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Oct 20, 2021 8:54 PM
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The tsundere is very common in anime, duh, but do you think you could date a real tsundere?
Now, the abusive type tsundere isn't a good idea, but I could see myself dating a more toned down tsundere. You know, someone who sasses you and might have a little bit of pride, but any more might be too much. (Now, to be honest, I'm not an expert in tsunderes. I can't even name a male tsundere.)
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Oct 20, 2021 8:55 PM
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They would be called a bitch and every type of dere in existence would be in a asylum or prison.

Oct 20, 2021 8:58 PM
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In my opinion, all men, including myself, are too dense to understand when a girl is just being cold to us or is a tsundere. Frankly, we're all on the level of being as dense as a black hole, similar to Ichika in Infinite Startos.

Oct 20, 2021 8:59 PM
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There are some words in English dictionary that perfectly describe tsundete. For example: asshole.

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Modern anime is all garbage. I miss great old days of anime.
Oct 20, 2021 8:59 PM
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Dating in general is pretty pointless unless you are aiming to have kids without fleeing. Lol
Casting that idea aside for now, humans are natural tsunderes when someone pushes their social barriers. Like the trope of the harsh loving grandpa like in Saiki K series.
Oct 20, 2021 9:07 PM
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I'll marry a tsundere in real life. If they're abusive, then I deserve it anyways since I suck.
Oct 20, 2021 9:13 PM
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If any girl irl acted like a tsundere i would stay away , its just weird as opposed to anime where it's cute , because anime isn't real life unfortunately( or fortunately)
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Oct 20, 2021 9:14 PM
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ItIsZach said:
In my opinion, all men, including myself, are too dense to understand when a girl is just being cold to us or is a tsundere. Frankly, we're all on the level of being as dense as a black hole, similar to Ichika in Infinite Startos.

This too like i would not be able to tell if they like me or hate my guts we all get mad at the dense mc but we are just as dense usually
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Oct 20, 2021 9:22 PM
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Full disclosure, I love tsunderes. But the appeal of tsunderes in anime in my opinion comes strongly from the fact that the majority of anime girls that aren't tsunderes or at the very least have no tsundere-esque characteristics are doormats. Doormats are not attractive, be it real people or anime characters.

Obviously, a real person doesn't have to be full blown tsundere to not be a doormat.
Oct 20, 2021 9:25 PM

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If any irl person acted in a tsundere way I would ignore them. So, no chance of romance to grow.
Oct 20, 2021 9:42 PM

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Don't think so. Tsundere flips personality between "violent" and "shy" all the time, and that kind of person would be very unpleasant to deal with, thankfully I havn't run into one
Oct 20, 2021 9:59 PM

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i think it's based on how you view a "tsundere", for example, person A blushes whenever someone compliments them and tries to brush it away, person B hits people whenever they say something that embarrasses them and says "stupid!" or degrading comments even if they don't mean it. Even if they are different, they both have tsundere traits. For me personally, person A is acceptable, it can even come off as cute, but person B is just annoying and I'd do my best to avoid them.
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Oct 20, 2021 10:05 PM
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Someone like Tohsaka Rin may work, but they will still be mentally unstable and seem crazy.
Oct 20, 2021 10:15 PM

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Don’t think they will work too well to be honest. Not being honest to some extent is fine but alternating between two extremes might not be tolerable.




Maybe try sleeping?

Oct 20, 2021 10:25 PM

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No they will not work.

Although I don't know weather girls like Mikasa is Tsundere or not but she might work in real life. She is 2 in 1 Girlfriend (๑♡⌓♡๑) plus Bodyguard ᕙ(⇀‸↼‶)ᕗ
Oct 20, 2021 10:40 PM
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Tsundere in anime don't have nose, and their windows of soul are huge, normally. However, as the industry is filled with otaku that couldn't stand watching others,
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Help! I need somebody. Help! Not just anybody. Help! You know I need someone. Helpppppp!

Oct 20, 2021 11:09 PM
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If you have enough patience with them, then maybe yes..
Oct 20, 2021 11:17 PM

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I don't think so, and I would prefer to not get too close with them if it actually were to happen.

Oct 20, 2021 11:36 PM

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someone like Kurisu perhaps, but the very volatile ones that straight up hit the MC would come off as weird in real life I would think
Oct 21, 2021 12:41 AM

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I used to know one. She openly would be making insulting comments to me in front of others but she also went out of her way to talk to me every day for hours on end and was supportive of me. She started two thirds of all our conversations.
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Oct 21, 2021 12:51 AM
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Would a tsundere work in real life?
No if tsundere approached me and said mean things I would the same.
Oct 21, 2021 7:34 AM

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In real life they would be in jail for assaulting people. I don't like them in anime and I most definitely wouldn't want them to be anywhere near me, I'm not a masochist.

Even Saiga Mitsuki said that she wouldn't even want to be friends with the tsundere character she voiced because he would be annoying to have around.
Oct 21, 2021 7:46 AM
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You would need ungodly amounts of patience to handle a tsundere. And if it's an abusive tsundere exists in real life then they would probably go to jail for beating up their significant other.

But I guess a toned down tsundere is tolerable and dateable.
Oct 21, 2021 8:57 AM

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Someone like Mai Valentine from Yugioh is a good example of a tsundere who'd be fine to date. She's a little sassy but she's also really sweet under a rough exterior.

a Kirino from Oreimo would be a nightmare.
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We're freaking out that we're running out of time, but to do what? Should i stop and think of that? Is there something i could do to slow it down? Live in a day for once, instead of watch it sprinting by
Oct 21, 2021 2:21 PM
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Well if op likes BDSM, sure go for it.
Oct 21, 2021 2:32 PM

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One word, Annoying.

Granted you never stated whether this tsundere had to be attractive or not, which could make them a huge red flag even as a friend.
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Oct 21, 2021 2:35 PM
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Tsundere is not for the real world..
Oct 21, 2021 2:39 PM

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I don't think so. To most, if not all people they would come off as bitches and assholes.
ItIsZach said:
In my opinion, all men, including myself, are too dense to understand when a girl is just being cold to us or is a tsundere. Frankly, we're all on the level of being as dense as a black hole, similar to Ichika in Infinite Startos.

I agree. If one were to act this way because she secretly liked me, I wouldn't understand and instead think that she's just being mean to me for no reason.
Oct 21, 2021 3:04 PM

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What works in real life is communication. Which happens to be the exact opposite thing compared to what most tsunderes excel at.
Oct 21, 2021 3:07 PM

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A real life tsundere would be my internet connection.

A lot of times when I'm watching anime online or playing a game it likes to be a little bitch lag.
Oct 21, 2021 3:16 PM
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Discounting the more abusive, violent and unstable ones, they may work depending on the ratio of tsun to dere.

For the most part, I think people want a partner with morals and standards, not someone who will open their legs to anyone. On the other hand, too tsun would be an issue, because not everyone is good at reading cues. Sometimes you need to be direct with your intentions and affection. And some people may lose patience if you lead them on for too long.

Broadly speaking, when a man finds wife (not girlfriend) material, they try to tie the knot as soon as possible.
Oct 21, 2021 3:33 PM

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I would say yeah it could TOTALLY work in real life....

If anyone were as oblivious as the average SOL male MC

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Oct 21, 2021 7:49 PM
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Nah. It works in anime since you get some background into their behavior. But if a girl I didn't know was rude to me for no reason, I would just write them off.
Oct 21, 2021 8:10 PM
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No one cares about what they would, or wouldn't, unless they are rich, they too must work to survive.
Oct 21, 2021 9:05 PM
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Regardless of my distaste for them, even if I liked them I'd say no they absolutely would not work in real life.

I mean, like others have said we can barely even tell when someone's flirting with us, a tsundere in real life would be expert level difficulty. Just because it's attractive and cute in fiction doesn't really mean shit, I mean being clumsy is moe but in real life that shit isn't cute, I don't see cute girls spilling shit and think "damn that was adorable". If someone is being that bitchy towards me, chances are I'm not coming anywhere close to them.
Oct 21, 2021 11:31 PM
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They'd just be annoying. I don't think it would work in real life

Oct 21, 2021 11:49 PM

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tsundere are in RL usually higher in the SMV. They shit-test weak men. If you know the game, you can put her in her place.
That's why I hate any anime, where tsundere is still around weak MC. Doesn't work like that in RL. Sorry, incels.

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