| @_Nemrod_: Very great posting once again from you. I agree that knowing how to dance can be a big plus, but I wouldn't say that it would be everything. Also, males can also be attracted to voices. It's quite simplified if you want to make it look like males tend to mostly care about looks and females about the sound. There are other factors like smell and having a similar nature as well. By that, I don't refer to liking the same things, but rather in sharing similar values and behaving similar in similar situations. As a Pan-Germanist, I do not like how you separate Austrian German girls from the German girls from the Federal Republic of Germany. Besides, Walzer can be nice as well. Also, I think you haven't even heard about medieval German Minne songs and completely ignore that our culture has been dubbed the "Land of Poets and Thinkers". |
| There's the #1 way: making them laugh and being funny. Don't concentrate on getting them to fall in love. Just make them giggle about something. That's like +1 on your charisma points right there. |
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| Do you have the same problem with men? |
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| Always being on her phone is a bad sign, it's like a code that says "leave me alone". Some girls just won't give a guy they're not interested in the time of day. As long as you're showing interest in what she's saying and are polite, i don't see why a girl wouldn't talk to you a bit more. Try to find common interests to talk about. There might not even be anything wrong with you. The girls you're trying to talk to just might not be that nice. |
| alcohol or your sex appeal. idk what else you could do. |
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| I'll attack the heart of the problem: you want approval, doesn't matter whose. You somehow told yourself that approval from women is the one you need, but truth is, if you find good friends, the kind of people that make you feel at home in the strangest places, then you won't be going around hitting people up unnecessarily. |
| maybe call some FBI? like FBI! Open Up i guess? erm sorry. |
| If you can't go with "be yourself" then you aren't suited to be with girls LOL. Improve on yourself, bc you are waaaay out of shape Thanakos said: I'll attack the heart of the problem: you want approval, doesn't matter whose. You somehow told yourself that approval from women is the one you need, but truth is, if you find good friends, the kind of people that make you feel at home in the strangest places, then you won't be going around hitting people up unnecessarily. ^^^^ this is so important. instead of going to girls why can't you be open with guys? this is such a weird thing guys do, thinking you can only be vulnerable with ONE person, and that to be a woman/gf. kind of sad to watch |
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HopefulNihilist said: Every time I try to talk to a girl (who's in her teens), she always has this stone-cold, dead, look on her face. Especially with attractive girls, like their puppy just died or something. I try to talk to her, I try asking her normal things, like what her major is. She answers my questions, then ignores me. Or she's just always on her phone. Aren't women known to have keen intuition? Can't they sense when a guy is JUST trying to socialize with them, just trying to be friendly? Meanwhile, I see other guys, being all confident and outgoing, girls flock to them! They smile! They start talking! They open up! Please help me... Please don't tell me, "Be yourself" because that never works. I mean, context is really huge here. If you see someone playing with their phone, they probably don't want to talk anyway. Your posture is important. If you slouch, or hold yourself in a silly/unsure posture you're losing points. Keep your back straight, roll your shoulders back, keep your chin up. Eye contact is great, but you need to learn how much and when through trial and error. Appearance is very important. People will make a judgment of you in less than a second based off of this. Be clean, wear matching clothes, get your hair in order. Don't ask "small-talk/normal" questions. They're boring, a little uncomfortable in certain context, and show little effort. Say something unexpected, or use the FORD method; Friends/Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams/Motivations, these are all topics in order of what's easiest for strangers to talk about. Personally, I'd also recommend being observant. What are they wearing? Any accessories? They put effort into that, notice it for them. Are you confident in how you speak? Are you too quiet, or too loud? Do you stutter, or trip on your words? If you are, you need to keep talking to them and keep failing until you stop those things. Greatest, most important thing; Be funny/interesting. This sums up everything above. Garner interest by being different, or not what they expected. EDIT: Also, don't make any assumptions about why they say or do something. Ask them. They will tell you why. If you just assume, you'll probably put your foot in your mouth and look like a nut case. |
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| don't "be yourself" it never works. next time try to "be her friend", it might works :> |
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| I'd add that one important thing you need to acknowledge is that it can take a long time before a girl is comfortable talking to you, especially if she's an introvert. Additionally, chances are you're somehow giving off a "I'm desperately single and want to be your boyfriend just for the social status" vibe - most girls are pretty quick to notice that about guys. I'd give you some advice as to how to work on that if I had any, but alas, I don't. |
| Could be giving off the bad vibes man, no one wants to be around someone who has bad vibes |
SomeEdgeLord said: I WILL report you from this forum if this continues. In real life, I am one of the coldest, unsympathetic, people you'll ever know, who's grown up in an even colder household, you really don't want me to break my persona, I know how to make people feel bad. YearnsforAttention said: hm who has 1656 friends on MAL that's right me bye bye YearnsforAttention said: I don't want your approval how many damn times do I need to say it I enjoy irritating you I am gonna do things MY way |
| Hmm well there are 2 important factors that are not based on looks that are very very important. That is confidence and how you carry yourself. If you're always depressing, self-deprecating, and a negative person, you're not going to be considered someone worth talking to, in fact, you'll just be looked as someone with bad vibes. Confidence will always be key! Learn to just be yourself and keep that composure, look upbeat be optimistic and positive, try to look like you got your shit together and you're not going to be brought down by NOBODY no matter what. Intent- I cannot stress this enough, most guys will talk to a girl in hope of getting lucky, you cannot and will not convince anyway that this is the opposite. You won't talk to girl you don't feel an attraction with. So why is stating your intent important? Simple, you see all the shit girls have to deal with in these day of age. Simply put this in your mind from a girl perspective "Every guy who is approaching just wants to fuck" once you understand that mindset you can work around it by telling her right away you just want to be friends. Be transparent in that part atleast so she can drop her guard and try to atleast let you try to be friends with her. Tell her you want to try to improve your social skills with girls and such, trust me on this, women looooooooooooooooooooooves to work on a guy and make a project out of him, so let her know, but DO NOT self-deprecate. Be funny, honestly idk how you can talk to any girl and expect them to even look at you if you cannot make her laugh. This has always been set in stone, this one has been my strongest suit and has been proven to work more effectively than others, so work on being funny. Conversation- dude just try to be someone that knows how to hold a convo. Even when you run out of things, just say something random anything that can be conversated with. Here I use these lines and 100% of the time and scary enough it works. "Hey" *waits on a respond* "Man can you believe the price on cereal these days? Crazyy" or "pineapples on pizza, yay or nay?" Also try not to criticize everthing she says please. I have more to say but I have to go to work. |
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| Use the Bill Cosby approach. It's worked for him |
| If you were attractive she will like you looks > everything else |
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| Just give her time. Maybe she has personal issues and don't want to have friends around. She's not going to be open unless you understand her very well...but patience is the best answer atm. |
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| Find out her interests. 9/10 Guys who've found out I like anime or designing and started to pick up an interest or have knowledge in it get me hooked to them instantly. |
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| Like others have said, your physical attractiveness (sadly enough) can be what makes or breaks a potential friendship. And if by some miracle they don't care for your looks, their intuitiveness steps in. If you seem even slightly creepy, girls won't want anything to do with you. It's all about how you present yourself. And if you do everything by the book and they still don't open up, it's probably not about you at that point. They just might not be interested in talking to anyone, which is always something to consider when talking to new people. |
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HopefulNihilist said: At this point, I want to stop being biased towards females, by proving to myself that yes, there are such thing as genuinely good hearted girls, who are attractive too. Maybe it's just me, but does what a person looks like have any merit to how friendly they will be? You can be friends with ugly people too. Maybe put up a sign somewhere on your campus that say "Looking for friends, gender doesn't matter. Interests include baking and anime." and have a throw-away email or something at the bottom so they can contact you. Or those tear-off slips of paper like missing posters used to do. If someone contacts you, get to know them. Don't ask for a photo or a gender or to meet up in person until you're actually on friendly terms. I'm kind of old school, there's probably somewhere like craigslist or something that you can do it online instead. |
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elementkg said: Hmm well there are 2 important factors that are not based on looks that are very very important. That is confidence and how you carry yourself. If you're always depressing, self-deprecating, and a negative person, you're not going to be considered someone worth talking to, in fact, you'll just be looked as someone with bad vibes. Confidence will always be key! Learn to just be yourself and keep that composure, look upbeat be optimistic and positive, try to look like you got your shit together and you're not going to be brought down by NOBODY no matter what. Intent- I cannot stress this enough, most guys will talk to a girl in hope of getting lucky, you cannot and will not convince anyway that this is the opposite. You won't talk to girl you don't feel an attraction with. So why is stating your intent important? Simple, you see all the shit girls have to deal with in these day of age. Simply put this in your mind from a girl perspective "Every guy who is approaching just wants to fuck" once you understand that mindset you can work around it by telling her right away you just want to be friends. Be transparent in that part atleast so she can drop her guard and try to atleast let you try to be friends with her. Tell her you want to try to improve your social skills with girls and such, trust me on this, women looooooooooooooooooooooves to work on a guy and make a project out of him, so let her know, but DO NOT self-deprecate. Be funny, honestly idk how you can talk to any girl and expect them to even look at you if you cannot make her laugh. This has always been set in stone, this one has been my strongest suit and has been proven to work more effectively than others, so work on being funny. Conversation- dude just try to be someone that knows how to hold a convo. Even when you run out of things, just say something random anything that can be conversated with. Here I use these lines and 100% of the time and scary enough it works. "Hey" *waits on a respond* "Man can you believe the price on cereal these days? Crazyy" or "pineapples on pizza, yay or nay?" Also try not to criticize everthing she says please. I have more to say but I have to go to work. The only confidence is your looks, if you look good she'll make it easy for you to talk to her. |
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| honestly op there are a fuckton of girls out there and there isn't a simple single formulta to make them open up like some kind of master key but what I've noticed from personal experience was that when someone seems like is not interested, they're probally not interested in YOU or what you are talking about, so what I've done is simply try to talk about what they want and boy this is hard, knowing what people like to talk about is absolutely a tiresome quest, but eventually you'll know, and like I said before, there aren't key topics for all the girls, girls are different, there may be similar but they are generaly different. another sugestion is simply try talking to another girl, don't give up on this girl that doesn't bat an eye for what you say, I've met a lot of girls that are like that and a lot of girls that demonstrates attention to what you are talking about. quick edit: an example that has happened to me, I started talking to a girl that didn't like to talk about things she likes, like she hated questions like, what's your favorite movie/animes/music? why do you like it etc, and that was one of the harddest girls that I've talked to, however, after a few chats, I tried talking about failed love interest, and then she started talking like I was her bestfriend, like I said, it was just a matter of what you talk about, usually. |
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| honestly, i think these days, most girls keep that bitch look on their face bc they are sick of douchebags flirting with them or catcalling/trying to do whatever the hell that theyre trying to do that the girl wants no part of. (not saying ur a douchebag) honestly, my advice is find a girl who doesn't look as hostile and might not be the prettiest one but seems to have a cool style or personality. or, if youre in high school/college, go to a club that interests you. when i was in college, i went to a basically all boys club for League of Legends just so I could interact with people who would know i had something in common with them. it ended up being one of the best decisions. or, try getting her attention by your actions instead of talking to her. let her know indirectly you are nice, smart, attentive, etc. |
| Girls are cunts if they base everything about looks. Look for ones that arent thots and ones that arent too crazy. Then talk my boi. They are the most entertaining people if they arent the generic or overly gothic. (Fat ones are disgusting since they almost flipped a table i was on during lunch) |
| Yeah right there is no way a doujin about vomit exists. Good song https://soundcloud.com/yeungkakit33/op4-hekireki-last-alliance Tsumino account is BigMaraIppo Another Good Song Listen to テスト by mukami #np on #SoundCloud https://soundcloud.com/mukami/77a Ashita no Joe and Megalo box are disappointing anime. My reviews:https://myanimelist.net/profile/Botan-Chan45/reviews Best Naruto Op: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ByCNZxOBVWM&list=RDByCNZxOBVWM&index=1 discord name: Chitoge Kirisaki#9564 https://discord.gg/nGKu6zx my discord server for plebs |
| Ask them to please take off their panties and spread their legs-damn, I can't believe I just said that!! |
| Life Is Short But Intense. |
| We live in a society. But seriously, It always worries me this kind of topics, like I'm a girl and I like girls, and I know how hard is to interact with a girl but why guys don't understand that: 1. If a girl or anyone is cold towards you it's because it has no interest about you or you're doing something wrong. 2. Looks are NOT that important and it depends mainly on individuals. 3. What is important is personal care, hygiene and regular social skills. 4. Forcing a conversation is the worst mistake you can make. 5. If you really are interested in a girl, try to pay attention to what she likes and talk about common tastes. 6. Maybe her personality is just cold and indifferent. 7. If it doesn't work, she's just not the one. Most of the time I'm terrible for conversations but I've had girls interested on me because I don't try to impress them or force my way. And tbh I'm not remotely attractive... |
Drovac said: you typed all that and he didn't even respond to you, probably didn't even read it. feels bad man His words reflect concern. He read what I wrote. You can also check the post #50 ----- Noboru said: Very great posting once again from you. I agree that knowing how to dance can be a big plus, but I wouldn't say that it would be everything. Well, I did not say that dancing was everything. I just said that dancing would be an excellent start for OP because this allows him to develop a variety of skills. As I said before, dance not only helps to make ordinary moments fun but also helps in self-esteem, confidence, body language, sexual performance and social skills. It would be great for OP to enter a Salsa School, because surely his tutor would be a young woman with whom he would maintain a deal - verbal and physical - frequent. With a bit of luck, he will be able to build another kind of friendships in that school and thereby immerse himself in "new adventures" Even his virility will be strengthened with this type of experience, because he would be assuming a challenge that would even intimidate extroverted Anglos. ----- Noboru said: Also, males can also be attracted to voices. It's quite simplified if you want to make it look like males tend to mostly care about looks and females about the sound. There are other factors like smell and having a similar nature as well. By that, I don't refer to liking the same things, but rather in sharing similar values and behaving similar in similar situations. You are understanding my words in a very absolute sense. -First because I do not encompass a whole group of people, but I speak in general terms. -Second, because I am not making the masculine eyes and feminine ears the only entrance doors of Venus and Cupid, but I emphasize the primacy that these doors have over others. -Third because I do not refer to a mature love (commitment) but to an erotic love. ------ Noboru said: As a Pan-Germanist, I do not like how you separate Austrian German girls from the German girls from the Federal Republic of Germany. Besides, Walzer can be nice as well. Also, I think you haven't even heard about medieval German Minne songs and completely ignore that our culture has been dubbed the "Land of Poets and Thinkers". Nice video. It is necessary to do this "seperation" because Austrian women have tastes that differ from German women. You will rarely see Spanish men and German women being a couple, while Spanish men and Austrian women have good chemistry. The vast majority of Spanish men living in Austria have Austrian women as a couple while the vast majority of Spanish men living in the German Federal Republic have, well, non-German women as a couple. On the other hand, German women and italian men is a common couple. German men and Spanish women is other commnon couple. I suspect that Austrian men tend is good with Hungarian and Czech women but I'm not sure. ----- HopefulNihilist said: Reading Italian literature? Well, I'm trying to get back into reading, so that shouldn't be too hard. Curiously I suspected that you harmonize better with Italian style (intellect impregnated with much strength) than with the Spanish style (strength imbued with much intellect) However, the literature you study must evoke romanticism and gallantrya. I suggest observing with great attention the writing style of the Italian authors and trying to emulate it little by little. First you start with the written emulation and then with the verbal one. Take into account that I am not recommending you to learn literature to talk about that topic with girls, but to learn to express yourself like those authors. ---- HopefulNihilist said: Learning how to dance...hmmm...I've never liked dancing. But if it helps me acquire friends, then I'll give it a try. Yes, dance has the super combo you need to develop the skills you need. It is advisable to enroll in a school to learn salsa dancing, because in that way you will advance much faster. You need to surround yourself with more extroverted and friendly people than the people of your culture. . --- @HopefulNihilist By the way, I suggest you keep very present something that will serve you in the future and that by its content I prefered to leave it for the end. Look, while it is true that it is cruelty to hurt a woman without curing her (provoke an emotional addiction through suffering) no less true is that it is stupid to give roses without hidden thorns (to easily satisfy the feminine desires). The first will make you sadistic. The second will make you cuckold. If on the one hand you must learn to transform the monotonous into fun, on the other hand you must refuse to concede the delightful good. You should not offer too much adventure because that is exhausting. Nor should you offer too much stability because that bores. If on the one hand you do not stop conquering your future girlfriend every day, on the other hand she should know that you will never be unconditional with her, so you will not hesitate to abandon her if she refuses to continue conquering you after repeated reasonable warnings. why caress and then whip? Why hurt and then heal? Because the desire is strengthened by means of the difficulties that prevent reaching the delightful object and weakens when it is easy to satisfy it. That is the reason. To convert ordinary moments into fun by dancing. To caress the feminine vanity of boring and lonely women through the ears. To kiss the female ego through a high verbal and written expression. All these are delightful objects that you should acquire to sow the desire in the woman and then recompense the effort she makes to savor it; However, it will be your rejection, indifference and hardness, the difficulties that will strengthen her desire. Keep in mind that refusing to "whip" your future girlfriend will be your condemnation, because that will make her lessen the desire for you, then get bored and finally abandon or cheat you. Going against human nature is a rotten luxury that you can not afford. I am aware that this last advice may be complex for you, however, it is very important learn it. |
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HopefulNihilist said: Every time I try to talk to a girl (who's in her teens), she always has this stone-cold, dead, look on her face. Especially with attractive girls, like their puppy just died or something. I try to talk to her, I try asking her normal things, like what her major is. She answers my questions, then ignores me. Or she's just always on her phone. Aren't women known to have keen intuition? Can't they sense when a guy is JUST trying to socialize with them, just trying to be friendly? Meanwhile, I see other guys, being all confident and outgoing, girls flock to them! They smile! They start talking! They open up! Please help me... Please don't tell me, "Be yourself" because that never works. (This is just my opinion based off my own experience of being in university myself.) I think you just answered your own question. Being confident and outgoing means a lot, especially in a first impression. Women are naturally attracted to confidence. If you don't carry yourself very well, how do you expect girls, or even guys to talk back to you and want to be around you? People aren't going to want to be around someone who's mopy and depressed. Also, it really comes down to breaking the ice. Don't be afraid to engage deeper in conversation, sometimes you have to be the one that initiates, once you do people will feel a lot more comfortable. People love to talk about about things they like and love to do. Simply asking "What are your hobbies? What do you like to do for fun? What are your plans for the weekend? How are you liking your classes?" Questions like these show that you're interested, and they're also open-ended. Just don't be creepy about it. Play it off smoothly. Women are naturally going to be more friendly and talkative to guys who are more attractive, there's nothing you can do to change that. Men are the same way with women. It's just how we're wired. However, that doesn't mean if you're bad looking you CAN'T talk to them. Improve your appearence to the best of your ability. Get a nice hair cut, groom yourself, exercise. Before you know it, you'll look better but also FEEL better. It will increase your confidance, and lead to better interaction with not just women but people in general. Improve on your personality, look at what people like about you and improve on those things. |
| It's not about you man, just the way things are. Also it's not "girls", it's just the ones you've really tried, which is like what, 2 or 3? Girls rarely initiate, so if they're not interested you simply have to make your self marketable. |
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| I mean the cold, hard truth is that you can't get someone to open up if they don't want to. I'm assuming you're talking about that campus life (college/university), and honestly, it's full of that. There are lots of people who are just kinda uninterested in socializing with other people (strangers especially) in their class, and there's not really much you can do about it. I mean, we go to college/university for a degree, not to make friends. I've had similar conversations with some of my friends and have asked them if they try to socialize with people who sit beside/near them in class, and most (if not all) of them said that they just kinda keep to themselves in class. So with this all being said, just keep doing what you're doing and strike up a conversation. You're bound to find someone who'll be interested eventually. But always be sure to know when to engage and when to disengage. The last thing people need is for someone to just non-stop talk to them when they just want to be left alone and to just text their friends or w/e. And this goes for both guys and girls alike. |
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theultimate341 said: elementkg said: Hmm well there are 2 important factors that are not based on looks that are very very important. That is confidence and how you carry yourself. If you're always depressing, self-deprecating, and a negative person, you're not going to be considered someone worth talking to, in fact, you'll just be looked as someone with bad vibes. Confidence will always be key! Learn to just be yourself and keep that composure, look upbeat be optimistic and positive, try to look like you got your shit together and you're not going to be brought down by NOBODY no matter what. Intent- I cannot stress this enough, most guys will talk to a girl in hope of getting lucky, you cannot and will not convince anyway that this is the opposite. You won't talk to girl you don't feel an attraction with. So why is stating your intent important? Simple, you see all the shit girls have to deal with in these day of age. Simply put this in your mind from a girl perspective "Every guy who is approaching just wants to fuck" once you understand that mindset you can work around it by telling her right away you just want to be friends. Be transparent in that part atleast so she can drop her guard and try to atleast let you try to be friends with her. Tell her you want to try to improve your social skills with girls and such, trust me on this, women looooooooooooooooooooooves to work on a guy and make a project out of him, so let her know, but DO NOT self-deprecate. Be funny, honestly idk how you can talk to any girl and expect them to even look at you if you cannot make her laugh. This has always been set in stone, this one has been my strongest suit and has been proven to work more effectively than others, so work on being funny. Conversation- dude just try to be someone that knows how to hold a convo. Even when you run out of things, just say something random anything that can be conversated with. Here I use these lines and 100% of the time and scary enough it works. "Hey" *waits on a respond* "Man can you believe the price on cereal these days? Crazyy" or "pineapples on pizza, yay or nay?" Also try not to criticize everthing she says please. I have more to say but I have to go to work. The only confidence is your looks, if you look good she'll make it easy for you to talk to her. I mean he's only looking for friendship, why would looks even matter? |
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elementkg said: theultimate341 said: The only confidence is your looks, if you look good she'll make it easy for you to talk to her. I mean he's only looking for friendship, why would looks even matter? It still matters but not to that degree of getting a relationship I thought op was looking for a gf seeing that he’s only targeting women to talk to. |
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theultimate341 said: elementkg said: I mean he's only looking for friendship, why would looks even matter? It still matters but not to that degree of getting a relationship I thought op was looking for a gf seeing that he’s only targeting women to talk to. I mean ultimately he's hoping for a GF but masking it as "just friends" I think he wants to friendzoned a girl to make him self feel superior. |
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| @_Nemrod_: Alright, I also agree that knowing how to dance could help in a lot of ways including posture. My bad for misunderstanding you. Still, I'd argue that smell plays an extremely important role as well to influence our subconscious. There are theories that what is "love" and how humans behave can be all explained with chemistry. As for flirting with the salsa teacher: I'm not so sure about that one, since there should be just a professional level between a teacher and a student. Plus, if the teachers are attractive, they might get some resistance to the allures of the opposite sex when they're used to having danced with many of them. I'm also not sure about trying to look for any kinds of relationship in a place where people just go there to learn how to dance. Are you perchance referring to the triangular theory of love? I would like to know how you got your stats about mixed-ethnicity pairings in German-speaking Europe. I would also like to know why you seem to disregard the love songs, love poems and love literature from the German-speaking culture. P.S.: Glad that you liked the Walzer video. It's usually filmed for the penultimate song ("the blue Danube") on the annual Vienna Philharmonic New Year's Concert. I find it interesting to watch them and would like myself to be able to dance like that, but my "inner potato" (though we call that "innerer Schweinehund" (inner swine dog)) prevents me from visiting a dance school. I think the question is not what you can do, but rather how you can do it. You have to take into account that not everyone is an out-going person and not everyone even feels like dancing or even going outside in their sparse free-time, especially when they come home later in the evening from work. |
Noboru said: Still, I'd argue that smell plays an extremely important role as well to influence our subconscious. There are theories that what is "love" and how humans behave can be all explained with chemistry. Normally, an adequate personal hygiene and a good diet are usually enough to please the sense of smell. I do not doubt that the smell influences but the masculine eye and the feminine ear usually play a much more important role because they are more connected with the thoughts and emotions. ----- Noboru said: I'm also not sure about trying to look for any kinds of relationship in a place where people just go there to learn how to dance. hahaha but what are you talking about? I did not say anything about flirt with salsa teacher. I simply say that the female contact of that teacher would benefit OP because it would help her overcome hisr fear for attractive women. For example, I have never been intimidated by mere feminine beauty, because my mother and older sister are charismatic and physically beautiful women. It is difficult to be intimidate towards elements that coexist "kindly" with one. Much more likely is that an attractive girl feels intimidated by my charming personality :v It could be different if we talk about an attractive woman endowed with special and scarce attributes -which I prefer not to mention- because she could awaken strong secret desires derived from my unmet shortages. In other words, that woman could catch me and that is certainly dangerous for people like me haha Of course, I do not mean to say that physical attractiveness and female charisma are indifferent to me, but for us men it is easy to have sex without falling in love. OP needs to frequent attractive, extroverted and friendly women so that he can become familiar with what intimidates him. A salsa school can solve that. ----- Noboru said: I would like to know how you got your stats about mixed-ethnicity pairings in German-speaking Europe Observation in my trips, comments of forums and studies of the history. That is all. Keep in mind that foreigners form communities and usually maintain contact with each other, so that it is not difficult to learn from their interactions through observation. I had at my hand the statistical data of the relations produced between Spanish men and Austrian women but I have missing them. However, the community of Spanish living in Austria know that the chances of forming relationships with Austrian women are relatively high because the vast majority of them are. Couples made up of German men and Spanish women are relatively frequent in both Germany and Spain. Look that the number of Germans living in Spain is huge, so it is easy to verify-again-these relationships in certain Spanish regions, especially when it is increasingly common to see people product of this mixture. : I said "again" because obviously it is not the first time. During the Spanish Reconquista, many people from Central Europe emigrated to Spain as they were reconquering the various Islamic domains, thus obtaining the benefits of repopulating the reconquered lands. The mixture did not wait. We also find these multi-ethnic mixtures during the hegemony of the Habsburgs dynasty, who were basically a mixture of Spanish and Austrians. Take into account that the mixture of the elites influences the behavior of the people. The multi-ethnic mix between Spanish and Austrians is one of my favorites due to the amount of colossus it produced in a short time. Even the French King Louis XIV was attached to his Spanish-Austrian heritage. The French historian Ernest Lavisse said about Lois XIV «C’est d’Espagne-Autriche, semble-t-il, plus encore que de France, que Louis XIV a reçu son orgueil énorme, invraisemblable, pharaonique.» nd «Il était de France, mais d'Espagne tout autant et même davantage» The translation is «It is from Spain-Austria, it seems, even more than from France, that Louis XIV received his enormous, improbable, Pharaonic pride» and «He was from France, but from Spain just as much and even more» The multi-ethnic relationships of our time are produced by causes similar to the multi-ethnic relationships of the past. However, exposing these relationships using historical data would be an extensive task and very outside the topic of this thread ------ Noboru said: I would also like to know why you seem to disregard the love songs, love poems and love literature from the German-speaking culture. Because I do not study romantic things for fun but just for the erotic benefits I get from their practice. In other words, I'm not interested in talking about poetry with a girl, but making love to her poetically  When we talk about male seduction, it is very helpful for men to learn Italian and Spanish style due to their "universal aspirations". When we talk about feminine seduction, it is much more advantageous for women to learn French style for similar reasons. German poetry does not seem to aspire to conquer the universe in a practical sense, consequently, it does not attract my attention. ---- -- Noboru said: I think the question is not what you can do, but rather how you can do it. You have to take into account that not everyone is an out-going person and not everyone even feels like dancing or even going outside in their sparse free-time, especially when they come home later in the evening from work. Valuable things often require sacrifice. If an introverted person does not assume the sacrifice that implies impregnate itself with the attributes enjoyed by extroverted people, it means that their desire and motivation lack force. The same can be said of extroverted people who refuse to accept the sacrifice of being in touch with their thoughts. In both cases, we are talking about people fleeing their own specters. We all live with ghosts and only those we face end up disappearing. We are not perfect so we will never dare to challenge all our ghosts, especially those related to death. It is also necessary to be self-indulgent, that is, not to take yourself very seriously. This is essential because falls (flight) will be inevitable and it is necessary to self-forgive to get up and continue. If an introverted person refuses to constantly self-forgive for running away - again and again - from the fear of social failures, then he will surrender and never be impregnated with the qualities that extroverts have to build exciting relationships. If an outgoing person refuses to constantly self-forgive for running away - again and again - from the fear of silence, then he can never be impregnated by the qualities that introverted people have to build stable relationships. The most successful erotic relationships are usually built by introverted people adorned with social skills and extroverted people in contact with their thoughts. This type of couples have less tendency to suffer exhaustion (excess of emotions) or boredom (lack of emotions), not only because both escape the monotony of their own substance, but also because both tend to be inspired by the features of their couple. Naturally, they should also be able to be happy without the need of the couple, otherwise it is inevitable that one or both members develop a sexual, emotional or affective co-dependence. Co-dependence is often the great precursor of boring, unstable, dysfunctional or violent relationships. ------- HopefulNihilist said: I will NEVER EVER enter into a relationship. I'm just looking to socialize with attractive girls, so I can STOP being so negatively biased towards attractive females, because of my horrible experiences with them What is so horrible? indifference? I will not be the judge of you, however, you must be very aware that that "NEVER" is your choice. The "horrible" things you say you have experienced look like trivialities. They are not real impediments because your problems can be solved by your effort and self-indulgence. This world is full of suffering and there is no way to avoid it. If you refuse to suffer the pain of getting up constantly, then you will suffer the pain of staying on the floor. In your case, the first one has rewards even in the short term. The second one does not. I suggest not being stupid and taking those dance class. Do not be so hard and unfair to yourself So Move! Move!! Move!!! |
_Nemrod_Sep 23, 2018 3:49 PM
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