| Sup y'all, recently got in a discussion with my friend about cheating. So I've come to ask: What do you guys consider cheating or microcheating? Sure, there are the obvious ones like "Have sex with someone else" or "Have a mistress while married." But what about the grayer areas? Such as: Kissing, flirting, handholding, hugging, sending nude photos, having a sex rp, signing up for a dating site, going on a date -- all of these, of course, with someone else I would like to hear your guys' opinions |
| Anything more than hugging is a no go, that would make me too uncomfortable. Flirting is bad too. |
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| Anything more than hugging and they're dumped. |
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| if they just talk or have a presence near them then it's cheating. |
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BallistikJuice said: Well, sometimes...some IRL girls don't satisfy their partners to the fullest and just lay underneath like wooden bricks, so I don't see anything wrong with that if one starts exploring new possibilities with another. Anything other then hugging is out tbh. Also damn, did you really just admit for men to outright cheat on their women... damn son |
HungryForQuality said: Nightmare21st said: Anything other then hugging is out tbh. Also damn, did you really just admit for men to outright cheat on their women... damn son He likes to live dangerously ;) Nah, the guy strikes me as someone who could not give less of a fuck about what others think about his sex life. It ain't surprising. I don't care about his sex life, Im just amazed he would do something shitty right of the bat tbh |
BallistikJuice said: Nightmare21st said: Anything other then hugging is out tbh. Also damn, did you really just admit for men to outright cheat on their women... damn son I think I'm old enough to be your dad, but that would be a nightmare. Damn that joke though and pun though |
| cheating is when u break the rules of a game like using gun in rock paper scissors |
| Every form of flirting with someone else out of committed relationship is cheating and most people aren't even who they say they're. They like to talk about all those rules and morals about relationships, then they usually are the ones who cheated first. |
| ''Mircro-cheating'' still cheating anything involving cheating and I'm dumping without warning, btw hugging is not a problem depending of the extension and the manner of the hug. |
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| Micro-cheating? We have different categories of cheating now or what lol Now, I am no relationship expert but I'd consider pretty much everything you listed as cheating, unless there's like no romantic/lustful intention behind it (you know like holding some little kids hand while you walk them over the street, you get what I mean). Now obviously it's different if both parties are okay with it, but going around flirting with others while your partner doesn't know and is probably trusting you to now show romantic interest in others since you're supposed to have a special bond with them? Yeah not cool |
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| If she talks about a work husband it's over... I have seen pure evil happen in the light of day between work husbands and married women. |
HungryForQuality said: I say if you think it might be cheating, then don't do it. Don't know why you have to invent these words like "micro-cheating" to justify unfaithfulness. I know people who wouldn't react well to your so called "greyer areas". Nah man, I keep getting roasted for this whole "microcheating" thing, though it just means small things that may not be universally defined as infidelity but may emotionally hurt your partner-- e.g Someone contacts an ex, but they never do anything-- so it may not be cheating in the traditional sense, after all nothing happened, but their partner might not be OK with it. |
| "Micro cheating" sounds stupid. Just say something is a boundary or a dealbreaker or whatever. It's not cheating just because you don't like it or wouldn't accept it in a relationship. |
| Kissing - Cheating. Flirting - Eeeeh bit of a grey area but definitely scummy if you've got a partner, I'd say it's a breach of trust. Handholding - Cheating? Definitely a breach of trust. You know there's a bitta summin in the air when they're holding hands lol. Hugging - I hug my homies and relatives sometimes but when it's some random person it's pretty iffy imo. Sending nude photos - Cheating. Having a sex rp (I'm guessing you mean like kinky Discord RP and shite) - Cheating. Signing up for a dating site - Cheating. Going on a date - Cheating. |
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| Micro-cheating is when you cheat on your partner with microbes. There's also Nano-cheating, which is when nanomachines turn you on more than the body of your partner. |
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| Jeez, now I feel like a scumbag for being a flirty fuck sometimes. Oh well, live and learn I guess. |
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| What idiot out there is saying "Yeah, I'm gonna send a nude photo to a random girl at the same time that I have a girlfriend"? Frankly, those don't sound much like gray areas to me. Like @wishywoshi said, anything more than a hug is too far. |
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| To even think about someone else the same way you think about your partner is the beginning of cheating. |
I want to talk to you as openly as I can, but my heart is empty. The emptiness is a mirror turned towards my own face. I see myself in it, and I am filled with fear and disgust. |
| Kissing: Usually fine with me. In some countries, for example, it's common to greet people with a peck on the cheek; I'm not gonna break up with someone over that. Or if it's someone my SO hasn't seen in a really long time who they're close with, a kiss might not be uncalled for. Flirting: Heavily context-dependent. I'd have to see it happen to really judge this one, because what one person might interpret as a "harmless" flirt could be interpreted as cheating by someone else. Even people in committed marriages and relationships flirt casually without meaning anything by it, so as long as it's not a common occurrence with the same person (and I also don't catch flak for doing the same thing), I'm probably fine with it. Handholding: This one is actually a bit of a red flag, even more than flirting. Because who just randomly wants to hold hands with someone? No friends I've known have ever done that platonically, because there's basically no reason to unless you're interested in someone romantically. I'd probably be suspicious of this. Hugging: Perfectly fine IMO. Hugs can be purely platonic without any underlying romantic attraction and aren't anything to be concerned about on their own. Sending nudes: Unless you have a skin condition and they're going to your doctor, this is a huge red flag and is probably grounds for ending the relationship, or at least confronting your partner about it. There's basically no reason to send nudes to someone platonically. Having a sex RP: Same as above. How exactly is this a grey area? Signing up for a dating site: Again, same as above. This shouldn't be considered a "grey area", if you're in a relationship with someone, you have zero reason to be on a dating site. Going on a date: Slightly worrying, but technically a date doesn't have to be with your SO. Maybe they were busy that day and you happened to have tickets to a concert so you decided to ask one of your friends. Context-dependent, but if it's a 1-time thing I probably wouldn't be concerned. |
| 90% of the the internet's problems come from people treating fictional people like they're real and real people like they're fictional. |
| Flirting, handholding, hugging are not cheating imo. Everything else in the OP is for sure. |
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