Yes, I know the meme. But real talk here. I feel like life never stops raising the bar. No matter how much you work, it's never there yet and when you think you've reached success you realize how little it is what you've accomplished. You think you've done enough to at least be praised, but then people say you did nothing more than your obligation, what was expected of you. You think you're finally good or worthy of respect at something, but you look around and there are so many people so far ahead of you. And there is always the fear of, in the end, looking back and asking yourself "was it all worth it?". I am not depressed about it or anything, but every now and then these thoughts come back to my mind and, now that I am on MAL, I wanted to share them. Have you ever felt like that? what are your opinions on suffering while having achieved something? |
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| yes, i especially felt this way about school. i felt like i was a hamster on a wheel. i suppose that’s what happens when you strive for someone else’s idea of success. once you hit that mark that is expected of you and you feel unfulfilled, then i think you should do something else success is subjective imo, especially for this reason of suffering. ya got to suffer for the “right” reasons. what do you want yourself? is a good question to ask yourself |
p0ckyyJul 19, 2020 9:36 PM
| The stereotyped notion of success is a scam in many ways. Instead of aiming to conform to others' expectations, it's best to strive toward happiness in your own way. Allowing the mob to determine your path and outlook on life can be a source of unhappiness. To answer the original question, of course "successful" people can suffer immensely. There are countless miserable millionaires out there. |
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| i think this also would b related with comparison to me, it feels like even after achieving something, there would always b people ahead of you and i've definitely felt let down by this, but im trying to work on the mentality of being proud of things ive accomplished, and to not compare myself to other peoples achievements as everyone is different i think one should do something that they enjoy and b proud of themselves, instead of looking for validation from others even if they don't find value, if you feel proud, thats what should matter over anyone elses' opinions |
| in terms of celebrity status the more you attract vocal haters that affects humans negativity bias more so ye you can suffer that way and even trigger your latent mental illness for anime then this video says it |
| Yes, there is a Buddhist concept that deals with the problem. Basically, humans inherently want more and more, but following this inner desire is dangerous because eventually we will reach a limit of what we can get. Human desire is limitless and obtaining everything won't lead us to happiness. So, we first need to appreciate what we have and achieve inner contentment. It doesn't mean that we should stop trying to be better or have more, the key is not to be attached to them. If you have a strong sense of contentment, it doesn't matter whether you obtain the object or not. We suffer because we feel attached to our goals or material possession. That's why some people are still not satisfied even though they obtain the object of their desire and that's ironic because their underlying motive is to seek satisfaction. |
| "You misunderstood from the very beginning. You just believed what you wanted to believe." Rei Ayanami |
| There's only happiness in following God's law |
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| Also don't forget about stuff like this: https://www.today.com/health/settling-silver-why-second-place-worse-third-927013 If you are only barely away 1 step from the very top ... it might feel more annoying then if you were mor far away. Also people in business in high positions in companies ... have lots of stress and work. They might not even have enough time to enjoy the shitload of money they make. |
| Rock music has a high suicide rate for a reason. Whether it be before theit succes or after, anybody can suffer regardless of their circumstances. The German band Rammstein has a song about their loss of freedom after becoming popular. Kurt Kobain from Nirvana, Layne from Alice in Chains, Chester from Linkin Park, Chris from Audioslave, Soundgardem, all majorly succesful bands but all of them killed themselves because of depressio. |
| Metal, games, and good friends make life worth living Discord: kingkrazy#0336 |
| Yes of course because you become purposeless after you achieve your goal. Some brilliant people who were awarded a Nobel Prize at a young age did not do much afterwards (and yes, some people only work for prizes...). It seems that Fields medalists too tend to slack off a little bit for various factors, but the pressure to keep producing high quality work should not be underestimated. In other words, they may be suffering more than their colleagues of the same scientific level. See the following article. |
| successful people have never been sad |
| No matter how much success I have, I still feel sad etc. |
hverfa said: successful people have never been sad Sure, say that to Grothendieck. He spent literally months being apathetic and unable to conduct any work (he tells about it in Récoltes et Semailles). But you are probably joking. |
| It seems to me that success simply translates to more shit to worry about in life. |
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Have you ever felt like that? Yes, I've studied computer science. And there is always someone better. There is always a preassure to reach the same level as your colleagues, as obligation. A lot of people here are very insensitive and always look down on the easy goals, unless the person to look down on is cute. In terms of valuing success, I can see two types of people. The ones who celebrate and see every little step as a success. And the ones who just celebrate comparable results which can be put on a CV. It's totally up to the person what he perceives as important. what are your opinions on suffering while having achieved something? - sadness because you have no one to share your success with - you compare yourself to the bigger ones If that happens to me. Then I'll always try to boost up my self-esteem and think something like this: "I reached something. This something is undeniably something good. And no one will stop me to reach more of those." |
| Success =/= happiness So yes, one can exist without the other. |
| https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chester_Bennington https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sulli https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goo_Hara https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robin_Williams just to name a few if they had achieved success, why commit harakiri? |
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