Vesanus said: Because of instances I've been through, a seed planted itself in my mind somewhere that everyone that is seemingly nice is acting fake and is judging you. I'm just speaking for myself, though. I'm a very closed person irl because I want to avoid being judged even if the person has no intentions of doing so. Maybe I just have some sort of weird social anxiety, who knows. But why are you worried about being judged by people you'll probably never see again anyway? No offence but that just doesn't make a whole lot of sense D: |
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XR said: Dont betray yourself, stick to who you are and hopefully you will stumble across a girl who is into metal and anime. This, basically. In order to "finish last", patience is needed, no? xD |
| You can always fap. Get less lonely with your hand. |
AwesomeCamper said: You can always fap. Get less lonely with your hand. Pretty much this. |
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| This still going on? Lawl |
| 9 pages and no Nice Guys finish last song? :O On a serious note I actually replied to something like this on Yahoo answers. Question: Why do some boys think all girls like bad boys? ? A: "It's a dumb stereotype us more shy, don't know what to do guys think girls go for. Generally since they don't know how to actually talk to a girl properly or are just not forward with them they tend to think the girls only like the "bad guys" when the only reason is because the "bad guy" actually has the balls to confront the girl and actually knows what to do and say instead of doing the things this Mark guy(The "shy guy") is doing.." Main point being, you can listen to them and still be a nice guy but you also got to be aggressive when it comes to striving for a girl you like. Your nice side is a key factor that could actually win you over girls but you also got to be more pro-active and up front with them like those so-called "assholes" are doing. |
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FegeleinAntics said: I just want to stop being lonely. Watch more anime, practice some sport, and adopt a dog... |
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I think there's a fine line between assholes, jerks and class clowns. A jerk imo would call his girlfriend fat, because he's naive. The asshole isn't, he'd tell her she's sexy, but what he would do is flirt with another while his gf is just in the next room. While the jerk couldn't possible be smart enough to get away with it, 'cause he's to full of himself. I'd like to think that a true asshole is of a higher breed. He has more class. He'd date 3 girls at a time, till he finally commits to one. Knows what to say to get away and have a night out with the guys, without getting home drunk and completely pissing off his girl. ...and about class clowns, they have tons of confidence, but like someone said earlier in the thread, they just want attention. Complete buffoons. |
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NicoleB said: Vesanus said: Because of instances I've been through, a seed planted itself in my mind somewhere that everyone that is seemingly nice is acting fake and is judging you. I'm just speaking for myself, though. I'm a very closed person irl because I want to avoid being judged even if the person has no intentions of doing so. Maybe I just have some sort of weird social anxiety, who knows. But why are you worried about being judged by people you'll probably never see again anyway? No offence but that just doesn't make a whole lot of sense D: I just am. I suppose it's hard to understand from an outsider's point of view/you haven't experienced what I feel yourself. I feel as if I'm constantly being judged/stared at/etc and that feeling isn't very nice so I try to avoid it as much as I possibly can. But this isn't a therapy session, so. |
| (Pardon my intrusion, but I just wanted to point this out: Vesanus, your profile picture is strangely distracting; also anus.) |
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. NicoleB said: petalshreds said: dating is for fun, marriage is for life my point is, teen girls don't take it seriously. Actually you'd be surprised. A lot of girls my age really do take things seriously and are "looking for love" straight away. And how do you know this?,for a person who always seems to be here when i log on or when i'm just lurking through general discussions is surely quite the bold statement,i know your trying to stick up for your gender,but let's be honest here women aren't exactly these "angels" your making them sound like. |
| I wish you had misspelled angel 'angle', so I could have said "but they're so acute!" It's one of my life goals to do that. |
LoneWolf said: @Josh makes me sad to call myself Canadian. |
Post-Josh said: I wish you had misspelled angel 'angle', so I could have said "but they're so acute!" It's one of my life goals to do that. angle Have your fun. |
| ^Am I within my rights to do so? Hmm? Hmm? |
| It's about confidence not being a jerk, you whine about not getting women in an internet forum and you're surprised you don't attract women? Who'd want to date a spineless duck? |
Vesanus said: NicoleB said: Vesanus said: Because of instances I've been through, a seed planted itself in my mind somewhere that everyone that is seemingly nice is acting fake and is judging you. I'm just speaking for myself, though. I'm a very closed person irl because I want to avoid being judged even if the person has no intentions of doing so. Maybe I just have some sort of weird social anxiety, who knows. But why are you worried about being judged by people you'll probably never see again anyway? No offence but that just doesn't make a whole lot of sense D: I just am. I suppose it's hard to understand from an outsider's point of view/you haven't experienced what I feel yourself. I feel as if I'm constantly being judged/stared at/etc and that feeling isn't very nice so I try to avoid it as much as I possibly can. But this isn't a therapy session, so. Well frankly, we'll always be judged, there is literally nothing you can do about that. Except on how it effects you. |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
JonyJC said: It's about confidence not being a jerk, you whine about not getting women in an internet forum and you're surprised you don't attract women? Who'd want to date a spineless duck? I love duck. |
_Darkyuu said: And how do you know this?,for a person who always seems to be here when i log on or when i'm just lurking through general discussions is surely quite the bold statement,i know your trying to stick up for your gender,but let's be honest here women aren't exactly these "angels" your making them sound like. Ugh, how am I trying to "stick up for my gender"? |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
NicoleB said: Vesanus said: NicoleB said: Vesanus said: Because of instances I've been through, a seed planted itself in my mind somewhere that everyone that is seemingly nice is acting fake and is judging you. I'm just speaking for myself, though. I'm a very closed person irl because I want to avoid being judged even if the person has no intentions of doing so. Maybe I just have some sort of weird social anxiety, who knows. But why are you worried about being judged by people you'll probably never see again anyway? No offence but that just doesn't make a whole lot of sense D: I just am. I suppose it's hard to understand from an outsider's point of view/you haven't experienced what I feel yourself. I feel as if I'm constantly being judged/stared at/etc and that feeling isn't very nice so I try to avoid it as much as I possibly can. But this isn't a therapy session, so. Well frankly, we'll always be judged, there is literally nothing you can do about that. Except on how it effects you. Obviously. But when the thought gives you social anxiety, I'd rather stick to avoiding people. |
Vesanus said: Obviously. But when the thought gives you social anxiety, I'd rather stick to avoiding people. Well, I guess thats your decision, but you'll have to deal with that sooner or later. |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
NicoleB said: Vesanus said: Obviously. But when the thought gives you social anxiety, I'd rather stick to avoiding people. Well, I guess thats your decision, but you'll have to deal with that sooner or later. I can't exactly control it, lol. Nevermind. |
| You can, it's all about just not caring any more. You're talking about people you'll probably never ever meet again. Does it really matter what they think of you? And even if they think something bad or whatever, big deal? You'll never get everyone to like you no matter who you are. |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
JavierR said: It's kind of hard to tell someone with a social anxiety problem to just 'get over it' That's not all that I'm doing. |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
| @XR I agree that when you have a gf girls talk to you more. I had a gf for a couple of months and during that time girls actually talked to me. My gf also told me that those girls kept asking her stuff about me. |
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| Any guy that whines about not getting a girl because he's "such a nice guy" is annoying. Do you think that you've earned some kind of affectionate reward for the kindness that you make an effort to put into some relationship? Because you sent her a smile or lent her an ear sometime? You haven't. You, OP, and all the other Nice Guys out there should realize that it's not all about you, nor is it all about dating a badass. If you're in the friendzone, it's probably because you put yourself there. The one's who aren't in the friendzone are the guys who have some confidence, who don't just spill out compliments, but someone they can actually have a normal conversation with or someone that'll even flirt with them for a while to at least make her wonder if there's some interest there. And speaking of confidence, why don't you just muster up some courage and go ahead and confess to her? That way at least you're gonna get noticed.. and being noticed can go a long way. And btw, badass =/= asshole. When a girl says she wants a badass, she doesn't mean she wants a guy who's going to treat her like shit or there's some really weird stuff going on with her that you wouldn't want to get involved with anyway. |
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LolitaDecay said: More like boring, socially awkward guys finish last. ^This. "Nice guys" =/= gentlemen "Nice guys" are usually pathetic individuals who go after women that are way out of their league. Always claiming they can't get a girlfriend when they don't even acknowledge girls that are as ugly as themselves. |
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uzu-dragons said: Any guy that whines about not getting a girl because he's "such a nice guy" is annoying. Do you think that you've earned some kind of affectionate reward for the kindness that you make an effort to put into some relationship? Because you sent her a smile or lent her an ear sometime? You haven't. You, OP, and all the other Nice Guys out there should realize that it's not all about you, nor is it all about dating a badass. If you're in the friendzone, it's probably because you put yourself there. The one's who aren't in the friendzone are the guys who have some confidence, who don't just spill out compliments, but someone they can actually have a normal conversation with or someone that'll even flirt with them for a while to at least make her wonder if there's some interest there. And speaking of confidence, why don't you just muster up some courage and go ahead and confess to her? That way at least you're gonna get noticed.. and being noticed can go a long way. And btw, badass =/= asshole. When a girl says she wants a badass, she doesn't mean she wants a guy who's going to treat her like shit or there's some really weird stuff going on with her that you wouldn't want to get involved with anyway. This is some truth right here. No one is entitled to anything, nice, or not. |
LoneWolf said: @Josh makes me sad to call myself Canadian. |
| Oh my god, she is the worst. So annoying/obnoxious. |
LoneWolf said: @Josh makes me sad to call myself Canadian. |
Post-Josh said: Oh my god, she is the worst. So annoying/obnoxious. Hey, Jenna is awesome :< |
| "If you love someone Follow your heart Cause love comes once If you’re lucky enough" |
| I feel ya buddy I'm in almost the same position myself. The only thing you can really do is to keep on going. All of my pals have gfs and it gets kinda tough being the only one in a room who isn't having their own little conversation with their gf. Kinda agree with some of the others though i dont think girls actually like assholes over genuinely nice people its just they are a bit more confidant. I wont speak for you but I'm pretty bad at social stuff. |
| People who don't make any effort tend to come last I find. |
FegeleinAntics said: I just want to stop being lonely. If that's your reason for dating, then just stop now. Nearly everyone I've seen who dates because of this reason ends up in some shitty relationship that they don't want to leave because they'll be alone again and they try too hard to make the relationship work. Plus, think about how a girl would feel if she heard that. "I'm dating you because I don't want to be lonely." There are plenty of other things you to stop being lonely besides dating. |
FegeleinAntics said: There are plenty of other things you to stop being lonely besides dating. Well (this is speaking from personal experience) Ive tried doing a bunch of things to not be lonely but i still am. I'm not complaining and hope i don't appear to be I'm just putting my experience out there to try to help someone. |
FegeleinAntics said: This quote has been bothering me for a while. I'm in my late teens and I still didn't get a girlfriend and I don't think that's because of my looks but my personality. Apparently I belong to the ''nice guy'' group. I don't talk thrash to girls, I smile at them, I listen to them, etc. In other words, I try to be as nice as I can. But they seem to be more interested in assholes. I never really understood why, but I heard a million explanations from ''more excitement'' to ''natural selection''. It never really bothered that I didn't find a girl, except from the common loneliness. But now, I found a girl that I'm completely crazy for and from what I understand from what she told me it's that she wants an asshole... sorry, I mean a ''badass''.She surely won't ever look at me in the way I want to. Sacrificing my ''nice side'' will totally ruin me and turn me into a soulless piece of shit, from what I can see from my ex-best friend. I plan on confessing by the end of the month and I'm completely lost now. p.s. The fact that I am a romanticist, listen to melodic metal and watch anime makes girls less willing to have a relationship with me even more. A good question is...Why are YOU interested in that type of girl? Anyway, I think that most girls are not attracted to bad guys, are attracted to confident men that know what they want and go for it without caring what other thinks...The thing is, usually bad guys have this characteristic because it's hard to do what you want without being selfish. But a nice guy with this characteristic rules, they know how to be individualistic and at the same time make others feel nice |
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| i think it all has to do with misclassification, when a women receives 100% kindness and dosent hav to work for it she may see it as a 100% friend like gesture, unlike a date. A women has to put effort into going on a date. If you listen to a girl's problems 100% of the time with out her fighting to gain ur attention it'll be too easy for her and you'll be branded as a Friend. Thats what ive learned through experience. |
Post-Josh said: Oh my god, she is the worst. So annoying/obnoxious. She's just too deep for you, brah. Shit. I might be the only male who watchers her. I expect I'll be sprouting a vagina anytime soon. |
lordjerry777 said: FegeleinAntics said: There are plenty of other things you to stop being lonely besides dating. Well (this is speaking from personal experience) Ive tried doing a bunch of things to not be lonely but i still am. I'm not complaining and hope i don't appear to be I'm just putting my experience out there to try to help someone. But being in a relationship might not help either, and it could make things worse. I've seen it happen to other people, and if the OP is really that lonely, I doubt dating will help. Another thing I wanted to add is that women probably realize if you're desperate to date someone. They don't want to date some guy who will settle for anyone willing to date them. Also, another problem with "nice guys" is that they're, well... nice. If you're nice to all girls, it doesn't make the girl you're interested in feel very special. I'm not saying you have to be a dick, but treat them normally. |
| I think this video is related to the topic. He talks about male and female sexual attraction. |
| As a child, I was told that society is a melting pot of talents; knowledge and experience combined to form important alloys that will contribute to mankind. When I got to highschool, however, I thought that it's more like a river in which the water represents our peers while we ourselves are the stones in the river. Constant erosion by mindless majority sheeping has made us lose our unique edge. After I hit the age of 18, I realized that I've been wrong all along. Society is no melting pot. Society is no river. Society is a person, a very skilled rapist, and he has fucked us all. |
| "If you ain't first your last" Not exactly relevant, but it's the first thing that came to my mind when I saw this thread. GloriousHawk said: Post-Josh said: Oh my god, she is the worst. So annoying/obnoxious. She's just too deep for you, brah. Shit. I might be the only male who watchers her. I expect I'll be sprouting a vagina anytime soon. It'll grow in faster if you give it some fertilizer. |
GloriousHawk said: Post-Josh said: Oh my god, she is the worst. So annoying/obnoxious. She's just too deep for you, brah. Shit. I might be the only male who watchers her. I expect I'll be sprouting a vagina anytime soon. To accelerate the process, throw in some Jonas Brothers on the weekends. |
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