ChartTopper60 said:I did quite an amount of thinking, reflection, research before making this post. MAL is pretty different from other sites in that there is a slight more nuance here than elsewhere. I've seen a lot more people discuss the goods and bads on each side without explicitly concluding anything. I feel like this nuance is hard to find anywhere else.
Overall, if you see a thread you find to be bad, just stay away and don't reply. Most of my posts are from threads I genuinely liked. There will always be threads you like.
Truly, I don't like labeling anyone though, because I feel that it entirely disables me from understanding another's position. I've done it before, but no longer will I call somebody in a serious case a simp, or a dumbass, or whatever. That's all they are? That's their defining trait? That tells you everything about their every life experience, reflection, every single fiber of their being? I mean, I don't care too much if people do it to me, it's best that I don't care since I'm autistic and have trouble recognizing banter often. I just would never do it myself. It comes off as self-validation to me, and my life is wasted if I don't do my best to understand others.
Anyway, like others say, mute and block. You have every right as a human being to not engage with emotionally abusive people, or people that make you feel uncomfortable to the core. I mean, if people just don't like you and that's that, okay? So what. But if they have to get to that level, be the better person and ignore.
YET I would also say just take things at face value. I mean, yes, women and money stereotype. There are a lot of stereotypes out there. But there are two ways you can take something. Do we know the intention of the thread? that all le women are le bad? Or are they just talking from experience? I know, it's easier to get pissed than understand, the hardest part of life is getting over your emotions. After all, it's not like this person is going to see a women go up to them, say hi, and they go "WTF YOU FUCKING BIIIIIIIIITTTTTTTCHHH". Even if they did somehow hate every last women on the planet, they'd just ignore women. And if you're a woman, you have every reason to not put any attention on that unless it directly involves you.
I'm partially borrowing what someone I love has said here; It's just saddening that so many people will ignore others when they genuinely want to send kindness, compliments and love, but those same people will spend all their energy into the bullshit others have to say,
especially people they don't even know that act like they do! So basically, their livelihood becomes drama and hatred.
Also, I'd
not say that half the forum is misogynistic or racist. Most of the people I've met here have been absolutely delightful. I always believed that the people you meet are the reflection of you, like a sense of attraction. At the very least, what you focus on is what you'll find more of.
After all, no one has to agree on anything as long as they respect you as a person.
The best thing is that, if you have recognized it, you have every right to eject shitty people out of your life. For me, it was tough at first. But the more I worked on myself, the better I could recognize it.
Aired said:You need to go and read the thread because it didn't come off as misogynist. He was just asking an honest question from his perspective.
JFuji said:People feel safe to express their opinions with anonymity.. but thats how it is everywhere. Nothing really too bad from what I've seen.
People have been locked up in their homes. It can be difficult to release pent up frustration for some. I can understand. If I didn't have a girlfriend it could be me as well.. You have to understand that the current hentai production is very slow. Places like hanimetv are getting a few new releases like once a month. Half of them are NTR which turns people off. Other then that they only see a bunch of crappy 90's looking hentai being uploaded.
SansWobbles said:You should check out CE, where you get to shit on women and minorities, and back it up with sources
Starchaser said:
Honestly, it's just better to use your time on any forum to interact with the people who are nice, make you feel happy, uplifted, and all that jazz