How far are you willing to help a friend out in a serious situation?
I would offer my life for them
15.8%
12
As long as it doesn't conflict with my current life
38.2%
29
If there is a benefit to helping(like a reward) I would
1.3%
1
My friends are capable of helping themselves
5.3%
4
Advice, is as far as I'd go to help a friend
17.1%
13
I have no friends, only acquaintances
22.4%
17
76 votes
| I've searched through threads and couldn't find any topic for it so I thought I might start one... Now you hear it in a lot of anime, and even in manga...'nakama' So what does friendship mean to you? How far would you go for a friend? A best friend? Would you trade life and limb if they were in a deathly situation? I know fiction can be a bit over the top when it comes to people saving their friends, as there's usually a plot behind why they do it, but say that situation happen to step into your shoes? Take for an example, your friend is wrongly accused for a crime they didn't do, and you just happened to find out through the news about your friends crime. Who would you believe first? Would you go against the law to help that friend out, and in that, maybe make enemies out of your other friends and family? We watch a lot of anime, movies, tv and we see a lot of all these modern day heroes saving their friends whether real or fiction...but should one day, it happen to you..are you willing to step up on that plate? Pls discuss...and don't be afraid to be honest....its the net so no one will look down on you if you say you can't go all the way to help a mate out.....I was just curious what the response would be from real compared to fiction... |
TensaiShonenAug 12, 2009 6:17 AM
| What friends? |
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| I don't do shit for no-one. So I chose "i have no friends, only aquaintances" |
Hybrid00 said: What friends? 'real' friends....not the ones you meet on forums or chat sites |
| Nakama is actually more literally a comrade or associate; somebody you work with for example. Not close personal friends but you have a professional relationship of some sort, typically. It's only loosely used for friends, in some anime (and manga, I'm sure). It irks me seeing people use it as some sort of term for sacred bonding friendship |
TensaiShonen said: 'real' friends....not the ones you meet on forums or chat sites All my relationships, apart from direct family are online and I imagine i'm not the only one on this site like that :P |
| Oh, let's use tomodachi instead!! But seriously, could've just started the topic with "Friendships" instead of all these Japanese translations. Ah, more hypothetical situations in which we would talk about what would happen, except chances are it never will, or never the same way we guessed it. Anyways, regarding friendship. I guess I would fall in the category of giving advice. |
| back in the day I would do anything, in fact I was Mr dependable. Then oneday my circumstances changed and i reached out to my freinds for help. You know what I found, A kick in the face and spit on. I gave up helping anyone after that, sure I mean I might do somthing. Ahlove it used to mean somthing to me. |
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| Of course I'd help them... If friends don't help each other then who would? |
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Asako said: It's only loosely used for friends, in some anime (and manga, I'm sure). It irks me seeing people use it as some sort of term for sacred bonding friendship As its MAL, i used Nakama as its mentioned more in a lot of anime, then the word tomodachi...and we all are on here because anime daisuki...de sho? Tachii said: Oh, let's use tomodachi instead!! But seriously, could've just started the topic with "Friendships" instead of all these Japanese translations. You'll be seeing more of my topics and threads with jap in it as I'll be teaching in nippon next year so I'm trying to get with the lingo as much as possible....if you've watched a lot of subbed anime, you'll know whats written...if not, then excuse if you don't understand :s |
| In my opinion, friends are crutches...they're there to hold you up should you take a fall(and vice versa) but that's about it....it shouldn't be permanent if serious shit hits the fan, then that's when they should be turning to their families. And if they have no family, then they're shit out of luck...here's a coke and a fag for your troubles...smoke away my friend :D real friends shouldn't be troubling you with their problems anyways...if they're in trouble with the law...unless your a lawyer, i suggest you tell that friend to turn to one and not to you... |
| I don't mind helping as long as it isn't troublesome for me. If it is, or they're trying to drag me into their personal problems, drama, or fights, I prefer to stay out unless I'm really close to them. |
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| When I was in Japan, I would tell my Japanese buddies that we were 'NAKAMA!" and bend my pinky finger so it looked like it had been chopped off, and I would thrust my hand into their faces and chant "WATASHITASHI NAKAMA DESU!" They would laugh nervously and back away from me. :( |
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| I have five people who i truly consider to be my friend, everyone else other than that is just an acquaintance. And for these five people i would gladly give them my life for them. They have done so much for me and i would do anything for them. |
| Apart from dying (btw, I honestly don't believe any of you would die for someone, except your child and lover maybe) I'd do a lot for a true friend... if I had any. I don't, therefore the last option is my vote. |
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| I do love my friends. Some of them more than others admittedly, but hey I'm only human. I feel that I should help my friends to the best of my abilities regardless of the situation, as I'm sure in most cases they would do the same for me. Perhaps I'm too trusting? Who knows. I treat people how I'd like to be treated. |
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Beatnik said: Let's do the pinky swear.When I was in Japan, I would tell my Japanese buddies that we were 'NAKAMA!" and bend my pinky finger so it looked like it had been chopped off, and I would thrust my hand into their faces and chant "WATASHITASHI NAKAMA DESU!" They would laugh nervously and back away from me. :( |
| I, uh, don't really experience the feeling of companiopnship and friendship, but I do love giving advice to everyone - it makes their lives better and can help them to take care of themselves. |
corbenic said: Apart from dying (btw, I honestly don't believe any of you would die for someone, except your child and lover maybe) I'd do a lot for a true friend... if I had any. I don't, therefore the last option is my vote. yes...dying hurts...i value my life...friends should too, if not theirs, at least yours |
| I don't usually go out of my way to help people, and I seldom bother getting close friends. I'm quite sure the type of friendship I view as close is what most people would view as an acquaintance. |
| It really depends on the situation. I can't even answer this question without first knowing what friend we're talking about and what their situation is. Advice? Sure. Thats easy, I give out advice all the time when someone asks thats nothing. My friends can usually help themselves in most cases. I love helping someone if there is a reward. It makes the helping part 200% easier. I'm not risking my life,social status,money or health for anything or anyone. Fuck that >.> |
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| Seriously, if it was for one of my best friends, I'd quite happily help them out in a life or death situation. Even if it meant risking my own life. Although for just plain friends I probably wouldn't give a shit. |
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| No matter how much of a friend he/she is, they have their own problems and I don't like to butt into their problems; however, if they reach to me for advice, I will give it to them. I don't go out of the way for a friend unless they ask for it. If they don't, then I have no right to butt into their affairs friend or not. |
| There are all kinds of friendships. There are friends who are fun to hung out together but really untrustworthy beyond that. Anyway if someones ask for my help and i consider them to be a person that deserves help, even if it isn't a close friend i will go out of my way a little to do something to help them.. For a friend who actually did something for me out of the good of his heart when i needed help i' ll really try hard to help him if he/she asks. As about risking your life? Well it depends on the situation. For example if 10 guys are beating my friend up and by helping there is a danger than i could also get seriously injured, i will still help. But if someone let's say shoots my friend and the only way of saving my friend is jumping in frond of the pullet. Well sorry, no i won't get shot in your place. That's something i will only do for the girl i love and my kids if i ever have any. |
| Depends...Don't really know. I have said "STFU" to a lot of friends looking for advice... I don't know how I'd react...frame of mind....blah...blah. C: Then do I want the reward bad enough...would I be actually doing it for the reward - Don't know. Life - Again...Don't know. I really don't know much about myself. Apart from the fact that I am FLAWED....Nothing. XD |
| My RL friends think I'm batshit insane. But yet, we all are. |
| Risk my life? If my friends were all I had then sure I'd do it in a second. On the other hand I do have family who would be more upset than my friends if I were to die, especially knowing that I had a choice in it. Everything else though, I would risk falling out with other friends to help one. I'd do anything to help any one of my friends and if people didn't understand that then they don't deserve to be my friend. Especially since they know I'd do the same for any of them. |
BadLuckTuckxL said: My RL friends think I'm batshit insane. But yet, we all are. Cough |
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| I would love to say I would offer my life to save someone (friend or not) but it would not be completely out of kindness. I would do it because I would feel so awesome for dieing in a "heroic" way and in the end it would be for a final stroke of my ego. Wanting to be a hero is almost as bad as being a villain. You wish for another person to be in danger so that you can feel better about yourself |
UhmhihelloAug 12, 2009 6:55 PM
| lol @ all the people saying they would risk their life. Either you have nothing to live for or you were already suicidal |
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| I've got 5 good friends ive known for a long time and id do anything to help as long as it doesn't screw me up badly, gotta watch out for myself too. |
| you dont need something in return when you help someone? |
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| I only have two friends and I don't like either of them. |
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| I have no friends, only acquaintances-- Pretty much this because the current "friends" i have i don't see our friendship lasting much longer..all they care about is partying, doing drugs and drinking..and I don't find doing that stuff 24/7 fun.. and most of the stuff i do i only do because of self interest and self gain anyway |
| I am FAR to selfish to think of anyone else. Hell I only have two friends, I've had them for like eleven years, and I'll be damned if I was asked to put my ass on the line for them. They wouldn't save me either, I'll tell you that right now. Unless one of us saw potential benefit that went hand in hand with the situation, in which case I'm sure it would work out. I am so glad I met the only other people in the world as self absorbed as me, at least I'm in the right company. Although, one of them thinks I am COMPLETELY unstable, to a point where we get along great but if I told him the sky was up and grass was green, he still wouldn't believe me. |
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| Man, am I lucky! I've lived in a good community where helping out is considered a norm. In the toughest of times, they've helped me cope and asked nothing in return.To this day, even if we're not close, they'd help out. I feel the same way about it but unfortunately for me, I haven't had the opportunity to return the favor. These people are not even friends of mine. They're tennis buddies and acquaintances. I've tried to do 'good deed' to someone who might need it.It's my way of returning the favor. They did it for me. I would do it for someone else. |
TsukikageRanAug 13, 2009 9:01 AM
| I've done alot for my friends, and will continue so in the future. As they've done for me. I dont know how far I would go for them, that is something that will be answered if I'm in a situation where I have to sacrifice something to help them. But my friends are really important to me. I dont really know what I would do if I didn't have any. Maybe stay home all day and do nothing but crap. My friends taught me about the internet and anime so I doubt I would do any of that, considering my father never wanted a computer in the house. |
YaYERZ said: lol @ all the people saying they would risk their life. Either you have nothing to live for or you were already suicidal You're saying you have a lot to live for? Apart from the unreseaonable bestial urge to live, it's all just perspective. Maybe they have more to live for than you...But would give them up for a friend. (Obviously...saying it...and doing it...are completely different) :) Primus said: I would love to say I would offer my life to save someone (friend or not) but it would not be completely out of kindness. I would do it because I would feel so awesome for dieing in a "heroic" way and in the end it would be for a final stroke of my ego. Wanting to be a hero is almost as bad as being a villain. You wish for another person to be in danger so that you can feel better about yourself Well said. XD |
| Actually, thinking about it, I'd probably, if it didn't but me at high risk, go out of my way to save someone, friend or no, if I deemed them worthy enough. And if it helps me, too, then why not? I'm my own little God dealing out judgment. I like that feeling. Eh. |
YaYERZ said: lol @ all the people saying they would risk their life. Either you have nothing to live for or you were already suicidal This. Though there is a big difference between risking your life and offering your life like the poll says. Risk = chance of death. Offer = certain death. To the ones that voted offer your life, I agree with what YaYERZ says. This topic reminds me of episode 18 of Pandora Hearts. Those who voted that they would offer their life has the personality of Oz. It can be a selfish choice and the easy way out. You don't have to grieve and mourn since you're already dead, but the ones you leave behind will feel the pain instead. |
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ruusakraj said: Ah, touché.It can be a selfish choice and the easy way out. You don't have to grieve and mourn since you're already dead, but the ones you leave behind will feel the pain instead. |
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| Normally if you refer to someone as Nakama you'd already be willing to give your life for them if there is a need because it's a term which refers to someone who is more than friend - more like family. If you're after friend itself.. Tomodachi, the "closeness" is quite significant. |
CUNTDESTROYER666 said: The only situations in which this scenario can play out is 1) when there is only 1 parachute and the helicopter is going down, which doesn't necessarily mean death for yourself. But if you are fat then you probably shouldn't grab on to your friend parachute and let him go. 2) In a fire, with the building structures burning and pillars and shit falling, in which case it's a 'don't worry about me and just go' type of thing.3) Saw/ hostage situation. How about something realistic like, say, organ transplants. You know, things which are likely to happen. |
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CUNTDESTROYER666 said: Kaiserpingvin said: CUNTDESTROYER666 said: The only situations in which this scenario can play out is 1) when there is only 1 parachute and the helicopter is going down, which doesn't necessarily mean death for yourself. But if you are fat then you probably shouldn't grab on to your friend parachute and let him go. 2) In a fire, with the building structures burning and pillars and shit falling, in which case it's a 'don't worry about me and just go' type of thing.3) Saw/ hostage situation. How about something realistic like, say, organ transplants. You know, things which are likely to happen. Well in that case you aren't going to die from donating a kidney, and there are plenty of other people who can help. Rare blood type and heart transplant necessary, or something, I figured. But yeah, most of us will never get into any such situation. And I think most would be too selfish either way. We don't know ourselves very well in most cases, I think. I for one haven't the foggiest what I'd do for friends. |
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cantius said: That was a really really stupid assumption you just made.YaYERZ said: lol @ all the people saying they would risk their life. Either you have nothing to live for or you were already suicidal lol at you. You must have no friends. Ashahonee said: From my perspective dieing for someone like that is really selfish. You think the person you just 'saved' is going to be able to live life without feeling guilty now? The people saying they would die for someone else seem like suicidal people that have finally found what they think is a justifiable death when its really still suicideYaYERZ said: lol @ all the people saying they would risk their life. Either you have nothing to live for or you were already suicidal You're saying you have a lot to live for? Apart from the unreseaonable bestial urge to live, it's all just perspective. Maybe they have more to live for than you...But would give them up for a friend. (Obviously...saying it...and doing it...are completely different) :) |
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| It makes me think..Why would you get yourself killed for your best friend If they are indeed your best friend they wouldn't want you to die for them would they? Even if their death might be certain they'd want you to live as much as you want them to live..if I worded that correctly |
AriosThePirate said: It makes me think..Why would you get yourself killed for your best friend If they are indeed your best friend they wouldn't want you to die for them would they? Even if their death might be certain they'd want you to live as much as you want them to live..if I worded that correctly I think it's more like willing to put your life ahead of theirs to help them, if they happened to be in such a situation *knock on wood*. Putting someone before you :P |
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