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A lot of talk about this topic. Just wanted to hear the opinion of MAL
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Nov 18, 2012 3:36 AM
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Person 'A' asks Person 'B' out to dinner. Person 'A' should pay the entirety of the bill.
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I don't think it should be expected for every date... just special occasions. I respect women who pay for their bill.

There's a lot of circumstances that could affect this though... if she cooks for you on a regular basis, then footing the bill when you go out isn't a big deal.

It's different for each relationship.
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Nov 18, 2012 3:44 AM
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Goryo said:

There's a lot of circumstances that could affect this though...


Indeed. OP didn't supply us with much detail.

I answered assuming they're not in a relationship. Relationship status plays a big role, among other things.
Nov 18, 2012 3:46 AM
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culture plays a role too.
Nov 18, 2012 3:50 AM
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I'd say it entirely depends on the people involved, just like anything else that involves people. Their personalities, their living situation, their income, their expenses, the type of relationship they have, and so on.

I wouldn't say there is a blanket answer that covers "most cases" because every case is different.
Nov 18, 2012 3:52 AM
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-Adam- said:


Person 'A' asks Person 'B' out to dinner. Person 'A' should pay the entirety of the bill.


hmmm logical
Nov 18, 2012 3:53 AM
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Goryo said:
I don't think it should be expected for every date... just special occasions. I respect women who pay for their bill.

There's a lot of circumstances that could affect this though... if she cooks for you on a regular basis, then footing the bill when you go out isn't a big deal.

It's different for each relationship.


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Nov 18, 2012 3:54 AM
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I have a friend that ALWAYS pays for his girlfriend, they've been together for about 2 years.

Damn must be tough on his wallet.
Nov 18, 2012 3:58 AM

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Just take it in turns or some shit.
Nov 18, 2012 4:31 AM

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i would say yes, i mean everywhere i go i would try to pay for food or anything even if the other person has more money :O
i guess it's a pride thing....
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Nov 18, 2012 4:56 AM

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I agree with those who stated that it really depends on the relationship and other stuff. But I usually pay for a girl on the first date, it just feels right (in case she doesn't like ridiculously expensive food or doesn't eat that much like every hero of shounen anime LOL)
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Nov 18, 2012 5:00 AM

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Why should you care about social norms and what other people think you should or shouldn't do? It's YOUR relationship afterall.

As for my opinion, I'd go along with what she wants rather than argue about it or let her feel bad.
Nov 18, 2012 5:03 AM

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Contribute or take turns. If I dated someone, and they genuinely thought otherwise, then they can go take a hike.

Of course there could be other factors, but I'm going by that both are dating and have enough money to get by.
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Nov 18, 2012 5:42 AM

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I always pay mai waifu's expenses when we go on a date.
Nov 18, 2012 5:42 AM

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Depends on a lot of things, as others have already said, and quite rightly too.

If its a first date, I have to determine whether or not the guy will be offended if I say I'm happy to pay my way. If it seems that they will be offended, I keep my mouth shut just to avoid any awkward fussing. For all subsequent dates though I expect to pay half or take turns paying.
Nov 18, 2012 5:57 AM

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It depends. For most formal dates, I'd say probably. I don't really go on many formal dates with my boyfriend, but since we're both poor college students we usually just pay for ourselves. I think what makes that ok is that I know he would pay for me, but I'd rather he didn't because I know how being broke sucks lol.

If we were ever to go somewhere nice for a special occasion, like Valentines Day, anniversary, etc. I'd assume he would pay for that though. It's an unfair societal norm that the guy should pay for fancy dates, but I think most girls do expect it.
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I always pay mai waifu's expenses when we go on a date.


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Nov 18, 2012 6:42 AM

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Nah, not unless it's already established. I've never payed for a dinner for my girlfriend, we always went dutch. I've payed for a few movie tickets for her, she's payed for a few things for me, it's pretty even between us.
Nov 18, 2012 6:46 AM
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Hell yeah.
Nov 18, 2012 6:50 AM

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Trust me on this. If the girl actually likes the guy, they will pay for themselves. We don't want to be leeches.
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It shouldn't be like this.

But I hear some actually demanding it at the end of the date (after a few dates)...

Like, what...?




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Nov 18, 2012 7:11 AM
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mitch3315 said:
I always pay mai waifu's expenses when we go on a date.


you too?
Nov 18, 2012 7:14 AM

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when first asking someone on a first date yes pay for it all, but as time goes on and your together with the same person you start splitting the bill and take turns

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Jizzy, I know you have no idea how to argue for shit,

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Jizzy as you would call yourself because youre a dick The most butthurt award goes to you And clearly you havent watched that many shows thats why you cant determine if a show is unique or not Or maybe you're just a child who likes common stuffs where hero saves the day and guys gets all the girls. Sad taste you have there kid you came up to me in the first place making you look more like a kid who got slapped without me even knowing it and start crying about it to me

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I hate it how bitches make me pay for dinner when I go out on dates (or presume they would if I were able to get a date anyway) and yet they also think they are entitled to equal employment prospects. Man, I hate feminism!
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if you're taking your date to the movies, the guy pays for the movie tickets. Pretty much an unwritten rule. I'll pay for the snacks too but if she really insists then I'll let her pay.
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DJIzzyIzzyHitler said:
when first asking someone on a first date yes pay for it all, but as time goes on and your together with the same person you start splitting the bill and take turns


Why not just you know, do that from the start?

"If we're dating, we split the bill" makes a lot more sense than;
"I'll pay constantly, but after some arbitrary time, I'm going to make you pay too"
Nov 18, 2012 8:35 AM
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They should, as such is courtesy.

I think we had the exact same example in the last gender thread. You should make such decisions with your girlfriend/boyfriend, each situation is different after all.
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First date the person who asked pays.

After a few, well that's a discussion that they need to have, I had a boyfriend who said that he wouldn't of liked it if I had offer to pay, I never really understood why.
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Should gender roles? No. For more information, see any of the 1203910 other threads asking the same question.

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I had a boyfriend who said that he wouldn't of liked it if I had offer to pay, I never really understood why.
Because he's insecure, I can only assume.
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Nov 18, 2012 9:52 AM
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What women like is cars and money.



Nov 18, 2012 9:58 AM

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I don't like cars.
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What women like is cars and money.

What women like is...
Nov 18, 2012 11:07 AM

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My boyfriend and I go back and forth paying.

A few years ago when I was in another relationship though, the guy was a lazyass and I was stuck paying for most things (including the gas since he didn't have a car). I don't know how people can deal with that for long periods of time, their S.O. being a lazy cheapass expecting someone else to always pay.
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Nov 18, 2012 11:16 AM

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If a guy asked me out to dinner I'd probably pay half if the place looks posh, but if he took me to some place like Mcdonalds, then I'd expect him to pay plus where ever else he decides to take me...
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what's supposed to happen if the woman makes a lot more money? I read somewhere recently that a lot of high power business women will date younger men who are either more open mined or not intimidated or something.
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extraspectra said:
what's supposed to happen if the woman makes a lot more money?


She will look for a male that makes even more money than her.
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extraspectra said:
what's supposed to happen if the woman makes a lot more money? I read somewhere recently that a lot of high power business women will date younger men who are either more open mined or not intimidated or something.


The equivalent of rich man dating young models
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mrjag said:
extraspectra said:
what's supposed to happen if the woman makes a lot more money?
She will look for a male that makes even more money than her.
Stop.
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Nov 18, 2012 11:43 AM

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When a guy asks girl to a first date I think he should pay for a girl, but when 2 people are dating, I think they should split the bill, take turns in paying or smth like that.
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Yes, like a gentleman. Especially for the first one.

As the dates progress, I am sure the girl will volunteer to pay the bill herself to show she likes the guy and then both of them can alternate with the duty.
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Kanic said:
extraspectra said:
what's supposed to happen if the woman makes a lot more money? I read somewhere recently that a lot of high power business women will date younger men who are either more open mined or not intimidated or something.


The equivalent of rich man dating young models


I don't think women would use them for eye candy though. At least if Liz Lemon is to be trusted :).
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I have another question... What of those guys who are not rich, and they somehow manage to hook up with a girl that is good but used to guys that could treat her? :3 Let me see the answers to this xD

In my case I've paid few times, girls payed few times, but usually expenses are shared :D
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There seems to be a mistake here. Women date money, not people.
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Shaduge said:
There seems to be a mistake here. Women date money, not people.


you forgot to add the inb4 sexist remark
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Shaduge said:
There seems to be a mistake here. Women date money, not people.


Finally a lucid person.

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Shaduge said:
There seems to be a mistake here. bitches date money, not people. women like people.


fixed...sorry. i know that's a really smart ass thing to do.
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What about lesbian relationships?


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Yes, like a gentleman. Especially for the first one.

As the dates progress, I am sure the girl will volunteer to pay the bill herself to show she likes the guy and then both of them can alternate with the duty.


You could call it gentlemanly or chivalrous; others might call it patronising.
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extraspectra said:
Shaduge said:
There seems to be a mistake here. bitches date money, not people. women like people.


fixed...sorry. i know that's a really smart ass thing to do.


Right thing to do tho xD

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