If you were about to start a relationship with someone and you found out they cheated once before, would you continue?
| This goes with all the other threads going on now. If you found out they before sucking dick behind their partners back before, would you end it instantly to be safe. |
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maiison said: what the fuck is this title if theyre still in contact with the same person, fuck no i KNOW theyre cheating behind my back probably What about the title? Looks fine to me. I'm saying years ago in another relationship. 5+ years ago and didn't happen again. |
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| Depends on the reason. Maybe their partner wasn't a good partner and was neglecting them for too long or maybe they just aren't ready for a serious relationship. The latter is obviously a red flag. |
| What kind of relationship? The answer is simply, bye bye. NO! RAPE!!! RAPE!!! *puts on hockey mask* I see you have chosen death...¯\_(ツ)_/¯ |
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| I'm gonna err on the side of caution and say "no." |
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| relationships are a kind of investment, if you talk to people about their failed relationships they generally look back on the time with that person as a waste. You already have knowledge of a behavior you find morally questionable, do you really want to invest time that you have adequate reason will be wasted on this person. Even if the time you spend with out that person is spent alone it would be better than having spent not only your time but also your money on a person and time that you will ultimately call wasted in all likelihood. If your friend stole 100 dollars from you would you remain their friend? I certainly wouldn't, if they behave despicably in good times what would such a person be capable of in bad times. Friendships and all relationships should start from trust of that person's integrity. |
| sure, i have bad luck before so I am immune to relationship pain at this point I feel like. if something bad happens also, animu and vidya will always be there for me. |
| Probably not. If it happened before.. it could happen again |
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| No lmao if someone has the capacity for that no matter the reason they aren't worth trusting, there's no good reason to cheat. And not because I would suspect them to cheat again but more on the fact I don't think our personalities would mesh that well if they were the type of person who'd do something like that. |
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| It would definitely stop me in my tracks and re-consider the whole thing. Cheating is always wrong, but that being said, there are times where I understand where they're coming from. Communication is so important in relationships and I would give them the opportunity to talk to me about it. |
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| It depends. If we're talking like an adult who cheated when they were a horny dumb teenager and never again then that's something to note and move ahead; if we're talking an adult who cheated after becoming a matured person, irregardless of if it's a repeated pattern or not, fuck no you'd gotta be either cranked or a cuck to buy that shit. I won't say people don't change, because some really do and I feel for them, but a lot don't bother and it's a waste of time and pointless risk to ignore clear warning signs. But that's assuming it's a potential serious long term commitment, since I date specifically intending to find a marriageable mate; if you're one of the gigolo types knock yourself out I guess since the calculus is entirely different then. Just keep in mind the inherent risk you're putting yourself in while having fun. |
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| The fu*k?? Hell nah That's also so bs some dumbass bi*ch made about me when we've never even dated. I've never been cheated on before and would whoever put up with disrespect in a relationship |
| Nah man, I wouldn't give second chances when it comes to this. Also where did all of these cheating threads come from? |
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| Forgive and Forget? Nah I don't believe in this bullshit lmao. 10/10 won't date. |
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| Nope, once a cheater always a cheater. |
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| I never physically cheated, but I have emotionally. So I'll hold the other person up to the same standards, as long as they keep things in their head and eventually cut off the person that they have feelings for I'm ok with it... but when you take it to the physical realm and start going and dates and smashing other ppl... yeah can't fuck with that. |
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| Depends. Since the cheating has occurred, what has happened? Has she changed since then, is she still in contact with the person she was cheating with, etc. Depending on the answer, I'd probably give her a chance, but given that I have trust issues, I'd probably have a lot of trouble trusting her at all. |
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| J yhunata said: if you have trust issues I think the answer should would be no under any circumstances, even if it was a 1 time thing 20 years ago.Depends. Since the cheating has occurred, what has happened? Has she changed since then, is she still in contact with the person she was cheating with, etc. Depending on the answer, I'd probably give her a chance, but given that I have trust issues, I'd probably have a lot of trouble trusting her at all. |
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Kayle_x_Morgana said: yhunata said: if you have trust issues I think the answer should would be no under any circumstances, even if it was a 1 time thing 20 years ago.Depends. Since the cheating has occurred, what has happened? Has she changed since then, is she still in contact with the person she was cheating with, etc. Depending on the answer, I'd probably give her a chance, but given that I have trust issues, I'd probably have a lot of trouble trusting her at all. Which is why I said that even if I were to give her a chance, I probably wouldn't trust her at all. |
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yhunata said: but why bother in the first place? You could get attached and the relationship could get serious and boom. All the $ wasted and you are destroyedKayle_x_Morgana said: if you have trust issues I think the answer should would be no under any circumstances, even if it was a 1 time thing 20 years ago. Which is why I said that even if I were to give her a chance, I probably wouldn't trust her at all. |
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Kayle_x_Morgana said: yhunata said: but why bother in the first place? You could get attached and the relationship could get serious and boom. All the $ wasted and you are destroyedWhich is why I said that even if I were to give her a chance, I probably wouldn't trust her at all. Because, at the end of the day, I do want children and beggars can't really be choosers. |
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| *vietnam flashback* uh... im out.. |
| Not every cheater is a sinner just as being loyal doesnt exonerate one from being a piece of shit in other areas. I'd need to know the context, and I believe they'd have the right to justify it if they wish. I've made a lot of relationship mistakes too; I wouldnt dream I deserve some flawless partner. |
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| Everyone deserves second chances is what I rationally believe. But considering that has hurt me before I can say I will put more thought into it. |
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| i think if it's during your college/uni days i don't think i'd care as people are changing and experimenting all sorts of shit then and learning what good and bad relationships look like and finally being out of their home into a new environment that's essentially on a time limit. people want a slice of every pie that's in every fridge but past that, as full blown adult firing on all cylinders who realistically should be past that big hump of acquiring all of the fundamental social skills to maintain a relationship (barring MAL shut-ins) i would say absolutely no. not worth the risk. |
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| meh, i wouldn't call it off. i try not to be biased since it could've been just a mistake, but i'll def feel some type of way. i probably wouldn't be as invested in the relationship as i would have been if i never learned of that oh but if i catch them cheating on me then that's an instant break up. i got zero tolerance for that shit |
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| Yes. After that, cheat on them. It's called karma, and it's beautiful. |
| Explain to me this Disney, fairy tale relationship some of you people seem to have in your minds?! That some PURE girl is gonna come along, you're gonna fall in "Love" and live happily ever after?! "That's not what we mean" I hear you say. OK, then don't ask stupid questions. Give me a break people, we live in an age of Self-gratification...count yourself lucky to be in any kind of relationship and maybe try your best to make it work and don't worry about the rest. |
| I'd want to say "only if it can be understandable", but in a relationship... man, I've gone through certain events that left me with severe trust issues, and if I heard that they did, I don't think I'd react positively. It would change how I see the relationship and just put everything on stop. Hell, if I were to go with my mind, I'd go with an extreme "burn the bridge" and "no second chances". |
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| I would enjoy it very much and would gladly bring up the subject for fun to remind him/her how Animalistic they can be :P examples: "Can I use your phone to make a call or must I prepare my heart?" Oh but If I do end up being cheated on I think I'll be fine after I've been given sometime. I've lived a tumultuous life. I will continue to tease my ex -lover then about their tendencies with no malice ofc :P (but you know deceptively enough that it would scare people). |
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| Well, my first gf cheated on me, but one time I asked her, "What about Breakfast at Tiffany's?" She said, "I think I remember the film, and as I recall, I think we both kinda liked it." And I said, "Well, that's the one thing we've got." |
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--ALEX-- said: Explain to me this Disney, fairy tale relationship some of you people seem to have in your minds?! That some PURE girl is gonna come along, you're gonna fall in "Love" and live happily ever after?! "That's not what we mean" I hear you say. OK, then don't ask stupid questions. Give me a break people, we live in an age of Self-gratification...count yourself lucky to be in any kind of relationship and maybe try your best to make it work and don't worry about the rest. So I should just be satisfied while my gf is getting banged by tyrone while i'm out at work? |
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Kayle_x_Morgana said: --ALEX-- said: Explain to me this Disney, fairy tale relationship some of you people seem to have in your minds?! That some PURE girl is gonna come along, you're gonna fall in "Love" and live happily ever after?! "That's not what we mean" I hear you say. OK, then don't ask stupid questions. Give me a break people, we live in an age of Self-gratification...count yourself lucky to be in any kind of relationship and maybe try your best to make it work and don't worry about the rest. So I should just be satisfied while my gf is getting banged by tyrone while i'm out at work? For god sakes, I'm not saying you or anyone should be a cuck... All I'm saying is that relationships are not perfect, people on the individual level are especially not perfect either. TBF, I don't believe in "true love" so admittedly my commentary is a bit unique and not exactly a popular opinion. |
| Once a cheat always a cheat. I would never go with someone who has cheated in a previous relationship what is stopping them from doing that to you those types of people aren't trustworthy |
| it depends on the person. Certain people you’ll just get a vibe and know they cannot be trusted and there is no second chance. On the other hand, there are instances where you’ll meet someone and depending on their circumstances, communication and just sort of seeing who they are you realize things don’t add up for the scenario and you could be open to giving another chance after a period of consistency and rebuilding of trust. |
| There's a nuance to things, plus I would only long for attention in a couple. Not necessarily exclusive, I don't care for sexual intimacy. So I guess it would be fine? |
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| The replies that start with: "if it happened before, it will happen again" are just hilarious. The fact that people do not know statistics is baffling. You do realize that literally anyone can sell you out for anything you couldn't provide? Sure, you may have good secondary sexual characteristics, but hey, I bet a million other people can compensate for that in other forms. Don't even tell me it's about 'love'. I've listened to better fairy tales from a furry fanfic, spare me. The only reason people don't cheat is because it's a huge hassle and is (primarily) an unnecessary feat. Rest assured, I'd leave any person with a D cup for a letter of recommendation, or, depending on the day, an excellent home-made americano. Rest assured, ladies and gentlemen. |
-Nathaniel- said: maybe you canYarub said: The only reason people don't cheat is because it's a huge hassle and is (primarily) an unnecessary feat. or ya know they might just like love the person their in a relationship with or something weird like that. elaborate more on the concept of love before writing in stanzas maybe i just love coffee more than breasts so i hook up with the barista instead of my girlfriend? clearly, that's love. |
| Once a cheater, always a cheater. So no. No point dating someone who cheated before because there might be another chance that the person will cheat on you. |
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-Nathaniel- said: How would that hold up though? If you're not specifically attracted to them, then why not just replace them overall? You're telling me you can't find another suitable person that you 'love' and like physically? Assume you find one, now, move on to money, then power, and it never fucking ends. Just admit it's a goddamn hassle and that you're capable of cheating and call it a day. Love is only in the moment and you can't really argue with it logically. Yarub said: maybe you can elaborate more on the concept of love before writing in stanzas maybe i just love coffee more than breasts so i hook up with the barista instead of my girlfriend? clearly, that's love. Romantic love or the kind of love that isn't physical in a relationship. |
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