"stop talking to 3D dumbass, what else did you expect" |
| @hopefulnihilist: You've posted all of these threads except one on CD, and I at least look at every thread on here once. Casual Discussion is basically where I'm "at home" on Myanimelist. It was sheer luck that I caught the one you posted on Anime Discussion, I just noticed it because the premise was so strange. I just happen to remember most of these threads because 1) I posted in most of them soon after you made them (that's what we do here, we post in threads) 2) You acted out in some of them, or at least said some very alienating and weird stuff, which made them somewhat more memorable. 3) These threads are all very recent. It doesn't take much to notice the recurring theme that ties your threads together. I'm certain that I'm not the only one who has noticed. It doesn't take a "stalker" to figure this stuff out. And as you can see, getting the threads together is easily doable with a single search qeury. If you think that I'm obsessed, you probably just greatly overestimate how much time I spent on this. |
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| Probably doesn't want to talk with u. Girls seems to do that when they're not interested in someone,is annoying but you can't do nothing but to understand that she is not interested in making friends. |
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HopefulNihilist said: Si-Ran said: bro, get over it stop ruminating and just get out there and interact with people, for better or worse. I'm not trying to offend you, but usually with stuff like what you're having difficulty with, it's best to just bite the bullet and learn from experience, rather than judging everything based on your own limited experiences. because you are like, waaaaay overthinking it edit: also, i know you're not dumb enough to think that there's a straightforward answer to "why are girls so cold", that's like asking, "why are dogs so mean", like, have you interacted with every single dog? did you even give the dogs you interacted with a chance? aren't you judging all dogs prematurely and on a really vauge, easily misinterpreted principal? so why ask questions like this? all you're doing is indulging a negative feeling, and doing so likely only leads to feeding your weaknesses, and exacerbating your issue. don't indulge this line of thought or others like it. I know not ALL girls are cold, I'm just curious why I SEEM to keep meeting the cold ones. I go to college, and in class, I try to talk to people, but it's difficult when there's barely any time to talk to anyone. So the conversations rarely go beyond, "How are you?" Because by then, we're working. But...maybe you're right; maybe I'm indulging myself in negativity. Maybe I should stop complaining. Again, you're focusing on all the bad stuff, man. Your perspective can greatly influence your behavior and even how you appear to others. I mean I can give a million hypotheticals as to why you "seem" to meet all the cold girls, but neither you nor I would have any way of knowing if any of them were correct, because 1. I am not involved and 2. because your perception may be totally distorted to the point where you misinterpreted the person as being "cold". Cold to you, or cold in general? Cold in just this situation or cold because they felt like it? There'a a billion reasons someone might "seem" like something. There's a billion variables but many times the most influential one on any situation is YOU. Not how you look, but how you act and the vibe you give off. If you're constantly running over all the negatives, all the interactions you interpreted as bad, you're not only psyching yourself out but you're also tearing yourself down. No reason to do that when the world is already difficult. Support yourself. Try to let go of the worrying, painful thoughts and put that energy into finding and following the thought that's optimistic, productive, and leads to the outcome you desire. I know I'm being harsh but I do mean well. I support you, friend. Try to stop beating yourself up and seeing the worst in situations you find difficult. It's just a new challenge for you to learn from. Also, remember that there's no trick or correct answer. Just gotta keep trying different things until something works. |
nicethings said: [...] realizing you're still freezing your tookis off I was so engrossed in your post, but then this. What the heck are tookis!? I haven't had that experience OP, and answering this question is like throwing darts in the dark: Wildly inaccurate and even if one hits you're probably going to be wrong about which one it was. Here are another couple darts for your amusement: They're not the brightest social butterflies, or you don't make them comfortable, or they had bad experiences with random attention, or your perception of the situation is off. |
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| why are boys so horny and full of ulterior motives |
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| It's difficult to speculate on why x interaction went y way when you do not know either party involved. Body language, odor (some people are funky), word choice, topic choice, facial expressions and a myriad of other factors that may have nothing at all to do with you, can influence how someone responds. Back to my first point though. It also does not help that your post itself is vague. They appear distant. What does this actually mean? They do not reply? They reply in one word answers? Never make eye contact? Distant means different things to different people. Different cultural backgrounds can also play a large role in perceiving one to be cold or distant. The last question I had was....what is a facial expression that says "I've been abused". That one legitimately threw me for a loop. Your other statement is about the notion that women like to talk about their relationships and personal issue's or so you've been told. Disregarding whether that's true or not, you are a stranger. A classmate sure, but still a stranger or at best a passing acquaintance. I would hope that your expectations are not centered around such personal conversation. I do find myself wondering how much of this is reality and how much is perception. At any rate, I'm not Dr. Phil, so this isn't meant to be some kind of counseling. It was just my initial *edited* (rated PG version) thoughts upon reading. |
| @Sleepy_Yoshi I bow in praise of your positively ordinary response. |
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| I usually try to avoid conversations with guys on campus because I've dealt with way too many guys trying to hit on me when I was responsive to them. After having a guy follow me and try to convince me to get in his car and then having another guy start stalking both my partner and I, I decided I'd rather communicate with guys on campus as little as possible. |
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| Just be warm-hearted, relax and don't worry too much. If some of the girls from your courses can warm up to you, it will eventually happen. And if not, there is still a chance that they will eventually find other people they can warm up. I'm btw. not sure what you seem to be more worried about: 1) about girls appearing cold towards you or 2) about girls appearing cold in general? The point is that you only get to see a small excerpt from their lives. Maybe they are just tired or stressed from studying. There can be lots of different possibilities where you cannot have any influence at all. Best practice would be imho. to observe (don't stalk, though) and try with little steps with those, who seem approachable. If you know what they like, you can try to give it to them. You may also want to consult some male colleagues, since unlike me and pretty much everyone else here, they can see the situation you are talking about at first hand. Tele-diagnoses are quite difficult on their own and in such cases, it's even more so because we can only have your own point of view. |
| If it always smells bad it's probably because there's always someone around you who has stepped on shit. |
| have you tried to initiate your conversations about something related to class as a vehicle/ ice breaker into something more if that doesn't work go to the next girl treat them like statistics tbh i think social media has destroyed this generation's ability to communicate with each other face to face effectively whether it be the opposite sex or not |
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| women typically have less muscle mass and evaporate less heat through the pores in their skin, thus they might feel colder than men in a room with the same air temperature. hope this helps :)) |
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| As a male I am not fully qualified to answer but probably due to 1 or many of the things below. 1. Borred 2. Not using a persona at the time 3. A defense mechanism for the ego 4. Focusing on work 5. Any issues physical or mental 6. Stress 7. conformity The most common of the above is just being uninterested/borred. |
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If she smile and reply politely, you may try to start a conversation. Any decent looking girl will have many other guys trying to interact with her, everywhere, to the point she can't properly interact with all of them without getting overwhelmed. So why would a girl choose to waste her time and energy interacting you, instead of other guys? |
 Ｍｅｎ Ａｒｅ Ｆｒｏｍ Ｍａｒｓ， Ｗｏｍｅｎ Ａｒｅ Ｆｒｏｍ Ｖｅｎｕｓ ａｎｄ Ｇａｙｓ Ａｒｅ Ｆｒｏｍ Ｕｒａｎｕｓ |
| Generally because they have inferior circulation and body insulation. Leave my fucking thermostat alone thot!!! |
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| @hopefulnihilist: fine, here is my honest advice to you. Contact a professional. I don't think that your problems can be solved by some well meant words from strangers online. And I don't mean therapy, just go to a professional, make maybe two appointments, and tell them everything about how you socialize. Get some proper advice. I don't know what it is you're doing and neither doesn't anyone else here, but clearly there's something that's very off about the way you approach others. Someone irl will be able to get a more complete picture. |
| *lampoons inwardly* |
| So how many cold girls we talking about here? Like 100 or one or two? If it's a huge amount, the issue probably lies with you and we'll have to figure out what that is. If it's just a few girls then really it's probably just as simple as the girls you're around not being very friendly people. I'm a girl who I'm sure comes off as cold in places like school or work and you seem like someone really working hard with self improvement so Id like to help if I can. I think people are being way too hard on you in this thread. You don't know how to talk to girls and you seem like you're genuinely trying to figure out why and that's great dude. For me, the issue people are going to be running into is that I don't really want to be better friends with a lot of the people I work with. I'm worried they'll either want to hang out with me or if a man start hitting on me. I've had times in the past where that has made me really uncomfortable. And i have social anxieties and just don't have time for more close out of work friends. It's not that I think all men want to hit on me, most definitely do not, it's just a given that this will happen sometimes though and I strive to avoid it. So yes, the difficult part of this is realizing that even if you're saying all the right things rejection is inevitable with some girls. You need to work on being okay with rejection. It is not the end of the world, and you should be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there. That takes some guts. Man I know it's cliche, but there is a girl out there for you, and there's other girls as well who would love to be your friend if they knew you. Also I notice you said that the conversations don't go far past how are you. I think this could be important, are you just asking these girls how they're doing and expecting them to guide the conversation? Huge mistake. Don't just come at them unprepared. The fact is, you are taking to these girls because you are interested in them. But to them you are just another random person. First impressions can be very important. Asking them, hey, how you doing is a great start, but you're going to need to be driving the conversation. Think of some questions to ask her beforehand. Is she from here? Does she like the school? What's her major? Make jokes if you're funny and most importantly just try to be casual and upbeat. I'm sure there are a lot of reasons why you'd be a great or fun friend. This is her first impression of you, so try to let your best features shine through and show her what you have to offer as a friend. The biggest mistake I see socially awkward men make is getting their expectations too high when talking to any woman. If you start to expect someone you just met to heal your inner loneliness, or fix you you are going to come on way too strong. It makes women very uncomfortable when you put expectations like that on them. Now you don't really sound like you're doing that but when taking to a complete stranger don't put too much hope into things working out with this specific person. I'm not sure exactly what you're looking for but if it's love the best relationships are gonna start from friendships, and the most successful boyfriends are gonna be people who know how to be friends with women who they aren't dating. So last important tip for now is you try your damndest to let them subtly know that your interest in them is casual, not desperate. If you can pull that off, even the coldest women completely uninterested in friends will not dislike you. Like I said, just try casually chatting and asking a few questions. Important also, if the conversation feels a little awkward, just casually let it die, smile, and get ready for class/go to your next class. Then, talk to her again tomorrow. Let the conversation naturally run its course. Repeat. This is basically how you form a friendship. And a final note pay attention to body language, vocal tone, etc. If you talk to this girl for a couple days and shes still completely unfriendly, move on. Leave her alone, maybe just smile and say hi, but make a point to not approach her or approach her less. Thats all I got for now feel free to pm me in the future btw |
HopefulNihilist said: I think know that you are abnormally insecure and any slight shift in intonation or body language sets you off as an imaginary sleight, which you react to by attributing your personal feelings to other people's character flaws as a means to self preservation. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if you rank high on Cluster B personality traits.@Railey2 I love criticism. I love it when the book I'm working on is criticized, I love it when my character is criticized. However, the difference between how YOU critique me vs @Si-Ran, is that from your posts, it's clear that your intent is to downgrade me, whereas @Si-Ran is trying to help me. Let me ask a reasonable question @Railey2: based on our interactions, you do not seem to like me. That's fine...so how come you keep posting on my threads, interacting with me? The newsflash you need to see is that other people can see your sudden shift in perception even if you adamantly deny them. When someone sees you taking offense for no reason, they might not want to talk to you anymore. I also know that you "blocked" me, so I'll leave water here in case you ever stop pretending to get thirsty and actually get thirsty. |
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traed said: i rejected most girls in high school for this exact reason.Some people like to take themselves too seriously and overly focus on academics. do i regret it? maybe a little |
| "among monsters and humans, there are only two types. Those who undergo suffering and spread it to others. And those who undergo suffering and avoid giving it to others." -Alice “Beauty is no quality in things themselves: It exists merely in the mind which contemplates them; and each mind perceives a different beauty.” David Hume “Evil is created when someone gives up on someone else. It appears when everyone gives up on someone as a lost cause and removes their path to salvation. Once they are cut off from everyone else, they become evil.” -Othinus  |
| If you think only girls are assholes, you're not going out enough. People are assholes. |
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| Have you heard of the "nofap glow"? Stop masturbating and turn over a new leaf. I recommend r/nofap on reddit. It's a motivating place, quite uplifting and will help you enjoy life like it's meant to be. All people - men and women - can be seemingly cold to you. They can also be seemingly nice to you! It's all about how you view it. Life is what you make it to be. P.S. I love smelly armpits btw. Girls' armpits, of course! |
Railey2 said: @hopefulnihilist: fine, here is my honest advice to you. Contact a professional. I don't think that your problems can be solved by some well meant words from strangers online. And I don't mean therapy, just go to a professional, make maybe two appointments, and tell them everything about how you socialize. Get some proper advice. I don't know what it is you're doing and neither doesn't anyone else here, but clearly there's something that's very off about the way you approach others. Someone irl will be able to get a more complete picture. Senpai, this “person” (if you can call “him” that) is an alien trying to learn the way of our species. Do not feed him our secrets, the human race is at stake here |
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| Because they think you're hot, so they're being cold to balance the weather out. |
| Who are you and why do you show your hostility towards a complete stranger whom you've not once spoken with before. Are you seriously asking to get blocked? Well, if that's what your intent is; to tempt me into throwing hands with someone as lowly and insignificant as you, then i may grant your wish provided you articulate yourself a bit better when trying to spite a person of my wavelength. |
| I’m a girl and I want to give the best advice possible but honestly I don’t know how accurate what I have to say is, because I’m pretty boyish, and I’m honestly clueless as to how some girls work because not to sound like a special snowflake but i just don’t relate or act like them. Anyways, what I think may be that some girls may act colder than they actually are, I mean including me, I have social anxiety so I try to avoid social contact which might make me seem rude. Social anxiety is a lot more common than you think. And like what some others said before, you may be misinterpreting their expressions out of anxiety. I do that too, sometimes I feel like everyone’s looking at me and giving me dirty looks when really they’re not even paying attention to me at all and are neutral. You have to look around and trust what you see and not what you think. |
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| All girls are thots, dont get near them. XD (Females, this is a joke, calm down) |
| Yeah right there is no way a doujin about vomit exists. Good song https://soundcloud.com/yeungkakit33/op4-hekireki-last-alliance Tsumino account is BigMaraIppo Another Good Song Listen to テスト by mukami #np on #SoundCloud https://soundcloud.com/mukami/77a Ashita no Joe and Megalo box are disappointing anime. My reviews:https://myanimelist.net/profile/Botan-Chan45/reviews Best Naruto Op: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ByCNZxOBVWM&list=RDByCNZxOBVWM&index=1 discord name: Chitoge Kirisaki#9564 https://discord.gg/nGKu6zx my discord server for plebs |
| I think this is mostly due to most new interactions between a male to female is for either work or dudes who may want a relationship. Females see this much more often that even if you just talk without having any means for sex and relationship they are skeptical of your intentions which is not really something that you can control no matter how you behave. |
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HeroicIdealism said: Anushura said: I am not marrying because girls are cold and extremist feminist unlike liberal feminist which is a need of the hour . My lineage will end with me T_T though I have some wonderful names that I want to give to my children . I'm not marrying because I don't want to be divorce raped. Fuck modern marriage. Botan-Chan45 said: All girls are thots, dont get near them. XD (Females, this is a joke, calm down) Not much of a joke if it's just a fact. I do not planned to get in relationships due to the financial risks, social risks, and my personality, but not all women are thots. I do think hypergamy is becoming more commonplace nowadays though. Now time for a funny meme |
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rohan121 said: HeroicIdealism said: I'm not marrying because I don't want to be divorce raped. Fuck modern marriage. Not much of a joke if it's just a fact. I do not planned to get in relationships due to the financial risks, social risks, and my personality, but not all women are thots. I do think hypergamy is becoming more commonplace nowadays though. Now time for a funny meme Of course not all women are thots, but as you said, hypergamy is very common and so are casual flings. |
| cos girls are expected to smile all the time right. you don't realize you're being overbearing and making them uncomfortable by persisting. do some self-reflection my dude. |
| Because the world is a cruel place and we are sad an bitter. :) Also, speaking from experience. |
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HeroicIdealism said: I didn't know anime was so popular with Islamic incels.Anushura said: I am not marrying because girls are cold and extremist feminist unlike liberal feminist which is a need of the hour . My lineage will end with me T_T though I have some wonderful names that I want to give to my children . I'm not marrying because I don't want to be divorce raped. Fuck modern marriage. Botan-Chan45 said: All girls are thots, dont get near them. XD (Females, this is a joke, calm down) Not much of a joke if it's just a fact. |
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nicethings said: lamawalrus said: I was so engrossed in your post, but then this. What the heck are tookis!? I haven't had that experience OP, and answering this question is like throwing darts in the dark: Wildly inaccurate and even if one hits you're probably going to be wrong about which one it was. Here are another couple darts for your amusement: They're not the brightest social butterflies, or you don't make them comfortable, or they had bad experiences with random attention, or your perception of the situation is off. It's actually spelled "tookus" but I can't spell properly so When it doubt, consult urbandictionary I think? it's an originally Yiddish slang term, so basically meant I was "freezing my ass off" Huh, I learned something and forgot to say thank you. Thank you. It's a lot more amusing than the English term.. |
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| cus the majority of girls (not all) can't feel attraction as easily as men and as some girls do it's programmed biology and has something to do with the 2nd head men have |
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