| I had an experience where I was a member of a certain club here on MAL until today. I decided to leave after realising that it just wasn't for me. Some of this club's more active members were very elitist, pretentious and arrogant towards others. They claimed to be a highly intellectual club on MAL, and whilst it did attract some users who I thought wrote some fairly intelligent things at times, the prevailing attitude of elitism was something I grew to not be able to stomach any longer. It was a club I had invested much of my time and focus to being active on for quite a while, so it feels a bit regrettable. Have any of you had similar experiences lately where you felt like you got involved in the wrong community? Share your experiences here. I'm glad it was just an internet community I got that involved with, as I don't take the internet too seriously and it won't impact on my real life. But I'm sure many of you have had some more regrettable experiences, in real life or maybe even on the internet, too. |
| Myanimelist is my greatest ongoing mistake, but then again so is everything from time to time. I agree with you about some people letting their ego get to their head at times. |
| I've been here way too long... |
| Would love to hear some examples on what kind of attitude the club members exhibited that made you finally decide to leave. Must have been pretty elitist or shaming of others. Also clubs are subject to the same rules as mal, you can report a club for members using it to single out individual users and attacking them personally. |
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| worst group I ever joined was the "Basketball team" in high school completely ruined the sport for me I got to see firsthand how people can dedicate almost everything to one task and still be completely ignorant about what they are doing from the coach down to the players "It was pure madness" |
| How long will it last |
| This club being mentioned in the OP is making me curious. Anyway, I agree on some people being too elitist and having the herd mentality when claiming to be part of a group with stellar intellect. |
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Spooky_Love said: Would love to hear some examples on what kind of attitude the club members exhibited that made you finally decide to leave. Must have been pretty elitist or shaming of others. Also clubs are subject to the same rules as mal, you can report a club for members using it to single out individual users and attacking them personally. It became a bit if a parody when the discussion topic on Skype was for days, something nonsense. There was a growing discord between users as some of the admins filtered into an elitist circlejerk that disregarded the criticisms of other members. It was meant to be a respectable club that took discussions seriously, but there was so much sarky replies and users being categorised according to the biases and subjective opinions of one or two that it just became degrading. Maybe the idea itself is bound to produce this kind of prententios elitism when these clubs are made, or maybe it was just because of the characters of some of the creators. This kind of club has only failed before on MAL, though. |
Autocrat said: Spooky_Love said: Would love to hear some examples on what kind of attitude the club members exhibited that made you finally decide to leave. Must have been pretty elitist or shaming of others. Also clubs are subject to the same rules as mal, you can report a club for members using it to single out individual users and attacking them personally. It became a bit if a parody when the discussion topic on Skype was for days, something nonsense. There was a growing discord between users as some of the admins filtered into an elitist circlejerk that disregarded the criticisms of other members. It was meant to be a respectable club that took discussions seriously, but there was so much sarky replies and users being categorised according to the biases and subjective opinions of one or two that it just became degrading. Maybe the idea itself is bound to produce this kind of prententios elitism when these clubs are made, or maybe it was just because of the characters of some of the creators. This kind of club has only failed before on MAL, though. It's the natural flow of communities of all kinds. At some point the oldfags just prefer to stick to their kind when there are too many newfags keep flooding the/their community. |
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| Joining MAL was a mistake |
 Nico- said: Conversations with people pinging/quoting me to argue about some old post I wrote years ago will not be entertained@Comic_Sans oh no y arnt ppl dieing i need more ppl dieing rly gud plot avansement jus liek tokyo ghoul if erbudy dies amirite |
AudioDruid said: Up until a few months ago I hung out with some questionable characters. My little "group" consisted of my sociopath (ex)boyfriend, a complete pervert who as of right now I hear has a court date for inappropriately groping a girl in her sleep, and my old stalker. It wasn't a good time. I just wonder what kind of person you are. Hanging out with a sociopath, a pervert and a stalker. But you made my day, thank you. :') |
| I've had similar experiences with certain clubs on here and certain boards elsewhere. I can roll with a lot of things, but elitism isn't one of them. Its frustrating. |
| not as bad as getting stuck living in a crack house |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| I had a similar opinion. damastah said: This club being mentioned in the OP is making me curious. Anyway, I agree on some people being too elitist and having the herd mentality when claiming to be part of a group with stellar intellect. I made an educated guess just from their username and the thread title. The body of the post also seems to support |
 ~ join the MAL suicide pact! ~ ~ ★☭★ ~ ~ embrace nuclear annihilation! ~ |
| I usually just jump from group to group of people quite a bit so I never feel like im within a certain group specifically. I suppose ive spoken to people I rewlly shouldnt have. Some people even fucked with my mentality from how horrible they are. |
Involtus said: Oh boy. Another elitist club for me to attempt to join and then never interact with.I had a similar opinion. damastah said: This club being mentioned in the OP is making me curious. Anyway, I agree on some people being too elitist and having the herd mentality when claiming to be part of a group with stellar intellect. I made an educated guess just from their username and the thread title. The body of the post also seems to support |
| I accidenatally joined a cult because my friend asked me to hang out with her and some people around our age at this place, thought the people were cool but I think it was just a christian community. |
| save all the cute girls from ntr manga |
AudioDruid said: Drunk-fu said: I just wonder what kind of person you are. Hanging out with a sociopath, a pervert and a stalker. But you made my day, thank you. :') That's a bit hard to answer. I don't think I'm a good judge of my own character because of a lot of insecurities I have. But I guess I'm the type of person who lets people walk on me too much :/ it's something I'm trying to work on. Which stopping hanging out with them was one of my first steps so ^^ I think I've made progress. And you're welcome :) though, I'm not 100% sure how I made your day lol Well, it was kind of funny to read about the group you've mentioned. If you think about it as an outsider, the first question comes to mind is what kind of person is who hangs out with the mentioned ones. I might go to hell for laughing at that part. On a serious note, im happy that you no longer hang out with them, especialy since apparently you weren't really fitting that group. Oh right, i don't recall anything like hanging out with the wrong people. Pehaps i could mention a few from my childhood. But i prety much no longer go outside (work and training aside). So this danger isn't affecting me much. On the internet im true to myself and to what i used to say, you can always just walk away. |
VargrMay 1, 2015 12:11 PM
Know said: If they did not want members speaking to outsiders, its a cult.I accidenatally joined a cult because my friend asked me to hang out with her and some people around our age at this place, thought the people were cool but I think it was just a christian community. |
| I've come near to straying into the "wrong" communities. Most of time I had friends who pulled me away from it, or I knew that I was going off the path. It's not often that I stray, and I know when I am. Getting into the wrong community is often difficult to get out of. But if you're confident in setting yourself apart from that group, community, society, then you can just say "fuck it" and move on. |
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| it's always good experience to meet new people. you can't just assume that every group of people you meet is going to be a perfect environment, but that is life, you can't have adventures if you don't go out of your comfort zone |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
TheConquerer said: Myanimelist is my greatest ongoing mistake, but then again so is everything from time to time. I agree with you about some people letting their ego get to their head at times. +1 Yeah I left my club today too, I was wondering why I was in it in the first place and came to the conclusion that it wasn't of any worth to me. |
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| I knew which club he was talking about right away lul as for living and constantly talking in clubs and skyping mal user groups thats just a level of sad im not ever prepared to cross. too many mal users accept this website community too far into their lives. |
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Spooky_Love said: I agree some of the club's elitist aspects are "sad", but I don't necessarily see why Skyping with MALers is. It's just a convenient way of talking to people you meet here who you want to continue talking to.I knew which club he was talking about right away lul as for living and constantly talking in clubs and skyping mal user groups thats just a level of sad im not ever prepared to cross. too many mal users accept this website community too far into their lives. |
cause said: Chat club isn't elitist or rude though. No one actually has a problem as long as you don't act like a complete fool there. They're just a fun talking club for people to hang out and talk about things.Chat Club. damastah said: This club being mentioned in the OP is making me curious. Anyway, I agree on some people being too elitist and having the herd mentality when claiming to be part of a group with stellar intellect. http://myanimelist.net/clubs.php?cid=64507 |
Solipsistic said: I agree some of the club's elitist aspects are "sad", but I don't necessarily see why Skyping with MALers is. It's just a convenient way of talking to people you meet here who you want to continue talking to. For me personally it just takes a simple forum you post on too far into your life, when you start vocally talking over skype and chatting with users regularly outside of mal it becomes something else and as many has regretted around here when it becomes something else it gets complicated. As Ive said I don't view anyone on mal as a friend regardless how long I know someone because I always keep online communities at a certain length, I don't want them in my personal life. Shit I mean look what all that shitstorm was about two week ago, skype chatting mal members. You bunch of psychopathic lolicon loving elitist weebs ;) |
SpooksMay 1, 2015 1:15 PM
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| "Joining MAL" comments are always cringy worthy. People, why? OT: I try not to socialize with the delinquents of my area |
Spooky_Love said: Fair enough. It definitely does complicate things, and it's always a good idea to be cautious about how much you reveal to people online. Solipsistic said: I agree some of the club's elitist aspects are "sad", but I don't necessarily see why Skyping with MALers is. It's just a convenient way of talking to people you meet here who you want to continue talking to. For me personally it just takes a simple forum you post on too far into your life, when you start vocally talking over skype and chatting with users regularly outside of mal it becomes something else and as many has regretted around here when it becomes something else it gets complicated. As Ive said I don't view anyone on mal as a friend regardless how long I know someone because I always keep online communities at a certain length, I don't want them in my personal life. That said, you can still just use a pseudonym, fake pic, and opt out of voice calls if you're that concerned about it. I don't think it's wise to "always" have a policy of no-online-friends, seeing as there are plenty of cases where people have made real friends (and even entered RL relationships) with people they met online. You just have to be very selective with who you trust. If people do decide to do that, it's not "sad". It just means they're less guarded than you. |
Battlechili1 said: Chat club isn't elitist or rude though. No one actually has a problem as long as you don't act like a complete fool there. They're just a fun talking club for people to hang out and talk about things. I strongly and respectfully disagree with your opinion. But I have no intention of trying to argue over this. |
Solipsistic said: If people do decide to do that, it's not "sad". It just means they're less guarded than you. What are you trying to say?  |
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cause said: Ah.I strongly and respectfully disagree with your opinion. But I have no intention of trying to argue over this. Very well. |
Spooky_Love said: Get that nub shit outta here. Come back when you have a real armor set. Solipsistic said: If people do decide to do that, it's not "sad". It just means they're less guarded than you. What are you trying to say? |
| Not only In MAL? Well, I think so.. |
| Today they say you're crazy, tomorrow they will say you're a genious. |
Solipsistic said: Spooky_Love said: Get that nub shit outta here. Come back when you have a real armor set. What are you trying to say? Sorry i grown up on mmorpgs. I always thought an armor is like this. :/ Though i gotta admit, it'd look weird on a grown man. |
Drunk-fu said: Solipsistic said: Get that nub shit outta here. Come back when you have a real armor set. Sorry i grown up on mmorpgs. I always thought an armor is like this. :/ Though i gotta admit, it'd look weird on a grown man. Prefer this type:  |
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| i never take part on those chat clubs or elitists clubs, i hate drama and the feeling of being bullied in real life so the same is true about the internet |
Involtus said: An IQ tier lists on anime users? I'm wetting my burqa now in cringing embarrassment.I had a similar opinion. damastah said: This club being mentioned in the OP is making me curious. Anyway, I agree on some people being too elitist and having the herd mentality when claiming to be part of a group with stellar intellect. I made an educated guess just from their username and the thread title. The body of the post also seems to support |
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| Yes. The community's/forum's name is Himeuta. Unless you are a fan of unpredictable elitism, do not frequent forums that have the reputation system. I became a forum moderator on Himeuta and was soon after that demodded because the community rioted due to me having too many downvotes, saying: "He's not appropriate to be a mod! He must act inappropriately to have rep this low! I'm afraid for the forum's safety!" That's what you get when you mix downvotes from opinion disagreements with general negative behavior. Oh, and I got this many downvotes on a suggestion thread I put up to remove the reputation system. How ironic that it was the reason for my "fall". But yeah. Don't go around communities with the reputation system. It's shit. |
Involtus said: Of course it's this one. I thought of this instantly and when I checked the members, Autocrat isn't there.I had a similar opinion. damastah said: This club being mentioned in the OP is making me curious. Anyway, I agree on some people being too elitist and having the herd mentality when claiming to be part of a group with stellar intellect. I made an educated guess just from their username and the thread title. The body of the post also seems to support So that means it's the one, considering you can't post comments when you're not a member and he posted one just recently. Kek, so not even that club is something for you, Auto? That's some harsh shit, but I guess you've grown out of the "Debate club", considering you acted the same way at the time, maybe a bit worse. Anyway, no, not really, but I've left skype chats because of complete and utter idiocy or simply because of no interest in their subjects and members. |
Play League of Legends here! Autocrat said: Hitler was good, objectively. |
| Feels like you made this thread as a roundabout way to shit talk on people. Then again I don't blame you, most of them act like huge pricks. |
NudeBear said: Duuh.Feels like you made this thread as a roundabout way to shit talk on people. |
Play League of Legends here! Autocrat said: Hitler was good, objectively. |
| To me, this club appears to be a bunch of casual, not really anime fan people licking eachothers ass on a regular basis. And if you don't join the human centipede, you'll be banished for eternity. |
| My old roommate was a drug dealer, which led me to hanging out with some sketchy people lol. I mean my roommate was pretty chill but some of the people he was acquainted with were pretty skettttch |
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