| It obviously matters. Anyone that says it doesn't matter is lying. That's not to say there's anything inherently wrong with a relationship where there's a big age difference or that it's something that can't be overcome, but the further you get apart in age, the more of an issue it's going to be. This applies more the younger one of the people is, as should be obvious. |
kiminotameni said: It does matter if the difference between both ages are huge. And also matters if the girl/boy is like 11 and the other girl/boy is 14 or more. Not sure if by 11 and 14 or more, you saying age or years apart. If age then the fact they'd be dating or in a relationship is baffling. But if years then it just depends on the type of people they are. Considering any age gap. That's 18+ of course. If she's 16 and she's dating a 23+ guy, I wouldn't call that a relationship; just a cry for attention. |
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| Age doesnt matter unless youre talking like an 8 year old an a 60 year old Age is just a number and everyone has a different physical and mental maturity. It only becomes a problem if someone in the relationship chooses to see it as a problem |
| I think age does matter! |
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| just as a banana is a banana, and cows are cows, so too it must be that love is love! Therefore, not at all. i think that when you're two months old, you're perfectly well capable of deciding who you fall in love with! |
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| As long as no one is brainwashed, I don't see anything wrong with most absurd pairings. I bet most of the people who are against this are picturing an older guy with a younger girl and never the other way around. I bet they are also mainly only thinking about the sexual part of the relationship, which is why they are so quick to judge. People can be so close-minded sometimes. |
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RedStarLight said: As long as no one is brainwashed, I don't see anything wrong with most absurd pairings. I bet most of the people who are against this are picturing an older guy with a younger girl and never the other way around. I bet they are also mainly only thinking about the sexual part of the relationship, which is why they are so quick to judge. People can be so close-minded sometimes. No I can picture easily a young boy with an olderrrr woman. I just think a boy/girl who's 12-14 going out with a 26-28 woman/man is just wrong. Call me close-minded but no. It's pedophilia ^-^ |
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Nintendosoni said: Basically, it does. |
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| I think love is pretty broad and it should be accepted as such. There's a lot of different reasons for love, and some more shallow than others. But as long as both partners want to be in the relationship, why shouldn't they be? Same goes for sex. I don't see any reason why, say, a 14 year old girl and a 25 year old guy can't have sex. (Aside from the law which I am not taking into account as I believe it is wrong.) If it's entirely consensual, why should it be morally or lawfully wrong? Is it because they'll regret it later? Who knows. If they do, it was their fault. The law should not protect people from themselves. It's a simple freedom that we should have. Here's my idea of an ideal system - There would be no age of consent. It should simply go by whether the person in question has hit puberty. If they have, they are "legal", so to speak. Safe methods would be highly recommended and encouraged to all youth, and condoms would be cheap and easy to acquire no matter your age. Abortion would be completely legal. As for statutory rape, it would be illegal, but not a huge offense. (This is assuming it was consensual.) If the victim was injured or was found to only consent because they were threatened or for other reasons, then it would just be flat out rape. I have pretty liberal views on this. Feel free to argue, but just take into account that your morals don't count as an argument. |
| depends, if the gap is just unmeasurable then thats just f*ckedup! peado alert! |
skutieos said: Here's my idea of an ideal system - There would be no age of consent. It should simply go by whether the person in question has hit puberty. If they have, they are "legal", so to speak. Safe methods would be highly recommended and encouraged to all youth, and condoms would be cheap and easy to acquire no matter your age. Abortion would be completely legal. As for statutory rape, it would be illegal, but not a huge offense. (This is assuming it was consensual.) If the victim was injured or was found to only consent because they were threatened or for other reasons, then it would just be flat out rape. I have pretty liberal views on this. Feel free to argue, but just take into account that your morals don't count as an argument. The onset of puberty is a grey area from both a biological and legal standpoint. And let's say there's some line-in-the-sand way to measure whether a person is sexually mature: there would almost certainly be no way to measure this in retrospect. By the time a sex offender is caught, indicted, and tried, months will have passed, even without red tape. As it is now, we can say, "the incident occurred on X/X/X, and the victim was not of the age of consent on that date." But under your ideal system, there's the possibility that the victim would test as "sexually mature" at the time of the trial -- but who's to say whether or not he was sexually mature on X/X/X. I understand that that system is "ideal," and I agree. But it's not feasible. |
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| I guess it kinda does.... I mean 1-3 years apart isn't that bad, but if it's like 10-20, that just wrong and pedoish >.>; |
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| Well, I'm a lolicon, so I'm gunna go with no. Gotta love dem loli's. |
| this is going to go on forever the truth is it still only matters if you make it matter and it determines the type of relationship |
| Well if they are truly in love then age wouldn't matter, but if your the kind of person who dosen't want to date creepy old men and woman there you go. |
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Hakuromatsu said: skutieos said: Here's my idea of an ideal system - There would be no age of consent. It should simply go by whether the person in question has hit puberty. If they have, they are "legal", so to speak. Safe methods would be highly recommended and encouraged to all youth, and condoms would be cheap and easy to acquire no matter your age. Abortion would be completely legal. As for statutory rape, it would be illegal, but not a huge offense. (This is assuming it was consensual.) If the victim was injured or was found to only consent because they were threatened or for other reasons, then it would just be flat out rape. I have pretty liberal views on this. Feel free to argue, but just take into account that your morals don't count as an argument. The onset of puberty is a grey area from both a biological and legal standpoint. And let's say there's some line-in-the-sand way to measure whether a person is sexually mature: there would almost certainly be no way to measure this in retrospect. By the time a sex offender is caught, indicted, and tried, months will have passed, even without red tape. As it is now, we can say, "the incident occurred on X/X/X, and the victim was not of the age of consent on that date." But under your ideal system, there's the possibility that the victim would test as "sexually mature" at the time of the trial -- but who's to say whether or not he was sexually mature on X/X/X. I understand that that system is "ideal," and I agree. But it's not feasible. You raise a valid point. Maybe the age of consent could simply be lower? It seems to be 16-18 most places, but I think 12-13 would be fair, since that is, in general, about the time frame that puberty would set in. |
Liloute said: It's not because you're pubert that you are mature enough to start a sexual life though. 16 sounds fine for an intellectual maturity. 12/13 clearly doesn't. Edit: Just as information, in my country (France), that age is set at 15 years old. Going lower just would sound redonkulous to me. You treat sex as if it wasn't a natural instinct that everyone experiences. Shoot, years before I hit puberty I had sexual thoughts/urges. I must have been like 10 when I started looking at porn. It was all rooted in my natural curiosity. If you don't think 12 or 13 year olds know anything about sex, you'd be wrong. I'd also say that in general, 12-13 is an age where you really start becoming aware of what you are doing and the possible risks. When I was that age, I know that I was certainly "intellectually mature" in regards to sex. People just don't seem to take kids seriously. |
| Ok, you have valid points and first hand experience, so I guess I don't really have the right to argue with you. But sometimes the age of consent really screws people over, people who have really done nothing wrong. I don't know if you remember this story - http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/43909060/ns/today-today_people/t/hes-labeled-sex-offender-sleeping-his-own-wife/ but it's a good example. The system today, though mostly good, has flaws. Try as I might, I can't think of how to solve them. But something has to be different. Is there not a way to separate the exploiters from the lovers? |
skutieos said: Ok, you have valid points and first hand experience, so I guess I don't really have the right to argue with you. But sometimes the age of consent really screws people over, people who have really done nothing wrong. I don't know if you remember this story - http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/43909060/ns/today-today_people/t/hes-labeled-sex-offender-sleeping-his-own-wife/ but it's a good example. The system today, though mostly good, has flaws. Try as I might, I can't think of how to solve them. But something has to be different. Is there not a way to separate the exploiters from the lovers? i dunno, IMO dont fall in love with kids. some of you might believe you cant choose who you fall in love with... but personally i couldnt fall in love with a child, because i wouldnt let myself become close to her |
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| Yes. It does. Old man + little girl. Yes. age matters alot. |
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| Naw it doesn't matter.....take for instance my wifey is two years older than me and I met her in my last school year......Awww the memories.....and a lot of people disapproved our relationship...Now we've been married almost two years, after like dating for like five years....So it's what you make of it. |
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RedStarLight said: As long as no one is brainwashed, I don't see anything wrong with most absurd pairings. I bet most of the people who are against this are picturing an older guy with a younger girl and never the other way around. I bet they are also mainly only thinking about the sexual part of the relationship, which is why they are so quick to judge. People can be so close-minded sometimes. Odd couples are cute xD Yeah I actually found something very interesting. You know in every depiction of a vampire they are like several hundred to several thousands of years old but no one really cares when they are with some young girl in literature or movies. So it goes to show they really just care about looks for the most part. O.o As long as couples keep it appropriate for the younger one i think almost any relationship can work okay. Maffy said: No I can picture easily a young boy with an olderrrr woman. I just think a boy/girl who's 12-14 going out with a 26-28 woman/man is just wrong. Call me close-minded but no. It's pedophilia ^-^ No pedophilia would be under 11. 12-14 is closer to hebephilia or was it hebophilia? |
| Well... when a person is young if they are dating someone 10+ years older than them I think it's kind of weird. Like a 14 year old guy or girl dating a 24 year old. Though as people get older it seems less weird. If love is there then go for it, but I do think dating someone significantly older than you is an overall bad idea. Personally I'd rather be with someone around my own age. |
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| I'd say age doesn't matter, love is love. |
| ''beauty lays in the eye of the beholder'' well not really,but if you find someone/something attractive then no one else should have a say in your decision,so if it feels good and you want it then go all out with your 'love'. i myself prefer the older ladies (i mean 20-40 years) |
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Zekkyou said: Obviously it matters P: Though the extent of how much it effects said relationship depends on the age difference as well as the current actual age. A 10 year gap for a couple aged 50 and 60 is perfectly acceptable in most modern societies... But if your 18 and going out with an 8 years old... Then i have to question the stability of your mind... Well based on what you're saying we should be going by age ratio, not age differential. A 60-year-old dating a 50-year-old is more equivalent to a 18-year-old dating a 15-year-old, not an 8-year-old. |
| Physical age not really, Mental Age yes, people at two entirely different points in their lives, with different concerns and responsibilities are gonna have a hard time meshing. |
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| To me, personally, age matters in that I won't date someone who isn't 18 or 19 (and that's pushing it for me because I like to go out and drink). On a grander, more ethics/more scale, not really. Clearly the other person has to be able to consent to a relationship for it to be legitimate, but if an 18 year old girl, living on her own, wants to date some 50-60 dude... go for it. And I say this as someone who would never, ever, ever allow his daughter to date someone that much older than her while she lived under my room haha |
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Hakuromatsu said: Zekkyou said: Obviously it matters P: Though the extent of how much it effects said relationship depends on the age difference as well as the current actual age. A 10 year gap for a couple aged 50 and 60 is perfectly acceptable in most modern societies... But if your 18 and going out with an 8 years old... Then i have to question the stability of your mind... Well based on what you're saying we should be going by age ratio, not age differential. A 60-year-old dating a 50-year-old is more equivalent to a 18-year-old dating a 15-year-old, not an 8-year-old. Um. That's exactly his point..... |
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Bloodcalibur said: Hakuromatsu said: Zekkyou said: Obviously it matters P: Though the extent of how much it effects said relationship depends on the age difference as well as the current actual age. A 10 year gap for a couple aged 50 and 60 is perfectly acceptable in most modern societies... But if your 18 and going out with an 8 years old... Then i have to question the stability of your mind... Well based on what you're saying we should be going by age ratio, not age differential. A 60-year-old dating a 50-year-old is more equivalent to a 18-year-old dating a 15-year-old, not an 8-year-old. Um. That's exactly his point..... "Well based on what you're saying" I elaborated on his point by putting it in mathematical terms. Problem? |
Hakuromatsu said: Bloodcalibur said: Hakuromatsu said: Zekkyou said: Obviously it matters P: Though the extent of how much it effects said relationship depends on the age difference as well as the current actual age. A 10 year gap for a couple aged 50 and 60 is perfectly acceptable in most modern societies... But if your 18 and going out with an 8 years old... Then i have to question the stability of your mind... Well based on what you're saying we should be going by age ratio, not age differential. A 60-year-old dating a 50-year-old is more equivalent to a 18-year-old dating a 15-year-old, not an 8-year-old. Um. That's exactly his point..... "Well based on what you're saying" I elaborated on his point by putting it in mathematical terms. Problem? Seemed more like you tried to correct him instead, but ended up saying the same point. |
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