20 years old, and I'm still a virgin. The funny thing is, I probably could've lost my virginity sooner:
When I was in middle school, there was this girl who flirted with me for a period of time. When I say flirt, I don't mean that it was subtle: she would like smile at me from across the table in class, calling out my name in a very seductive voice. While I thought it was hot, I had 0 clue that it meant she might have been interested in me...that or she was just trying to manipulate me. It's weird because I had a crush on her. Yet I never had the courage to ask out any of my crushes.
Recently at work, one of my female friends/co-worker asked me if I wanted to know her social media account. I still think that's a very unique question, but I assume it means she's somewhat interested in me. Because afterwards, she asked for my Instagram account, and then my age. I told her my Instagram account name, but I later realized that I slightly forgot the name of it, so she's probably never going to find me on Instagram, and I probably blew any small chances I had at catching a date. Oh well. I'm still getting to know them as friends, getting to socialize with girls.
When I was much younger, that's just the kind of person I was: someone who just didn't "get" social norms. Like at all. I only learned months ago that asking a person of the opposite sex for their number has sexual/romantic implications.
I think if I really put my mind to it, I can get a girlfriend, and lose my virginity. Like, becoming close friends with a girl isn't all that hard: just be yourself, but don't show you're anxious. Once you find just one common interest you and the girl are passionate about, it should be easy to get closer.
However, I'm not romantically interested in anyone right now. So trying to get romantically involved with a girl who I'm not interested in just to have sex, would make me feel terrible.
I also think that directly flirting is absolutely creepy, and I'd feel it goes against who I am as a person: I'm interested in a girl, romantically or just sexually, I'm not going to act weird or flirty: I'm just going to smile, ask her what she does in her spare time: if she says, "I just relax," that's subtext for, "I am not interested in talking to you." Which is perfectly fine: I'll just move on.
I've heard some girls play, "hard to get" and "mind games." I won't deal with that bullshit: I'm not a person who speaks in subtext, because I hate subtext. If a girl appears disinterested in me, regardless of whether she actually is or is not, I'm going to move on.
I'm Turkish: we're more direct than Americans.
Sure, rejection sucks, but hey, there's plenty of people out there.
TuryuriOwO said:
I'm not that surprised that a majority of people on MAL forums are virgins. No offense to the weebs on the forums.
I mean...why do you think waifus exist?: As a coping mechanism for us virgins that reassure us 2D > 3D girls.
Usagi said:I lost my virginity when I was 18 to my now husband.
I'm surprised there's someone on MAL who has a spouse. I've always known there are people here who have boy/girl friends, but I never thought someone might have a spouse. It's interesting that you mentioned that you have a husband, because I'm going to attend one of my relative's wedding. |