| My parents keep hinting that it's time for me to find someone for some reason My dad keeps talking about how he had a girlfriend at 14 and my mom already had 2 boyfriends at 13 I mean, some people in my grade are dating but it's not like it's anything that'll last or anything real/serious Do you guys experience the same? |
| Well I think you should do what you feel comfortable doing, but I can guarantee you now, even though majority of the relationships from that age don't work out, you'll likely regret not experiencing them (take me for example). Because when you do get to an age when you are looking for a relationship you'll realise you are an autist when it comes to being in a relationship and don't really have any idea what you're doing. |
when ur about to have a refreshing sip of earl grey tea and someone says "traps are gay" |
Menzo- said: Well I think you should do what you feel comfortable doing, but I can guarantee you now, even though majority of the relationships from that age don't work out, you'll likely regret not experiencing them (take me for example). Because when you do get to an age when you are looking for a relationship you'll realise you are an autist when it comes to being in a relationship and don't really have any idea what you're doing. That's true, I guess I should branch out and experience things like that before it's too late and I become socially inept |
perve said: If there's someone you like, just ask them on a date or for their number or even just start being friendly with them if you aren't already, don't worry about the result, if they aren't interested, at least you got it off your chest and you can move on.Menzo- said: Well I think you should do what you feel comfortable doing, but I can guarantee you now, even though majority of the relationships from that age don't work out, you'll likely regret not experiencing them (take me for example). Because when you do get to an age when you are looking for a relationship you'll realise you are an autist when it comes to being in a relationship and don't really have any idea what you're doing. That's true, I guess I should branch out and experience things like that before it's too late and I become socially inept |
when ur about to have a refreshing sip of earl grey tea and someone says "traps are gay" |
perve said: my mom already had 2 boyfriends at 13 at the same time ;) but yeah im 20, never had a serious gf, parents definitely never pressured me lol why would they? Its my damn life :) youre right most relationships in highschool dont last so theyre pretty pointless imo outside of the experience/'fun' side (note: it wont be all fun; relationships are hard work especially with the highschool drama ugh kill me now for remembering) if youre into that. Like I personally dont regret my choice at all. I had a grand time watching the drama lol. |
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| I think your parents will still bugging you if you showed your body pillow like man. :/ |
| Do what makes you feel comfortable. If you feel you're ready, go for it I guess. Can't really relate because my parents would pressure me into not getting into a relationship. |
_Ako_ said: I think your parents will still bugging you if you showed your body pillow like man. :/ Do you really think that'll do it? Alright I'll break it to them, wish me luck |
| very weird parents. you are only 14, i'd say 90% of all 14 year olds have no gf/bf and if they have it's just one of those holding-hands relationships also this |
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| They've got a good point. You should definitely should start considering relationships, I'm not saying start serious ones, god know that's just stupid. But you should definitely try and get some small few month relationships to give you a bit of practice. You don't wanna be a complete awkward retard when you meet the love of your life 10 years down the track. |
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| Never was pressured. But she used gross hints like: "at you age girls already have 2 or more childrens" and such shit. welp..... |
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| lol my parents actually got really upset and freaked out when I had my first boyfriend, I was 15. They told me I shouldn't be dating until I'm in university (17 years and over) Look, personally, I think dating is a good experience, but at the same time, it needs to be something that you want to do. and not because of simply having the gf/bf label, but because you genuinely are interested in the person you're dating. it should come naturally. So yes, it is a good experience to have, but no, it shouldn't be something necessary; it should be something that simply happens. When I was in a relationship with my first boyfriend, it wasn't because i just wanted a boyfriend in fact, I had hoped that i wouldn't get interested in dating until university (but things don't always go to plan) we dated because we really cared about each other and being together. that's it. |
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| My parents are completely indifferent and only care about my studying. I kind of wish they'd pressured me. |
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| My parents know the reason so they're not really asking... but it is tougher to explain it to my old aunties why I'm not into relationship again. Particularly whenever they come over during holidays like Christmas / New-year and Easter. They keep pestering asking me about my relationship (why am I single etc etc) and future plans >.< I just tell them that I'm enjoying my freedom atm~ |
| You definitely should not actively seek a realtionship, that will only come down to hurt you in the end. And to be fair, I think that people think about things like this at a way too young age. |
| Okay, so you're the same age as me. (well, according to your profile) Nope, my parents are not pressuring me to become 1/2 of a couple. In fact, they are highly discouraging me from doing so (especially my mother). In my grade, couples are quite rare, and mainly secret if they're legit. Regardless of whether they pressure me or not, there's no way I can confess to my crush. I'm way too shy, and probably will get rejected (he probably thinks I'm some weird stalker, which I, unfortunately, kinda am). I think, if you're comfortable, try being friendlier to someone who you might like, maybe talk to them a little more, hang around them a little more, compliment them (don't say anything that isn't true though), and then maybe ask them out for a drink or something. If you're uncomfortable with doing something like that, maybe tell your parents that you want some more time or say you're a bit busy at the moment and think a relationship would affect your grades? Experience would be nice, but if you think it will negatively impact your life (even if the relationship is going smoothly), then you shouldn't go for it. Especially if you have dreams of getting a certain job or receiving a good education. Kurum said: And to be fair, I think that people think about things like this at a way too young age. Unfortunately true in my case. |
jyuushiMay 21, 2017 4:05 AM
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| They don't care that much to be honest, I've had a couple of sucky relationships in the past and we all understand that stuff like this should never be rushed under any circumstances. Although one merit to having such relationships is that they help you get your standards to a realistic interval, they kinda get rid of the pink fog basically. |
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| Coming from a 19yo virgin, my parents have to actively look for women because they know i'm too much of a retard socially to do it myself. |
iLya said: My parents know the reason so they're not really asking...  What's the reason?!  I'm curious!!! |
gemanepaMay 21, 2017 1:31 PM
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iLya said: My parents know the reason so they're not really asking... but it is tougher to explain it to my old aunties why I'm not into relationship again. Particularly whenever they come over during holidays like Christmas / New-year and Easter. They keep pestering asking me about my relationship (why am I single etc etc) and future plans >.< I just tell them that I'm enjoying my freedom atm~ i think it's the same story for me >_> only difference is my little brother actually does have a gf right now... i can't help but feel slightly betrayed about that, even though he's only doing what's best for himself... |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| Nope, never. My parents told me personally, that they've accepted the fact that the family tree is stopping with me. |
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| I'm not a teenager so they never ask me and they never bring the subject at all. They kind of know I'm sexually active (or at least that I'm trying to be lol) because some months ago I forgot to hide a box of condoms that was in the bathroom when my mom visited me, but leaving that aside, as far as I know, my dad thinks I'm gay ;P |
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| She never asked. She must have just accepted that I'm gonna be alone forever. |
| It's just too hard to just go out and get a girlfriend, most girls are stubborn, and you would want a girl that you at least like anyway. |
xrockxz89 said: iLya said: My parents know the reason so they're not really asking... but it is tougher to explain it to my old aunties why I'm not into relationship again. Particularly whenever they come over during holidays like Christmas / New-year and Easter. They keep pestering asking me about my relationship (why am I single etc etc) and future plans >.< I just tell them that I'm enjoying my freedom atm~ i think it's the same story for me >_> only difference is my little brother actually does have a gf right now... i can't help but feel slightly betrayed about that, even though he's only doing what's best for himself... Oh same boat! my lil sis has a BF too even though she's a bit more otaku-ish than me @.@ I also felt betrayed haha! but it's fine~ as long as she's happy heh.. gemanepa said: iLya said: My parents know the reason so they're not really asking... What's the reason?! I'm curious!!! loll.. nice gifs XD |
| Never had my parents pressure me into getting a girlfriend. Though they do keep asking me when you're going to have kids or how they want grandchildren. Ugh, it's doesn't help that my younger sister has a kid and older half brother has one, lol. |
| It's really awkward when you've been single for so long that your parents start questioning your sexuality and wondering if you'll ever even produce any grandchildren for them ... |
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| They might have, but some passive-aggressiveness and self-depreciation took care of that fast. My grandparents definitely did when I was younger. I'm not their little toy that they can leech happiness out of. |
Satania- said: TheBrainintheJar said: My parents are completely indifferent and only care about my studying. I kind of wish they'd pressured me. Why don't you just get out yourself and try? What's holding you back? I do it now. That was in the past. I used to be an incredibly passive person but so far I managed to overcome it - not completely but we're making progress. |
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| They just make random jokes about it, I don't think they are serious or something. |
| Today they say you're crazy, tomorrow they will say you're a genious. |
| I kind of get pressured by my parents every so often to get a girlfriend, but for two different reasons: My father wants me to have a girlfriend just so I have someone I can have company and be happy with (which is part of my mother's reason), while my mother wants me to have a girlfriend to increase potential of her becoming a grandmother (I have an older sister who's entering her mid-30s who still doesn't have a child). Although, it's often the case that I get asked "Have you found a girlfriend?" or "Do you have a girlfriend?" by my mother's friends than by anyone else. |
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| Never... And it's more like they intimidate every guy that tries to hit on me... They even do that to my close guy friends... smh They don't doubt me when I say I don't have a bf, but they're too suspicious with every guy around me. -______- |
  “I despise common sense. I’ve seen the world from every possible angle. This cruel, ridiculous, beautiful world.” - Lacie Baskerville ||❤|| |
| Kind of relevant. My father recently started treatment for cancer and I've been taking him to his sessions. One time he started freaking out since fear of death and all. He started getting really depressive saying he'd never see grandchildren. Made me feel really bad for a lot of reasons. |
iLya said: Oh same boat! my lil sis has a BF too even though she's a bit more otaku-ish than me @.@ I also felt betrayed haha! but it's fine~ as long as she's happy heh.. I think this world is hard on older siblings. We have to pave the way. But yes don't let such things turn you into a hater ;D lol |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
Yeah I kind of found out why in other thread and felt bad for asking. Anyway, I'm damaged goods too but I'm a proooooooud believer in phrases like    So no way in hell bad past experiences are going to stop me from moving forward ;P Wish you the best! Take care |
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perve said: and my mom already had 2 boyfriends at 13  k then... Don't listen to your parents, live your life as a kid while you can and don't bother with romantic relationships. Everything under 16 is way too young to be bothered by things like that. It's even worse to have the pressure that you NEED to find a partner. |
Corvus8May 22, 2017 6:11 PM
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gemanepa said: So no way in hell bad past experiences are going to stop me from moving forward ;P Wish you the best! Take care Thanks~ yup I've already moved on from that bad experience. One step forward :> |
| nope. i have the its your life kid kind of parents |
| "among monsters and humans, there are only two types. Those who undergo suffering and spread it to others. And those who undergo suffering and avoid giving it to others." -Alice “Beauty is no quality in things themselves: It exists merely in the mind which contemplates them; and each mind perceives a different beauty.” David Hume “Evil is created when someone gives up on someone else. It appears when everyone gives up on someone as a lost cause and removes their path to salvation. Once they are cut off from everyone else, they become evil.” -Othinus  |
perve said: My parents keep hinting that it's time for me to find someone for some reason My dad keeps talking about how he had a girlfriend at 14 and my mom already had 2 boyfriends at 13 I mean, some people in my grade are dating but it's not like it's anything that'll last or anything real/serious Do you guys experience the same? Tell your parents you will get one when you feel like it. My personal experience: So don't pay any attention to what they say. When you find someone you find someone. |
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