Icolyze said: This post sure is great. Please share more about your highschool issues. I can totally relate. I too am an awkward penguin that hangs around people that I call best friends and get ignored constantly by them. Tell me about your boy issues, did you hold hands with anyone yet? Please, I need more of this! 20 posts about social awkwardness isn't enough. I can't believe the people that just say ''stop taking other peoples shit, you deserve better'' and instead get new friends and boy/girlfriends. So unreasonable. Please abuse me more, so that I'm ready for when my abusive boyfriend gets me pregnant and throws me down a flight of stairs.
best community ever, big hugs.
Well for starters, talking to others about something they are interested in is always a good way to hold up a conversation and not be ignored. People really overlook this simple practice for some reason.
Commenting on people's opinion on things can sometimes put people on the spot so you should avoid doing so unless you know they can shrug it off or take it as a joke.
Seriously, if your friend's start ignoring you after everytime you say something, just stop talking. Start asking questions every now and then instead.
If they're talking about a football game, ask them about the score even if you don't watch it. You don't have to pretend you know it, but try to facilitate the conversation so that either you or the rest of your friends can continue talking. Not only will you not be ignored, but you will actually contribute to something socially with your friends. Once you build enough of a "reputation" for yourself, you can start telling stories.
That doesn't mean you start telling random shitty stories like how you cleaned the house and found a penny. Obviously, stories that are crazy, rare, funny, exciting usually garner more attention and facilitates more of a discussion than everyday things. It doesn't even have to be a full fledged story, it can just be something that randomly happened to you.
err...well the last paragraph was more of like how to talk to people... but basically, to be able to have conversations in the first place requires yourself not to be ignored when you're talking to your friends.
So key concepts would be to stop talking too much, listen more, give a few short comments every now and then, and start asking general questions.
If all else fails, cry under a rock or move on. |