Dawn said: and how exactly are being able to build a house or plant a tree important to a man in this day and age. Being able to take care of yourself helps in things as simple as getting a job, people are more inclined to hire someone who takes care of themselves. Someone who doesnt care at all usually just seems like they let themselves go and it's not like it even becomes something that takes over your life. You dont have to make yourself look like a movie actor, but not caring about your physical appearance in the slightest? that seems a bit ridiculous.
build a house, plant a tree, have a son is a good proverb
By building a house, the young man has taken up the step to live independently from the house of his parents, that is to say, taken the steps not to depend on his parents’ cooking and money, but create his own livelihood and generate his own means of subsistence. He has to leave the parents’ house to create his own world, his own domain, his own house, and to accomplish this important step is definitively one of the first signs of maturity, of becoming an adult man.
The day I left the house of my parents was in a very profound way the very day I was embarking of my own path, on my own journey toward becoming a man, making my own mistakes, figuring things out through my own experiences and through my own thinking. It was also the very process necessary of ownership of the house which I was building (my own life). I had earned it, it was mine, though my own sweat, my own thinking, my own tears and joys.
Planting a tree illustrated the need for contributing to society and our community. A man can provide for himself but his sense of responsibility leads him also to an understanding of his role in society. We are part of that greater world beyond ourselves, we are part of a society, and to be a man means to fulfil our role in our environment by contributing to it in a positive and constructive way.
Raising a son (or a daughter, of course) is about leaving something behind. It is about fulfilling one’s role in the family context, it is about doing the hard work, day in and day out, which will ultimately establish whether or not you have left a positive mark in this word, if you have left something behind.
^^ That is, if your interested to read (it's not mine).
While about a job... Well, usually you've got CV's talking most of the time instead of looks, writing down:
'cut expenditure by 30% by providing a personal research on employees habits' or 'won a contract competition of $1m for my company' (all of this takes lots of time)
instead of
'I'm good looking (but obviously most likely I will not be after 30)'
will give you a big advantage of getting that job.
Of course, you must be a complete fool to go to an interview with a track suit instead of a work suit, but then again - thats something natural - like cutting your nails. |