won't be so shallow such that one kind of this mistake has to fuck it up. There's context to these kind of things, mate. |
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| It's a despicable thing to cheat on someone and I have no sympathy or patience for those fuckers. I have been cheated on before, and I've seen it happen to other people. It's a terrible feeling. The only appropriate response is to completely end the relationship there and kick the cheater out of your life. Anything less is just you telling them it's ok to use you. Autocrat said: Fuchsia said: Grow a pair mate. I would not forgive a cheater. Grow a pair? Maybe easy for you to say that, maybe you don't appreciate depth in your romantic relationships as much as I do. If I find the one, it won't be so shallow such that one kind of this mistake has to fuck it up. There's context to these kind of things, mate. ProTip: If they cheat on you, they weren't "the one." Cheating isn't a "mistake," it's a deliberate decision on one person's part that they don't value you or your relationship but are either 1) too cowardly to break up with you or work through whatever issue there may be, or 2) staying in the relationship with you for some personal gain or benefit while getting all of their fullfilment elsewhere. There may be depth in that relationship to you, but to them you're just something easy to support their lifestyle. You're nothing more than a utility, and once you decide to forgive them for pretending to love you you only validate their choices and give them permission to keep doing it. |
Desert_GuyJan 9, 2017 6:30 AM
You're forgetting the fact that they could have been suffering from mental illness and made a terrible mistake. |
| Cheating is awful.. Been cheated on? Not that I know of. Have I cheated? Never. What my reaction would probably be after I'd found out.. |
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| If you want to cheat on your partner, the only honorable thing to do is just be honest and break up with them. It's certainly alot better than sneaking around behind their backs just to fuck somebody else. I've never been cheated on, so I can't say I know what it's like, but I imagine it's heartbreaking. |
TwatticusJan 9, 2017 9:33 AM
| Talk shit to me and so help me fucking god, I'll come over there and do absolutely nothing. |
Maria_Sama said: Hello beautiful people, I've been away from MAL for years but just decided to pass by here to see how much this place has changed and make a post for old times' sake. OT: If you've ever being cheated on by your gf/bf you should know that feeling very well, if you haven't, consider yourself lucky. I'd like to know what do you think about people who cheat on others? Have you ever being cheated on? How did you feel about it? What did you do? Have you ever cheated on someone? And if you've never being cheated on, what do you think your reaction would be? Discuss~ I have only read half of your bold text, but yes Ive cheated. Why? Because why have one if you can have 2? |
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful. | You know what I hate the most? People who aren't free. They're no more than cattle. |
| I ahvent had a girlfriend yet but when i do i do plan on cheating on them to make them grateful for what they have |
Lux_Lucis said: We were close but it was complicated. It's not like she was out sleeping with someone else every night. It apparently wasn't common, I don't know. "Having feelings for both" kind of situation, which really means you don't have real feelings for either. It's easy to be confused about how you feel though.Four years. 2 years cheated on. I've been in so so many relationships and the longest one lasted half the time you were being cheated on. So 1st of all respect on your dedication. 4 years is a serious achievement. What I wanted to ask is how come it took you two years to notice? Was she that good at covering her tracks or you were just not that close? Thanks lol Not like any relationship since has lasted more than a month though. |
| No I was never cheated on, but I was only in a couple long term relationships (roughly 7 years for one). My favorite (it just gives me a laugh) are the people who's significant other leaves them for a member of their own sex, leaving them with the feeling that they've turned them gay. I'd think that would be worse. |
Autocrat said: You're forgetting the fact that they could have been suffering from mental illness and made a terrible mistake. Wait, are you being serious right now? What mental illness? Alzheimer's? That's the only thing I can think of where they might honestly have forgotten who you are or mistaken someone else for you. At that point, ok, that's the solitary instance where a cheater isn't a dirtbag and you can forgive them. But by then your soul has been so gutted watching your loved one utterly forget you that it doesn't really matter anymore. |
Noraf46 said: Autocrat said: You're forgetting the fact that they could have been suffering from mental illness and made a terrible mistake. Wait, are you being serious right now? What mental illness? Alzheimer's? That's the only thing I can think of where they might honestly have forgotten who you are or mistaken someone else for you. At that point, ok, that's the solitary instance where a cheater isn't a dirtbag and you can forgive them. But by then your soul has been so gutted watching your loved one utterly forget you that it doesn't really matter anymore. You're not understanding mental illness. When people succumb to it their mind becomes warped and they can do the most irrational things. Compound that with your partner who's drunk and lacking willpower with a close friend. If she's been pushing you away you can then see how she might have been led to cheat on you. Understanding the heart of the matter and trying to resolve things would be my goal. Yes it's a serious betrayal and I would be hurt immensely, but I don't think the idea of always breaking up with her if she cheats is necessarily the best way to go about things. It becomes even more of a delicate situation if you have kids. |
Autocrat said: Noraf46 said: Wait, are you being serious right now? What mental illness? Alzheimer's? That's the only thing I can think of where they might honestly have forgotten who you are or mistaken someone else for you. At that point, ok, that's the solitary instance where a cheater isn't a dirtbag and you can forgive them. But by then your soul has been so gutted watching your loved one utterly forget you that it doesn't really matter anymore. You're not understanding mental illness. When people succumb to it their mind becomes warped and they can do the most irrational things. Compound that with your partner who's drunk and lacking willpower with a close friend. If she's been pushing you away you can then see how she might have been led to cheat on you. Understanding the heart of the matter and trying to resolve things would be my goal. Yes it's a serious betrayal and I would be hurt immensely, but I don't think the idea of always breaking up with her if she cheats is necessarily the best way to go about things. It becomes even more of a delicate situation if you have kids. In your example, your partner has already been pushing you away, so they're indicating they're unhappy in your relationship. At that point you and them need to figure out what the problem is and if it can be resolved. Apparently this does not happen, as they then go out with a friend and get drunk and sleep with that friend. That's a strong message that they don't care and already considered the relationship over, they just were too cowardly and that you meant so little to them to give you the common decency of breaking up with you first. Alcohol is not an excuse. I don't even see where the mental illness comes in. Having a drunken fling with a friend while your relationship is on the rocks is not a mental illness. I don't see how remaining in this toxic relationship with such a petty and selfish person is a better way to go about things than taking the obvious hint, salvaging a modicum of dignity, and moving on with your life to find someone who might actually care about you. Yeah, things get more complicated when kids are involved, but that's no reason to stay with someone who doesn't love you and actively hurts you/puts your health at risk. Kids with divorced parents are better off than kids in families where the parents hate each other, constantly fight, and/or are abusive. |
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