| Like, I get if you want to be chaste until marriage or something. There is no pressure to have sex right now. But when you try to justify the decision by throwing a bunch of blind darts at the "problem", trying to convince yourself and other people that your decision was the "right" one for society and yourself, that you don't really "need" sex despite that you're talking about it all day, that sounds really insecure and pathetic, dude... Trust me, we can spot that shit from a mile away. The true way to solve a problem is to confront it and admit that, for example, you can't meet women, or you have a problem with small talk, or you're socially nervous, and then come up with steps towards a solution. That's respectable, because there ain't no shame in a person taking responsibility for his situation, and taking the necessary steps--you do what you gotta do. Or if you don't see a problem in it at all, that's cool too. But when you're wrestling with your inner demons over it and lying to yourself, just why?? |
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KorrvoAug 19, 2014 9:27 PM
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| I like how you assume all these virgins are just straight men. I also don't understand why people who haven't had sex feel the need to go round shouting their mouths off about it. Who cares? Equally, who cares if you have had sex? You're just a username and an avatar on an anime website, what do I or anyone else care if you've slept with someone or not? |
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DanshiDerp said: Yo no offense or nothin' but usually these kind of really passionate responses come from virgins.I like how you assume all these virgins are just straight men. I also don't understand why people who haven't had sex feel the need to go round shouting their mouths off about it. Who cares? Equally, who cares if you have had sex? You're just a username and an avatar on an anime website, what do I or anyone else care if you've slept with someone or not? just sayin' bruv |
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Korrvo said: DanshiDerp said: Yo no offense or nothin' but usually these kind of really passionate responses come from virgins.I like how you assume all these virgins are just straight men. I also don't understand why people who haven't had sex feel the need to go round shouting their mouths off about it. Who cares? Equally, who cares if you have had sex? You're just a username and an avatar on an anime website, what do I or anyone else care if you've slept with someone or not? just sayin' bruv I was wondering how long it would take for someone to say that. I'm not a virgin by any stretch of the imagination and I'm a "sis", not a "bruv", but again, does that even matter? |
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DanshiDerp said: It's k mang I believe youKorrvo said: Yo no offense or nothin' but usually these kind of really passionate responses come from virgins. just sayin' bruv I was wondering how long it would take for someone to say that. I'm not a virgin by any stretch of the imagination and I'm a "sis", not a "bruv", but again, does that even matter? no worries bruv |
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DanshiDerp said: Really? You were actually waiting for such a response?I was wondering how long it would take for someone to say that. I'm not a virgin by any stretch of the imagination and I'm a "sis", not a "bruv", but again, does that even matter? |
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Korrvo said: DanshiDerp said: It's k mang I believe youI was wondering how long it would take for someone to say that. I'm not a virgin by any stretch of the imagination and I'm a "sis", not a "bruv", but again, does that even matter? no worries bruv Gosh you're cute katsucats said: DanshiDerp said: Really? You were actually waiting for such a response?I was wondering how long it would take for someone to say that. I'm not a virgin by any stretch of the imagination and I'm a "sis", not a "bruv", but again, does that even matter? Not waiting, but expecting. |
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DanshiDerp said: Korrvo said: It's k mang I believe you no worries bruv Gosh you're cute Calm yourself, yo. Korrvo's just being British. |
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DanshiDerp said: So you wrote a response, and you were self conscious that your response could bring about a certain reaction.................katsucats said: Not waiting, but expecting. Really? You were actually waiting for such a response? |
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SaucyNudityBaron said: dawg that's offensiveCalm yourself, yo. Korrvo's just being British. |
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DanshiDerp said: I'm also British, yo. But there's a difference. You ARE British, while Korrvo is just BEING British. This changes everything. |
Korrvo said: SaucyNudityBaron said: dawg that's offensiveCalm yourself, yo. Korrvo's just being British. No disrespect, dawg, but I am offensive. |
mecharobot said: I'm not making assumptions at all. Stop being defensive and learn to read. I'm fine with people who don't put virginity on a pedestal. This thread is about the virgins who do put virginity on a pedestal, and shoot themselves down while they're at it.So is this your own problem, or are you making assumptions about other peoples problems? |
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katsucats said: yes? What's so surprising about that?DanshiDerp said: So you wrote a response, and you were self conscious that your response could bring about a certain reaction.................Not waiting, but expecting. See this argumentative nature of the forums is exactly why I barely ever post here nowadays. |
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DanshiDerp said: Argumentative? Haha, no. See, I'm just pointing out some things. Some things that people, for some reason, aren't cognitive of their own doing. I don't write something stupid, for example, and then be like, "I was waiting to see to call me out for being stupid. I knew it."See this argumentative nature of the forums is exactly why I barely ever post here nowadays. |
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| As your post was rather critical, I wonder if the people you speak to who are virgins feel that you will be critical of them if they didn't try to justify it. I'm not saying what they did was cool, but there are usually more than one side to a story. Besides you yourself, in North American societies at the very least, there is often achievement associated with sex. Over the years, this perception of inadequacy can grate, even on someone who has decent self esteem. I wouldn't fool yourself like I did. For the most part, if someone wants sex they can get sex. It might not be with who they want, or even someone they care about. And if you don't mean just sex, if you mean a sexual relationship with someone that you care about than that's a tough bag to judge. It's easy to say "he should work out," or "he should get out from in-front of the computer," but out of shape people can find romance just like in-shape people. There is something called okcupid, along with plentyofish, match etc. It's tempting to point to people's problems and say this is how they should act or deal with them. It's much more difficult, at least for me, to accept people for how they are before trying to help them find what's really best for them. |
SwordsmanDan said: I said in my OP that I would be more accepting if they didn't try to justify it (if they really didn't believe it), and instead take steps to solve the problem. There is often achievement associated with sex, and people who are cognitive of that achievement should approach this problem like any other. People who do not care about it will not--people who truly do not care would not take to online forums with fiery rants about how shallow society is or emotional retellings of their thought processes.As your post was rather critical, I wonder if the people you speak to who are virgins feel that you will be critical of them if they didn't try to justify it. It's critical thinking. It really is exactly like a math problem. There are students that don't take calculus, and that's not their problem. But for students that do, there are two main approaches: 1) Find the variables, find the formulas, devise steps, solve for solution, test. 2) Say that it's too hard and you don't need it anyways because you're fine with just a passing grade. A lot of virgins are #2. |
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katsucats said: Ok babe. I think you need to re-read my first post, because I didn't write anything stupid. I was agreeing with your opinion. It was Korrvo who then posted an assumption on me, which was wrong, and I already knew that someone would come along all "hurr durr ur a Virgin" simply because I said I don't get why virgins have to make a song and dance out of the fact that they are? Idk man this night shift is killing my patience.DanshiDerp said: Argumentative? Haha, no. See, I'm just pointing out some things. Some things that people, for some reason, aren't cognitive of their own doing. I don't write something stupid, for example, and then be like, "I was waiting to see to call me out for being stupid. I knew it."See this argumentative nature of the forums is exactly why I barely ever post here nowadays. |
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| I get annoyed when virgins have a holier than thou attitude. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, but likewise it is nothing to be proud of. |
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Minagatachi said: lol ive never gotten my dick wet because I have SELF CONTROLI get annoyed when virgins have a holier than thou attitude. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, but likewise it is nothing to be proud of. HAH THAT'S RIGHT now take your DICK and shove it up your girlfriends PUSSY like the pussy YOU are HAHAHA |
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RandomChampion said: where shiratori999 at Busy taking care of his club. |
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| Much that slut shaming is a thing, virgin shaming is also a thing. People "justify" their virginity because we live in a culture that holds high expectations for people (mostly men) to lose their virginities. It's to avoid further ridicule, as well as a "sour grapes" type psychological coping method. |
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Red_Keys said: That's ironic. They'd get much less criticism if they accepted their circumstances instead of trying to convince other people that their happy about themselves, which in turn just sounds pathetic.People "justify" their virginity because we live in a culture that holds high expectations for people (mostly men) to lose their virginities. It's to avoid further ridicule, as well as a "sour grapes" type psychological coping method. |
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katsucats said: I'm not making assumptions at all. Stop being defensive and learn to read. I'm fine with people who don't put virginity on a pedestal. This thread is about the virgins who do put virginity on a pedestal, and shoot themselves down while they're at it. You seriously expect me to believe that? These threads are never about seeking answers to questions or about understanding. They are always about finding a justification to your opinion for whatever reason. |
Minagatachi said: I get annoyed when virgins have a holier than thou attitude. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, but likewise it is nothing to be proud of. Well said. 100% agreed. |
| Its because in today's world, chicks are sooooooooooo difficult to get. You gotta show them a resume and a portfolio of your life before they even say hello to you. Thank you feminism Why do you think that Japan and South Korea have horrible birth rates? Because the ladies are impossible to get. |
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| it's ok being virgin but don't be proud of it. it will annoy people around you for sure y123y said: LOL.Its because in today's world, chicks are sooooooooooo difficult to get. You gotta show them a resume and a portfolio of your life before they even say hello to you. Thank you feminism |
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y123y said: Its because in today's world, chicks are sooooooooooo difficult to get. You gotta show them a resume and a portfolio of your life before they even say hello to you. Then go after men. Men are easy. |
mecharobot said: So what's your purpose in posting in a thread, ignoring it, and instead make assumptions based on what you perceive every other thread to be but this one? lolkatsucats said: You seriously expect me to believe that? These threads are never about seeking answers to questions or about understanding. They are always about finding a justification to your opinion for whatever reason.I'm not making assumptions at all. Stop being defensive and learn to read. I'm fine with people who don't put virginity on a pedestal. This thread is about the virgins who do put virginity on a pedestal, and shoot themselves down while they're at it. What are you defending? |
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| I think this can go both ways, especially when people are annoyed or angry. And why is it that defending something means you either are associated with that something or you are that something? That would make of me a lot of things that I am not. |
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| Why should losing your virginity make you a "superior" human being or vice versa? It's just nonsensical societal pressure and nothing more. Just ignore everyone who thinks it's a big deal. |
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HaXXspetten said: Well, by your logic, in the context of society you are a superior human being.Why should losing your virginity make you a "superior" human being or vice versa? It's just nonsensical societal pressure and nothing more. Just ignore everyone who thinks it's a big deal. Even though I don't actually see that nowadays... |
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HaXXspetten said: Why do you use an irrelevant justification to support virginity? Note that your question has nothing to do with the thread, but it's an attitude that you yourself brought to the thread. Since it clearly didn't originate from the thread, why do you think it's a big deal?Why should losing your virginity make you a "superior" human being or vice versa? It's just nonsensical societal pressure and nothing more. Just ignore everyone who thinks it's a big deal. |
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katsucats said: Social pressure.why does HaXXspetten think it's a big deal? |
Play League of Legends here! Autocrat said: Hitler was good, objectively. |
| I think those people are really ashamed of being virgins. Seriously, guys. There's nothing to be ashamed of virgin or not. |
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| Support virginity? Justify virginity? I don't see what's the problem with being a virgin. And if someone takes pride in being a virgin, so what? People take pride in loads of things and anything. |
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Immahnoob said: But here's the thing. This thread makes no mention of a virginity and superiority correlation. But rather it's about an irrational adverse attitude that some people hold about certain issues that plague their consciousness. And I think his question sort of typifies this. It's in the tone, when someone writes 'superior' in scare-quotes as if mocking a contingent that doesn't even exist here.katsucats said: Social pressure.why does HaXXspetten think it's a big deal? |
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muph said: If a person is really so proud of being virgin, the problem wouldn't be constantly weighing on his mind, like the pros and cons of sex. It would be a bygone issue.And if someone takes pride in being a virgin, so what? |
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muph said: And if someone takes pride in being a virgin, so what? If I was still a virgin, I would live every day without giving it any thought. I think that would be actual pride. |
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caperock said: What's with these threads? Each time I click on Casual Discussion section there's at least one thread talking abut virginity. Most people here are virgins and some need ways to cope with the horrors of "virginity." |
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y123y said: I know this has been said to death, but I'll say it again; confidence and an interesting personality is all you need (I guess you'd need average looks as well, don't want to scare then off). More attractive girls tend to be more picky (what do you expect, they probably get so much guys hitting on them), so if you're not having luck with them just lower your standards a bit. Also, if you're a boring person like myself, alcohol works wonders. Its because in today's world, chicks are sooooooooooo difficult to get. You gotta show them a resume and a portfolio of your life before they even say hello to you. |
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