| Do you ever feel taken for granted? How relevant do you think you are to those around you? Are you the life of the party or simply another face in the crowd? Are you usually the one to initiate a conversation with friends or do your friends seek you out? Does it seem people put you on the back-burner and take care of other matters before fulfilling promises they made to you? Do they sometimes keep you waiting for days, weeks, months, and years (assuming they even get back to you)? How much attention does it take for you to feel like a part of the group or that you matter? On the other hand, how much do your friends and family matter to you? How do you express your love and appreciation? Do you make them feel loved? Do you keep people waiting or are you quick about getting things done? TL;DR: Do you think that you matter? What does it take to make you feel loved? Do you make others feel loved? If so, how do you show it? shout out to Froy for being inspirational |
| I never thought of that but I'd say yes, people are quite greedy. Depends, I tend to be the life of the party and I tend to also be quite relevant to them. Both. Sometimes, but that doesn't go well for them. If they do it for more than a week they're not going to survive. Uhmmm, I don't really care about that. My family matters to a certain extent to me, my friends are people that I can drop if needed. I just try and act in "loving" and "appreciating" ways. Sure, I guess. I get things done when needed. In order of the questions, not in the mood to quote. |
Play League of Legends here! Autocrat said: Hitler was good, objectively. |
| I use to think like this, then slowly I died inside, stopped thinking about it so much. Now I'm pretty much on auto pilot around other people, I have no filter to what I say and little control of what I do and how I act when around others and I've never been more happy. |
| I feel like this thread's about me. I'm so so sorry. I swear I'll respond. |
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| That TL;DR though But yeah sometimes I do feel under appreciated, but I just move on from that. |
   I envy your delusion; I wish I could live in it  |
| Not sure about either question really. I know I matter to the people I'm around. And I like to be incorporated. Plus this thread is just screaming for song lyrics as answers. |
| "In the end the World really doesn't need a Superman. Just a Brave one" |
| I've influenced and caused significant feelings in almost everyone that's gotten close to me, but that is still a tiny number of people, and I couldn't feel the same way about them. I've never had the luxury of having any significant feelings towards anyone (aside from like 1 or 2 girls, one of which I've fallen head over heels for), so I've never gotten significantly close to anyone aside from my family, but unconditional family love isn't quite as fulfilling. It became an extremely empty feeling of "love" as time went on, and I barely value it at all, despite how much they very clearly love me. I'm very much what you would call an "attention whore". I require a lot of attention to feel good, whether it be positive or negative attention, because I don't have those conditional, deep, close relationships to fall back on, and thus, no feeling of conditional love to keep me motivated. The attention may be incredibly shallow and unfulfilling, but it does it's job as a temporary bandaid. Luckily, I'm a pretty likable, energetic guy who's actually gotten rather good at getting attention centered on me, I'm very very very capable of showing my love towards people who I do care about, and my annoying introverted tendencies and habits are becoming more and more overshadowed by my extroverted personality as time goes on, so those are some steps in the right direction towards finding people to get close to and care about. |
KorrvoMar 7, 2015 1:12 AM
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| You ask so much and yet so little. I still have no idea what your actual question is. Do I feel beloved? or appreciated? or life of the party or group? or how do I love others? Focus man, Focus. |
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| Yeahhhh, extremely good point. this turned into quite a rant, so... |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
IlluminatLi said: Yeahhhh, extremely good point. this turned into quite a rant, so... Please tell me you're talking about me. |
[i]"Yet each man kills the thing he loves, [/i]By each let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword!'' ~Oscar |
geniobastardo said: Please tell me you're talking about me. I'm not talking about you. You're too persistant to make me feel ignored, you don't have that half-assed attitude I was talking about. The morally perfect attitude part fits you to some extent though. But you're not the type of shallow person I was talking about. |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
| Yeah, that's a lot of questions, so I'll answer the TL;DR version. I think I matter to my immediate family. Outside of that my sphere of influence is pretty small at this point, so I don't know if there are other people that I make much difference to. I think to feel loved I need people to take initiative and show me that they would like to spend time with me. Growing up I always felt insecure because I had to be the one to contact friends in order to do something most of the time. If I decided I'd wait for them to contact me, we'd drift apart. Or stuff like: I got my driver's license before the other kids in my grade, and suddenly people wanted to hang out with me, so I need to feel sincerity in terms of your affection. It's kind of funny, I've been extremely stoic my entire life, so I probably didn't make people feel loved. But as of late, I've become surprisingly frank when it comes to telling people how I feel about them. (Outside of my family; we never say I love you or hug or anything and it would feel weird to do so for some reason) I guess whenever you've seen lots of friends come and go, you start to value new ones more and want to make sure they know that they're appreciated. |
IlluminatLi said: geniobastardo said: Please tell me you're talking about me. I'm not talking about you. You're too persistant to make me feel ignored, you don't have that half-assed attitude I was talking about. The morally perfect attitude part fits you to some extent though. But you're not the type of shallow person I was talking about. aargh bummer. I feel like rekting someone so hard today and who better than you. But argh you ruin my plans like always. |
[i]"Yet each man kills the thing he loves, [/i]By each let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword!'' ~Oscar |
| I answered all of your questions, OP, but I couldn't post it because it would be a sign of weakness. |
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Degas said: you said you were attracted to powerI answered all of your questions, OP, but I couldn't post it because it would be a sign of weakness. are you trying to become attracted to yourself |
☕ Truth be told, I'm quite proud of my house blend. To attain my flavor and fragrance, I use five different types of coffee beans. ☕ |
Degas said: I answered all of your questions, OP, but I couldn't post it because it would be a sign of weakness. The fact that you couldn't post it 'cause it's a sign of weakness is a weakness by itself. |
Meetdeath said: Degas said: I answered all of your questions, OP, but I couldn't post it because it would be a sign of weakness. The fact that you couldn't post it 'cause it's a sign of weakness is a weakness by itself. rekt |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
Korrvo said: Degas said: you said you were attracted to powerI answered all of your questions, OP, but I couldn't post it because it would be a sign of weakness. are you trying to become attracted to yourself Lol. Not only am I attracted to power, but I also want to be powerful in my own right. I hold myself to the same standards men do for themselves when it comes to showing their true thoughts and emotions -- even though I don't want to sometimes. I just want to EXPRESS myself, but I can't. Meetdeath said: Degas said: I answered all of your questions, OP, but I couldn't post it because it would be a sign of weakness. The fact that you couldn't post it 'cause it's a sign of weakness is a weakness by itself. I know. But I'm not strong enough for that yet -- that was what I was truly implying in my first post. |
ClaireMar 7, 2015 3:20 AM
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| Hn... to be honest, I always feel irrelevant. I've felt irrelevant almost all my life. Most of elementary school was full of kids telling me to go away after asking shyly if I could play with them; that's a good way to make you feel unloved and irrelevant. There were a few times where I could see my friends were desperate to hang with me, but that was years ago before I became a quiet person-- when I was actually funny and told silly stories. Now everything I say offends everyone, and I've lost really great friends because of it-- I had no filter. So now I've become like a potluck dish after you've asked everyone what their allergies are: bland, safe, and tasteless. Absolutely unexciting. A raw carrot. So people stopped hanging. I've found that I can't go back to how I was very easily, unless I trust someone a lot. The few people I trust to be myself around actually do contact me, but we don't live near each other and don't see each other often. So I'm surrounded by people I don't trust; people who can only see my boring self. Because I'm so boring, I am deemed irrelevant. People who were "best friends" hang with my big brother now and don't even knock on my bedroom door to say hi when they come to my house to hang with him. We sit in silence or make pointless small talk when we do hang. Or we might make plans to hang and they'll drop the plans. Irrelevant. When I do find folks that actually do stick around or really want to hang, I show them that I care; because I do. I'm so freaking grateful when someone even bothers to make plans without me prompting them, or when they make it clear that I'm not some backup plan. They're the folks that get nice birthday gifts, ha hah. The folks that I trust and the folks that stick around really make me feel loved. I forget that sometimes. TL;DR: I used to be the life of the party and I used to be relevant for a short period time after elementary school, but I didn't realize it. Now I'm quiet, irrelevant, and feel unloved by most. I always type so much. It's because I explore my feelings as I type instead of exploring the feelings then typing. Just noticed that. |
| RAWR I had to delete this too |
KorrvoMar 7, 2015 3:28 AM
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Swiggy said: Hn... to be honest, I always feel irrelevant. I've felt irrelevant almost all my life. Most of elementary school was full of kids telling me to go away after asking shyly if I could play with them; that's a good way to make you feel unloved and irrelevant. There were a few times where I could see my friends were desperate to hang with me, but that was years ago before I became a quiet person-- when I was actually funny and told silly stories. Now everything I say offends everyone, and I've lost really great friends because of it-- I had no filter. So now I've become like a potluck dish after you've asked everyone what their allergies are: bland, safe, and tasteless. Absolutely unexciting. A raw carrot. So people stopped hanging. I've found that I can't go back to how I was very easily, unless I trust someone a lot. The few people I trust to be myself around actually do contact me, but we don't live near each other and don't see each other often. So I'm surrounded by people I don't trust; people who can only see my boring self. Because I'm so boring, I am deemed irrelevant. People who were "best friends" hang with my big brother now and don't even knock on my bedroom door to say hi when they come to my house to hang with him. We sit in silence or make pointless small talk when we do hang. Or we might make plans to hang and they'll drop the plans. Irrelevant. When I do find folks that actually do stick around or really want to hang, I show them that I care; because I do. I'm so freaking grateful when someone even bothers to make plans without me prompting them, or when they make it clear that I'm not some backup plan. They're the folks that get nice birthday gifts, ha hah. The folks that I trust and the folks that stick around really make me feel loved. I forget that sometimes. TL;DR: I used to be the life of the party and I used to be relevant for a short period time after elementary school, but I didn't realize it. Now I'm quiet, irrelevant, and feel unloved by most. I always type so much. It's because I explore my feelings as I type instead of exploring the feelings then typing. Just noticed that. You need me in your life. |
[i]"Yet each man kills the thing he loves, [/i]By each let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword!'' ~Oscar |
| Stop pondering all these questions and go to sleep, OP. |
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| those i consider myself close to don't take me for granted i don't think/ care about whatever anyone else thinks, because i'm not in a position where i have to i've got some friends who seek me out, and it's as much as i can handle, really i don't think they feel taken for granted i might forget to say 'thank you' sometimes... but i try to show i care about them |
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| In some communities I'm not noticed and others I'm highly regarded. So I don't get choked up if attention is not always on me. When it comes to communication I always try to show interest. To be loved is bit much for me sometimes lol |
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