| The title says itself. We aren't dating but we are really close with each other (my friends think that we are dating). But then at the time that I would make my move I've found out she's into some girl, and I feel I am being estranged. What will I do? UPDATE: (01/22/17) I've confessed to her just now on message, and we're going to talk about it all tomorrow. UPDATE: (01/23/17) We've talked about it but still we're gonna finish it by tomorrow, because we would be busy studying for the upcoming test the next day. She declared she had friendzoned the girl, but of course it's not guaranteed. But still, I'm on a roll I guess. Wishing me luck tomorrow. |
JomsJan 23, 2017 5:48 AM
| Do what a hentai protagonist would do |
 Nico- said: Conversations with people pinging/quoting me to argue about some old post I wrote years ago will not be entertained@Comic_Sans oh no y arnt ppl dieing i need more ppl dieing rly gud plot avansement jus liek tokyo ghoul if erbudy dies amirite |
| ... I never felt jealous of girls as long as I'm the only one who gets love (I mean romantical one), mostly because we're just... different. Tho if she's in love with that other girl... *shrugs* I'm gonna say something many ecchilovers will say to troll, but this is actually serious: love or not, this might actually be a good occasion to get into a ffm threesome too. like, if that's all you're going to get without suffering, might as well try it. |
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| Wow, that certainly sucks. Ask her what she'd do if the person she liked, liked another person? I know it might sound stupid, but see what she answers, you're close afterall and maybe she can give a good advice. |
"At some point, I stopped hoping." |
Joms said: Engage in a rapey BDSM threesome with both of themComic_Sans said: Do what a hentai protagonist would do Like what? |
Nico- said: Conversations with people pinging/quoting me to argue about some old post I wrote years ago will not be entertained@Comic_Sans oh no y arnt ppl dieing i need more ppl dieing rly gud plot avansement jus liek tokyo ghoul if erbudy dies amirite |
| I feel I've been already estranged. We were too close to romance (flirting and such) but now our recent topics are already into homosexuality and such. She can't help talking about that girl. |
| You're fucked, time to abort. Or dress up as the other girl. |
| I've been here way too long... |
| there isn't anything wrong with her having a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time. Unless you want to be exclusive with her than idk. |
| I'd end the relationship as soon as possible. That girl can't be trusted. |
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| @Joms huh, sounds bad. It really depends on how much you like her and if you want to stay at least her friend at all cost. If you're talking about her love problems openly, I guess you COULD try to talk to her honestly and just tell her how you feel. That's probably the solution that will make you feel the less shitty anyway. @scruffs the amount of persons able to stay in a polyamorous relationship without suffering seems quite low. I don't know many people who would even think about it, even less make it work. I sure don't want that stuff, from experience. You could make an exception if the three persons were all in love with each other... @Moog He could try to go trans for her or something, there's still hope, don't be pessimistic :x |
DeathkoDec 10, 2016 7:23 AM
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| Assuming that you want a traditional, monogamous relationship, you're probably better off just dropping her. If she's a bisexual who is preoccupied with homosexuality and this particular girl, then it probably means that she has needs that one sex alone can't satisfy, and that she probably wants the best of both worlds. A bad partner choice. If you're really into her and want her to be your future girlfriend, then there is no harm in trying, though; she could be one of the most faithful persons around for all I know. |
MoogDec 10, 2016 7:41 AM
| bisexual doesn't mean into more than one person at the same time, it means you can be attracted to anyone from two genders. and yeah man, that sucks, but you shouldn't consider it any different than if she was into another guy. don't keep liking her romantically, that will only affect you negatively. move on. |
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| Well, I would just drop her already. Thanks for the advice even though some of them are somewhat contrasting. Yeah, I should just drop her already. She had played well with me though. That sucks. This was the first time I feel I am fooled by someone. I just can't help because she's the only girl I am really close with. Maybe I'll just build another relationship. |
JomsDec 10, 2016 7:41 AM
| WTF are you smoking? Don't listen to Rarusu, he is a MGTOW or whatever he calls himself :x. @Joms How can you say she played you if you didn't even tell her your feelings, baka? What will it cost you to just tell her and gauge her reaction instead of running away? |
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Clebardman said: WTF are you smoking? Don't listen to Rarusu, he is a MGTOW or whatever he calls himself :x. @Joms How can you say she played you if you didn't even tell her your feelings, baka? What will it cost you to just tell her and gauge her reaction instead of running away? It would cost our friendship. She's actually into that girl and she even say that she would try and date her. It's checkmate. Confessing won't do anything but a potential total estrangement. It would be just awkward because there is a possibility that I'm just assuming that we are close with each other. That's why I feel I was well played. She played with my feelings. I'm so easy to read (I know it because most of my friends think we are dating already) so I'm sure she knows I'm into her but look what she'd done. Well it's done, I'm so done. But we'll still be friends I guess. She's my classmate in college btw so how could I get away from her. |
| Scoop up the girl that she has her eye on as payback. This is the only recommended course of action. |
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| Being bisexual doesn't mean you're into polygamy. I don't really see why this changes anything from your perspective |
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| You make your move and hope for the best. That's the only thing you can do. Be prepared for rejection, and make sure you got some friends and some beer. |
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| I think you already know what's happening. The harem route is inevitable. |
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| i dont see any problems as long as you can build up a honest relationship. if she likes someone else, does it really matter if its a guy or a girl. what would you do if she said she likes an other guy. if you think you would still go for it then confess. |
| everyones focusing too much on the fact that shes bi etc when in the end she likes someone else and not you...so the obv answer is that shes not a potential gf anymore sorry my dude gl in your journey of romance x |
| I just want to bump this post because finally I've confessed to her. Gotta update you people with the result tomorrow. |
| I don't really get what the bisexual bit of detail has to do with anything though? It's exactly the same as if she was potentially into some other guy. The fact the other person she might like is a girl makes literally no difference, unless you plan on settling this with dick fencing or something in which case she'd win because strap-ons are v. durable. |
| 3P it, easy. |
❀桜舞う空〜 Cute is Power.  “Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.” I seek only to improve myself and others. |
Lemon said: I don't really get what the bisexual bit of detail has to do with anything though? It's exactly the same as if she was potentially into some other guy. The fact the other person she might like is a girl makes literally no difference, unless you plan on settling this with dick fencing or something in which case she'd win because strap-ons are v. durable. It has no bearing actually. The fact is just I am just shocked that she's into women and I felt that there's a chance that she would be a lesbian, but I'm still optimistic that she's a bi. Plus I get the assurance because of her word. |
| The bottom line is, if she's being open enough for you to know that she's into another person then she's not all that into you. It sounds like you're struggling to keep afloat a sinking ship. Keep us updated with the result, but from what I gather it doesn't sound like a good situation. Maybe by this point she's more into you, although it's hard to see a confession alone swinging her feelings like that. Once you know someone a single action won't usually sway your deep enough attraction to someone else. She knows you well, and you know her well. I think you might have to give up on this one. |
Autocrat said: The bottom line is, if she's being open enough for you to know that she's into another person then she's not all that into you. It sounds like you're struggling to keep afloat a sinking ship. Keep us updated with the result, but from what I gather it doesn't sound like a good situation. Maybe by this point she's more into you, although it's hard to see a confession alone swinging her feelings like that. Once you know someone a single action won't usually sway your deep enough attraction to someone else. She knows you well, and you know her well. I think you might have to give up on this one. She's not open actually. Since I posted this topic she's been trying to hide all of their activities from me, most of the time being with that girl without me. Some time we three would hang together with other friends but still she's with me more than her. I get the upper hand in other words. She also said that she had cut the chances with that girl and friendzoned her. But of course I would take no guarantee to that. That's why I've confessed after she said that. Even though they were still hanging out I just wish my confession would do something with it. |
Joms said: Autocrat said: The bottom line is, if she's being open enough for you to know that she's into another person then she's not all that into you. It sounds like you're struggling to keep afloat a sinking ship. Keep us updated with the result, but from what I gather it doesn't sound like a good situation. Maybe by this point she's more into you, although it's hard to see a confession alone swinging her feelings like that. Once you know someone a single action won't usually sway your deep enough attraction to someone else. She knows you well, and you know her well. I think you might have to give up on this one. She's not open actually. Since I posted this topic she's been trying to hide all of their activities from me, most of the time being with that girl without me. Some time we three would hang together with other friends but still she's with me more than her. I get the upper hand in other words. She also said that she had cut the chances with that girl and friendzoned her. But of course I would take no guarantee to that. That's why I've confessed after she said that. Even though they were still hanging out I just wish my confession would do something with it. I'm sorry but I don't think it will. I think she cares a lot about your feelings and so she's telling you stuff like she's friend-zoned her and whatnot. If she's hiding their activities from you then it sounds like she really values her time with that other girl but doesn't want to upset you. Taking all this into consideration I don't think you're being fair on her. Think about her feelings, think about the spot you're putting her in. She's your dear friend and, yes, as it happens the object of your admiration too, but at this rate you're going to even lose that friendship. Take a step back and really consider this. This might not end well - at all, really - but it can certainly end better. |
| HAHAHAHAHA, then you did something really wrong XD If you are wasn't enough for her, it is really bad for you :D |
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| bisexuality has literally nothing to do with polygamy, you all realize? |
| Be smooth and parlay the situation into a threesome. Duh. |
| A girl being bisexual is no obstacle to creating a relationship, however it may become an obstacle to maintaining a relationship, and not because she's into girls, but because she's overall going to be very loose with her preferences and needs. I've already seen this happen several times, it may be tough in the long run. |
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Joms said: The title says itself. We aren't dating but we are really close with each other (my friends think that we are dating). But then at the time that I would make my move I've found out she's into some girl, and I feel I am being estranged. What will I do? UPDATE: (01/22/17) I've confessed to her just now on message, and we're going to talk about it all tomorrow. This is the girl you confessed? Because if it is, maaaan, she's beautiful. Good luck bro |
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| If shes not into you, shes not into you. Don't get hung up on 1 girl, just move on. If you can actually get some threesome action though that would be the best option, but that would assume the girl she likes is also bi and it might be awkward to bring up, but hey its your life do what you feel is best. |
 "The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." -Friedrich Nietzsche |
| Well sounds like you were "Friend zoned", but you manned up and busted a move. Getting you out of the friend zone. So two things are either going to happen. 1) She will shoot you down, saying shes into the girl. But this is still a positive, at least now everyone's feelings are no longer misunderstood. You won't be being used, and you'll be able to move onto the next girl with a clear conscience. In the end it might hurt a little but you'll feel better about yourself. 2) She'll say that she's into you too. You don't know things just might work out. The key here is to stay calm, cool, and mature. It might be easy to get upset here and say something you don't mean and blow the whole thing. So sit back and LISTEN. Good luck! |
gemanepa said: Joms said: The title says itself. We aren't dating but we are really close with each other (my friends think that we are dating). But then at the time that I would make my move I've found out she's into some girl, and I feel I am being estranged. What will I do? UPDATE: (01/22/17) I've confessed to her just now on message, and we're going to talk about it all tomorrow. This is the girl you confessed? Because if it is, maaaan, she's beautiful. Good luck bro you meanie, man. don't spread my infos I feel exposed. But yeah, that's her. Nonetheless, I'll update. The real deal is by tomorrow; today was a bad time because of requirements and the upcoming test. Needed to study, and our minds are not so focused. |
| Just want to bump this thread because after 3 years I forgot I posted this kind of thread and it feels funny lmao After this post I guess it's when the time I become really inactive in this forum (I'm not really that active in the first place) So yes, we were still friends after I confessed, and I kind of just gave up, and she never went with the girl I was telling about. However it was like April 2017 when I met a new girl whom I date until now, almost 3 years now as I write this. So we can say that I'm doing better now. My friend had some partners here and then since and we're supportive of each other. We also graduated in university in 2019 and it's been a year but my university friends and I we're not talking much anymore. I'm just gonna keep this thread because it's funny and I completely forgot about it. I appreciate all the support and advices people gave here. |
| Do you still watch anime though?... |
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| Thanks for the bump! Probably the most interesting, random thread to have come across! Glad you're in a better place! :) |
"Whether you're sad, you're hurt, or empty, you have to keep playing."  |
EratiK said: Do you still watch anime though?... Yes, I'm currently watching GTO as of now, but I've lost interest on keeping up with newer titles Kata89 said: Thanks for the bump! Probably the most interesting, random thread to have come across! Glad you're in a better place! :) I'm glad you took interest in this thread haha, I can just remember how I'm so frustrated and all during those times, but the new girl I've found is so wonderful and truly I'm in a better place |
| Good, good. Yeah, newer titles tend to be meh. |
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| You have to show her that you're a man and that she doesn't have to look for the maturity of another woman. Find courage, make bold and audacious moves to win her affections, and do well. Good luck! |
| rip dude, that sucks. Id say break up before she cheats on you and just be friends if possible |
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HaXXspetten said: Being bisexual doesn't mean you're into polygamy. I don't really see why this changes anything from your perspective agree, i dont really see the issue or understand... |
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