Takuan_Soho said:CookingPriest said:
That does not excuse asuna's mother's behavior though.
You have it backwards, Asuna is the one who did things that needed to be excused.
If a child wants to be treated like an adult, then the child needs to show that they have the maturity of an adult. Asuna did not do this, she couldn't even take on the responsibly of showing up to dinner on time.
But Asuna is maturing, that is the strength she has learned during this series. With Kirito, with Yuuki, she has come to learn what makes her happy, what she wants. Once she learned this she was able to go to her mother and explain this, and her mother, while not agreeing, was however perfectly willing to let Asuna pursue her own path as long as she acted like an adult doing it.
So no, Asuna's mother is not controlling, pushy, but not controlling. A controlling mother would have banished her from VR, a controlling mother wouldn't have even tried to go to the VR world with Asuna, a controlling mother would have never let her daughter run off and party in the real world with a motorcycle riding riff raff. But Asuna's mother allowed all this, all she wanted though was for Asuna to show some direction, not a firm direction, but that she was at least thinking things forward and not just giving up.
It is not a good parent who lets their 22 year old college dropout son continue to live in their basement and spend all day smoking pot and flapping to internet porn. That is what Asuna's mother doesn't want from Asuna. Once Asuna finally could articulate that she DID have direction, notice that her mother backed off (but not totally, saying something is not the same as doing it, and the mother wants Asuna to do it, not just say it - another sign of a good parent).
When I said Asuna's problems were "first world", I meant it. Asuna is lucky that she HAS choices. Her parents are rich, she is attractive, she pretty much can decide on any course that she wants. In short she has options, she just needed to decide which one to take. Most of the people in this world do not have those options, nor those opportunities.
Once Asuna made up her mind, the so-called problems retreated. That is the truest measure of where the fault laid. All her mother wanted was an explanation. Asuna couldn't give one before, but having experienced Yuuki, can now.
Takuan_Soho said:CookingPriest said:
That does not excuse asuna's mother's behavior though.
You have it backwards, Asuna is the one who did things that needed to be excused.
If a child wants to be treated like an adult, then the child needs to show that they have the maturity of an adult. Asuna did not do this, she couldn't even take on the responsibly of showing up to dinner on time.
But Asuna is maturing, that is the strength she has learned during this series. With Kirito, with Yuuki, she has come to learn what makes her happy, what she wants. Once she learned this she was able to go to her mother and explain this, and her mother, while not agreeing, was however perfectly willing to let Asuna pursue her own path as long as she acted like an adult doing it.
So no, Asuna's mother is not controlling, pushy, but not controlling. A controlling mother would have banished her from VR, a controlling mother wouldn't have even tried to go to the VR world with Asuna, a controlling mother would have never let her daughter run off and party in the real world with a motorcycle riding riff raff. But Asuna's mother allowed all this, all she wanted though was for Asuna to show some direction, not a firm direction, but that she was at least thinking things forward and not just giving up.
It is not a good parent who lets their 22 year old college dropout son continue to live in their basement and spend all day smoking pot and flapping to internet porn. That is what Asuna's mother doesn't want from Asuna. Once Asuna finally could articulate that she DID have direction, notice that her mother backed off (but not totally, saying something is not the same as doing it, and the mother wants Asuna to do it, not just say it - another sign of a good parent).
When I said Asuna's problems were "first world", I meant it. Asuna is lucky that she HAS choices. Her parents are rich, she is attractive, she pretty much can decide on any course that she wants. In short she has options, she just needed to decide which one to take. Most of the people in this world do not have those options, nor those opportunities.
Once Asuna made up her mind, the so-called problems retreated. That is the truest measure of where the fault laid. All her mother wanted was an explanation. Asuna couldn't give one before, but having experienced Yuuki, can now.