Ryuk9428 said:-Stray said:My friends and people around me tells me Im too frank with my words and actions so to a degree maybe Im still a dick lol. Im not really good with sugar coating my words.
Swiggy said:I've been pretty non-confrontational for a lot of my life.
In the last maybe three years, I've become a lot more outspoken, sassy, and frank. Like, I'd say what I'd need to say without too much regard for other people's feelings.
Recently, I've realized that my behavior has been hurting people and serves no one. In one instance, the last thing someone got from me before they died was just a pissy attitude... and I only learned about it after, but they were really hurting before they died.
I've been going about things differently. You can say what you need to say and not be downright mean and unapproachable while doing it. I've never considered myself to be an edgelord, but you can be an edgelord and still be a nice person too.
I'm still growing.
I think the three of us are in a similar position as far as this goes.
The main reason why I do it even if some people think it makes me rude is because I think it will help people to be desensitized to opinions that deeply contrast with their own. You can only get shocked by an opinion so many times before it sounds relatively normal and doesn't make much of an impression on you anymore. I think if you are shocked by certain opinions, that's inherently a bad thing and you should learn not to be. Once opinions no longer shock you, you either learn to engage the people who have them more rationally, or you simply learn to ignore it. But it is when people are shocked by certain opinions and are afraid of hearing them that they behave maliciously towards those who have them.
LilPinkKay said:I've definitely become too nice because I'm afraid of people and have resting bitch face so I try to be overly nice to compensate. Once people figure it out they walk allllll over me. I literally have people who think I'm their best friend, yet I can't stand them because I'm afraid to say no to hanging out with them and making them feel bad. (I only dislike them becausr they're mean to others and have "I can never be wrong" syndrome. Its not even because I just find them annoying) meanwhile growing up I was a massive bitch and thought I was the shit lol.
I'm totally non confrentational and when people insult me I kind of just take it because I'm afraid they'll be upset.
I literally don't even dislike YouTube videos because I'm afraid to hurt the uploaders feelings. Its either I like or don't interact
Oh shoot. Except for the "I was a massive bitch and thought I was the shit " part, your current self sounds a lot like my past self.;; Like, right down to the "people who think I'm their best friend, yet I can't stand them" part.