do you feel lonely or are you forever alone?
| so ye is the stereotype for otakus true that they either feel lonely or are forever alone? i voted forever alone but not feeling lonely (yet) |
| i've never felt the warmth of a woman despite being 23 that's all you need to know really |
| I'm happily taken, |
DesuMaiden said: Nobody resembles me physically because I don't even physically exist. |
| "do you feel lonely or are you forever alone?" I got social life. |
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| >are anime fans forever alone or anime makes you feel lonely? Yes. |
That's pretty sad. You have my sympathy, Zaru-san. Vasdeferens said: i've never felt the warmth of a woman despite being 23 that's all you need to know really Me either but what if women are actually cold and not warm? We would never know. |
deg said: so ye is the stereotype for otakus true that they either feel lonely or are forever alone? i voted forever alone but not feeling lonely (yet) My friend's brother-in-law is a megaweeb, so he went to japan... for his honeymoon! Yeah that stereotype is absolute bull It's not anime that makes people feel lonely, it's their attitude |
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| Go to any anime con and you'll see vast swaths of anime fans there with friends, family, and/or romantic partners. ...so no, most of them are not lonely or forever alone. |
KittenCuddlerDec 29, 2024 12:52 PM
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| Forever alone. But I already was like that before I even started watching Anime. So while it probably does not help me with getting out of my comfort zone it certainly is not the source of the problem haha |
Reply to DigiCat
deg said:
so ye is the stereotype for otakus true that they either feel lonely or are forever alone? i voted forever alone but not feeling lonely (yet)
so ye is the stereotype for otakus true that they either feel lonely or are forever alone? i voted forever alone but not feeling lonely (yet)
My friend's brother-in-law is a megaweeb, so he went to japan... for his honeymoon!
Yeah that stereotype is absolute bull
It's not anime that makes people feel lonely, it's their attitude
| @DigiCat why are you so sure it has to do with attitude? Maybe your brother in law just got really lucky. |
| I am forever alone, but I have a bro so I never feel lonely. Most men in general nowadays are genetic dead ends though most are too busy working to survive to care. |
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| I am in a temporary lonely stint even though i have a few romantic partners due to not being able to go out as much as I would like and meet new friends. That's not really due to my hobbies or anything, it is just there are very few third spaces to meet people in my county which is kinda ironic considering New Jersey has a pretty high population density. Most of my friends are online and that only helps so much since I miss being able to do stuff with people in person |
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| To add on to the conversation. People are not rejected for playing games and watching anime all day. They do that because at that point they were already rejected. All kids start out as extroverts until they receive negative feedback that silences us. The beautiful stay extroverted. Side note (only male anime fans are tfl) Your title includes women which is laughably wrong. All granny's slay. |
rohan121Dec 29, 2024 1:03 PM
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Most anime fans probably have the same social life as everyone else. It's simply that, obviously, those that don't are the ones on anime boards.
The taste on anime boards does not reflect sales numbers as well. On boards like this one, obscure escapist fiction is exceedingly more popular than what sales numbers could ever justify and the same can even be seen in the listing popularity. Most people who use MyAnimeList do not frequently use the fora and simply use it as a listing database and that's it, I would say.
One has to appreciate how much more popular simple brainless action titles such as Dragon Ball are compared to what is mostly discussed on this board. But the people that watch it probably discuss it with each other in real life, if they do so at all.
The taste on anime boards does not reflect sales numbers as well. On boards like this one, obscure escapist fiction is exceedingly more popular than what sales numbers could ever justify and the same can even be seen in the listing popularity. Most people who use MyAnimeList do not frequently use the fora and simply use it as a listing database and that's it, I would say.
One has to appreciate how much more popular simple brainless action titles such as Dragon Ball are compared to what is mostly discussed on this board. But the people that watch it probably discuss it with each other in real life, if they do so at all.
| @reginald11 so casual fans aka tourists as this forum likes to call them have social life |
Reply to LenRea
@DigiCat why are you so sure it has to do with attitude? Maybe your brother in law just got really lucky.
| @LenRea Why am i so sure about that? Let's see, how to explain... it's easier if i use an example You hava a person who feels lonely (add in whatever reason you want, self concious about themselve, anxiety, ecc.) despite having some family and/or friends around them Now this person can choose to do 1 of 2 things No.1: keep blaming their lonelyness on whatever situation they're in and have a mentality of "no one understands me, i'm alone in the world" No.2: work hard to learn how to cope with whatever situation they're in (be it on their own or with help) and start slowly forming connections/bonds with other people, some will be nice and will support you, others will be dicks, that is part of life Now this is a very simplified way of putting it, but the basic gist of it is only you can control your perspective on things, the people around you can't do that for you, hence why it won't matter if you have 1 or 100 people around you, if you're attitude is that of no.1 you'll feel lonely regardless |
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| If we're talking romantic relationships, then no. I don't have that special someone in my life. But I wouldn't be pessimistic in saying that I'll forever be alone. |
LenRea said: That's pretty sad. You have my sympathy, Zaru-san. Yea, most of the world being too blue-pilled to allow my red-pilled fantasies is pretty sad indeed. |
DesuMaiden said: Nobody resembles me physically because I don't even physically exist. |
| I'm happily married and even before that I always made friends/acquaintances with people who liked anime and manga. I am extremely extroverted though, I don't know if that's the real reason but I also enjoy my time alone and never actually feel lonely with anime. Of course, I do feel lonely sometimes but that's mostly from certain personal wounds that I have yet to let go, grow from, take care of, etc. Frankly, I was the most lonely when I didn't like who I was or was made to hate myself due to the enormous expectations placed on me. Since learning that I am not bound by those expectations and other things, I've been a much freer and happier person. Funny enough, anime was the one thing that helped me get to the place where I could work on myself. If anyone is interested in knowing more or want to know which anime helped me, please don't hesitate to ask ♥ |
| My love is for the medium. If you want a deep dive, it's a paradox. Hearing stories made by people who struggle alone then humanizes the audience who are also struggling alone but finding a connection through the story. It makes people understand themselves and others more, or at least gives the illusion that there is some greater depth to themselves that only someone else's story can convey. The only difference would be between between if that story transforms into something that isn't a shopping addiction in the viewer's life. Not to say people are just stories, no one is until they're dead. Stories generate the illusion of connection. That being said, I'd rather spend my life in stories cause in real life you don't have to worry about betrayal or needing to know if something is a lie or not cause in a story, the whole nature of it is that it's a lie but it's fun. |
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LenRea said:
That's pretty sad. You have my sympathy, Zaru-san.
That's pretty sad. You have my sympathy, Zaru-san.
Yea, most of the world being too blue-pilled to allow my red-pilled fantasies is pretty sad indeed.
| @Zarutaku I bet my fantasies are even MORE red-pilled than yours. |
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@Zarutaku I bet my fantasies are even MORE red-pilled than yours.
| @LenRea Maybe, though I have a hunch that yours are actually black-pilled. |
DesuMaiden said: Nobody resembles me physically because I don't even physically exist. |
| My life circumstances and what they made me into are a bigger contributor to me (likely) being forever alone. Through Anime I got to meet a fans online quite easily, unlike some of my other, much older hobbies & interests. But even so, no actual friendships have developed out of it like I thought it might. Nah watching Anime itself doesn't make me lonely, lots of time spent by myself does, so watching more probably is better for me in that regard. I'm happy and comfortable enough with my situation though, don't wanna sound all doom & gloom. I'm sure I could make more of an effort but in some ways I like what I have currently, and it took a lot of getting through to get it, and I'm afraid of getting out of my comfort zone for something I may not like, as I know very much what I'm like. |
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| I guess this time I need to answer that I don't know. Sometimes I feel lonely, but I do have opportunities to socialize. I think society can make us feel artificially lonely because we tend to compare ourselves to other people, even if we generally feel content on the daily. As far getting married, time will tell. |
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| I'm always alone simply because I want to be. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Me:  |
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I got social life and not some forever alone anime fan because I actually go outside almost everyday and treat anime like it's just mere entertainment which doesn't dictate my life~ |
 (っ◔◡◔)っ 𝓘 𝔀𝓲𝓼𝓱 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝓪𝓵𝓵 𝓱𝓪𝓿𝓮 𝓪 𝔀𝓸𝓷𝓭𝓮𝓻𝓯𝓾𝓵 𝓭𝓪𝔂 ♥ |
| i have a good social life while watching animes , your hobbies dont have anth to do with your social life tbh |
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Reply to rohan121
To add on to the conversation. People are not rejected for playing games and watching anime all day. They do that because at that point they were already rejected. All kids start out as extroverts until they receive negative feedback that silences us. The beautiful stay extroverted.
Side note (only male anime fans are tfl)
Your title includes women which is laughably wrong. All granny's slay.
Side note (only male anime fans are tfl)
Your title includes women which is laughably wrong. All granny's slay.
rohan121 said: i definitely think you're wrongThe beautiful stay extroverted. Teenage boy , can be ugly but still being popular and extrovert because they're funny asf , they will get invited to parties and hang out by boys , they do not get any attention from girls tho , or get friendzoned Know it bc I'm def not beautiful but i get invited everywhere and a lot of guys like me bc im funny , the reality is that you dont need to be pretty when it comes to the same gender |
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i've never felt the warmth of a woman despite being 23
that's all you need to know really
that's all you need to know really
| @Vasdeferens I'll turn 26 in 2 weeks and I've already given up on getting into a relationship. |
| Same as said with the same topic of yours but with gaming, the same answer with anime - the difference that no one else from my family is an anime fan. I've went to conventions enough to see more couplse than you would have expected. Reality is way different than the pictures created by mass media and other stuff. And if someone is coping about not having a chance for any +18 stuff, bruh I've paid for escort services several times, even tho I have experience with relationships too, as long as you're not completely poor you can simply pay for this [It ain't that expensive as long as you're having an average/minimal wage] If someone doesn't know what escort is - Online prostitutes offers with whom you meet up in a hotel for adults content. |
ZettaikenDec 29, 2024 3:55 PM
| I'm married and have children. I'm never alone. |
| Natsukashii Anime, reviewer of anime old and new, with an emphasis on nostalgia. Natsukashii Anime Reviews |
| i couldn't be forever alone even if i wanted, unless i moved to a new address ( which i don't really plan to), because A LOT of my friends know where i live lol. plus i'm just very active socially, even if i'm not fond of things here and there. |
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| I think it's a mix of both honestly. It is pretty stereotypical but if you are so passionate about anime then that's all you will only care about so you might not care about a social life. I would also say depending on the anime you watch the more lonelier you can feel, like if you watched a bunch of Slice of life that shit will start to make you hurt seeing the ideal happy ending and *insert all the positive endings and bonuses* when you start thinking about it. Kinda feels like a vicious cycle unless you actually do something about it. Me personally, I don't feel so as I try to keep myself busy |
ZteffeDec 29, 2024 4:13 PM
| Not lonely, but probably forever alone. I'm not going to be playing victim though. |
| Well, what is my name? I think I should answer the question maybe. |
| I am a Completionist. All Anime/Manga will be Watched/Read. All FILLERS will be enjoyed :) I WATCH & READ THE LOWEST SCORED/RATED/RANKED ANIMES/MANGA ON MAL. Join my discord - https://discord.com/invite/aHrHTVQBBG Up and Coming ANIME SERVER (ANIME ADDICTS) :) |
| Got family, friends, and dates... but I still feel lonely to some degree because I just moved. Also, long-term romantic relationships haven't been working out. And yet, at the same time, I'm so happy to be living alone again! My ultimate fantasy is to live on a little plot of land in the middle of the countryside... just me, the trees, and my little farm animals. One day... |
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| As with any interest, if you indulge in it in moderation and not to the point that you neglect other areas of your life or other hobbies, you shouldn't really have any problems. |
| Neither, but I also have no social life. |
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| 45% of you have a social life? Damn, I'm doing something wrong. I am lonely. I have a boyfriend and about 3 friends, but it's not really enough--I don't hang out with my 3 friends, we almost exclusively just talk to each other once a week or so. I'm trying to get out there and join some groups, go to yoga, play board games etc. But it's difficult - my sleep schedule gets messed up and I miss the event times, or I'm in a deep depressive episode and struggle to get myself out the door. Hoping that returning to college will get me out of this slump. |
"Wonder is always difficult until you forgive whoever destroyed your love of surprises" — Edmond Manning  |
| The prove that anime fans still have social life talk to my parents, because my parents where big anime fan back in the 80s but they look fine now fast-forward, my two older brothers they already have a family and still social life. As for myself I have a job and still interact to people. |
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| I don't feel lonely at all...with you guys around. |
Reply to LenRea
That's pretty sad. You have my sympathy, Zaru-san.
Vasdeferens said:
i've never felt the warmth of a woman despite being 23
that's all you need to know really
i've never felt the warmth of a woman despite being 23
that's all you need to know really
Me either but what if women are actually cold and not warm? We would never know.
| @LenRea i cannot confirm that they would be warm, but i'm very certain that they would be dry |
| i have a small circle of friends who i talk to but rarely hang out with and i have a girlfriend after 27 years. So i think i broke out of Forever Alone. |
| My waifu is the most wonderful waifu. Mai Valentine. |
Reply to Kiyomice
45% of you have a social life? Damn, I'm doing something wrong.
I am lonely. I have a boyfriend and about 3 friends, but it's not really enough--I don't hang out with my 3 friends, we almost exclusively just talk to each other once a week or so. I'm trying to get out there and join some groups, go to yoga, play board games etc. But it's difficult - my sleep schedule gets messed up and I miss the event times, or I'm in a deep depressive episode and struggle to get myself out the door.
Hoping that returning to college will get me out of this slump.
I am lonely. I have a boyfriend and about 3 friends, but it's not really enough--I don't hang out with my 3 friends, we almost exclusively just talk to each other once a week or so. I'm trying to get out there and join some groups, go to yoga, play board games etc. But it's difficult - my sleep schedule gets messed up and I miss the event times, or I'm in a deep depressive episode and struggle to get myself out the door.
Hoping that returning to college will get me out of this slump.
| @Kiyomice this is the most realistic and honest take tbh |
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| Anime fans aren’t doomed to be forever alone. it's online forums, conventions, or anime discussions there's a whole world of like-minded souls waiting to share the love. So, if anything instead of adding to my loneliness , anime has light up my social life and make me feel part of something instead of nothing. |
| Idk how I should be assigned. I enjoy the time all by myself, and being alone is my own choice. My social batteries are almost always low, so I rarely feel like meeting people, shitposting is enough of social interactions. Still I have some strong bonds, for example with my sisters. I have friends who I hang out with about once a year, but our relation is like we see each other yesterday. |
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Anime fans aren’t doomed to be forever alone. it's online forums, conventions, or anime discussions there's a whole world of like-minded souls waiting to share the love. So, if anything instead of adding to my loneliness , anime has light up my social life and make me feel part of something instead of nothing.
| @RainyEvenings i feel the same thats why im here on mal forums alone |
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