| Do you think that a wife should contribute in paying the bills? Why or why not? What do you think is the ideal set-up financially for a marriage? |
| I don't think it should be by percentage in fact ; but more of the more she can, there must be a minimum... For a marriage? I am way too young for now, but I do think it'd be around 600$? I am certainly too naive and not well enough informed. |
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| A wife should help pay if she enters into an agreement with her husband about dividing up the costs of living. As for my own circumstance, I would want to support my family as much as possible but would welcome her help if that's what we need to make ends meet. |
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| That depends on the couple. Are they both working? Do they share accounts? Is one a housewife/husband? Do they have children? |
| Should she? i mean thats a weird way to say it... I think of it like this, if my wife was the one with the higher paying job, I would still want to do my part in paying for stuff, so I would hope she would wanna do the same with me. Also, what wife? We're all gonna be animuweebs till we die= no gf for us. |
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| Depends how much she makes. Say if you make basically the same amount of money then sure 50%. If not then probably less and if she makes more than you, you should pay less. |
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| No 100% option? Here goes my dream of becoming a house husbando I guess... |
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| Well, "homemakers" do produce economic value outside of calculated GDP, so they don't necessarily need to be paying bills to help. |
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| I guess whoever makes the most money should pay for most of it, but I'd hope that both partners would contribute at least something. |
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| weird no minimum and no maximum same for the husband (if there is even one in the marriage) depends on what the couple are happy with it could be 50-50 but if either one is substantially richer then they will have to pay more if they want to live a life representative of that wealth and if either one is a "housewife" or "househusband" then the work they do at home can be taken from the contribution 'i have to pay less just because im a wife', when you work and earn the same, sounds a little like divorce but marriage is kinda dumb anyway |
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| it honestly depends. you could have the husband use his wages for bills and the wife use her's for luxury items. or you could have them share |
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| I think that's only fair. Why should only you be expected to pay the bills? That's stupid. |
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| Honestly it depends on the relationship, if she doesn't work than she doesn't work, if she has a lower paying job then she should pay a lower sum, the main key is to work together and have an understanding of the situation. Overall try to pay an even amount each, but depending on the circumstances, as long as she's still putting in the effort she should pay what she can afford. I believe in a fairness and equality of a relationship, but it does depends on the circumstances. |
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| Why are these questions even asked... |
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| It depends on the circumstances, there can't be a fixed rule because each couple's scenario is different from the last's. |
| I don't think there should be any set standards. It should be a household to household thing, whatever works for the individuals involved. I'd personally rather be in a relationship with someone who does work and pays as well, though. |
| I wish I were a women, so I could save 20% on my electric bills. |
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| This topic is sexist to begin with. Lul. |
Notaneko said: I wish I were a women, so I could save 20% on my electric bills. How in the world? What is this state where women pay less? Because in my country they have lesser wages. |
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Lolsebca said: Notaneko said: I wish I were a women, so I could save 20% on my electric bills. How in the world? What is this state where women pay less? Because in my country they have lesser wages. >believing in the wage gap meme Can't you do some independent investigation to see that it's not real? |
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ThomasDankEngine said: Lolsebca said: How in the world? What is this state where women pay less? Because in my country they have lesser wages. >believing in the wage gap meme Can't you do some independent investigation to see that it's not real? I don't have to but I did and I can swear there is in France. Even my teacher talked about it. You still don't believe me? Google Translation should be enough to read this : http://www.inegalites.fr/spip.php?article972 Title being : Inegalities between men and women wages, investigation (or something like this) |
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Lolsebca said: ThomasDankEngine said: >believing in the wage gap meme Can't you do some independent investigation to see that it's not real? I don't have to but I did and I can swear there is in France. Even my teacher talked about it. You still don't believe me? Google Translation should be enough to read this : http://www.inegalites.fr/spip.php?article972 Title being : Inegalities between men and women wages, investigation (or something like this) Not trying to brag, but I am taking French rn. In the article they don't mention how women and men go have a different work ethic. Men are more likely to take less vacation, work longer hours, be more dedicated, etc. Therefore they should be payed more. |
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| hard to say, but i sure don't want any part in it |
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ThomasDankEngine said: Lolsebca said: I don't have to but I did and I can swear there is in France. Even my teacher talked about it. You still don't believe me? Google Translation should be enough to read this : http://www.inegalites.fr/spip.php?article972 Title being : Inegalities between men and women wages, investigation (or something like this) Not trying to brag, but I am taking French rn. In the article they don't mention how women and men go have a different work ethic. Men are more likely to take less vacation, work longer hours, be more dedicated, etc. Therefore they should be payed more. Waaaaaaw STRONG CASE OF MISOGYNY CLAPCLAP EVEN I COULD NOT MAKE IT. |
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| If a woman these days really wants to be the well-paid breadwinner, then she can pay 100% of the bills. I'll be the "House Husband," who constantly keeps the house clean, and has your meals ready for you when you come home. |
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Lolsebca said: ThomasDankEngine said: Not trying to brag, but I am taking French rn. In the article they don't mention how women and men go have a different work ethic. Men are more likely to take less vacation, work longer hours, be more dedicated, etc. Therefore they should be payed more. Waaaaaaw STRONG CASE OF MISOGYNY CLAPCLAP EVEN I COULD NOT MAKE IT. It's not misogyny, it's the truth. http://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/atus.pdf |
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| Where is 100% option...... @OP 69 chars |
| I would rather kill myself than enter a relationship with a shared economy. The poll options are stupid btw, you need options above 50% if you want to include options below. |
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| Aaaaaand people wonder why marriage is fucked these days. It's gunna get a lot worse before it will get better. In the meantime, the best you can do is follow these rules: 1. do not cohabitate. 2. sleepover no more than 2 consecutive nights per week. 3. maintain seperate everything. 4. be responsible 100% for your genetic material. 5. do not marry. 6. have a second passport and overseas bank account. 7. enjoy yourself and your stuff. keep doing that until this world makes up it's mind if it wants to remain in the 1950's or catch up to 2016. It is equality, or it is not. If it is equality, well earn your own money and enter private contracts. If it is not equality, stop with the stupid laws and quotas. |
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Veethorn said: Why are these questions even asked... Why not? One of the top reasons why married couples divorce is money issue. Love and affection fades, attitudes change but bills will always be there. That's the cold hard truth of a married life that people tend to forget. The issue is actually trickier because there's also power struggle associated with who pays more. A 5050 situation for bills means that in other aspects, both parties should be 5050 as well( ie. chores, taking care of kids, making financial decisions), or else there could be resentment. That's actually why some guys prefer to pay more just so they feel more like being the head of the household and have more say in decision making. 5050 is also difficult to implement when both parties have staggeringly different income. Imagine the wife having a parttime job babysitting for example and have to pay = when the husband has a high paying income. Culturally, 5050 or by % may not always be the norm. I'm Chinese and part of the traditional culture is the husband pays more than the wife, something like 90/10 or 80/20 with bills. But ideally the income of the wife should be put in savings or investments as a just in case some calamity happens, otherwise should just be left at the bank. And for those requestiong a 100% or higher than 50% option: Nope because the question is more of the standard or norm. Of course there will always be special exemptions like when a husband suddenly got fired / illness etcetc, or special arrangements. But come on, when you ask a girl to marry her, you should not go below 5050 in bills at least. "Will you marry me, oh btw you have to pay 100% of the bills" yeah that works. |
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| Depends on how much money they make if any and what they both do or can do and want to do Rothion said: I would rather kill myself than enter a relationship with a shared economy. The poll options are stupid btw, you need options above 50% if you want to include options below. When you marry someone you don't have to have a joint bank account. |
| As long as the couple deems the situation is fair then that's what matters. There is also more than money that comes into play. I mean ideally everything is 50/50 but each party has different things to offer each other. If it isn't equal in some fashion it is bound to fail. |
| I do not believe that in today's society this division still exists. |
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| whoever makes more money pays that much more. |
| 50%, but someone has to take care of the kids, y'know? I think that, if possible, one parent should stay at home to be in constant touch with the kids. |
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| If they both don't have kids of course they should both work, but if they have kids then there is nothing wrong with either the husband or wife to stay home to look after them. Sometimes it might even be cheaper to do that anyways, if one doesn't make a lot of money and most of it would be eaten up by daycare fees anyways. I think there is a common perception that staying home and looking after the kids and cooking/cleaning is an easy job, but I know my dad couldn't do that for the life of him if he was a stay at home dad. |
| ugghh stupid thread. There is no correct answer...It totally depends on the circumstances of the marriage & what works for both parties. |
| Im single but if I had a waifu of course she will be paying money |
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| The question is too general. If she works and don't just sit at home raising children then isn't it obvious that she should help? And not only with the bills. I mean - it depends on a couple but if both wife and husband earn money then they should both spend it as they think is best. For example - he pays the bills, she buys food etc. But if she doesn't work and raise children, cooks, keeps the house clean, simply is just a housewife with no income, then where she should get the money from? She won't find it on the road, just waiting there for her to pick it up, so in such situation husband would be the one paying all the bills. |
| Like others said, it depends on the couple and the type of circumstance they're in. Like if the wife is working, the amount of money she's earning, if she has any kids etc. But I'd prefer to be in a relationship in which my partner and I are both working and contribute equally to the bills. The partner that earns more (whether husband or wife) might have to contribute more at the end of the day. |
Manaa said: The question is too general. If she works and don't just sit at home raising children then isn't it obvious that she should help? And not only with the bills. I mean - it depends on a couple but if both wife and husband earn money then they should both spend it as they think is best. For example - he pays the bills, she buys food etc. But if she doesn't work and raise children, cooks, keeps the house clean, simply is just a housewife with no income, then where she should get the money from? She won't find it on the road, just waiting there for her to pick it up, so in such situation husband would be the one paying all the bills. Yeah glad to see someone is still open to 0%/ aka housewife. They don't get alot of credit. These days if someone wants to be a housewife people woulf look at you weirdly. |
| >Assuming we all want to be married =/ Honestly I don't care, marriage is not something I envision in my future, despite my parents and family constantly bringing it up (I'm still in my early 20's), but yeah its fucking 2016 50/50 equality. |
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