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Oct 15, 2022 8:52 AM
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I don't feel like a person. I am bad at being at person. I don't know what it is. I've been this way for a long time. I'm just not uh outgoing(?) like everyone else? I have and show no interest in things like everyone else does? Everyone seems to have like some identity/personality/character that they act out and they are in to. I don't have any of that. I don't feel like anyone. I'm nobody. I don't get what is happening around me. I'm just quiet, in my head, looking around, aloof, distant, monotone, awkward. I always just feel lost. This is a problem because I think would like to live a life and have relationships with some people but I can't get into most things? I can't get into the act? I feel out of tune with things? I feel out of place everywhere? I don't know what it is or what I want. Does anyone feel the same way or have advice?
MurauOct 15, 2022 9:14 AM
Oct 15, 2022 9:08 AM
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You feel out of place cause you don't have any interest in anything? You need find your niche. Enjoyment is what you need not people. If connection with people is what you want they'll come naturally when you start focusing on you.

I personal still out of place. I don't ever will fit anyways. I learn that my journey better than my destination.
Oct 15, 2022 9:25 AM
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I don't think there is any problem with you. I don't know you personaly so I can't say anything for sure but you don't need to enjoy things other people do. Just find a thing that you like to do and do that.
don't beat yourself fornot enjoying things people around you enjoy wveryone is unique and everyone has different taste do what you enjoy not what other enjoy but also stay open for new expiriances.
What I'm trying to say is that you shoudn't build your personality to fulfill someone else's expectations live for yourself!
Oct 15, 2022 10:18 AM
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You need to grow up tbh. how dare you say 'I'm just not uh outgoing(?) like everyone' Do not ever dare say everyone you narcissist. There people who have real problems. You sicken me.
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Oct 15, 2022 10:21 AM
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finaly an excuse to post this



anyways the outside world is antihuman, anti life, it is not a place for people it is a place for representations of humans substituting for the real thing
Oct 15, 2022 10:38 AM
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It's ok to NOT be a normie or be like every ass outside...

I, for example, make my coffee myself, pour my coffee creamer into the cup first then pour my hot ground coffee on top, sometimes I forget to add sugar so I'll just pour more creamer on top ...warm it my already hot coffee in the microwave, and...

...it's still a good coffee, just need to remember to actually eat something instead of just drinking coffee all the time...

So as you see OP, just find something you like doing and stay creative...👍

...now where is my coffee bottle straw?...
Oct 15, 2022 10:39 AM
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I'm not like the other guys at the bar!! I'm an introvert!! I'm so different!! xDDDD



Oct 15, 2022 11:05 AM
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Osamu Dazai said the same thing in "No Longer Human". So why not adapt his personality?
If life ain't just a joke
Then why are we laughing?

If life ain't just a joke
Then why am I dead?
Oct 15, 2022 11:47 AM
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Can someone explain to me why everyone thinks its fun to be mean to this person whos clearly struggling ? Or is this just a shit traits fest ?

Illuminatli said:
Osamu Dazai said the same thing in "No Longer Human". So why not adapt his personality?

Do you want them to die ? The hell are you saying ?
"It is our choices, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities"

- HP1 forever fave quote

//This was quoted in the year of 2009
Oct 15, 2022 11:50 AM

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Dostojevskij said:
Can someone explain to me why everyone thinks its fun to be mean to this person whos clearly struggling ? Or is this just a shit traits fest ?

Illuminatli said:
Osamu Dazai said the same thing in "No Longer Human". So why not adapt his personality?

Do you want them to die ? The hell are you saying ?

No no, it came out wrong. I just meant that he could be a dark mooded writer. I do not wish suicide upon anyone.
If life ain't just a joke
Then why are we laughing?

If life ain't just a joke
Then why am I dead?
Oct 15, 2022 11:53 AM

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Illuminatli said:
Dostojevskij said:
Can someone explain to me why everyone thinks its fun to be mean to this person whos clearly struggling ? Or is this just a shit traits fest ?


Do you want them to die ? The hell are you saying ?

No no, it came out wrong. I just meant that he could be a dark mooded writer. I do not wish suicide upon anyone.

Okay good thank you for clearing that up. I did think it was a bit out of character for you, im glad i misunderstood.
"It is our choices, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities"

- HP1 forever fave quote

//This was quoted in the year of 2009
Oct 15, 2022 12:12 PM
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I don't want to be rude but this read like the start of badly written 1st person story on wattpad.
Oct 15, 2022 12:50 PM
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Murau said:
I don't feel like a person. I am bad at being at person. I don't know what it is. I've been this way for a long time. I'm just not uh outgoing(?) like everyone else? I have and show no interest in things like everyone else does? Everyone seems to have like some identity/personality/character that they act out and they are in to. I don't have any of that. I don't feel like anyone. I'm nobody. I don't get what is happening around me. I'm just quiet, in my head, looking around, aloof, distant, monotone, awkward. I always just feel lost. This is a problem because I think would like to live a life and have relationships with some people but I can't get into most things? I can't get into the act? I feel out of tune with things? I feel out of place everywhere? I don't know what it is or what I want. Does anyone feel the same way or have advice?

That mostly looks like low self esteem.
If you don't have and show any interest in anything, then why are you here? Apparantly you have an interest in anime.


But I understand somehow what you are talking about.
Especially because I'm much demi/ace and the world feels so oversexualized to a point that it's just really annoying.

Also communication can be difficult and I also felt kinda out of place in some places, although I always had a bunch of friends, and recently a psychiatrist told me I have ADHD and maybe ASD.
Neurodiverse people often got the feeling of being out of place sometimes or quite often, because you always have to adapt your natural way of communication to the environment you are in.

You still can find friends, if that's the case or you maybe suffer from anxiety or whatever, and you have to tell yourself you should be left out.
Oct 15, 2022 1:36 PM

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Ah, the armchair psychologists of MAL who find imaginary mental diseases to people who just feel down...

You look perfectly fine to me, everyone is just putting an act to seem "normal." Or do people really pretend to care about the last iPhone and mind-numbing American movie? Almost all arts are dead today, so this is not that surprising that you cannot find much things of interest if the only things presented to you are recent pseudo-masterpieces.
Oct 15, 2022 1:52 PM
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A person feeling empty is unheard-of. You must be the first person in history to feel this way.
Oct 15, 2022 2:01 PM

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Well I don’t quite feel human myself but not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing. It’s for different reasons though, it’s because my blunted emotions I developed but being an outside observer in many aspects of life has some contribution.

Do you have judgmental or helicopter parents? Or other peers who act judgmental? It’s hard to know what you’re into if you feel like you can’t even try anything or openly express your emotions.
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Oct 15, 2022 2:20 PM
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Meusnier said:
Ah, the armchair psychologists of MAL who find imaginary mental diseases to people who just feel down...

You look perfectly fine to me, everyone is just putting an act to seem "normal." Or do people really pretend to care about the last iPhone and mind-numbing American movie? Almost all arts are dead today, so this is not that surprising that you cannot find much things of interest if the only things presented to you are recent pseudo-masterpieces.


I already ask today what fuck the does get a life even mean no answer lmfao. These love when Mal users to be normal
Oct 16, 2022 12:19 AM
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try to do some new things and find something that interests you. maybe that makes ur life more interesting and have somethings to talk about when u're with someone
Oct 16, 2022 2:30 AM
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everyone feels this way at some point or other in their lives so get ready for this revelation op... this makes you just like everyone else!
Oct 16, 2022 4:38 AM

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Roch2001 said:
You need to grow up tbh. how dare you say 'I'm just not uh outgoing(?) like everyone' Do not ever dare say everyone you narcissist. There people who have real problems. You sicken me.
Yeah man, you sound like you have some real problems lol got some growing up to do as well I bet
Oct 16, 2022 4:50 AM

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Cneq said:
Roch2001 said:
You need to grow up tbh. how dare you say 'I'm just not uh outgoing(?) like everyone' Do not ever dare say everyone you narcissist. There people who have real problems. You sicken me.
Yeah man, you sound like you have some real problems lol got some growing up to do as well I bet


Which part did you not like, the fact op was attention seeking while while pretending to be introvert or the fact I called them out on it?
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Oct 16, 2022 5:16 AM

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Yup, im pretty sure this person is a troll. I just tried to pm them and it refused me. The fact your bullying me Cneq just goes to show that perhaps you have some problems.

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Oct 16, 2022 5:22 AM
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thats just classic social alienation but if 4Ds of mental illness especially the dysfunctional part is getting bad for you then its time to seek professional help
Oct 19, 2022 2:09 PM

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you literally said everything i have felt at majority of the time ever since i started at university. i feel like im living in grey compared to everyone else. i feel like i've lost all human functioning skills, i'm half the person i used to be and i dont know why its so hard to be that girl again.
Maybe you changed since then. Or maybe the new environment and people are hard to get into due to not knowing what they will think of you. Idk, but I also feel often alienated from others, not in like that "oh Im so above them" kinda way, but more so that I feel like I don't even know who I am. When I was younger I was like the cool kid in class and then I switched schools and I was completely antisocial and had 0 friends. Now I am on good terms with the majority and people actually know me a little, but it doesn't feel like Im close with anyone. I honestly like it more that way, even tho sometimes it is disappointing.

I think the best way to deal with this is just to see what will come at you and to act how you want to act. But idk how this stuff works either, feelings are weird indeed.
Oct 21, 2022 7:41 PM

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same. i feel like i do not have a place in the world.
Oct 21, 2022 9:56 PM

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eh i don't feel human but i realised that's just because no one irl can read my emotions and every time someone said shit like "you are always so happy :)" i just slowly felt less and less human.

don't let it bother you, you are fine as yourself.
Oct 26, 2022 5:48 PM

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Acquire some drip to express yourself through.
Maybe dabble in some arts 'n' crafts. Might help.

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