p0ckyy said: Thanakos said: lol sorry, normal doesn’t existHonestly, all you have to do at this point is be normal. I have literally no other requirements. Just for fuck's sake, be normal. everybody’s got something It does. I've just never been lucky enough to come across it. People, especially in their 20s, are a mess. |
| Overly judgemental, shallow and entitled types. |
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| -Smells bad. nothing worse than a stinky girl -Has nothing going for them as in no job, car, or dont have there own place. If I got to pick you up, pay for everything, and take you over my house if we hang gtfoh. -Being to fat. Sorry if you are ginormous Im not interested. -Im 23, if you got more than 1 kid that is definitely a turn off as well. |
| my biggest turn of is if they dont turn me on |
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| I feel like a lot of people mention fat/overweight as one of their turn-offs, but I kinda wonder if it's like a spectrum for you guys? I mean can they be chubby or is it still a hard pass? I'm just curious :))) |
Maneki-Mew said: Thanakos said: It does. I've just never been lucky enough to come across it. People, especially in their 20s, are a mess. Normal to me = normally socialized human being with a decent of morals. It's very easy to find moral people. Very rare to find normally socialized people. I only want the latter and it's incredibly difficult to find them. |
| Someone who's too serious all the time, and a control freak and I'm out HybenWinther said: I feel like a lot of people mention fat/overweight as one of their turn-offs Not all. I don't mind fat or chubby girls as long as they're tidy |
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| - Poor table manners are extremely off-putting to me. I could never be with someone who had the habit of chewing with their mouth open or slurping their soup. That would drive me insane. - People who are messy. I'm a minor clean freak, so being with someone who was very messy and disorganized would be a bit hard on me. - Probably couldn't be with a right-winger or religious person tbh. Our views would be too different. - Poor hygiene. Nobody wants to be with a smelly person who is voluntarily disgusting. - I don't like when people are underweight or very overweight. Chubby is fine. - Not a fan of tattoos or piercings at all. - Small penis. I can't really elaborate on this one because I don't want to break any forum rules, but I still want to mention it as vaguely as possible because it's relevant. |
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| Fragility. Nothing worse than when I put my SO in a Walls of Jericho mating press and they start screaming about how I'm going to break them. v_v |
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| Boy, most of the replies here make me gag a bit. Anywho, there are a few things that really made me question my choices in the past. Most of them can be traced back to being self-centered, such as talking about yourself wayyy too much and having most of your sentences start with "I'm like [...]" or "I'm the kinda person who [...]", I'm not a reporter, it's not an interview. Another one was when people would complain about other folks all the time, including exes and relatives. When everyone seems like an asshole to you and you're not making any effort to solve any problems or any conflict between you and someone else, you're most likely the actual asshole. And I've had this shit pulled on me a few times, people getting super worked up about something and wanting to break up at the first sign of any inconvenience. I guess having idealistic expectations of what a relationship is like can be another turnoff, loads of people don't take conflict and problems into consideration, and these aren't inherently bad things, every couple has some issues at some points in their life together, and what do you know they're still happy and they love each other, and that's because they know how to work together and they aren't delusional. Fellas (and lasses), just try to be considerate of your partners and put in the effort whenever you can. And don't assume you're going to end up settling down with someone who ticks all your boxes, it pretty much never works that way. Be ready to adapt (not the same as being a wuss who doesn't stand up for themselves of course), be considerate of your partner and for the love of god just communicate, the first step towards solving a problem is addressing the problem itself, respect your partner and let them know when you feel something is wrong, then you can both work on a solution. |
Erg_OrgyFeb 15, 2020 11:48 AM
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Thanakos said: It's very easy to find moral people. Very rare to find normally socialized people. I only want the latter and it's incredibly difficult to find them. I also just really want somebody "normal," whatever that means. Yet there really are many people out there who have a pretty bad set of morals. Not the majority of people, but I think that its at least more than we believe it is |
| My biggest turn-offs are drugs, smoking, heavy drinking, obesity, tattoos and heavy piercings. Basically, I don't want her to look or behave like a criminal or delinquent and/or lead a very unhealthy life style, especially not with things that can be avoided. I find tattoos particularly ugly Personality-wise, I just wish for her to keep loyal/faithful, to be honest and to stay communicative. Can't think about what the dealbreaker here is, but I prefer loyalty/faithfulness over honesty and a good communication is the most-likely safety feature to keep a relationship healthy |
| Chest hair. Excessive arm, underarm,or leg hair. |
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| Women with long nails Women over 200 lbs Women that smoke Women that dress like tramps (IE: wearing heels on campus) Women that wear a ton of makeup Women that cannot take a joke. Women that constantly gossip Women that get offended easily |
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| When she isn't shaking and genuinely terrified to the point of sobbing with a runny nose. I just can't get into it. |
Maneki-Mew said: HybenWinther said: sorry if I'm being nosy, but what's wrong with having lost one´s virginity in high school in your opinion? They aren't holy waifus anymore, I guess? Someone being sex-obsessed is a big turn off to me as well, but this lol Especially because you are between 14-18(!) in high school. I imagine it like "woow, you hoe lost your virginity before you were 30!? With 16, 17, 18!!? You whore!" I guess they just don't want used goods. |
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| Smoking is one of the most disgusting things I can think of, kills any interest I have in the person |
| When you find out that you actually live in the Matrix. It's like WOAH i need it to be real tho. |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| I actually have a turn off for people that don't have a turn off for me. |
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| 1. Bad hygiene. Strong smells literally hurt my nose. Must shower daily. Not brushing teeth is an automatic deal-breaker. 2. Can't dress themselves. T-shirt and jeans is fine, but by god those things better fit them properly. 3. Racism or other prejudice. Instant deal-breaker. 4. Lack of empathy. 5. Bragging about money with the intent of wooing me. Yes, I've experienced this, and no I wasn't impressed. 6. Social vampire. I've dated one. It was exhausting. 7. Doesn't like animals. My dogs are my life, and I'll always have pets. 8. Closed minded. Must be willing to go outside their comfort zone. Must not judge my anime figure collection that exists in literally every room of my home. 9. Controlling/unwilling to compromise. |
shotz said: the big 3 red flags: 1. asshole to their mother 2. dislikes dogs 3. knife collecton /thread why is #2 a red flag? a turn off sure but a red flag? |
I don't have a turn off because I'm not interested in a relationship in the first place.  |
| Biggest dealbreaker is shallowness. Can't really think of turn-offs. Usually when I'm in a relationship I'm already far too infatuated to be bothered by something they do. Maybe really disgusting eating habits. |
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| i know that i was also a kid once, but i really just want to beat the shit out of every little kid i see |
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| Overweight and smelly and people. Also those with a kink policing sex. Those who don't even put minimal effort in having a conversation. Hyperactive people who could not chill one day at home. |
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| In general it turns me off -Ugliness: If in women elements such as attraction, desire and erotic love enter mainly through the ear, in we men it does so mainly through the eyes. It is not essential that a woman be really beautiful so that she attracts a man, but she definitely cannot be ugly. -Tomboy behavior: Certainly most of the great seducers (such as Cleopatra or Casanova) have in their personality certain traits of the opposite sex that are part of their charm, however their dominant traits have always been corresponding to their own sex. A woman lacking femininity and delicacy is not attractive. -Anger Issues: Few women could be more irritating than a woman with anger issues. Not even a great beauty can compensate for that defect. -Unfriendly: What attractive thing is there in a woman of an unfriendly nature? For a relationship that demands affection and exclusivity (something much better than an sexual adventure) they alsoturn me off -Promiscuity:The promiscuous woman -that enjoys sex appeal- can be very desirable when it comes to enjoying her on an adventure, but it definitely is not when it comes to forming with her an emotional relationship that demands exclusivity. Seeing a man in love with a promiscuous woman is as frequent as seeing a woman in love with a man without character. -Habit of lying: One thing is the occasional lie and other is to practice lying as if it was a national sport. What kind of trust can inspire a woman who lies a lot? -Perversity or messianic complex: The woman with these characteristics usually connect me too much with the snake that lives in my inner darkness. The more I allow her to feed to this snake, more likely it is that I will not see her as girlfriend but as prey. -Undesirable similarities: How a couple with univocal tastes and opinions can avoid the marked monotony? Can avoid constant conflict a couple formed by two dominant people with strong temperament? -Affective coldness: A woman who does not know/want express her affections and feelings with actions and/or words will hardly awaken my affective side. -Without salt: A woman whose physical attractiveness obtains a rating of 6, can obtain in her general sexual attractiveness a rating of 9 or 10 if she enjoys a delicious and remarkable personality. Cleopatra, for example, was not a woman of great beauty and yet she had such an attractive personality that seduced to a level that no extraordinarily beautiful woman could reach. How many of the current top models can claim to have men like Julius Caesar and Mark Antony under their seductive power? The truth is that even a physically beautiful woman loses a lot of appeal if she has a frankly boring personality. What is the point that a woman looks very beautiful if she has not taste? Who likes meat without salt? On the other hand, there are women who, although insipid in their dealings with others, hide a very rich and interesting internal reality. It is not an easy task to release your repressed delights, however, the reward and satisfaction offered by waking a sleeping volcano can be very tempting. It is evident that this apparently insipid woman is not the genuinely insipid woman to whom I refer. The list could go on and on depending on the quality of affectivity and exclusivity that I could be willing to offer. |
_Nemrod_Feb 28, 2020 3:43 AM
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| Biggest turn-offs for me would be dishonesty and if they criticise me for my interests/hobbies. I value honesty very highly and despise lying (including "white lies"). |
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| In terms of relationships, being too clingy or your partner having the need to document every second of the relationship. Like when they screenshot text and uploads them online saying "awww I love him so much." Idk that stuff turns me off. |
| Smelling bad, smokers. If you're nasty smoker, stay the F away from me if you're gonna light up one of the those disgusting cancer sticks, you utter clown. Shitty sense of humor as well. |
| Woman who are way too full of themselves. I can't be with someone that feels like I'm taking care of a spoiled child rather than an actual partner. |
| Slobby people. People that make no effort to look or act well. Being overweight or hairy on it's own is not a showstopper, but combined with unhealthy lifestyle, or uncleanliness, or bad manners, or just general untidy person, big red flag and showstopper. Also liars are out on their first lie ( not white lies). |
| idk about you but the closer a girl gets to looking like ronald mcdonald, the more aroused i become. CAV where can we cast our eyes to @PoruMairu who thinks of himself a member of the true church. Helion. |
misatowo said: Agreed, it's also a pretty good indicator that there's something wrong with someone if they can't notice it / care about it.Bad smell, imo bad smell is the worst |
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BlakexEkalb said: Honestly pretty much how I feel, personality does eventually outweigh how I feel about dating a person long term but that initial attraction I have towards other people is a factor into whether or not I'm going to date a person or not. If she's hot w/o personality she's basically only qualified to be a hook up or short term relationship anyway.Ryulightorb said: Probably people who judge those on their weight and treat them as lesser people. I have multiple health conditions that contribute to making weight loss so fucking hard even with a restricted diet that were left untreated till a few years ago (Doctor took that long to pick up the ball) now im losing weight but jeez let me tell you Being told by someone "eww i wouldn't date him he is overweight" means that if you turn around and want to date me i'm 1000% not going to date someone that shallow Also people who put looks as one of their major factors in picking someone they want to date even though i rarely get called ugly and usually get the opposite (which is weird as i think i am ugly but whatever i guess i should trust strangers on their opinion) imo Looks are a factor in a relationship but are very minor in the scheme of things. If your going to judge whether someone is dateable or not whether on if they are attractive or not ......honestly hard pass and i have passed people for this before. Some would argue "But everyone wants someone they find attractive" which sure i agree but writing off others ESPECIALLY when you have fucking feelings for them because of looks is just....yikes seen it happen to so many people in my life that it's a red flag / turn off. My next one is kinda tame in comparison but smoking. That seems quite silly. I for one want both looks and personality to be equally important. If someone is fat, then no I will not date them since I don’t find being overweight attractive. If they’re extremely hot, but with a terrible personality I don’t want to date them since they are a disgusting human being. You can be a super nice and funny person, but if I look at you and I don’t find you attractive, I don’t want to date you and eventually be your partner. If you are an attractive girl but you’re a douche, I don’t want to date you. |
AnimeDownUnder said: shirakawa_megumi said: > be into low testosterone soyboys > complain that they soyboy Just change your class to full time lesbian, there is no point for you to trouble with males. Sad to see people will judge based off things you can't control, hormone levels can't be controlled. Height and disabilities (like social anxiety) can't be controlled...if you judge people based off those things you're just a bad person. I mean technically low testosterone can be controlled......i say that as someone who needs to take a lot of it because their body produces like zilch |
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